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OK im a female,and age 13,ok this may sound stupid for someone thats my age but i think i love my current boyfriend,anyways we live in the same town but we go to differnt schools he goes to one across town ,we try to hang but it either one of us is busy ,anyways he said i love you to me n i said it back but i dont know because hes dated a lot of girls n i dont want him to say something he might regret ,and he has a girl best friend,n you know how they always end with the boy falling for his girl bestfriend but i dont know how i can compete with that ,What im really asking that i need advice on what i can do to make him not regret saying i love you to me,and how i can be there with him

This could be a case of semantics, how the word "love" is being interpreted.

When people say, "I love..." it kinda depends on the situation and may take a little extra effort to determine what meaning the speaker is giving the word versus what the hearer thinks it means.

My personal belief is that when most females hear the words "I love you" from a guy, they assume he is professing that he is heart, soul and mind in love with her, the kind of love that has people end up in a relationship together and married in the future.

But we all use the word "love" to describe how we feel about anything ranging from an outfit on the rack at Forever 21, the flavor of our favorite icecream, or a person's particular brand of humor or their laugh for a couple examples. If you had to describe in words why you love the sound of a girlfriends laugh, could you? Sometimes when its hard to describe how strongly you like one thing over others, like you like all icecream but absolutely love chocolate chip mint! Um...thats my favorite and I really can't put in words why I like it other than mint is refreshing and the chocolate is small enough bits to not be too overpowering. But other flavors may be refreshing and not too overpowering either. Its much easier to just say "I love..."

So..when many males use the words "I love you" it could have either meaning. They could simply be meaning that there is something about your personality that they really love that they don't find often in other people and thats what makes you stand out to him. A male can really love your friendship, love your company and love many things about you but not have a 'heart' commitment yet and not be "in love" with you.

So next time he says I love you, just ask the question, "Tell me, what it is about me that makes you say that."

Good luck and blessings to you.

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Iam married for 9years. n I iam 29yers old female. n my husband doesn't likes sex atall.... I evn trying giving divorce but he doesn't wants to giv divorce... coz he loves me like crazzy and I dnt love him at all.... n I love his brother dat is my brother in law but my brother in law doesn't evn looks at me so guys can you plz help me tell me what can I do m going crazzy plz help me

Adviceman49 did a great job covering many possible reasons for your husband not liking sex at all. However I can think of one more, sexual orientation or lack of.

My first thought is Asexuality which I have a link from Wikipedia explaining. I tend to lean in this direction because you say he has a great deep love for you which is possible with asexual individuals but they can at the same time lack sexual desire, not get aroused sexually at all, have no interest in it even if they try.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

But then again, there are people with other sexual orientations who have not admitted it to themselves or if they know, are attempting to deny it by trying to fit the pattern of what they consider to be the norm of the majority in society, a heterosexual man with a heterosexual woman.
What if he is a gay man who loves you deeply as a person, as a best friend, but has no interest in sex with you at all simply because he is not attracted to females, and he is in denial and detests the fact that he is attracted to men instead and hangs in limbo, dragging you along with just because he cant come to grips with his own sexual orientation.

Then again, there's the transgender individuals. He may have the male body but be a female on the inside, feeling he's in the wrong body and so its not a problem with not desiring sex, he just is choosing to not have sex with a female when he feels he is a female.

You are not going to know which of the situations are the issue unless you have a good talk with him and get him in to see a doctor regarding any possible medical conditions as root cause.

If he isn't willing to address the issue and hopes you'll be content to go along like this til the day you die, that is a very unfair attitude to have of the person you love so much. Sometimes, loving someone means letting them have what is best for them, and sometimes that means letting them go. You're still young. You havent mention children, whether there are any or you want any. That is another topic that comes into play. Also, you must have initially loved him to marry him but without the sexual bond, it is easy to lose interest and desire for your partner. Since you are as far as we know a perfectly normal healthy female who has not had her sexual needs taken care of, it is no wonder that you will look at any halfway attractive man you come into contact with, and be sexually attracted to him, such as with your brother in law. Please note that attraction and love are two very different things but both are strong feelings.

