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confused about friends, school, between preps and goth
13/f. I was in the popular preppy group but now I am in the gothic. I think I am still bffs with my friend in the popular group. If I ask her anything around that or that she says oh ya why wouldn’t we be I love you or bffs still. We used to be bffs but then it was off and on because we didn’t do the same sports. So I got tired of thinking if tomorrow wed be bffs or not. my gothic friends are always there for me and im very rough and they are to so i can just be myself and also they dont theyd never tell a parent if someone hurts them. my old preppy friends would always just sit there and laugh at stuff that made no sense and if someone hurts them they go tell it drove me fuckin crazy. they never understood what i went through or my music or me cussing. my new gothic friends I love them and they and he are the only ones that understand me. i miss the preppy popular people i dono why? i was never as close with them. ive always liked black but never wore that much because it was 'not perky' i never was perky thay tried to change me. i miss them. but i love being with my gothic friends their my bffs. im myself around them and alot happier and everything. but my parents dont like them. and is trying to keep me away im tired of sneaking and she nos and shes always saying what wrong with my friends!!! im just like them so whats the matter. were not the extreme gothic kids. we go to a fucked up catholic school no peircings or tattoos or hair coloring. theyre always checking US its driving me fucking crazy. think if you were all for expression and you could never express urself at all or even say gothic at school. their always watching us were always doing something wrong. ive always been the quiet shy girl but now im breakin out. whats wrong with me?
which group should i go with?
whats wrong with my school?
is it illegal for no expression just for us?
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stick with your gothic friends!! they seem like real, true,, friends!! they will always be there for you. i know the other group sounds apealing, but anywhere that dosent let you be yourself is just not right. your smart, you know which group lets you be yourself. tell your mom that you are a big girl, you have good judgement and know how to pick friends. tell her that you havent done anything to prove that you dont know how to pick friends. tell your mom that these girls allow you to be yourself. i wish you the best of luck.
xo
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alright, i go to a public school & all, but I'm in many group of friends.
one group -- "popular"
second -- my "popular" friends think their weird, so that's pretty self-explainatory.
third -- kinda gothic?
Personally, it pisses me off. The first group is always talknig about my other group of friends, but I just either make up some excuse & leave, tell them that they don't know them, or just flat out tell them to shut up. But hey, we all still love each other.
plus, it's easier that way. if one group turns against you for some stupid reason, you still have a whole other group that's still there for you when you need them.
you can be friends with both groups & if someone has a problem with it, then they can get over it.
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Frankly, I think labels are just overrated. See what it has done to people? Separate us. It's like if one person is labeled that, another label is forbidden to go near them. My advice for you is be you. I know it's cheesy and trite but it will be the best.
There is now law saying that you have to hang out with only one group of friends, right? So why not be friends with both groups? And about your mom not liking what's going on, chillax. Respect what your mom is saying [she's probably worried--stereotyping] and just limit what you say about your current friends and if you need to sneak out, sneak out. That's what I do. My mom doesn't like the group of friends I have so I never tell her about them that much.
Hmm so to sum it up:
Be yourself
Be friends with whoever you like
There is no law saying you can't contact another group while being in another group.
So just have fun, enjoy life, be yourself and don't let labels ruin it.
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Just be yourself. Wear what you like and talk to whoever you like. If other people won't talk to you then forget them. Don't worry about labels like 'gothic' and 'preppy' or any of those cliques because in the next few years you'll realize how insignificant they are. Life isn't a label. Just make sure you're happy the way you are with whoever that may be.
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