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well ever since 5th grade i have gotten more and more that i cant sit still in class and cant pay attention in class........well i have taken quizzes on it and there professional and they all say im ADHD positive but my mom doesnt beleive that i have it and wont do any thing bout it but i just dont no wat to beleive my mom or those things
well plz help me im a 13 year old grl (link)
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Perfectly normal kids have moments of not wanting to sit still in class. Sometimes they don't pay close attention either.
Any quiz you take online is not to be believed. ADHD is diagnosed way more often than is true in my opinion.
Kids aren't allowed to be normal kids these days. A lot of teachers and parents just don't want to deal with normal kid behavior. Your mom is probably right. Good for her too!
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Okay, yesterday I found out that if I don't get a siciatrist (sp?) to see me by next week, then I will have to live with somebody else. I mean that is totally impossible for me and I know that my mom wont let that happen. I have anxiety and if I have to leave her then I will just die! But I know she wont let that happen to me, so I'm not very worried. But my mom is having a nervous breakdown! She is just lying in her bed crying and she says that she is sick and she is like freezing, she has like 3 covers over her and she is still shivering.
I am just really upset for her, so does anyone have any ideas on something I can do to help her? Maybe make her feel better?
Thank you so much! (link)
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You have to try and see the psychiatrist as you were told to do.
I am assuming that social services or someone has said you have to get this done. If you don't do as they said, they can and will remove you from your home. They will not care if you find it impossible, and your mom will be unable to prevent its happening.
It sounds as if you mom needs more help than she is able to get at home. It could be they want you to live elsewhere (temporarily) so that your mom can get the help she needs. If she is feeling that she has to stay home for you, then she may not be getting that help.
Is there a relative you could call to help you? If there is then I think you should do it. If there isn't then take help any way you can get it.
The sooner mom gets help, the sooner you can be together again. If you have to leave for a while, you will not die. You will need to be strong and follow the rules so that you get back together again soon. That will not happen if you act up so, you will have to hang in there and not make things worse by rebelling. Remember that while you are away, mom is getting help and getting better.
If the answers we give are confusing, please write us back with further questions. :)
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just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Funerals are (in my eyes anyway) for the living more than the deceased.
It is just a getting together of friends and loved ones. If you knew her family then by all means, if you can, go to support them.
As a rule I don't think the funeral is very depressing. You can skip out on going to the actual burial if you think it would bother you.
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Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 months now and I really like him...but the other day we had a really big argument and he broke up with me and we spent 2 hours on the phone and by the end of that we were back together. The day after that he tells me he'll be home early to talk to me and he his but he says he has to run to the store and get something so I wait for him to call back. When he finally calls back he's with his friend (who i hate and is the biggest jerk I've met) and I kinda get upset because I haven't had a good day and I just want to talk to him and his friend starts insulting me and my boyfriend starts laughing at me and then he gives the phone to his friend. They start drinking and they're insulting me to the point I'm crying. I really love my boyfriend and when he's not around his friend he's the nicest guy I know but I dont know what I should do about it.
Please answer! I'll rate you high! (link)
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Most of the time you aren't going to be able to get a guy to change his friends. Chances are they have been friends forever!
If you really can't stand his friend, and he is going to treat you like crap when his friend is around, I would seriously reconsider having him as a boyfriend.
Find a guy who will shut up any friend who mistreats you or cuts you down. They are out there to be had!
Any guy who will let his friends make fun of you or will actually join in on the torment, is not someone you want around.
Talk to him. If he agrees to change the behavior and you really care for him you can give him the opportunity to change. If he doesn't change, send him packing. :)
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okay, well i had sex with this guy about a month ago and the condom broke. i took ecp (emergency contriception pills) or day after pills,about 48-60 hours after we had sex. but yeah, i was supposed to get my period like a week and a half ago and i havent, i know this is a side effect of the pill, and i even took a pregnancy test and it came out negitive, but my boobs have been hurting and ive been having cramps at the top of my stomach and always having this fullness in my stomach? but yeah anyway, my question is how likely is it that i am? i know im being paranoid but i cant help it! (link)
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All your symptoms also point to starting your period! If you are stressing over them though, that can cause you not to have your period.