First, you deserve to have a partner who is your sexual equal and likes sex in the same ways and as often as you do. Just because you've been deprived, you might have a tendancy to latch onto the next man who comes along who agrees to give you sex. Don't sell yourself short and go for a sexual affair. You deserve a husband who loves you and one of his ways of showing it is in love making. If thats what a person wants, then there is no reason why they can have it. So talk to him. If he won't give a divorce, you can ask an attorney your options. Perhaps a separation.
I can't advice you in legal matters. But I do know that many for lack of money do not have legal divorces and are now living with new partners. Someone close to me is in that situation and as far as I am concerned her real husband is the man she's with who treats as a good husband would. The decision is up to you dear. Even if he wants to find a way to keep you which is pretty selfish, there's nothing to stop you from leaving him, whether legally or otherwise.

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I got married one and half month ago but our sex relationship is uncompleted. ...We try every day but panis do not push inside..I have lot a pain when my husband start sex...I am feeling very guilty. .because I am not support him properly. ..

After 6 weeks of trying and the hymen not stretching out gradually to accomodate him, there may be another issue.
It's rare but in some cases, when a female finds she cants even get a tampon in and out at all or with great difficulty, not to mention a penis, it could be due to a septate hymen.

A hymen is normally found to be an extra ring of skin around one side of both sides of the vagina. In rare cases, it is a strip of skin going down the middle of the vaginal opening causing two much smaller entrances. Usually too small for a penis to enter. This is easily fixed by seeing a doctor who will use local anesthesia to numb the area and then snip away the stretch of skin.
If I am right and this is the cause of your great pain and his inability to enter, this is nothing to feel guilty about. You were born with this and did not cause it. So go see your Doctor about this. Even if it's not the hymen, it is still a good idea to see the Doctor and get some recommendations on what to do if it's not medically related.

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I want to put something super special in my mom's birthday card, but I am not very creative and I don't know a lot of famous people quotes. Can you help me make my mommy happy? :) Thank you!

You may be thinking of quotes or cute poems that rhyme which is all good and anything a mother receives written in a card from her child will be special.
However as a mother of 3 girls, I can tell you that what touched my heart the deepest and has been the most memorable stuff ever written in a birthday card wasn't the cute stuff, it was my kids taking time to put into words the whys of "I love my mom". It wasn't a poem, and didn't rhyme but it came from the heart and always made me cry tears of joy.

Here's some examples paraphrased of what they wrote to me in birthday cards and Mothers day cards.

I love you mom and probably don't say it often enough but I thought I'd put down the feelings and the thoughts in my head so you will know how much I love you.

I love how you came up with family traditions for holidays to create special memories. It has made such an impression on me I want to do the same for my own kids someday.

Even when we didn't have much money, when we were little, you did what you could to make special themed Birthday parties like little Mermaid, etc...all hand made including self decorated cakes. No, they weren't fancy store bought ones but they looked great and was more special cus you made them with an extra ingrediant, Love.

I like how you are a patient mom and understanding and I can always count on you to talk to about anything.
You don't get real angry or mad at me, even if I have done something wrong, you don't react but you help me and teach me better ways instead and I am thankful that you are my mom because of that.

Sometimes it was short cute stuff like,"I like how you sang a bedtime song to me when I was little or sometimes tucked the covers in around me. Even though I am older, I still think its special when you surprise me with this sometimes.

Hopefully this gives you some ideas. If your mom isnt as creative as I was, then perhaps her strength is in cooking. Perhaps her meals aren't only delicious but you get a certain personal comfort in eating them that no other food can provide. I think you get the idea. This would be the most touching and meaningful to your mom.

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How does alcohol testing work? Like when you get pulled over and they make you breathe in something or they take your blood? How does your breath tell how much you drank if the booze is in your blood? Can you see why I am confused?

