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My husband is almost 40, I am just 34. We have been married 10 years but have known each other for 18 years. Sex was always good between us. Lately we haven't had any. I keep asking him if there is someone else in his life because a man can't go as long as he does without it. He says no, he just doesn't need it. I do and have considered leaving him because he doesn't meet my needs. When we do have it, it's almost like it's a chore for him. How can I deal with this? Is it possible there is someone else?
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there are several other reasons your husband may not be having sex with you. dont just jump straight to cheating. as someone else told you, depression or stress can be a reason to not want to have sex. also, you have to remember, a man is in his exual prime from like 18-30, women just get into thier prime at about 30. being that you are 34, you may be at the peak of sexual prime, and have a higher sex drive then he does. so being that he is 40, and saying that he really doesnt need it all the time, may be him being honest, because he past his prime. isnt that a bitch? men and women have sexual peaks at different times.
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yes it is......sry to say but ur husband mite be cheating on u ....especially at his age.....HE NEEDS HIS sex like how a baby needs a bottle...i would defintely do sum investigating...but for u... go buy sum stuff...get freaky wit ya self...aint no shame in that
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You should try talking to him. Not just about why he hasn't been sexually active, but also about his feelings. Maybe he's very distraught about something and he just hasn't been able to talk to you about it...
Just because you two haven't been having sex does not mean there's another woman involved..of course there's always the possibility open adn I would have to actually know the two of you, but other than that I doubt it.
I mean, woman have a lot of troubles but so do men...I know it may seem it but men ARE NOT all the same. Some have more things going on in their mind than just little guilty pleasures or other little things...maybe he's really suffering inside...or maybe not.
You should talk to him. Really...just open up to him adn try to get him to open up to you...see what happens. Talk to him and don't keep the conversation based on sex but if you feel the need to add it in briefly than you can...
Whatever you think is best...
Good Luck.
~Gessyka_-*
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It is possible that he may be cheating on you, but there may be other reasons for his behavior. He may be having problems that he's not willing to admit. Sometimes stress can cause problems in that area, but most men aren't willing to admit it. Also did you know that at your age you are in your sexual peak, but your husband had his sexual peak in his twenties? (Doesn't seem fair, huh?) So it is possible that you just need sex more often than he does. You can try to do things to peak his interest, like sexy clothes, or acting out his fantasies. Try to keep the lines of communication open, but don't push. If possible try to get away, maybe go on a second honeymoon. Good luck!
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maybe you should crush up viagra pills and put them into his coffee ;)
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You should talk to him about your needs and his needs. It's always a possibility that he was telling the truth and just isn't in the mood as often - is this an abrupt change? Has it been more gradual? I think you should probably discuss everything with your husband and explain how much it's bothering you. Hopefully this is osmething you'll be able to work through without ending a 10+ year relationship.
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Viagra:-) that'll put him in the mood
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there is a possibility that there may be someone else. have you ever sensed that hes cheating on you beside the fact that he hasnt been wanting to have sex as much? i think you need to ask him straight out and get a real answer from him, because at 40, men should still be wanting some. its quite obvious that something isnt right, but it might not be that hes seeing someone else. he may have some type of problem with his member or he can have medical problem. also, depression and mental illnesses like that do decrease sexual appetite. just try to have another talk with him and tell him to stop beating around the bush. tell him that this is effecting you and that youve been considering leaving him. that might get him to open up
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