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Well this morning at work I was really bored, so I sent an email to my friend then I decided 2 look in my boyfriends emails, were both totally comfortable with doing that other wise we wouldn't have given each other our passwords! We've been together for nearly 2 years! He's 20 and i'm nearly 19!
So I clicked in his inbox and found an email from him to this girl who is a lot younger then him! From what I could tell they were talking to each other before hand then my boyfriend sent this girl an email saying 'hey yeah its me hope everything will be ok i hope you feel better soon, just remember i'm always here 4 you ok? bye bye gorjus xxoo MWAH xoxox talk to you real soon' something along those lines.
Then she replied, oh thank u for your email it was so sweet it means so much to me, yeah i've had a bad day hopefully everything wil be ok soon. well like you said i'll talk to you real soon luv Nic xxoox. (something along those lines)
Now when I found this email I couldn't contact my boyfriend because he works in a factory, so when he finished he came to my work, I totally believed him that he hasn't or wont cheat on me. But I wanted to talk to him about it, i've spoken to him about it and he's apologied and I guess I made him feel a bit guilty but now I feel guilty because I made him feel guilty!!!!
I love him so much and I know that he loves me.. were suppose to be moving in together but I just don't know! I do not want to doubt him at all but I just need your opinion on this!
I keep asking myself why would he want to throw away 2 years..?! He's not like other guys he's sweet and different!
I just don't know what to do.. I don't want to break it off with him! I love him too much!
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I can tell you it's completely fine to be a little worried about your situation. The best thing you can do in your position is to stay calm & get the facts before pointing fingers. Your first step is to admit to your actions: you came across some emails from this girl. He might get upset about you going through his emails, but if he was worried about that happening, he should have not given you access to his account in the beginning. Usually, you can tell by his reaction whether he's telling the truth or not. So have this discussion in person. If he overreacts & blows up when you approach him in a calm matter, it's possible there's something more going on. But if you confront him calmly & he explains who she is with no hesitation, then it's possible he's telling you the truth. Just whatever you do, do not accuse right up front. It could be very well possible that this girl just speaks/flirts like that to all her guy friends & has no intention of ever going after your boyfriend. If you can't trust or communicate with your boyfriend now, then I would not move in together until you can. Honesty & trust are important - & without either, your relationship isn't going to last very long. Good luck! :)
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It's natural to feel this way. I guess it plays on your mind and hurts when you see your boyfriend calling another girl gorgeous. I do think however, your boyfriend was just trying to be nice to this girl, especially as she'd been through a bad stage. He was probably trying to boost her confidence?
Now you've actually told him about it, I think he realizes you were quite hurt by this and probably wouldn't do it again.
If he gave you his password, he obviously trusts you and it looks like the email he sent her meant no harm.
Try not to let it bother you much at this stage.
He's apologized, you've accepted and now you should let it go.
I wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend and hope everything works out just fine!
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Don't fret because I can relate to this situation [being Nic]. This guy, who was 4 or 5 years older than me, and I used to talk all the time with hugs and kisses and the whole "you're bueatiful, gorgeous, etc" scene. Now, this is the part that will help you: we weren't like having an online relationship or a real life relationship or etc. We were like best friends that acknowledged each other as like a sibling. I mean I love him like woah and vice versa but he has a gf and I [at that time] had a bf.
So don't make such a big decision over a few words and let it slide by. And don't feel guilty for making him feel guilty...feel happy that you have the gift of making others feel guilty haha
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Doesnt sound like he was cheating on you, or had the intentions to. Sounds like he was being friendly to a girl he knew. Its not a crime to talk to a girl and have her as a friend, so dont worry about it. Talk to him again. Tell him your sorry for making him feel guilty, but you were just a little scared. Say that you trust him, but it worried you because you could never imagine losing him. Promise to keep a totally honest relationship with him, and he'll do the same.
Good luck!
-Abby
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