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Confused.
Me and my boyfriend recently broke up, and he already has a new girlfriend. There's this guy I've been talking to, but we're only friends. We've hung out ALOT, and done some stuff. I have the choice to have sex with him, and I think I want to. But people say he has herpes, and I'm not sure if he does or not. Should I ask him? Or just go for it? And if I need to ask him..what do i say?
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Okay. Herpes is a big deal. STDs are big deals. Because they stick with you for life. So just having sex with him..... is not a good idea. Ask him. Be like "before we have sex... I wanna know. Do you have herpes? Be honest." And hopefully he'll give you a truthful answer. And to see if he's telling the truth... look at his mouth. Does he have any coldsores? Because I heard people with herpes get a lot of cold sores. Good luck, and just listen to your heart.
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Don't have sex, because any risk at all isn't good, and it is a bit forward to just ask him if he has herpes. Since he is only your friend anyways, why bother?
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You need to DEFINATELY ask him. DO NOT take the risk of having sex with him if he does have herpes. Also, it does make a difference how you ask him. DONT SAY: "People are saying you have herpes so I need to know before I have sex with you" because it would be awkward. Say it more casually and more sensitive. Like: I like you A LOT and I really do want to have sex with you but I can take the risk if you have herpes, you can understand right?" Good Luck!
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ok hun>do you want to have sex with this guy because you LOVE him, or because your ex has new gf?
Dont have sex for the wrong reasons. Youll regret it down the road!
If there are rumors that he has herpes, why would you even have to think about it?
He obviously uses girls, so why would you even want to be part of that?
Good Luck with whatever you decide!!
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woahh dont have sex with him until you know for a fact that he doesnt have herpes , just be open with him and tell him people told you and you want to know if its true ♥
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hey! well i think you should like casually bring it up. chances are he could lie to you saying he doesnt just so you have sex with him! i would say something like .. do you have herpes? its okay if you do im just wondering.
then if he does just say im sorry but i dont feel comfterable having sex with you! =]
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If many others say he has herpes, there is probably some truth in that. Although it isn't always the most comfortable thing to bring up, you should be sure rather than sorry. Let him know you really like him and enjoy his company but you want to be sure that you're safe with him sexually and that you won't contract a disease because of him. That way he won't be offended. If he hesitates or tries to change the topic, don't hook up with him until he gives you a straight answer. What you heard could be totally wrong! STD's aren't fun and if you have sex with him, others will think you have encountered herpes, too. You don't want to damage your reputation over this guy. See how gossip works?
Don't be too hung up over an ex, if he's got a girlfriend already, that's fine and it's his choice. Your new guy should be right around the corner, just don't jump on top of him to meet him. ;)
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don't risk it. some guys lie just because they want sex, then it's going to spread to you. don't take the risk.
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Well, if you don't want to do it like you said you didn't really want to, then don't. Don't listen to people about like oh my god well I heard he has blah blah. Ask him, those might be only rumors. So yeah if your that curious I'd ask him. And then if you feel more into him and want to do him. USE PROTECTION. Hope I helped.
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i would ask him.
just be like seriously is it true you have herpes? cause you dont want them
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Get to know each other before jumping into a sexual relationship.
Studies recently have shown that genital herpes is transmitted even if the infected person is not having an active outbreak of the sores.
Herpes is not an STD that goes away with medicine. You get it and you have it forever.
So yes, you need to discuss the rumors with him if you decide to have sex. You would have to know him enough to trust him though, because if he isn't having an outbreak at the time, you wouldn't know until you yourself started getting sores.
Here is info on herpes
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****Boy thats the truth. Be careful :)
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