Here's a link that explains it.

http://www.ehow.com/how-does_4759146_a-breathalyzer-work.html

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I'm going to start by saying that I got mixed emotions with my relationship. I'm am 18f and my boyfriend is 20m, we've been together for almost two years. We ended up being in a class together in high school, he was the best looking guy I've always wanted to date. I would always want to talk to him at least as friends but it was always hard because he was the super shy type and so was i in the beginning but as we talked more after he ended up exchanging numbers with one of my guy friends and me to make plans to hang over the summer because he was graduating high school before. We did end up making plans but I always had to leave early or had a lot going on at home but he never minded my at home issues. The thing is now we dated for a while now we both changed a lot ,we've moved on the high love stage and it's been hard and I still stayed with him even though his bad habits annoyed me so much. Later on I had bad family issues going on as then I had depression or felt so sad he insisted me to go see help but I got annoyed and broke up but ended up going back with him cause his mother had called me to say he wasn't ok. Our second brake up that I did was when I had a lot of stress going on and on top of that I didn't want to let him in at all.the third brake up is currently I didn't exactly leave him we both are going to stay friends for 2 weeks because we worry, we get depressed together and see how that works even tho that was what got us to be together all this time. We seem perfect but I never feel completely happy because I can't handle his flaws or happy comes and goes.

You told your story but you didn't exactly ask a question dear. Did you just want me to agree that you have a problem? Well, yes I agree you have a problem there. Is it a boyfriend problem as your title suggests. I highly doubt so. The problems you are having with the boyfriend are secondary, a result of an initial problem.
Honey, in todays world, stress is inevitable. We all are beseiged by stress to some level or another so it would be ideal if we all knew how to deal with it, how to 'de-stress' before the stress builds to the depression stage. I will attempt to educate you a bit about that here.

First tho, before I forget, the problems you have in your relationship are mainly because both individuals are not two completely whole healthy people. Sorry if that hurts to hear it. I can say it cus I was once in a marriage where both of us were unhealthy. I know that in math, two halves make a whole. However from experience, I know two individuals who are less than whole emotionally are a recipe for disaster. The way this works is that if one person is strong and the other weak, the weak one will begin to use the stronger one as their crutch. Sometimes a strong person will seek out a weak, depressed, emotionally damaged person to be in a relationship with because they like feeling needed and being their strength. In this case, they enable the weaker partner to remain stuck. If two people with emotional issues that affect their lives are drawn together, neither one is stronger because each is battling their own emotional giants. Therefore since neither is emotionally whole, both are unable to give maximum energy into the relationship. Here I share a quote that sums it up: "Happily ever after doesnt happen just because we wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so." In your and his case, I am guessing that both of you are unable to do that. ..not because you don't want to, but because you're currently unable to.

Sorry this is kinda long but to really help you, a few sentences are not going to cut it. So now on to the depression part and whats going on for you. You mentioned lots of bad issues at home. I dont know exactly what they are but when a person is bombarded daily with very negative things they can't escape from, it will drag you down. No one feels good when in such a situation. But I would like to teach you about what happens inside you when you face situations in your life that drag you down...what is dragged down is actually the amount of "feel good hormones" that your body is supposed to naturally produce. There's also something called neuro-transmitters in your brain that work together with hormones and if the levels are low, there are several reasons that can contribute to it. I will list a link to an article about it that I hope you read. It is very informative and explains all that I want to tell you without having to actually type it myself. I will say that although they list many things that can cause low levels of these much needed ingrediants in the brain, that more often than not, the main contributer to the problem of low/depressed levels of these hormones and NTs neurotransmitters) are due to the amount of stress an individual faces in todays world. Therre are people with medical issues that cause them to be "clinically depressed" where nothing but depression meds will help. However, I have found in life, many who were depressed not by internal occuring problems initiating this issue but outside events, the situations you experience in life that wear you down. I am no professional but you mentioned bad family issues so I am willing to bet that theres a greater chance your issues are caused by external influence and in this case are treatable by you. First here's the article:
http://www.integrativepsychiatry.net/neurotransmitter.html

Yes, there is something you can do that will instantly jump start your body into creating more NT's and feel good hormones. I came across a article in a blog once on the internet that explains it well. When one daughter got depressed after a 2nd boyfriend broke up with her, it was real bad this time and she was unable to bounce back. I told her what to do but hey, it's just mom, what does she know, right? So through her job, she went for her one free visit to a psychologist who told her everything she could do herself since she would be unable to come in for sessions, and the list he gave her is exactly what I came across.
It's going to sound crazy, really stupid, not believable but hon, you're not going to get results if you don't trust me enough to give it a try, cus what have you got to lose, as silly as it makes you feel.

1. Find reasons to laugh. Laughter is good medicine for a reason. It helps raise these low levels. So watch your favorite comedies, get on the net and find comedy acts to watch. Talking about the hard belly ache laughter here.

