Hi Everyone My name is Josh but you can call me Charm. I am 22 years old currenting living in Missouri but from Los Angeles Ca I would love to move back someday when the time is right.
As for me I am on here to give advice on any and every subject you could think of. I have always been told that I give great advice or that I can help people see the problem from the other person's point of view. So If you would like me to answer any questions feel free to email me.
E-mail: charmedempath@yahoo.com
Gender: Male
Location: Los Angeles CA
Occupation: Casino Marketing Reo
Age: 22
Yahoo: charmedempath
MSN: robie_2001@hotmail.com
Member Since: February 2, 2006
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Alright I see you anwser alot of questions on advicenators.com, so I'll ask you a question.
I used to have a crush on this guy, Charlie. I wanted to make out wth him, and date him for a long time but then he went to college and I never saw him anymore. Well a month or so ago, I saw him at a party and things happened and we made out. Things progressed and we decided to be friends with benefits. It was to be on the down-Low.
He told me that he doesn't want a relationship with girls because all girls are sweet at first then they turn out to be phsyco.
He's totally hot and we've had sex a few times. I'm not going to lie, the sex is great. But now lately we just hang out or talk on the phone. He doesn't try anything with me, although he does encourage me to call him every night, and tells me to be careful. There is obvious flirting and chemistry going on between us.
I wouldn't really call us "friends" - Although that could be debatable. He sends mixed signels.
If we are just friends with benefits why does he calls so much? I thought all FWB's do is call for a booty call. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I'm confused and not sure what to do. How should I handle this situation and what the heck is going on???? (link)
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Dear FWB
Well first off, are you comfortable with being fwb because if your not then maybe there is where alot of the mixed signals are coming from. As for him, he sounds like he has been in a lot of really bad relationships and is still dealing with those emotions. If he is someone you really want to pursue you are going to have to be patient. The example that comes to mind to me is like nursing someone back to health that has been in a horrible accident and cant do anything for themselves. Take that example and transfer it to the emotional side of your relationship and I think that is where you stand. Because chances are all he is able to give you right now is a booty call. So I hope this helps if you have anymore questions or would like to explain or elaborate any of the points I or you made just email me
laters
charm
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Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 months now and I really like him...but the other day we had a really big argument and he broke up with me and we spent 2 hours on the phone and by the end of that we were back together. The day after that he tells me he'll be home early to talk to me and he his but he says he has to run to the store and get something so I wait for him to call back. When he finally calls back he's with his friend (who i hate and is the biggest jerk I've met) and I kinda get upset because I haven't had a good day and I just want to talk to him and his friend starts insulting me and my boyfriend starts laughing at me and then he gives the phone to his friend. They start drinking and they're insulting me to the point I'm crying. I really love my boyfriend and when he's not around his friend he's the nicest guy I know but I dont know what I should do about it.
Please answer! I'll rate you high! (link)
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Oh honey I am sad just reading this question. This guy has no regard for your feelings or what you want. If he is not standing up for you with his friends and protection you. Then what kind of boyfriend is he. You deserve way better than this.
I know that you have heard the expression You are who you hang out with.
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I don't know whats wrong with me, i get mad so quickly but only when im with family or the people im more comfortable with, it seems like my mom and dad are never happy with anything that i accomplish, i just want my dad to pay more attention to me, but he's always siding with his girlfriend on everything and it makes me feel like shes more important, i get mad sometimes and slam my hands down on somethin and have even broke a few things (not of great value) i just wanna know what i can do besides count to 10 cause i just get even more mad by the end of that. (link)
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I went through a similar situation with my dad and I always found that talking to him with out his girlfriend in the room helped.
As well as giving him specific examples...Dad I feel like you choose sides with your girlfriend when your talking about this issue... Whatever that issue maybe
Or the other solution which is thinking out of the box but became friends with his girlfriend. Then when he starts to choose sides she'll stand up for you. That way he can't choose sides.
And as far as you mom and dad never being happy with what you accomplish don't worry about that they never will. You could do everything perfect exactly how they wanted you to be and there would still be something wrong with it, because it's not about you. It is something they are not dealing with in their own lives that is causing them to be unhappy with theirs
Hope this helps
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ok well im a guy that almost exactly a year ago to date fell in love with a girl the moment i saw her, she walked in and i knew that i would feel the way i do now. I've told her somewhat how I've felt before and she still doesnt like me, she seems to like the guys who would treat her like shit, im not necessarily a nice guy but i have no clue what to do to get her. She is a nice girl and when i say a nice girl I mean it, shes never even kissed a guy. Im in love with her so much and i just want to know how to get her. (link)
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Well a lot of times the reasons girls pick guys is because they want a guy like their father. So if her father treats her like shit than she is going to go for guys that do the same. Just because that is all she has ever known.
Have you talked to her about why she won't go out with you or really listened to her. Sometimes all it takes is remembering that she likes the rolling stones and getting her the magazine. Girls like guys that pay attention to them without smothering them. Back off a little don't seem to desperate and play it cool.
You could do something for Valentines Day but if she doesnt like you and she's with another guy that might creep her out.
