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What should I do about my grandfather?
My father is the closest person outside of my house family to me. I love him very much but all of a sudden he has developed a mental illness and doesn't remember me. Sometimes when I walk into the room to visit him he shouts things like "Killer!" and "Why did you have to hurt my leg Barbara?" although that is not at all my name. I'm not sure if there is a way to help him remember me, but it's hard to cope with the pain of him thinking that I have hurt him in the past. What should I do?
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I'm very sorry about your Father, but you need to remember that he always loves you. He does remember you in his heart and all you can do for now is spend time with him and just talk to him about the good times you spent together. This may sound cheesy, but his soul can always hear you. I hope I helped.
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i'm sorry that this kind of thing happened to you and your grandfather. my grandfather had ahltimers (spelt incredibly wrong) and it sounds very similar to what your grandfather is going through.
you just have to know that he loves you, because when he did/does remember you, he knows he's your grandfather and that you mean everything to him, like he means the world to you. i know it hurts a lot, i really do, but you know that there were better times when he was (excuse the wording but) lucid.
its always very very tough when a loved one doesn't remember who you are. its the worst thing in the world. just remember the good times, and try and tell him that you love him every time you visit him. try and tell him about those memories you have. maybe (and i mean with a miracle maybe) he will remember one of those times too. sometimes, sufferers have moments where everything is clear to them again. those moments are precious and few, but they do exsist.
well you know you're not barbara, so some one named barbara caused him pain. it wasn't you, and some day, maybe he'll realize that you're not barbara and you are *your name.* you know he loves you, he just doesn't remember.
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That's a very hard situation, it's difficult when someone you love begins to have problems with their mind. You could always try to get in contact with his doctor and ask what he/she thinks you can possibly do to help him regain memory, if possible.
If it's a lost cause and he can't remember you, the only thing you can really do is to love him just the same as you always have, and stay close with him, although he may not recognize you for who you are.
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you cant really do anythign to help him get his memory back, but you can try wearing the same thing or something that he might remember that he can recognize you by. mayb a bracelet or sumthin...and jsut tell him im your daughter or sumthin.
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i am really sorry about your grandfather. he has Demensia, i'm guessing? i don't really think i can help you because theres no cure for it (my mom's a nurse at a mental institution) and i don't think there's really anything for you to do. i think he will have some spells but other times he can be just fine. when he's in a normal stage just talk to him and tell him you love him. i'm so sorry once again, and God bless...
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Try showing him photo albums and see if that brings back any memories..
Haleigh Ann
p.s.im sorry bout ur grandfather
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