2. Listen to uplifting music. I can't say what is uplifting to you but it's going to be something you've always felt when hearing a certain melody, its not the lyrics that count, its the sound. What you're looking for is listening to the songs that make your heart feel light as a balloon as if it were about to float out of your chest. A melody that does it for me is "Clocks" by Coldplay. I have a small collection of songs I play and sing along to whenever I begin to feel a stressed feeling coming on, which warns me my levels are too low.

3. This brings me to the next point--singing. Singing helps to raise those NTs and hormones. So don't just listen to music, sing along.

4. Movement...action is important. Think of how many people you've heard of who lack energy, want to stay in bed all day and do nothing when severely depressed. Doing nothing will only keep a person stuck so doing the opposite, movement will help. It is suggested that a person walk, jog, do exercise or a more fun version of movement, dancing. So just move to the music. There's that music again. Its all tied together as you can see. I have tried skipping, like a little kid would do. Hadn't done it since I was a kid. Imagine a woman in her 50's skipping down the street. I felt silly but as I continued, I began to laugh hilariously at myself and I feel the stress just melt off instantly.

5. Give hugs and get hugs. Have you heard of hugging therapy? Bet you haven't. But in recent years it is becoming more popular. A true prolonged bear hug with another person is much needed to help keep the levels up. One hug per day won't do. It is suggested that around 8 per day will help. So...give a hug and you automatically recieve one. Can't think of anyone you like enough to give a hug to? Hug a stranger.

* The first five are things that will have the quickest effects. Here are more

6. Meditate. This means you're taking time to let your mind relax, not focus on your problems or tasks to be done. This takes some practice to do well and learn how to stop your subconscious mind from just constantly wandering off to dwell on things that rob you of your peace.

7. Learn to forgive. Did you know that when you hold a grudge or hold on to your anger, you are
putting a huge energetic tax on your system? Think of it like picking up a heavy weight and having to carry it around with you all the time. As long as we focus on what was done to us from a negative viewpoint instead of finding the ability to forgive, we keep reliving the experiences as a victim rather than remembering them as an overcomer.

8. Grateful/Thankful Gratitude is one of the highest states you can achieve. No matter what’s going on in your life, you can find something for which to be grateful. Even when something terrible has happened to you, chose to find the blessing or positive point in the situation. Such as: "I am grateful to the people who were challenging to me today because it gave me the
opportunity to grow." And it could be something simple as "I am grateful to have the warmest, coziest bathrobe in the world."

The last three tend to have something to do with our thoughts and our brain. If these 3 are not addressed in your life, then all the relief you find with the first 5 steps will be dropped down to lower levels again. So learning to work on the last three as becoming a part of who you are will help greatly.

I hope you find this helpful dear. If your depression isn't reversed by following these steps, then there may be some of the other factors such as medical issues like thyroid or other things listed in the link I gave you. In this case, it would be a good thing to go see your Dr. Don't think of the word "Depression" as a negative label or condition for a person. I feel you may believe this way due to your initial reaction when your friend suggested you go get help. You now know it means that the NTs and hormones are at critically low levels for you to be able to function normally...think of it like a car low on oil to lubricate the parts. You can make the engine freeze up and ruin it. The low levels in a cars oil could be due to an oil leak and a check up for the car would reveal that.
Its just the same for a human. Just as a cars oil will get used up in the daily functioning on the road, and need to be replaced regularly, so it is with us, we actually need daily if not every other day techniques used to raise our levels again. Depression is just the humans 'indicator light' saying that 'their oil' is low.

Good luck dear.

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i want to tell her things that are right
to do but i am not sure if she would hate me. i want to tell her but i do not know how to without hurting her feelings, help!

You really can't say anything until a person asks you a question related to the issue asking you what your opinion is or directly asking for help. For example, if she were to say, "You're one of my few friends, most people seem to try to avoid me or don't want to become friends. Why do you thing that is happening? Or what am I doing to make people back away and not want to be friends?
Then you have the permission to say something. Think of how hard it is when someone has something to tell you that points out a flaw or weakness in you. It is hurtful and painful. What helps make a person feel better is to know that they have lots of positive points and that others have suffered going through the same personality problems as her.

