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My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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13/f. I was in the popular preppy group but now I am in the gothic. I think I am still bffs with my friend in the popular group. If I ask her anything around that or that she says oh ya why wouldn’t we be I love you or bffs still. We used to be bffs but then it was off and on because we didn’t do the same sports. So I got tired of thinking if tomorrow wed be bffs or not. my gothic friends are always there for me and im very rough and they are to so i can just be myself and also they dont theyd never tell a parent if someone hurts them. my old preppy friends would always just sit there and laugh at stuff that made no sense and if someone hurts them they go tell it drove me fuckin crazy. they never understood what i went through or my music or me cussing. my new gothic friends I love them and they and he are the only ones that understand me. i miss the preppy popular people i dono why? i was never as close with them. ive always liked black but never wore that much because it was 'not perky' i never was perky thay tried to change me. i miss them. but i love being with my gothic friends their my bffs. im myself around them and alot happier and everything. but my parents dont like them. and is trying to keep me away im tired of sneaking and she nos and shes always saying what wrong with my friends!!! im just like them so whats the matter. were not the extreme gothic kids. we go to a fucked up catholic school no peircings or tattoos or hair coloring. theyre always checking US its driving me fucking crazy. think if you were all for expression and you could never express urself at all or even say gothic at school. their always watching us were always doing something wrong. ive always been the quiet shy girl but now im breakin out. whats wrong with me?
which group should i go with?
whats wrong with my school?
is it illegal for no expression just for us?

Frankly, I think labels are just overrated. See what it has done to people? Separate us. It's like if one person is labeled that, another label is forbidden to go near them. My advice for you is be you. I know it's cheesy and trite but it will be the best.

There is now law saying that you have to hang out with only one group of friends, right? So why not be friends with both groups? And about your mom not liking what's going on, chillax. Respect what your mom is saying [she's probably worried--stereotyping] and just limit what you say about your current friends and if you need to sneak out, sneak out. That's what I do. My mom doesn't like the group of friends I have so I never tell her about them that much.

Hmm so to sum it up:
Be yourself
Be friends with whoever you like
There is no law saying you can't contact another group while being in another group.

So just have fun, enjoy life, be yourself and don't let labels ruin it.

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so, i want to lose 10 pounds so im trying to eat healthier. i normally eat cheezits and fruit snacks but today i got those uncrustables (pb n j thing) and a bag of chips only because i was really hungry. but would the pb n j be healthy for me to eat everyday at lunch?

Everyday for lunch? No. Once in a while? Yes.

Peanut butter itself is very high in fat and, while most jellies are healthy, the one used in the manufactured PB&J sandwhich is probably bad for you and higher in sugar and artificial flavoring rather than real fruit. It is also very, very out of the normal proportion. I've tried one and there is double the amount of peanut butter and jelly that should be on a PB & J sandwhich.

So instead of getting those sandwhiches, get a cheese and turkey sandwhich or something like that. Get healthy, fresh sandwhiches because whatever comes manufactured and packaged is unhealthy. So stick with fresh sandwhiches, fruits, salads, and veggies =)

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Okay, last night my boyfriend popped my cherry, but I still have vaginal bleeding today. I know it's not my period because I finished my period a week ago. Is this normal?

It varies from people to people and some will bleed lightly for a few hours and some might bleed lightly for a day or a little longer. If it doesn't stop bleeding soon, though, you may want to see what's up with it at a clinic =]

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i am a Level I Moderator
how do i become a lever 2 moderator?
i rate a lot of questions and answer a lot of questions
i dont just answer because of ratings and moderator statut, i answered just as much before i was a moderator but how to i get to be a level 2?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69

The FAQ button isn't here for decorations deary.

Just because you rate and answer many questions doesn't mean you'll automatically be a Level 2 Moderator. You've got to be dedicated to this site like it's your life! XD

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Me and this girl has been good friends for about 4 years now. about 2 years ago she introduced me to one of her friends...who i REALLY like. We've been together for about 1 week. I don't know if i should tell her. I'm not good with these kinda of things....should I tell her?

You should tell her right now because she'll feel left out and lied on if you don't tell her straight out. She'll feel like you're hiding something from her and perhaps think you've hid other things from her in the pst...

Just tell her casually and ask "What do you think about your friends going out together?"

