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I consider myself to be a "normal" teenage girl. There really isn't anything outrageous that separates me from others so I consider myself to be painfully average. I can say that I do have a level head and I find it easier to give out advice than to come up with advice for myself. Hopefully I'll end up helping someone.

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Something is wrong with me and dont even know what it is i cant talk to anyone about anything because i always get like really emotional even when i'm talking to a counsler to change classes does anyone know whats worng with me i mean i feel like my parents want me to ask for help with homework and stuff but there not helping me and i really want to be home schooled but they just say no they wont listen to what i have to say and ok i hangout with my sister alot cause me and her have like the same best friends and anyway my sister is only a year older then me but i feel that the only thing they do is laugh at me and when i get upset and mad they just laugh at me more so i cant even show them i'm upset or mad cause after all that they just look at me like i'm stupid or something i feel like i'm just geting farther and farther behind on school work and i am spending more and more tiem jsut sitting somewhere thinking and spaceing out and stuff whats wrong with me? and i dont want anyone answering this saying talk to a therpist or something cause i cant i just need someones opinion on whats wrong with me


I hate to be the bearer of "bad" news but talking to someone is probably the only way you can figure it out. It's not bad talking to people. A counselor [not necessarily the one that you talk to about your classes] will not pass judgement. Their job is to help you figure out your thoughts and by getting to the root of your problems you can fix them. Even though that's not what you want to do or hear, the truth hurts. If you want answers you have to take charge in your life. It might be time to take charge and get your questions answered by doing something about it. Sorry if that's a little harsh but I've been in the same boat and I realize now that before you can get help you have to help yourself.

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not sure if this is the right category but yah..


say this guy has a girlfriend and he lets another girl like give him a hand job but it wasn't really a hand job because he still has his pants on and the girl is just rubbing his dick from the outside of the guys pants,


and then the guy rubs the girls vagina but outside the pants..

is that considered cheating on the other girl?


I would definitely consider it cheating. Cheating doesn't have to be sex. It's really the idea behind it that makes it cheating. Basically, if it's something you wouldn't want the girlfriend to know then it's safe to consider it cheating.

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okay well you might think I'm crazy but..

there's this song that I'm DYING to listen to.. it's one of those songs that like when you say the title and band name people are like who? but when they listen to it they go OHH I love this song!!! why don't I have it?!

It has the same sound as "steady as she goes" and "Short skirt, long jacket" like the same catchy-rock beat. And I know that the title of the song has something to do with a wheel spinning or turning or a wheel going backwards!.it's an old song kind of like late 90's? If you guys find this song I will love you forever and ever because it is DRIVING ME CRAZY! please help!!!

are you thinking of "spinning wheel" by blood, sweat and tears? i'm not sure if that's it but it's a catchy song that i think most people are familiar with.

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Hey, well I was just wondering if anyone can give me some websites or advice on how to lose some weight for the summer. I'm not like morbidly obese but I am somewhat over weight, I do not have time to run but I walk to and from school so about an hours worth of walking every day. Are there any stomach exercise you can give me or websites with some good exercises I can do?? Thank you


Seventeen magazine has excellent workout and nutrition advice, so it may be worth it to pick up an issue or surf the website. Also if you have comcast then On Demand is a great workout option. There are many amazing workouts, different styles and I do believe a section dedicated to abs.

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would you call the greatest in the world if you absolutely had too? Base it on quality of the music, showmanship, and their overall influence. Also say why you chose them:

-Led Zeppelin
-The Beatles
-AC/DC
-The Rolling Stones
-The Doors
-Metallica
-Pink Floyd
-Nirvana
-The Jimi Hendrix Experience

the beatles definitely. there are still traces of the beatles all around us, musically and from a business standpoint. they've influenced every band in some way and they still make millions even after the breakup of the band.

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My boyfriend kissed another girl. What should I do?

It wasn't a french kiss and it was on the lips.

The thing is, my friend saw this. He was at karate with one of his classmates.

And I think my friend isn't lying because she told me the ADDRESS of the building and the time he was there. I know the karate place and I know what time he goes. And my friend doesn't go to his school so it's not like they talk about what time he goes there and where. We all hung out like 2 times [movies] so no conversation, basically.


My boyfriend didn't tell me anything though..