Try telling her that: apparently these people are unable to see your great points like "this" and "that"(you provide the compliments) as I do. But being a close friend to you, I've also seen some behavior that might be causing people to not want to be around you. Hey I'm not perfect either, I have probably done these things on occasion and when I do, I sense people pulling away and not wanting to be around me that day.
One issue would be that as a person WE (I always put myself in as having done the same thing at some point cus truth be told, we have, at least once or twice so say we instead of you)can tend to come across as selfish and spoiled. On days when I hogged all the attention and wanted things all my own way, I came to learn that it made other people feel less important like I didn't really care about them at all. No one likes being ignored or made to feel less important than anyone else.
On the issue of crybaby try: Everyone can have a bad day or a bad period of time. I know I have complained before too. But when it goes out of balance and the complaints are all the time, it creates a depressing, negative atmosphere that people don't like to be around. You do tend to go over board more often than not. Hey we all do this at times, but the only time it is an issue is when it repels people away. People are naturally attracted to positive happy people that can help them feel happier just by being in their presence, not having their positive energy weighed down by your negative feelings. There's a time and a place to get out our negative feelings. Generally its best to talk to a life coach, a counselor or a person you have found to be a mentor for you but not to complain and come across as a cry baby to the general public who are not equipped to help in the first place. If you want my help, I'll give you the best advice i can but if I can't, I'll let you know and then its up to you to seek out people who know how to counsel you properly with this. I care about you. Dont take this as a death sentence, we all have something about us that greatly needs improvement, just on some of us, it's more visible to others and on some its not.


This way of talking, of course using pretty much your own words, will build her up with compliments and gently expose what you see as a contributing issue to the problem but not make her feel so alone and so terrible a person if she realizes that you know that others and perhaps even yourself have had a run in or two with such a situation or something similar. So she'll feel less vulnerable, more likely to trust you and actually listen to what you say rather than shut you out immediately. If she is suffering from some condition that medically or mentally is causing her to be this way, then just talking and reasoning with her will not help much if she is not aware that something else may be causing her to be like this. If you have reason to believe that she is suffering from depression (a depressed person can complain a lot about life)then talk to others who know her well such as family and bring it to their attention is she is young and not an adult yet. Read up on depression and if you believe she may be depressed, and she's an adult, gently tell her that it might be a good idea to get her hormone levels checked (don't say depression cus people resist that too quickly, its sounds so negative) Just mention some facts about problems with hormone levels such as Some women, with out of balance female hormones, can have these kinds of negative feelings, teens in general do have hormone level problems and some severe enough to get medication for a while until they become adults and their own bodies begin to produce .
normal levels on its own, and then lastly it could be the 'feel good hormones" levels are too low which causes a person to be depressed.

I don't think the issue is depression, at least not with the information you provide but I added that just in case theres something you didn't share that might make this the case.

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Okay so, my friend really likes this girl. But thing is I guess, they have been maybe starting to flirt or talking serous. But he is always complaining that he always catches her texting her ex or other boys, I know her pretty well. Also and i think she is a flirt, and has low self confidence and likes when more than one boy tells her she is pretty. But I also kinda understand if she doesn't like him that way because all three of us have been really close friends. For awhile idk I just feel bad for him I feel like he is getting lead on..if you were in this situation what would you do? or what advice would you give.
Thanks.

There are two reasons why a girl might be doing what this girl is doing, you've nailed one of them.

The other is that males and females of any age may decide that they would rather flirt with and date around with several people at the same time as a way to get to know them all well enough to be able to make an informed decision on which one they want to get into a relationship with. Dating is mostly about this learning and discovery process of the other person. To date one person only and promise to exclusively date only them may work for a few but comes back to bite most people who do this type of dating because for one thing, they greatly diminish ones exposure to different types of personalities and issues that come along with different types of people. Without having others to make comparisons against, how is one to know what their favorite type of person is or who fits them best and will make the best boy or girlfriend. Both ways are okay, but theres nothing wrong with this method as long as the one wanting to be dating several people at once is up front about it with the others. I did this once divorced and all the men I talked to were okay with this. It was like they were applying for a job and I was interviewing them in a way. They knew that the guy who was the best match and impressed me the best would get the position, position of boyfriend. The only guys who can't handle this at all are ones that have insecurity issues with themselves as a male, maybe a low self image. But there aren't many with that problem. Among teen boys more likely its because they are just unsure of themselves and don't understand girls yet very well and so they are scared and confused and thats all.