All tests were negative so I doubt you are pregnant. Calm down a bit and I'll bet you will get your period. :)
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This is a very long scenario, but bare with me please, for I'm in dire need of help. My best friend asked me out friday, and I said no [being the idiot that I am] because I thought he was joking [yeah, I know, it's stupid, but he's done it before]. I've liked him for atleast 4 years, and I just missed my chance, which makes me really sad. My other best friend asked him today at school if he was going to ask me back out. He said no, but he still like me.
So basically, he liked me, asked me out, I said no, and now he's not going to ask me out anytime soon. Now things are different between us. He's acting so different, he's being really mean and he was never like this before. For example, today in class I scolded him for touching my chest because I simply didn't want him to. He said I was a "PMSing bitch" I yelled at him some more and told him that was so f*cked up. He stopped talking to me, but I didn't really care. Then he apologized and started talking to me again.
He's never done this before, and it's making me upset. Before this, he used to put his arm around my shoulder, hug me from behind, and do all the other little stuff that girls love. He's amazing and perfect.
My question is, what should I do about this situation? Should I ask him out? Does it sound like he'd ever ask me out again? Thank you so much in advance.♥ (link)
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Heck yes! Go ask the poor guy out! :)
He has a bruised ego at the moment is all. He probably won't ask you out again simply because guys fear rejection as much as us girls do.
Go ask him out and tell him you thought he was kidding or you would never have said no. :)
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Superbowl sunday, my two best friends were at the same party as their crush. They both like the same guy and he doesn't have a good reputation for relationships. (He's made out with girls behind his ex girlfriend's back.) He started making a move on one of my best friends and next thing you know they are making out with each other. My other friend got completely ticked and jealous and afterwards was in tears. Then, afterwards, I went and yelled and lectured at the friend who made out with him and later, she started crying. Now they aren't talking to each other and I'm not choosing sides! They are both very stubborn. What to do? (link)
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I think you are right in not choosing sides on this one!
About the only thing you can do is tell them it is one subject you don't want to hear about. This guy doesn't sound like a winner to me. Hopefully they will both forget him soon.
If not then let them fight it out amongst themselves leaving you clear out of it. If you get involved, one or the other is just going to be mad at you. :)
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I (19/f) got my boyfriend a subscription for Sports Illustrated as a Valentine's day gift. I wanted to be creative and get him something that he'd actually like. He's not into the typical stuff. The problem is that he won't actually get the first magazine until the end of February or the beginning of March. I made it so that he will get an e-mail from magazines.com telling him about it on Valentine's day and he'll get a card in the mail doing the same sometime around Valentine's day. So, all he's getting on Valentine's day itself is the e-mail. I'm planning on making him a card, but should I get him something else to give to him on the day? If he got me a bunch of stuff (I have the feeling he's going to go all out) I'd feel kinda bad. Plus, he'll get the magazine in his mailbox and I wouldn't actually be able to give it to him which makes it a tad less special. Thanks in advance. (link)
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I did that with my brother at Christmas one year with a car magazine!
What I did was I bought an issue of the magazine for him and wrote that I hope he liked it because he was soon to have a years subscription to it. I wrote it on a card. :)
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i've looked on google under HIV and AIDS and i'm still a bit baffled at what really causes it. the sites i've been to only state that you get the virus from an already infected person through sex, sharing needles, or sleeping around.
my question is, how does one get infected in the first place? is it the mixing of body fluids in the bloodstream that causes it (i.e. anal sex, sharing needles/razors, etc)? could it possibly be led on from other stds? what is the real cause? (link)
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According to this site the original origin of the disease is unknown and probably always will be. It seems to be a really interesting site though.