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i'm 5'5 and weigh 158lbs. i've been going on and off diets for awhile, and the one i was recently on worked great. i lost 15lbs on it! well, this weekend..i kind of over-ate and gained 5lbs back on (on thursday i weighed 152lbs).

i need tips on how to keep myself from cheating on my diets, and stick to it. i also need tips for snacking, excersising, and a way to beat cravings..

i have no deadline, really. if i can loose this weight before school ends, i'll be happy.

thank you so much for the advice :)

I believe that the average weight for you should be around 125lbs. So aiming for 30lbs is a great idea but don't try to achieve it all at once because the faster you lose it, the more likely it gets that you'll gain those pounds back--really quickly!

Here is a tip about exercising: going on a same routine for a while won't help! You need to switch it up as much as you can. Why? Because your body will grow accustomed to your exercise habits and will no longer burn as much calories than when you first started. So I'd say do these exercises and make sure you switch them up as often as you can =]

-Running/Jogging
-Jump roping
-Aerobics
-Pilates
-Weight lifting

Do any three of these above at least 3 times a week.

-Crunches/Curl ups
-Leg lifts
-Push ups
-Oblique Crunches
-Yoga
-Side Crunches

Try and do one or two of those above everyday. It seems like a hassel but you'll get into the habit of setting aside 15min for these everday. Start with a reasonable number and gradually increase and I mean GRADUALLY.

A good way to make sure you're switching is to get index cards and write each of the exercises and get them into 2 differnet piles (exercises from the first list and exercises from the 2nd list). Pick random ones from each deck and it will likely help you with varying your exercise. If you don't know what some of the exercises are/want a few more exercises, message my inbox =]
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Now, for the eating part...

You must eat all your meals! Because if you skip meals, your body will just end up storing more fat because it knows that it's not going to get food in between a meal...if that made sense. Now, that doesn't mean you can go off and eat everything anytime you get hungry.

5 Meal rule: (all food consumed must be healthy)
Breakfast:
Whole wheat/grain toast with light cream cheese or low fat peanut butter with fresh fruit OR english muffin with light cream cheese are MUCH better than sugary cereals, eggs, bacon, etc.

Snack:
Fresh fruits (sliced apple, grapes), dried fruit, whole wheat crackers with low fat cheese, yogurt, veggies, etc.

Lunch:
Whole wheat bread with lean meats, low fat peanut butter, etc. and fresh fruit or salad with low fat dressing.

Snack:
Same as the above one

Dinner:
Grilled chicken or fish, baked potatos, fruits, veggies

Beverages:
H2O should be your best friend. Try and limit your soda intakes and make them diet if you have to drink them. Juices should be like orange juice or something with not much added flavor/sugar in there. Milk should be fat free or low fat.

Basically my point here is to eat healthy foods. The snacks in between help you from getting too hungry causing you to splurge yourself with food during meals. Limit junk food/fast food intakes but not completely get rid of them. Instead of potato chips, ask your mom if she can buy pretzels. Have you or your mom cut up fruits/veggies into serving size and put them on the eye leveled shelf of the fridge so when you're hungry, they're right there for you to eat.

Remember that exercise isn't the only thing to lose weight. Eating is very important. don't overwork yourself and gradually increase your intensity of your workout or you might injure youself...

good luck!!!

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hey.I want you guys to write me down a list of your top 10 favorite songs,they dont have to be in order.I just want to hear some new different songs.THANKS

I know that you wanted songs but I love all the bands I listen to and I cannot possibly pick only 10 (If I did, it would be all My Chemical Romance's songs)

1. My Chemical Romance
2. Lamb of God
3. Slipknot
4. Evanescence
5. Flyleaf
6. A Faith Called Chaos
7. Simple Plan
8. Lostprophets
9. From First To Last
10.Alice in Videoland
11.t.A.T.u

Wow, I'm disturbing your mind with all these bands haha

I know..that was 11..not 10

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Its AgonyLucard :)

Thanks =]
mines r0ck0nl0ser

Had some questions about piercing...you seem to know much about it =P

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hey ppl! well, i'm 14/f, and i have a problem. when i was about... 11 i think, i wanted to start shaving my legs. well, my mom didn't think i was old enough to shave with an actual razor, so she got me an electric razer thing. well, now i'm 14 and that electric razer does just not cut it. it doesn't get all of the hair off my legs. i want a razor, but i don't think my mom will let me. does that stuff by suave or whatever work? its the stuff kinda like nair. with the bladeless razor. idk what to do. help! thanx!!

Nair didn't work out well for me but then different people have different results...

Just ask your mom if you can buy an actual razor and if she still says no, go over to your friends, have her mom drive you guys to a market and get one with your own money. Or if you have a Target gift card or something, go online and order it with the gift card--about the razor replacing...unless your dad has a regular razor, you might have to buy them yourself...or just buy one and tell your mom that you need to replace the razor head..