If thats the case, then it would be good for him to studying dating tips from dating coaches. If he does, he'll be ahead of the game compared to other guys who haven't a clue and keep doing the same wrong things over and over.

I have watched many dating and relationship videos because its not only entertaining at times but informative. I have watched dating tips for guys done by girl and by guys and would like to share one of my favorites, a guy by the name Stephan Erdman on you tube. As a girl, watch them too and see what you think. there must be something in this mans videos that apply to him. If your male friend is doing all the right things and this girl show no real interest in giving time to him to find out more about him in depth, then yes, she may be leading him on or if in the spending time together, her interest level in him instead of growing is now decreasing, its probably because theres not enough in common, no real chemistry and he needs to move on.
So heres a couple video links and he can look up more, theres 110 or so.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQH4Jk1KWDo

And from a womans perspective, Jessica Claire, you tube videos by expertvillage are really great to help guys, here's one:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5G1DJ-W-ujc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otcmW7Lyb94

Jessica's videos are all just over a minute long and get right to the point, he'd do well to study all of them.





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How bad is the recall? How do I know if my dog will be sick after eating recalled food? What do I even do?

I don't have TV and don't listen to radio much so I am not aware of what recall you heard but you can call in to the TV network or radio station that ran the recall notice and ask them for a contact number to the manufacturer to ask the manufacturer why it was recalled and what you need to be looking for in problems your dog might have. If you can't get a hold of anyone that way, then call your local vet and ask them.
Until you can get a hold of an authoritys on the recall, If you see your dog throws up, then watch him closely. If he continues to throw up more than once til he has dry heaves or has diarrhea and has no interest in water and can't keep it down, then get him to vet immediately because the pet can become severely dehydrated at the very least and need more medical help besides that.

Our little dog once got into rotten food that a alzheimer neighbor throw out in their yard and our dog usually only let out to go pee, did not come back right away one day and went over to a neighbors who had mental issues. Another neighbor saw our dog over there and knew that neighbor has thrown old food out again in the yard. So our dog got food poisoning. He was losing all contents both ends and not able to keep water down. We thought it was the flu until the neighbor told us she'd seen our dog over in that yard and thinks it was spoiled food. So by time we called and got him in to emergency vet hosp. the dog was dehydrated. If you see anything like that, take dog in right away. In meanwhile, try contacting the people who posted the recall.

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(Sorry this is long but I need advice asap)

There's a little bit over 2 months left of school for this year, but I just can't handle it anymore. My parents said it was possible for me to get homeschooled starting this upcoming school year, but I want to start now. I'm planning on talking to her about this soon, but I think I might only have this one chance to convince her and I need some advice on what to say.

I want to go to home school now because I honestly have severe anxiety. I can't handle being away from home for that long period of time because I just get scared of everything. Even the little things. Plus, I can't focus. I do believe that I can focus more if I am at home. That may sound weird, but it's better for me. I just am so tired of public school. And I can't move either, because all of the other schools are just much worse.

So, what I'm asking for is advice on what to tell my mom that will hopefully convince her to letting me go to homeschool a little bit earlier. Also, please don't tell me to stick through it for just the last 2 months because I just can't. It's literally a living hell. Thanks

You mentioned severe anxiety, not bullying or harassing at school. Some kids want home schooling to avoid that. I am not sure if your anxiety problem is that or not.
Here's why I am not sure whats going on in your situation.
You mentioned: " I just am so tired of public school. And I can't move either, because all of the other schools are just much worse."
This makes me believe it is related to bullying. If so, are your parents aware of this and have they done what they can to speak to school authorities on it.

