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Do u think im too young for sex? I WANT TO SOOOOOO BADDDDDDDD! uhhhh..hes 17, but he promises me i wouldnt get pregnant if we used a condom in he took it out before he cummed in me..is that true?
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Yeah just go for it, just be careful.
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even if he duznt cum in you thea is PRECUM
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If you're asking about it, you're not ready.
If you don't know whether that could be true or not, you haven't researched enough for yourself, so to me that means you don't care as much as you should, and thus, you're not ready.
I also think you're too young.
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do not have sex yet. you are WAYYYY too young.
and hes 17!
he is just taking advantage of you.
and he should not promise you something like that because he does not know the answer.
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You are much too young for sex. I understand the feelings you have but believe me when I say that your body grows faster than your mind. Enjoy being young. You have plenty of time to worry about sex later.
You ALWAYS run the risk of pregnancy anytime you have sex. ANYTIME. I cannot stress that enough. Especially when you both seem to be as uninformed are you are about your bodies and how they work.
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Alright, first of all, I, personally believe you are too young to have sex. You're boyfriend is WRONG. A condom is not always effective, and only certain ones actually work. Besdies pregnancy, you can also get an STD. Also, the, taking it out before he cums in you, doesn't work, sometimes men ejaculate and don't realize it, or it's hard for them to stop.
My advice, if you're asking us... you're definitely too young.....
----->Maureen
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14 is too young for sex. With school and just beginning to grow into an adult, you'd have a lot to cope with.
The method your boyfriend talks about ISN'T effective.
So, you CAN get pregnant, and imagine if you did get pregnant - you'd have to handle raising a child while battling with teenage life.
And then you could get a STD.
Not just that, but if you had sex at your age, then your boyfriend might tell a friend about it and rumours might start about you. And once you're older, you'd wish you would have done it when you were older and mature.
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Okay, everybody "wants it soooooooo badddddddddd". It's only natural. But you can and probably should wait. I have no right to tell you what to do, this is just my advice. But my personal belief is that if you HAVE to ask, then you're not ready. And also that you, while physically ready for sex, are not emotionally ready to handle it (and sex is a hugely emotional thing). And NO, that doesn't ensure that you won't get pregnant. It says right on the package that condoms are breakable and don't 100% protect you from STDs and pregnancy. Pulling out doesn't work AT ALL, because pre-ejaculate also contains sperm. Don't do something you'll regret; you can wait. If you find you really just can't go another day without sex, masturbate. And if you say no, and this guy still tries to pressure you into it, you can politely advise him to do the same.
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You're asking me (someone you don't know) if you are ready to have sex...and I say no.
Thats my first reason why. Also because you are under age... Do you really want to stress out if you are pregnant or not? Take care of a child 24/7? You're 14, you have a whole life ahead of you. But if you really think you are ready then go for it. For me, I wouldn't mind waiting a couple of more years.
Just remember guys will say +anything+ to get you into bed.
Stay tough & good luck
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WHy do you feel the urge to wanna have sex. and the part about him pulling out you'll find out that that's lie!. If you look it up, you'll see that the pulling thing is not effective. and condoms don't work 100%. and do you think this guy actually likes you or he just to have sex!
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heres my opinion... if hes 17 why does he wanna be with a 14 yr old? he is more experienced and probrably epects more than u want to give ... but if u love him and feel like you want to loose it to him, then give it to him... lots of people regret it so young.. hope i helped
<3 abbey
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Here's a way to tell if you are ready for sex... If he broke up with you after you had had sex would you be able to deal? would you feel terrible and regret it? Do you want to do it because you think it would make you cooler and since you have an older boyfriend you think doing it will make him like you more?
Look, I personally don't really think age is as much an issue. I know plenty fo 25 year olds who shouldn't be having sex. But the fact is, you had to go to an advice column to find out if you are ready to have sex or not... kinda leads me to believe that you aren't yet. You'll know when you are ready, its when you are confident in your decision.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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Well if you honestly think your mature,ready,and think your capable of raising a child if you do get pregnant then yes,you are ready.If you cant handle raising a child,or are not sure about having sex dont do it especially for the sake of having sex if you truly dont love him sex is a huge deal.Now if you do have sex,if he does take it out before he cums,its a lesser chance of you getting pregnant,but theres always that slaight chance.Hope i could help on your decision!