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I am about 5'3 and I weigh 134 ibs. Can you tell me what my BMI (body mass index) is, and is it too high?

Thanks a bundle.
Love,
Too fat.

Just Google BMI calculator and you'll get a bunch of links...

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

here is one

Your BMI is 23.7--it's pretty close to the highest BMI for the normal weight so watch out.

Right now, you're at a normal BMI

BMI Categories:

Underweight =

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i am a 15 year old guy. i have always like girls and i mean ALWAYS. never ever felt even the slightest love directed at a guy. 4 months ago i asked a girl out. after that, i had a crush on another girl a little less than 2 months ago.
I am really confused because about 3 weeks ago i started wondering i may be gay after i saw some line reading a soccer review where the player said "its a man's game". i have no clue why but that set of a chain reaction in me. after this i can count about 3 instances where i haven't been aroused that much by porn. i have never watched gay porn but for some reason it seems more exciting but not so arousing. i think it might be the hero worship happening now. i am sexually attracted to women ONLY and masturbate thinking about them only and do not fantasize about men.
my relationship with my dad is good but i don't see him so much because he is busy and my brother left for college last year. have not been able to meet my friends so much cos i have study leave for exams.
please help. i really need it

You're 15. Teenage years where hormones are going haywire. It's normal for every teenager to question their orientation but that doesn't mean that you are gay, bi, etc.

You said you were sexually attracted to girls only but not to guys--that answers your question. If you can never see yourself with a guy or even kissing a guy, then that's that. Gay men have no feelings towards women beyond the friendship level.

You're normal. Don't fret.

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Hi im 13/f and im just wondering when you cherry is popped when your having sex, is he doing to hard? or what, hod does it pop?

Well, popping the cherry basically means you lose your virginity. It doesn't matter how hard he does it or how soft he does it...as long as he does it, your cherry is going to pop. It's basically a hymen in your vagina opening that rips.

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Okay on Friday I had about 5 friends over, and well we drank a little. And everyone passed out except me and this guy. And he was kinda all over me, trying to kiss me and stuff. And I passed out and when I woke up we were cuddling I guess you could say. But now I feel totally violated. I mean, nothing happened between us that was "bad", if you will..'Cause I'm pritty sure I would remember. But I don't understand why I feel this way? 'Cause it was only cuddling right? Why do I feel like this? Is it normal? Is there something wrong with me? Help. =(

How much did you drink? You might just not remember the entire thing because of the effects of alcohol on your body. Maybe you feel violated because you don't know what happened previous to your waking up and finding yourself cuddling some guy...It's normal, nothings wrong with you.

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I'm 15 female and i'm 130 pounds. if you put my hand under my boob it reaches right to my hip a little bit past. so im all legs, is this a bad weight? because when i sit i get like three rolls on my tummy and its getting bigger and bigger..any way to help me lose weight and not spend money nor make my asthma get worse?

What's your height? We don't know if you're overweight or underwieght or the average weight unless you give us a height measurement.

Anywhos, eat healthy meals--cut out junk food as much as possible including soda, candy, fast food, pizza, etc. Drink lots of water and eat fruits and veggies. Exercise for 30min 3 times a week whether it's jogging, yoga, pilates, aerobics, etc. Do that and when lose all the excess fat, start toning exercises along with the running. [Crunchs, push ups, weight lift, etc.]

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I have a really demanding mother. And everyday I have to live with it. Its ah-nnoying. Every word that comes out of her mouth is like do this do that. She never jokes around she takes things wayyy to seriousely, and Ive counted. And also whenever I try to talk to her, she always asks me questions about it, shes so nosy and has no social skills. Shes moody all the time. Like if she asks WHO did this and if no one did it she'll start yelling. i just cant stand this anymore. And I dont know what do?? What should I do with my demanding mother its like she has the worst personality and doesnt know how to have fun just work? HELP puh-lease!!!

I'm in a similar situation. I'm 14/9th grade and I'm in Latin IV, Alg II, strings, IB program, violin lesson, 6 clubs, and blah. I'm already deprived of sleep and social life yet my mom insists that I can to better which is ironic considering that I'm getting straight A's. She always tells me to help around the house more and clean my room and practice the violin more and it's just endless.

She can never take jokes, there has to be a who, what, when, where, and why to a story or it's yelling time for her.

I've learned that talking back or ignoring or just being a teenager does not help at all. Just for a couple of days, do some things you normally wouldn't do [like clean the kitchen, do laundry] without her telling you to do so. Then slowly and deviously plant a "life is busy" thing here and there. Hold back on jokes and stories and *poof*. It gets a little better.