Then you also stated that: "I honestly have severe anxiety. I can't handle being away from home for that long period of time because I just get scared of everything. Even the little things. Plus, I can't focus." This sounds to me like a phobia/fear of leaving ones home. Some people have it so severe they eventually stop leaving the house altogether. So your idea to find ways to not have to leave the home if bullying is not the cause of your anxiety at school, is only going to make your problem more severe. If you haven't seen a Dr. yet, I would suggest you do this. You are 15 yrs old or somewhere thereabouts, and very likely still going through the adjustment period of all the hormones flowing through your body as happens to females during puberty. Some issues of becoming easily irritated, angry or sad or weepy are common and usually not to worry about and will go away after you go through puberty. However, there are many girls these days who are finding their hormones totally out of balance to an extreme that causes issues like severe depression and anxiety. I've read about it. Moms wrote in one article that the daughters were put on medication for a couple of years until their hormone levels went down to a normal level and then taken off the meds. The differences for them emotionally were immediate, and they became their happy selves again. Since puberty starts for girls generally from the ages 10 to 13, likely these kinds of emotional issues have been sneaking up on them over time getting worse and worse until finally the parents realize something is seriously wrong.
So what I suggest is that you tell your mom about this and have her get you in to have your hormone levels checked and if thats the problem then you should see an improvement with medication. If it is not due to 'female hormones' being extremely out of balance, then it would be good to have you see a mental health specialist to help you with your anxiety and possible phobia's.

I am sorry I could not give you a simple answer as to what to say to mom to "convince" her because as I see it, there may be other factors So get in to see a Dr. ASAP. If after seeing a Dr. you still want to be home schooled, it may not be something mom or dad can switch that easily and quickly to doing and will take some prep work, getting the materials, etc. It might work better to check if there are any other homeschooling parents of teens in your area that would agree to take you on along with their child for the rest of this year. However, before getting the details from the parents why they cannot do so now and it must wait til fall, or mentioning finding a home school parent through a home schooling association, I still suggest taking the route of seeing a Dr. first.

I am posting some articles about hormonal imbalance in teens,and the first gives some ideas of why it is so prevalent. Not just that the body doesn't produce the right amounts but we get bombarded with more hormones through various things in our environment so it is increasingly becoming an issue for teens in todays society. Its not your fault and can be easily reversed and taken care of. Make sure to share these with the parents.

http://www.livestrong.com/article/218060-hormonal-imbalance-in-teenagers/

http://teens.webmd.com/anxiety-and-teens

http://www.ehow.com/about_4567526_hormonal-imbalance-anxiety.html

If not hormonal, it could be the type of negative thought patterns you experience that create depression or anxiety but there is treatment for that too. Called CBT learn about in this link
http://parentingteens.about.com/od/parentingtroubledteens/a/Teens-CBT-Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy.htm

There are many more informational documents on the net to find on the subject.

Please don't think of not bringing up your anxieties to the Parents, they may not see anything on the outside to indicate you have a problem. You must tell them whats going on inside you so they can get you the right kind of help. I have a daughter who suffered teen age depression. There were no outward signs and I was very close to my 3 girls and we had lots of good communicating and I WAS looking for any possible issues that might come up to deal with as they did but as I said...I could not tell and she refused to say anything. Don't make that mistake and go on suffering for longer before getting treatment. As I said before, this is not your fault. These are imbalances that are common enough in people and no one will think you are crazy or attention seeking or blowing things out of proportion. If the parents don't take it seriously at first, show them this letter from me. They love you and want the best for you and once they realize how real your issue is, they will do the right thing for you and you may still get the home schooling sooner too.




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I have been feeling like my shift manager is trying to get me terminated and singling me out. From the beginning I have had issues with her and now after three years with the company she gave me my first coaching and she made it a third level. I have many witnesses to her behavior and want to fight it.

If you want my opinion on whether I feel your shift managers behavior seems appropriate or not, I'd need to have more information dear.
Your job position could be anything from coffee barista to customer service in a call center to a nurse in a hospital. Sometimes what may seem unfair treatment is actually decisions related to a particular type of job/industry and are part of what comes along with the position.

I have no clue what you meant by first coaching. If you are talking about job training, that should start on the first day of a new employees hirement, not 3 years after. And I am not familiar with with levels of training such as the 3rd level you refer to. Hopefully someone else knows what you're talking about but it might help to repost with more explanation so we all can do our best to give advice.

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The other day my friend told me he has been seeing spirits/ghosts. He sees one which is his grandfather that doesn't try to hurt him, one of his twin who passed away and again doesn't try to hurt him, and then one who he doesn't recognize that is very agressive. He says he has woken up feeling as though he had been beat up in his sleep or with scratches on his arms. I'm not sure what to make of this considering I have no experience with ghosts or spirits. He says he is seeing someone about this but from time to time gets scared. Is there any websites or info you can provide to make him less fearful of sleeping at night?