Yours is a very good question and I hope you find some answers here. SO, in case it isn't one you have already read, here is a link. :)
http://www.avert.org/historyi.htm
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When a guy says "will you go out with me?"
What are you supposed to say? Just yes?
Were confused!
Thanks in advance!
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Saying yes is all you need say in answer to that question.
Lets hope your saying yes leads him to continue talking to you you though! Then you just answer questions and hopefully get a good conversation going. :)
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Hey. For the past month I have started exercizing regularly for about 60 minutes 3 or 4 times a week. Aerobic for 20-30 and strength for 30. I want to lose weight, but nothing yet. I eat the same, if not less that I did before exercising.
Im just wondering how I can lose weight if I am already somewhat light. I'm 5'8" and weight 128 pounds. I don't want to become anorexic or bulimic, but nothing else seems to be working... (link)
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If you are building muscle you are going to actually gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat does. But you will probably look better!
This isn't a bad thing. :)
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MY grandma's in a nursing home...more like a home for people who are aged or sick and don't have any one to help see them and stuff. Today wen I went to see her she was crying a bit and I'm really worried. She got a stroke and it's really difficult to understand if she really likes it or not because wen we ask if she's comfy she always says yes and we can't go ask the nurses cause of course they will say yes or something. Also as I said before I think my uncle just wants her to get out of the house so he can do what he wants since the money is on his name! I don't want him spend out the money and make us poor and I don't want my grandma to die or be unhappy. I've told my aunt away and she said she'll come soon and so I'm waitin until she comes....what should i do for the while? How do I let her feel more comfortable since my uncle won't allow me to move her...n how can i get my uncle to have a heart for his own mother!?
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I remember your last question. The answer is still pretty much the same.
You are 13 and probably not hearing the whole story of what is going on. Your grandma must have given your uncle her power of attorney. That just means that your grandma TRUSTED HIM to do what he thought was best for her.
What do your parents have to say about the whole thing? This is really not something that a 13 year should even be dealing with. I think you need to be talking to your parents.
I am sure your grandma is being taken care of. Nursing homes are very expensive places to be in. The person there has 24 hour round the clock care. Much better than they would be getting at home where people have to go to work and school.
Rest assured most of your grandmas money is going for her care. He won't have much left for playing around with.
I am sure your uncle has your grandmas best interests at heart. Please stop worrying yourself sick about it. Grandma says she is doing good, believe her. There is no laws that says she won't be able to go home after she recovers from her stroke. It is not uncommon at all for an older person to recover in a nursing home. A lot of doctors will recommend it because it isn't costing her quite as much money as a hospital is,
and it frees up room in the hospital for more seriously ill people.
Hang in there.
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I have a question about a friend of mine. Well we really only became friends about 6 weeks ago. I met her through work. We started hanging out together and going for coffee, and one time even went back to her place to watch a movie. She is married with 3 teenage boys. She told me back in December that she would be moving with her family to another city and would have to quit her job. He husband has already moved, and she is leaving in a couple of weeks. Well she used to be really friendly and phoned me a lot, and when she phoned she would want to talk about work. She never phones me anymore and when I phoned her the other day she was acting kind off cool towards me. I have no idea why. I'm wondering if maybe someone at work said something about me to her? Or do you think it's just because she's getting ready to move and her mind is preoccuipied? (link)
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Shes probably just preoccupied. Especially if she is still working while trying to pack up and move. Plus, she still has 3 teens to feed and just your everyday chores.
Maybe you can call and offer to help her with the packing or something. Maybe help relieve some of the stress she has to be under. :)
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ughh my column isn't showing up it says
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but i know it's right because when i click on your advice column it shows me what it looks like (link)
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If you used your own user name to ask this question, I got it to come up OK.
If you are having a site related problem, the fastest way to get it resolved is to send an email to dangernerd about it.
dangernerd@gmail.com
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I didn't know what to put this under because it's a pretty strange question.