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i love love love gatorade. if i only drink water do you think that i could loose weight..
and how much water would i have to drink..

im not willing to give up junk food. ha. thankss

Random much?

If you think that drinking lots of water will make you lose weight, it will be the same as saying "butterflies will bring world peace".

To lose weight, you need to go on a healthy diet and exercise regularly. The last time I checked, junk food is not healthy and therefor those not help you lose wieght but rather helps you put on weight. So either give up junk food and go on a healthy lifestyle or say good bye to you dreams of losing weight.

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This site seriously needs more categories.

I wrote a story, and was hoping I could get a review. I rate!

http://storywrite.com/story/68691

Oh sweet! I have an account on that site! You should add me =]

Ms Cancer is Born

That's my user name

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hey
(sorry if this is in the wrong cat.) i write poems all the time and i also write other things, does anyboday know any sites where you can go and enter your poem or story thing for like a competion or anything..
but also something that is free and i dont have to download anything
thanks in advance

OH!!YAY

Poetry.com is a site where you can enter your poems whether it is for a contest or not.

Allpoetry.com is a site where you can post your poems up and you may be able to enter some if some users on there decides to make contests (although I'm not on allpoetry.com so I'm not sure)

Storywrite.com is the best site where you can post your stories and maybe poems if you want. There a lot of the users create contests for the users on that site. Anywhos, I love storywrite...but it's pretty addictive so be careful XD My name is Ms Cancer is Born

So go there!

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Well this morning at work I was really bored, so I sent an email to my friend then I decided 2 look in my boyfriends emails, were both totally comfortable with doing that other wise we wouldn't have given each other our passwords! We've been together for nearly 2 years! He's 20 and i'm nearly 19!

So I clicked in his inbox and found an email from him to this girl who is a lot younger then him! From what I could tell they were talking to each other before hand then my boyfriend sent this girl an email saying 'hey yeah its me hope everything will be ok i hope you feel better soon, just remember i'm always here 4 you ok? bye bye gorjus xxoo MWAH xoxox talk to you real soon' something along those lines.

Then she replied, oh thank u for your email it was so sweet it means so much to me, yeah i've had a bad day hopefully everything wil be ok soon. well like you said i'll talk to you real soon luv Nic xxoox. (something along those lines)

Now when I found this email I couldn't contact my boyfriend because he works in a factory, so when he finished he came to my work, I totally believed him that he hasn't or wont cheat on me. But I wanted to talk to him about it, i've spoken to him about it and he's apologied and I guess I made him feel a bit guilty but now I feel guilty because I made him feel guilty!!!!

I love him so much and I know that he loves me.. were suppose to be moving in together but I just don't know! I do not want to doubt him at all but I just need your opinion on this!

I keep asking myself why would he want to throw away 2 years..?! He's not like other guys he's sweet and different!

I just don't know what to do.. I don't want to break it off with him! I love him too much!

Don't fret because I can relate to this situation [being Nic]. This guy, who was 4 or 5 years older than me, and I used to talk all the time with hugs and kisses and the whole "you're bueatiful, gorgeous, etc" scene. Now, this is the part that will help you: we weren't like having an online relationship or a real life relationship or etc. We were like best friends that acknowledged each other as like a sibling. I mean I love him like woah and vice versa but he has a gf and I [at that time] had a bf.

So don't make such a big decision over a few words and let it slide by. And don't feel guilty for making him feel guilty...feel happy that you have the gift of making others feel guilty haha

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16/f

alright me and my friend, dustin, have been friends forever. and like yeah we fool around.. we're kinda each others rebound.

well long story short.. tonight he came over.. and i figured he wanted something.. boy was i right.

at first he said he didnt want anything... and then night went on, we watched a movie and fooled around.. well.. then things started getting hot and heavy and he asked if i had condoms.. i said yea. well yeah i may have wanted it for a long time but it felt wrong because i was cheated on and didnt wanna get screwed over.

also i think that sex shouldnt be the only thing involved in a relationship.. it shouldnt matter. to me its the most distant thing in a relationship.. i guess what im trying to say is that i have morals.

but like did i make the right decision or was that his way of telling me he wants to be with me or something?
i need serious answers.. please and thanks =]

Guys are just horny and it's a proven fact.
Since you guys are kind of friends-with-benefits kind of thing, he may want more.
Sex is totally up to you and you can't let anyone influence or make the decision for you other than yourself. If you want to and feel comfortable, you can but if not, you don't have to. And your friend needs to realize that there is going to be some boundries.

As for his motives...no one but he will know [unless he told someone else haha]. But anywhos, either just flat out ask him or jsut forget about it.

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