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I do not understand the double standard that a guy cannot say, "No" to sex with out the being deemed as having problems.
In my last three relationships the women have left me because I have wanted to take the relationship slowly. Each time it has centered around the fact that I have said, "No" to intercourse.
In the last two relationships I explained before it went anywhere that I would not engage in intercourse until I felt our relationship was solid and committed. Each of the women said they thought this was wonderful and understood. I made it clear up front because the first woman I said no to was hurt and rejected. We talked about it and she said she was ready and that she had never had anyone say no to her. This is why I explained to the next two, up front, front how I felt. I do not want to hurt anyone.
When the foreplay began and it went no further than oral sex they become upset and angry with me. In the second and third relationship this has happened after only two months. I do not want to have intercourse until I am sure that we know each other well enough and that the possibility of a future exists. One that might lead to marriage. I am at that point in my life where I would like to settle down and have a wife and family. It seems as though they do not believe I am serious because they attempt to take it further each time we are together. I have to keep saying, "NO". They have asked me if I was gay, impotent, or just didn't like sex. Each time I am made to feel as though I have a problem or something is wrong with me. None of these things are true. After this happens a wall builds between us until no communication takes place and then the relationship ends.
Please help me understand why it is wrong for me wanting to wait just because I am a guy. (link)
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If you are getting oral sex then it is sending a mixed signal.
Sex is sex. A lot of women aren't crazy about oral sex. They don't understand why that is okay and intercourse is not.
I hope you are at least returning the favor? If not, therein lies your problem. :)
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Sir,
I want to know that during pregnancy is intercourse is possible.
I am married and my wife is 12 week pregnant, may I have sex with her.
I also know detail about Intercourse during all weeks of pregnancy till delivery? thank you
Asif Jah
a_sifjah@yahoo.com
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If your wife is having a healthy pregnancy, sex is perfectly safe.
So, unless her Doctor says no sex. You can have it as long as she is comfortable with it. :)
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A guy that I'm quite good friends with invited me over to his house. We are both adults over 25. We were both watching Dr. Phil on the television. I remembered this one show a long time ago where these young teens were having oral sex parties and thought it was no big deal. Dr. Phil got mad and told them that oral sex was still considered sex because it involved a sex organ. (I agreed with him by the way) I imitated his voice and said in a Dr. Phil tone "but it IS sex because it involves a SEX ORGAN!!".
All my other friends when I told them this burst out laughing because I totally sounded like Dr. Phil. Well after I did this I looked at my friend and he looked really uncomfortable and didnt say anything at all so I changed the subject. I figured we were pretty close and could talk about just about anything. We've talked about blow jobs before.
Do you thing this might mean his feelings towards me have changed from liking me as a friend to something more? Why else would he react this way? (link)
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It could be I suppose. You might want to discuss the possibility with him if you feel the same.
Maybe he was embarrassed talking about that kind of thing around others besides you. :)
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so my boyfreind asked me out.
and now basicly all he wants from me is sex.
it makes me really sad and dissapointed...
please help.
and dont say break up with him.
you guys dont know me.
i like him alot..
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Once it starts that's kind of the way it seems to go from then on.
You need to have a long serious talk with him. Let him know you do want more than that from a relationship.
If he cares enough for you and not just what he can get from you, he will listen. If not and you want to stay, then unfortunately it probably will not not change.
Good luck. :)
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My friend lets say (jesse) jesse smells pretty bad everyday. Like a bad smell as if she doesnt take a bath. How do i tell her she has an odor i dont want to hurt her feelings but i dont want people to talk about her behind her back
seriously.. shes recently had staph too?
does that mean youre not clean? ermm help (link)
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I doubt the staph infection is related. Step throat for example is a staph infection.
What you could do is get together with her and have a mini makeover day together.
While you are at it, mention deodorant, powder, a good soap, the importance of bathing...use boys like that fresh smell or something that will lend encouragement.
Also do make up etc. That way she doesn't feel picked on. You get to help her out without hurting her feelings. Hopefully she will learn something.
If that sneak attack doesn't work, then you will have to just say something. She will be hurt later when people make fun of her if you don't.
If you can afford it, have a new bar of nice smelling soap, maybe a deodorant that smells nice or even some perfume that you can give her if she shows shes interested and likes it.
Good luck on your project. Hope it helps and works out well for you. :)
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mah friend used to like this kid named billy, she liked him forever but he never liked her back. Now she has a boyfriend and I like billy. She doesnt know, and she still likes billy also. I think that she cant have her cake and eat it too.. since she has a boy friend she should get over billy. what should i do? billy said that he likes me and might wanna go out with me, should i go out with him and for get about mah friend or what?
please i rate well!
