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boyfriend kissed
My boyfriend kissed another girl. What should I do?
It wasn't a french kiss and it was on the lips.
The thing is, my friend saw this. He was at karate with one of his classmates.
And I think my friend isn't lying because she told me the ADDRESS of the building and the time he was there. I know the karate place and I know what time he goes. And my friend doesn't go to his school so it's not like they talk about what time he goes there and where. We all hung out like 2 times [movies] so no conversation, basically.
My boyfriend didn't tell me anything though..
So i'm not sure how to go about this..
My friend isn't known to be a liar. But I don't know about my boyfriend. :/
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Bring it up with your boyfriend: Ever heard the phrase "communcation is key"? Because it really is.
First, talk to your friend and get all the details you need. Then, approach your boyfriend in a calm, unaccusing manner. Start with "If something was wrong between us, would you be honest with me about it?" or "Is anything going on?" Slowly ease into the fact that you heard about him kissing another girl. If he denys it, ask the girl, if they both deny it maybe you and the boy need to take a break for a little bit until you are positive of who is telling the truth.
I'm sorry you had to expierence this;
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Does your friend have anything to gain by lying to you? If not, then why would she make something like this up? Any good friend would let you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you. I don't know your friend, but by the sounds of it, she is a reliable source.
I suggest that you confront your boyfriend about the issue. Don't start off accusing him, males don't take kindly to that(nor do females). Just let him know that one of your good friends saw him kissing another girl, that it really hurt you, that you consider it a form of cheating, and then ask him if he is serious about your relationship.
If he is serious about the relationship, then the two of you need to have a long talk about cheating. You need to talk about what is acceptable, and what it not. To insure that it doesn't happen again in the future(or, if it were to happen in the future, you could dump him on his happy hiney, because he knew the rules).
There is, also the slight chance that he'll admit he's not serious about your relationship, and you'll have to be prepared for that too. The fact of the matter is, in situations like these, you have to be prepared for anything. If he's not serious about the relationship, then I suggest you cut your losses, break up, and find someone who's better for you.
And then, there's a chance he'll try to deny kissing another girl. Men can be crafty creatures like that. Deny deny deny deny. He might come up with 101 excuses, like,"Your friend could be lying." or "She probably saw someone who looked like me, but wasn't me." or "I didn't even go to class on that day." All you simply need to do is keep your cool, listen closely to his arguments, and then calmly state the obvious truthful debate to each argument. For example,"My friend has no reason to lie to me. She never has in the past." or "I trust my friend completely when she says it was you. But if you'd like, I can call her up and ask her if it's possible that she might have made a mistake." The key here is to keep your cool... even if he looses his(which there's a chance he might, because you are backing him up into a corner).
All of my advice is very general and basic, because I don't know the whole situation, I don't know your friend, and I don't know your boyfriend. My advice, however should work none-the-less. Just remember not to get worked up into a frenzie when talking to him. That's not good for anyone. You have the power in this situation. You have control.
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I'd ask him calmly. Don't confront him. Things could turn ugly. Ask him, say that you (instead of your friend, so that he can't deny and say tt your friend's lying) saw him kissing a girl; and you're giving him a chance to explain himself.
Let him say what he has to say for himself.
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confront him. then go from there. if he denies it then you should be mad at him. the least he can do is tell you the truth. if he apologizes.. maybe you should give him one more chance but you need to have a serious discussion with him about why he would kiss another girl.
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try talk it out with him.. if he freaks..there gotta be something. i learn to sometimes just listen to your friends because boys are going to come and go you know. but, SERIOUSLY talk to him first.
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Dear Reader,
I would definitly trust the friend but just to make sure confront HIM about it. But dont make it so its like you were spying on him or anything. Bring it up in a way thats like... subtile. If you even need to, I know this sounds wrong, but if you really need to, take him on a guilt trip. Try to get him to tell you before you mention it.
Give it a day or two, and if he doesnt say anything, the guilt inside will eat him alive.
Well, how well do you know your boyfriend? How long have you been with him? I think you should definitly talk to him.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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Well if your boyfriend kissed another girl you shouldn't let it slide. Not to mention the fact that he didn't say anything about it. I would ask him about it definitely make it clear that you're not going to let him walk all over you.
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