So i'm not sure how to go about this..

My friend isn't known to be a liar. But I don't know about my boyfriend. :/

Well if your boyfriend kissed another girl you shouldn't let it slide. Not to mention the fact that he didn't say anything about it. I would ask him about it definitely make it clear that you're not going to let him walk all over you.

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ok im going to the movies w/ some friends tomorrow and the boy i like is going! does anyone know any hints or stuff i can do to let him know that i want to do stuff ( if you no what i mean.. not all the way) like while we are walkiing around and during the movie.!! so that he can make the first move!!!!

Try to sit by him in the theater and walk close to him. If you end up sitting by him share an arm rest and try to brush up against him. He should be able to take the hint if you're comfortable with being close to him, and hopefully it will encourage him to move things ahead.

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is it illegal to say you are someone else, like if your 13 and you say your 15? (like when your tlking 2 ppl on the internet?)


just wondering ok, thanx



not to my knowledge. a lot of people lie about their age and things like that. while people get upset by these things i don't think it's against the law.

hope i helped

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On myspace people have been sending me comments with just this. ... What does that mean? I have no idea. I think it means your confused on something but some of my friends do it even when I never sent them a comment.

Usually '...' means that you don't know what to say or you're waiting for an explanation. I would ask your friends if they commented you, because if it isn't from them then it might just be spam comments.

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Well I shave down there, but it doesn't work that well cause it still feels prickly. And I think it would bother a guy if he fingered a girl who felt like that. So how do I shave so that it doesn't feel like this?

I think it may depend on your method of shaving. If you do it in the tub then I would recommend lotioning [with a fairly heavy lotion] and shaving again. I usually just use the lotion and perhaps go over it a couple times, and the end result is usually smooth.

Hope that helped =]

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haha ok so i heard this song on the radio but i want to know the name
it goes like..from what i rememeber..

______ make me feel alright thinking of making my move tonight....cause i like the way you make me move


haha something like that

help?

The song is also more familiar as a song by Soul Decision, which Trevor Guthrie was the lead singer of, I believe.

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When a girl shaves her pubes, do they shave it ALL off? Or just the sides? Whats most common?

some people do different things. it's really just a preference thing. i can't really say which is more common. if you're considering shaving it all or shaving the sides i'd say just try both and stick with what you like more.

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that have something to do with
a girl that likes someone who doesnt like them back
a girl who likes someone who is taken

a girl that has been hurt by a guy
something like that

any genres
kthanx

"unbelieable" - kaci brown
"everything" - fefe dobson
"sick inside" - hope partlow
"mirror, mirror" - m2m

those are the first two that come to mind. i'll update if i can think of any more

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Okay I met this boy and he's straightedge and he said he doesn't date girls who drink,do drugs, or smoke. well when i first was with him I didn't do anything of the stuff and well I've fallen in love with him and I started doing drugs for about 4 months ago and i'm still doing them. i also drink sometimes. I want to be him so bad I'm afraid to lose him. I know he loves me and he still doesn't know that I've been doing drugs and I know he'd care but I don't want him to leave me. please don't tell me about how drugs are bad because really I don't need that.
If you were my boyfriend and i told you would you be mad or do you think he'd be really mad and just break up with me.

I've tried to stop a lot of times really I've tried so many times the hardest I could but really I can't stop at least not right now its really hard for me. i'm going to keep trying but even if I did stop I don't want to have that be a lie I want to actually let him know if its a good idea.

Please give me your full honest anwser it means a lot to me.
What should I do?

I can see his point of view as an edger myself, but love isn't just what someone does. Love is being able to stick with someone. If you want to get through it he should stay by your side and help you through whether or not he agrees with what you're doing. You shouldn't have to worry about losing him because you shouldn't have to question whether or not he'll stay by your side.

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how can i build up my confidence to be more outgoing how i used to be.
i dont know how but over the couple of months i tottaly lost all my confidence.

ahh.
so what can i do other than join a sport, cuz its too late for that. and like dress comfortably?
ahh i just dont know but i always seem to put myself down and think like i dont belong i guess?
and thats not how i am.. why do i feel so left out sometimes?


also i sometimes feel ebarrassed to be seen with my best friends frineds... i dont know why.. its not like they are weird or anything. but i just am especially in front of my other friends.