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She may like Billy but he evidently doesn't feel the same about her.
If you two like each other then you go for it. She gave that up when she started dating someone else.
I don't think she will be to vocal about it unless she wants her current boyfriend to dump her anyway.
Alls fair in love and war. Go out with Billy. She will get over it. :)
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me and my boyfrend have been going out for 2 months and anytime we kiss i feel an urge to jump ontop of him is that normal (link)
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Yes its normal. :)
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13/f...ok my and my bf was having sex and he only interjected in my butt so could i be pregnant
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No. Semen has to enter the vagina in order to get pregnant.
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on december 26, a new family is moving in to the house next door to mine. my mom talked to their realtor (another neighbor) and found out that the family will have a 3 yr. old and a 5 yr. old. by the way, I'm 13.
the question that i have is, how long should i wait before i introduce myself, and how should i do it? i really want to babysit for them, and i work really well with little kids. i've never worked for pay before, just as favors for my aunt (with kids age 2 and 7) so im not really sure what to charge either.
i know this is really long, and has a bunch of different questions. but any answers will be appreciated to the tone of a 5! thanks in advance! (link)
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I don't think you have to wait long at all.
As a matter of fact, they may need someone to keep an eye on the kids during the unpacking!
I think they may feel very happy indeed if you introduced yourself and offered to babysit right away. :)
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i know i know i shouldnt cut and its bad and everything but its too late now.. about 4-5 weeks ago i got into a major argument with my mum and dad i ended up cutting myself, now i go to a councellor. it was quite a bad cut and it bled for ages now its like quite a thick scar from multiple scratches but like it hurts when i move my wrist it fully healed about a week ago but the scar hurts. i've cut myself before but the scar never hurt, it feels almost like its still a scab but it def isnt its also quite bumpy i know its deep so there would be a bump but almost like theres 2-3 spots over it and theyve been there about 3 days. anyone tell me whats going on? (link)
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If it was a deep cut it may still be healing down below where the top has already healed. It shouldn't hurt much longer.
If it looks red or yukky, go to a doctor. It might be infected. :)
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Me and my boyfriend recently broke up, and he already has a new girlfriend. There's this guy I've been talking to, but we're only friends. We've hung out ALOT, and done some stuff. I have the choice to have sex with him, and I think I want to. But people say he has herpes, and I'm not sure if he does or not. Should I ask him? Or just go for it? And if I need to ask him..what do i say? (link)
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Get to know each other before jumping into a sexual relationship.
Studies recently have shown that genital herpes is transmitted even if the infected person is not having an active outbreak of the sores.
Herpes is not an STD that goes away with medicine. You get it and you have it forever.
So yes, you need to discuss the rumors with him if you decide to have sex. You would have to know him enough to trust him though, because if he isn't having an outbreak at the time, you wouldn't know until you yourself started getting sores.
Here is info on herpes
http://www.niaid.nih.gov/factsheets/stdherp.htm
****Boy thats the truth. Be careful :)
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What age do purbity starts for a boy. (link)
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Usually between ages 10 & 15. Here is a website if you have other questions about it. :)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/changing_body/puberty.html
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I'm so itchy, and I mean it's all over! On my arms and my legs and my back. And there isn't a rash or anything as a result! I took a shower because I thought maybe that would wash whatever was hurting me away.. but that didn't work either! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME!?!
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There is a thing called winter itch. That may be your problem.
Use lotion everywhere.
Now that its cold outside people are using heaters and it drys out the air.
(If you happened to have a wood burning stove it is really bad.)
It isn't harmful unless you scratch to the point of irritating your skin.
Just use hand/ body lotion. Dandruff shampoo. You will feel better soon. If not, then see a doctor. :)
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can your body treat strep throat with out antibiotics? i need this asap.it is for school (link)
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No it really can't. Left untreated strep throat can get really bad and make you very sick. :)
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Okay, im only 14 and i wanna have a baby SO bad. My parents dont really love me((ive been told)) so i think this would help me alot. i've babysat for YEARS and LOVE children. I wanna feel loved when i come home and a baby would do that, and i think teen moms are closer to their kids. I plan on gettin pregnant in 10th or 11th grade.Am i making a mistake by wanting to do this. (link)
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Yes you are.
You want to wait until you are finacially able to care for a child. Kids cost a LOT of money.
