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All guys want sex... why? help?!
16/f
alright me and my friend, dustin, have been friends forever. and like yeah we fool around.. we're kinda each others rebound.
well long story short.. tonight he came over.. and i figured he wanted something.. boy was i right.
at first he said he didnt want anything... and then night went on, we watched a movie and fooled around.. well.. then things started getting hot and heavy and he asked if i had condoms.. i said yea. well yeah i may have wanted it for a long time but it felt wrong because i was cheated on and didnt wanna get screwed over.
also i think that sex shouldnt be the only thing involved in a relationship.. it shouldnt matter. to me its the most distant thing in a relationship.. i guess what im trying to say is that i have morals.
but like did i make the right decision or was that his way of telling me he wants to be with me or something?
i need serious answers.. please and thanks =]
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You did the right thing! So calm down and save sex fo someone special, ok? You'll be glad you did. I promise. Here are a couple reasons why:
~ It should be with someone you love and trust that doesn't ONLY want sex
~ It hurts your first time so you should be passionately in love, it will help distract you
~ Somebody who screws you over and gets you pregnant before you're married can ruin your life
So be glad you made the right choice! You're a smart girl and did the right thing. And I don't think that's his way of saying he wants to be with you, unfortunately. But good luck finding someone better for that kind of relationship!
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If you didn't actually sleep with him, then I'm sure it wasn't so bad. However, where you went wrong was when you said you DID have condoms. I know, you were probably all caught up in the moment-but, you shouldn't have said it. At least you had your morals, otherwise you would probably have regretted this. (In other words, if you did sleep with him, you probably would've regretted it.)
Hope I helped
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If you didn't sleep with him, you are making the right decision not to. But by continuing to fool around with him, you are putting yourself out there to get used & hurt. Being moral is being respectful to yourself & waiting until a serious relationship to do those things. You'll appreciate it later.
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i think what you did was damn wrong.This guy doesnt want a relationship,he just didnt find anyone eles to have sex with so he came to you cuz he knows your his best freind and wont say no.Doing something like this can not only mess up the way you feel towards him but can also ruin your freindship with this guy.Anyways whats past is past make sure you dont make the same mistake again.Learn from the past to refine your future.
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i don't think it was the right thing to do;; but you should regret it. your exactly right. sex should be the most distant thing in a relationship. you shouldnt NEED to have sex to make your relationship better in anyway possible but if your in love. then it should be something in your relationship because it's somethign to share with someone you truly care about and since you said that 'we're kinda eachothers rebound' i think it was just something that you both did to make yourselves feel wanted by someone.
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the only possible wrong decision is having sex when you arent ready to. so yes, you made the right decision.
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Guys are just horny and it's a proven fact.
Since you guys are kind of friends-with-benefits kind of thing, he may want more.
Sex is totally up to you and you can't let anyone influence or make the decision for you other than yourself. If you want to and feel comfortable, you can but if not, you don't have to. And your friend needs to realize that there is going to be some boundries.
As for his motives...no one but he will know [unless he told someone else haha]. But anywhos, either just flat out ask him or jsut forget about it.
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