How can you hide a lip piercing? I'm getting my lip pierced off center to the left but my step dad can't know I have it. My mom will let me but if my step dad finds out then I have to tell my dad and my dad will make me take ALL of my piercings out. (link)
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I really don't see any way to hide something right there on your face!
You can't take it out right way because it will close up on you.
I suppose if you could find a flat flesh colored earring that you could put makeup over you MIGHT get away with it. That kind of defeats the purpose though. :)
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Do u think im too young for sex? I WANT TO SOOOOOO BADDDDDDDD! uhhhh..hes 17, but he promises me i wouldnt get pregnant if we used a condom in he took it out before he cummed in me..is that true? (link)
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I personally think you are to young to have sex. That is just my opinion.
Your boyfriend really cannot promise you that you won't get pregnant. Condoms have been known to break. So while I am sure he means well, that isn't completely true. It could (even though probably not) happen.
The way I see it is this. If you feel you are old enough to take responsibility for an unexpected pregnancy, and you would marry the person who knocked you up ( and vice versa), you are ready to have sex with them.
Of course I am old fashioned. :)
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I went to work today and my boss asked me if I'd be interested in transferring to another department in the store. It's a new clothing line that won't be ready until March. She said I would be gauranteed at least 25 hours a week, and I would have a new supervisor.It would sort of be a promotion I guess. I said yes, and now I'm worried that some of the other girls in my department might get jealous. This one girl in the department had really wanted into this new clothing line, and she was going to ask the manager if she could transfer because she was too scared to ask our supervisor. Our supervisor can be a little mean a times (that's an understatement). Well my supervisor aproached ME,, and asked me before this other girl. I also have seniority over her. I just know she is going to be really pissed off and jealous of me. But I HAD to except this job, because I was only getting 15 hours a week in the other department. Also, I get along really well with the lady that is going to be my new boss. How should I act around her when I see her again? I don't want to make any enemies! And before this we got along really well! (link)
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Don't apologize for being promoted!
The other girl will probably be okay with it. If she isn't then there is nothing much you can do about it. The boss thought you were the better one for the job.
When you see her again tell her what happened. That the boss approached you and that you couldn't afford to turn it down. Don't just assume she is going to be mad about it. She may have wanted the job but things like this happen every day. If she doesn't understand that, she will learn quickly. :)
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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep** (link)
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younggrandma answered Friday February 3 2006, 6:03 am:
Get out of this relationship now.
If someone cares for you, they do not beat on you. This boy does not even deserve a girl friend. You do not not deserve to be treated like this.
Dump him and tell everybody you can what kind of person he is. Including your parents. If he hurts you again, I don't care how young he is, call the police.
Here is a website for you to visit.
http://www.coolnurse.com/dating_violence.htm
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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep** (link)
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Get out of this relationship now.
If someone cares for you, they do not beat on you. This boy does not even deserve a girl friend. You do not not deserve to be treated like this.
Dump him and tell everybody you can what kind of person he is. Including your parents. If he hurts you again, I don't care how young he is, call the police.
Here is a website for you to visit.
http://www.coolnurse.com/dating_violence.htm
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What do you do if a friend threatens to commit suicide, then a few days later they refuse to discuss it any further and insist they were "kidding"? My roommate did this and I tried to get help for her but she laughs at me and says she was "kidding" and I "don't know how to take a joke" but I know perfectly well that she had been serious. I know because the day she threatened to do it, I asked if she was in earnest and she was like, "Yes *sniffle* I feel like...*sob* ...I just want to die..."
And now suddenly she was "kidding." I just don't know what to do about it -- it seems like if I got a shrink to talk to her or something, she would tell the same story to him. (link)
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All threats of suicide should be taken seriously.
Here is a website to help you decide what to do.
For friends of those threatening suicide:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/talking_about_suicide.html
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