So my advice is get to know her. The real her and not just the front. Be her friend and let it go from there.
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well i am, in my oppinion, over weight, i want to know if there is a way to lose 5-10 pounds in a short amount of time, like a months (the maximmum)
are there any websites, or plans that anyone knows about?
thnx a bunch! (link)
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My first question would be why are you wanting to loose the weight? Ask yourself that because chances are if you don't know why your not going to keep your focus in loosing it.
There is one thing you can do that will help you loose weight and your not going to starve yourself either. Just drink more water. You should be having 8 to 10 glasses of water a day. If you were just to do that and cut out soda and candy you could loose the 5- 10 pounds your wanting.
Another good way to loose the weight is by exercising got for a brisk walk twice a day or go to a gym and work on toning your body.
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This is a very long scenario, but bare with me please, for I'm in dire need of help. My best friend asked me out friday, and I said no [being the idiot that I am] because I thought he was joking [yeah, I know, it's stupid, but he's done it before]. I've liked him for atleast 4 years, and I just missed my chance, which makes me really sad. My other best friend asked him today at school if he was going to ask me back out. He said no, but he still like me.
So basically, he liked me, asked me out, I said no, and now he's not going to ask me out anytime soon. Now things are different between us. He's acting so different, he's being really mean and he was never like this before. For example, today in class I scolded him for touching my chest because I simply didn't want him to. He said I was a "PMSing bitch" I yelled at him some more and told him that was so f*cked up. He stopped talking to me, but I didn't really care. Then he apologized and started talking to me again.
He's never done this before, and it's making me upset. Before this, he used to put his arm around my shoulder, hug me from behind, and do all the other little stuff that girls love. He's amazing and perfect.
My question is, what should I do about this situation? Should I ask him out? Does it sound like he'd ever ask me out again? Thank you so much in advance.♥ (link)
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Well First off, know that he is acting the way he is because he is trying to deal with the rejection he has just faced. He probably has been trying to get up the guts to ask you for awhile and you told him no.
I would talk to him about it. Seriously talk to him and tell him what you have told me that he's amazing and perfect but that you thought he was joking because thats what he did in the past.
You have to have good communication in any relationship. He can't read your mind and you cant read his. So sit down and talk with him. Just you and him and no interruptions and I think Mr. Amazing will come around.
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I (19/f) got my boyfriend a subscription for Sports Illustrated as a Valentine's day gift. I wanted to be creative and get him something that he'd actually like. He's not into the typical stuff. The problem is that he won't actually get the first magazine until the end of February or the beginning of March. I made it so that he will get an e-mail from magazines.com telling him about it on Valentine's day and he'll get a card in the mail doing the same sometime around Valentine's day. So, all he's getting on Valentine's day itself is the e-mail. I'm planning on making him a card, but should I get him something else to give to him on the day? If he got me a bunch of stuff (I have the feeling he's going to go all out) I'd feel kinda bad. Plus, he'll get the magazine in his mailbox and I wouldn't actually be able to give it to him which makes it a tad less special. Thanks in advance. (link)
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If you feel like he is going all out and your not don't feel bad. The object of Valentine's Day is to spend time with the one you love and share a special moment. Don't worry about topping each other's gifts it's not worth is. Honestly in the long run that card or what ever he has got you will end up in a storage box or get thrown away. That goes for most gifts as well. We all have to the best intentions of keeping those things forever but in the long run its not practical. I mean Do you still have the gifts that other people have given you in previous years?
The whole point I am trying to make is that it is about quality time spend together. Everything else is just icing on the cake and makes for a nice time.
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I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months, yet we basically live together already since he sleeps over my house 6 out of 7 nights a week. We are completely in love and I couldn't be happier. I need some ideas on what to get him for Valentine's Day because I am clueless. I am horrible at getting guy's presents because they are so difficult!!(...and they say that about us, huh?). Anyhow, when I asked him what he wanted, he said to get him whatever I want...whatever I think he'll like...Please give me some ideas!!! (link)
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This is always a hard question to answer especially for guys. But my advice is stick with what you know. You know that he loves you so why don't you be the gift to him. Center the evening around him and you maybe a nice dinner you cook for him or taking him out to a favorite spot. It really isnt about the gift that you get him but the time spent. Does that make sense. I mean I can't remember what me boyfriend got me of Valentine Day's last year and but I know we had a great time and it was just the two of us. That's what's important.
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Superbowl sunday, my two best friends were at the same party as their crush. They both like the same guy and he doesn't have a good reputation for relationships. (He's made out with girls behind his ex girlfriend's back.) He started making a move on one of my best friends and next thing you know they are making out with each other. My other friend got completely ticked and jealous and afterwards was in tears. Then, afterwards, I went and yelled and lectured at the friend who made out with him and later, she started crying. Now they aren't talking to each other and I'm not choosing sides! They are both very stubborn. What to do? (link)
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First off I think you are right to not choose sides because that is only going to complicate matters. You just need to wait until both sides have calmed down and want to talk. This guy doesn't sound like a very good person for either of them. So instead of yelling and getting mad at your friends, maybe you should be confronting this guy.
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