♥ danielle
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nobody can really tell you that you are to young. If you think you are ready then go and do it. but the things it his promise about him saying he's not going to get pregnant cause he dosn't know that for sure. so just be ready for the consquences.
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well i think yur too young cuz yur only fourteen. i'm fourteen. i REALLY WANNA have sex too. but yeah i'm not ready.
i don't think you should i would just wait until you get a bit older.
yeah i think it's tru
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Yes, I do. You're a child. Sex makes babies. Children should not be making babies.
Sex is overrated anyway. This isn't true for EVERYONE, but a good number of people who lost their virginity young because they thought they were ready end up regretting it years down the road & wishing they were ready. You'll never regret waiting, but there's always a good chance you'll regret doing it--especially if you end up pregnant.
There's ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy every time you engage in sexual intercourse, even if you're using a condom, birth control, & he pulls out before he ejaculates. The only SURE way to prevent pregnancy is to remain abstinent.
Could you handle a kid if you were to get pregnant? Ignore him if he says he'll be there for you & support you if it happens. Some guys are asses who just say it to get in your pants, & some genuinely mean it but end up scared when it becomes a reality. You can't count on your parents or guardians to support you, either. So think about it long & hard--if you end up pregnant, can you support a child by yourself? Could you carry it & give it up for adoption? Could you handle the emotional, physical, and psychological pain if you abort it?
Really, don't do it. There are other things you can do that are just as satisfying as intercourse. You're young. Quit trying to grow up so fast.
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its your decision about what to do .. if you think that you are ready, then go for it .. just make sure you do use a condom, and you shouldnt just have sex with anyone .. if its your first time, it should be with someone you care about .. and the only way you can get pregnant with a condom is if the condom breaks .. just remember, to never double up on condoms, because the friction from the plastic will rip them *
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sex is overrated so don't assume that your first time is gonna be special with everything going right and you'll be together forever etc etc but if you really want to have sex I would suggest taking it slow and doing other things before actual penetrative sex. Try foreplay like handjobs, blowjobs and fingering and see how you feel about it, if you don't like it then stop and tell your boyfriend. Theres no way - even if he promises - to be sure you won't get pregnant so if you're worried then it's best to avoid sex.
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no one can tell you if your too young or not..
but heres my advice, if your going to have sex at such a young age you should probally do it with someone your age or a year older.. some guys, for whatever reason, like to have sex with younger girls so he could just be using you for sex
so do want you want and be careful!
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well im 14 and the first boy ive had sex with was 17! so sounds like ive been in the same posisition!! first its not about that you want to have sex! dont make the mistake of loosing you virginity with a loser! or some one that if you become pregnant wont be by your side! 14 is young but thats when i lost my virginity! but i did it with the boy that im still with and weve been going out with him for 5 months and i know he really loves me! and if you do have sex make sure he pulls out b4 he cums and use protection! my advise dont use trogan ulta thin! they break real easyily! hope i helped! and if he pulls out and you use protection its a high doubt you will get pregnant!! dont make a stupid mistake!
hope i helped!
--->>x0x kayla
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The only thing that guarantees you won't get pregnant is not having sex at all. Unfortunately, contraceptives are not 100% accurate in preventing pregnancy. I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my first child.
As for whether you're too young. Personally, I think people shouldn't have sex unless they're prepared financially and emotionally to deal with the possible consequences. I think it applies no matter your age.
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Yeah you're too young and apparently naive, because you're going just by what this little horny shit has told you. "He promises not to get you pregnant"? How's that? My friend used a condom and birth control and that kid'll be a year old in July. Don't do it. Pulling out is not an effective method. Pre-cum honey, pre-cum. Be a kid, enjoy it. Why potentially fuck your life up?
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hi, i agree with younggrandma. If you are ready to take on the responsibilities of parenting then you are ready to have sex. he can't promise anything condoms do break- one of my good friends is pregnant and they used a condom. be strong girl, lol, im sure you can wait until your ready. Think long and hard about this one- it's a really really big step in your relationship. Good luck~Luv megz2009
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I personally think you are to young to have sex. That is just my opinion.
Your boyfriend really cannot promise you that you won't get pregnant. Condoms have been known to break. So while I am sure he means well, that isn't completely true. It could (even though probably not) happen.
The way I see it is this. If you feel you are old enough to take responsibility for an unexpected pregnancy, and you would marry the person who knocked you up ( and vice versa), you are ready to have sex with them.
Of course I am old fashioned. :)
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