You want your parents (who you say don't love you) to raise a baby for you? Its life will be as miserable as yours is.
I was a teen mom. Your life comes to a halt. If you have any specific questions you'd like answered, feel free to drop me a note. :)
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I AM IN MY LATE TEENS. NOW I CANT REMEMBER IF I PUT A TAMPON IN OR NOT. THEIR IS NO STRING. I HAVE HAD INTERCOURSE SINCE. is it true that a salt water bath will just make it slide out. i cannot check myself as my nails are long!!!! (link)
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If you can't remember, the best thing to do is go see a doctor.
Tampons left in can cause toxic shock syndrome. Not to mention severe abdominal pain. It is going to rot (sorry to be blunt).
If you have had intercourse since, you probably won't find a string. It is probably to high to reach now.
You need to see a doctor ASAP. Honestly, leaving one in can be a very serious situation.
Hopefully, it will turn out you didn't leave one in. But, err on the safe side.
And no, don't rely on any salt water bath.
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Theres a man who is married that me and my best friend are friends with and I feel he has been acting inappropriatley with us. He winks at me when his wife isnt looking and I've caught him staring at my chest. This one time he invited me and my other friend over when his wife was at work and he started offering us both wine. Then he said 'lets play strip poker". We both looked shocked at him and he started laughing and said he was joking but the fact that he said it made me a little uncomfortable. I also found out that he confides in my other friend about his marriage and all his problems with his wife. According to my friend he tells her that his wife is stupid and that he hates her kids.
Does anyone else think this is strange behavior for a married man?
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Very strange behavior. Go with your instincts and steer clear of this guy.
Hes telling your friend his "troubles" to gain sympathy and make it "OK" to be with him because, after all he is unhappy in his marriage.
My guess is that his wife knows nothing of her troubled marriage.
The guy is hitting on the both of you. Stay clear away from him. NEVER see him alone under any circumstances. :)
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i asked my ex bf if he loves his gf more and if they have a better relationship than him and i did.
his response was "nah, i feel like shes my best friend."
What does that mean?
He NEVER called/considered me his best friend!
She gave it up on the 2nd night they hung out(cheated on her bf)
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If they are best friends then their relationship is pretty solid. Your boyfriend should be your best friend. If not at first then soon after. :)
**** They may break up often (something you failed to mention) but, they keep getting back together.
If he considers her his best friend, I'm sorry but that's pretty solid relationship.
Past relationships don't really matter. She may be low on morals but, he likes what hes getting I guess.
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So I am 15 years old and I am 5'3 I currently weigh 215 lbs. I would really like to be about 140 by the first of June ( you know summer time )
I work out maybe twice a week for about an hour at a time. I don't drink and pop at all and I replace school lunch with a salad. Is there anyway possible to loose 60-75 lbs in 6 months? I would even be satisfied with 50. I really want this. I work alot and don't have alot of time for working out for such. And I have alot of dairy in my regular diet. I rate 5's!! please I would really appresheate all your help. (link)
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It would be very hard to do but you could get real close. To 50 lbs anyway.
You will have to do some exercise. Walk whenever possible, or ride a bike. Use the stairs instead of elevators. Those kind of things will help if you're strapped for time.
Dairy is very high in fat. Switch to skim milk, lo fat yogurt or cheese if you want to eat it.
Eat regular meals just keep the portion size down and don't do seconds.
The biggest thing to remember is this. If you slip up and cheat on your diet one day. Don't feel it is a lost cause. Get up the next day and start all over again. One day now and then will not hurt a thing if you stick to it most of the time.
Good luck! :)
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I have a coworker that didnt get any shifts for two weeks. I found out that she had been extremely rude to a customer (we work in clothing retail) so her hours were cut back. Well the boss decided to give her two shifts this week and guess what she was a NO SHOW both times!!! Me and the other girls think she did that because she was mad at the boss for not giving her any shifts for two weeks. Either that or she didnt know she had any shifts because she had two weeks of no work. But either way it was her responsbility to know if she was working or not.
My question is would that be grounds for her termination? I have a theory that after she was so rude to the customer that they didnt want to fire her but were hoping she would just go away, and by not giving her any work she would get mad and quit. I was actually surprised they gave her any more shifts at all. I asked if the boss was mad that she didnt show up and they said no.
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No show is definitely grounds for immediate dismissal. My guess is that she is now fired.
She probably found another job or was giving this place the old middle finger. Whatever her reason, shes gone for good this time. :)
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