I'm not the most confident person but I've somehow built up confidence since starting high school. I'm not sure how old you are, but classes can make a difference. I got involved with speech and yearbook and met a lot of great people that way. It's fun and you get more comfortable. I recommend trying to join a club like those two.

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is there any good site to download music from? myspace only has a limited selection of downloadable songs, and i don't have an ipod.

please help!

there are tons of music sites on xanga.com that have downloadable music. just go to the site and look up "music codes" or "mp3s".

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Hey I have a music prject due in 2wks

We have to focus on any genre of music and see how its changed between ten yrs


Im doing dance techno music from 90s-2000

I dont really know what to do.Ive written why im choosing the genre, and what they use to make the techno songs and i've given examples of aritsts and music from 1990 but i need some stuff on how its changed from 1900s through the years up until the 2000.


What should i do????????

You could talk about the rise in popularity. In the 90s techno was more underground but now it's more mainstream. They play it on the radio and a lot of mainstream artists are doing dance music or using techno in their songs. I'm not exactly sure of techno up until 2000 but you might want to do some research on electronica also since they're closely related. Maybe see if some groups had more techno backgrounds. If you need a place to start try Freezepop, the Chemical Brothers, Moby and find other artists through that way. An easy way to find techno/electro artists to go to myspace and search for the genre in the music section.


I'm also thinking that "Gotta Get Thru This" by Daniel Beddingfield came out around 2000. Hope that helps.

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I have two pairs of American Eagle jeans that fit my waist but the leg part is really baggy. Is there anyway to make them tighter (besides washing them a bunch of times)? If there's not, can an alteration place fix them?

When my jeans are a little loose I usually wear leggings beneath them. It usually helps so you should give it a try and see if it works for you.

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13/f

i really want to be prettier. i dont think i am pretty at all & i want to start wearing more make-up. i only wear mascara sometimes. i really want this guy to like me & i'd like for my make-up to look good & not like a piece of cake or a clown. here's my myspace. it's on private but you can see my default picture.

www.myspace.com/lauraloo54

what make-up do you think i would look good in? i really would appreciate the help. [:

you're a very pretty girl. confidence and smiles are really the best make-up a girl could have but i've gone through the same thing. eyeliner is something that every girl should have. subtle or thick, it makes a difference and it goes with everything. i usually wear eyeliner, mascara and foundation. i think foundation gives me more of a glow. if you want to you can wear eyeshadow but usually mascara, eyeliner and lipgloss does the trick.

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13/f. I was in the popular preppy group but now I am in the gothic. I think I am still bffs with my friend in the popular group. If I ask her anything around that or that she says oh ya why wouldn’t we be I love you or bffs still. We used to be bffs but then it was off and on because we didn’t do the same sports. So I got tired of thinking if tomorrow wed be bffs or not. my gothic friends are always there for me and im very rough and they are to so i can just be myself and also they dont theyd never tell a parent if someone hurts them. my old preppy friends would always just sit there and laugh at stuff that made no sense and if someone hurts them they go tell it drove me fuckin crazy. they never understood what i went through or my music or me cussing. my new gothic friends I love them and they and he are the only ones that understand me. i miss the preppy popular people i dono why? i was never as close with them. ive always liked black but never wore that much because it was 'not perky' i never was perky thay tried to change me. i miss them. but i love being with my gothic friends their my bffs. im myself around them and alot happier and everything. but my parents dont like them. and is trying to keep me away im tired of sneaking and she nos and shes always saying what wrong with my friends!!! im just like them so whats the matter. were not the extreme gothic kids. we go to a fucked up catholic school no peircings or tattoos or hair coloring. theyre always checking US its driving me fucking crazy. think if you were all for expression and you could never express urself at all or even say gothic at school. their always watching us were always doing something wrong. ive always been the quiet shy girl but now im breakin out. whats wrong with me?
which group should i go with?
whats wrong with my school?
is it illegal for no expression just for us?

Just be yourself. Wear what you like and talk to whoever you like. If other people won't talk to you then forget them. Don't worry about labels like 'gothic' and 'preppy' or any of those cliques because in the next few years you'll realize how insignificant they are. Life isn't a label. Just make sure you're happy the way you are with whoever that may be.

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