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My best friend was a backstabber to my other best friend
Superbowl sunday, my two best friends were at the same party as their crush. They both like the same guy and he doesn't have a good reputation for relationships. (He's made out with girls behind his ex girlfriend's back.) He started making a move on one of my best friends and next thing you know they are making out with each other. My other friend got completely ticked and jealous and afterwards was in tears. Then, afterwards, I went and yelled and lectured at the friend who made out with him and later, she started crying. Now they aren't talking to each other and I'm not choosing sides! They are both very stubborn. What to do?
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Just let it go away. You don`t have to pick sides, so just do what your doing. It will eventually just fall back into place & they will be friends again. If you want, you can make them work their problems. Just have them confront the other person in a RESPECTFUL manner. If you want to do that, try and avoid drama. Drama is totally NOT tre-cool.
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My best advice is to do what you're already doing... stay out of it. It might hurt you to see your friends fighting, and it makes sense that you would want to do something about it, but that will only over-complicate matters. If you choose sides, or confront the guy, it will just result in making someone feel even more angry or hurt, and it will be harder for you to win them back. Make it clear to both of them that you do not want to be brought into this conflict, and tell them that they need to work it out themselves.
Hope your friends realize that no guy is worth a friendship, and i hope it will all work out in the end!
----->Maureen
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First off I think you are right to not choose sides because that is only going to complicate matters. You just need to wait until both sides have calmed down and want to talk. This guy doesn't sound like a very good person for either of them. So instead of yelling and getting mad at your friends, maybe you should be confronting this guy.
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I think you are right in not choosing sides on this one!
About the only thing you can do is tell them it is one subject you don't want to hear about. This guy doesn't sound like a winner to me. Hopefully they will both forget him soon.
If not then let them fight it out amongst themselves leaving you clear out of it. If you get involved, one or the other is just going to be mad at you. :)
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