Yes, spirits and ghosts are real. Ghosts are the souls of people who once lived in a mortal body but instead of going into the light and entering heaven, they for some reason remain on the earth reliving parts of their live sometimes traumatic events in what used to be their home or such and these are hauntings. Spirits or souls are those who passed on, went to heaven but come back to work with a loved one to help them or to attempt to relay a message to them.


There is also something else that exists which I will call dark energies. Like moth's at night are drawn to a light, these dark energies are attracted to certain things. I don't know who he is seeing to take care of this but the majority of people end up seeing a mental health counselor who tries to convince them its all in their mind. If a person were schizophrenic, it's a possibility that a person can imagine things that seem very real. However, I had a brother and a who was schizophrenic. The brother saw things all the time even while on medication however he never got beaten up while asleep. A person can scratch themselves while asleep but that would be one or two scratches occasionally like for an itch and usually we dont wake up with obvious welts on the body. People don't pummel themselves while they sleep so if he's wakes up feeling like that, I am more prone to believe it is some dark energy rather than due to schizophrenia.

Here's what I mean by dark energies: Most of us have the same ability to create with our minds as God does and the humans who are choosing to walk a path in the opposite direction of God will collectively create these negative dark entities that are real because they were created by our thoughts. We underestimate our capabilities as Gods kids. Few of us realize we have the ability to create good like healing energies to heal a person who is open to being healed or on the other hand to create dark energies, without being aware that we did it, how we did it nor how to undo it.

I am writing the rest as if I am addressing your friend so let him see this.

So what can you do to be protected from spirits or energies with negative intents towards you? There are a couple things but first, it might be also wise to look at what could possibly be attracting them. I dont know if you believe in God but thats a good starting place. Think of good qualities of what our Creator represents. And think of heaven. Do negative emotions and feelings exist there? No. You lost a twin and grandpa has passed on. It could be that you blames yourself for death of your twin, whether true or not, or you feel guilty that youre is alive when the other is not. So great sadness, depression and emotional pain, blame, fear, tormenting oneself with dwelling on the loss and not properly processing through grief, unforgiveness, or people who actively choose to do negative things like steal, habitually lie, deal in unlawful things, you get the picture... No, not all people living with lots of negative emotions or doing negative things will attract dark spirits or energies. Can't say why they choose one particular person and not another. But I can say it doesnt have to remain that way.

Here's what a person can do:

1. Focus your mind on your guardian Angels. Sometimes angels will act without being asked to protect but the majority of the time, they are waiting to hear orders from you, be given a specific job before they will do so. The instant you picture them doing whatever you asked and pictured in your mind, it is being done. Use your angels to protect you where ever you go, to stand guard over your house and property. If you're having trouble feeling they are as real as the negative things you see and hear, then Give your angels names and picture/imagine in your mind what they look like, they can look as individual as humans do. If you are one of a few people gifted with an ability to see all things from the other dimension, then you should be able to see your angels too.

2. You can also place a shield around yourself, what your visualize in your mind with your eyes closed will be real even though you can't see it. See yourself surrounded by a clear bubble that nothing bad can penetrate. Like being in a giant soap bubble but this is not fragile like a soap bubble, nothing of dark energies can enter to mess with you. Even if you can't see it, the dark energies can, and they can not penetrate it because its like magic because it was created by a child of light. Darkness can not enter or live where there is Light.

3. Restructure your thoughts. You will have to work on your thoughts to make sure that instead of fears, sadness, blame, etc... that your heart and mind are not heavy,and weighted down but instead, you are filled with peace, kindness, goodness, love, forgiveness which will make your whole outlook light.
Maybe this mental picture will help. Remember everything King Midas touched turned to gold? It's like that with your mind, except everything you think, you create. So let your thoughts be positive ones, filled with light and love.

The moment you worry and think about what if it doesn't work and something attacks me while I sleep or I see something menacing, then capture that thought. Talk to it saying:

"Negative thought, I am kicking you out. There is no place for you here. I replace you with..." and replace it with whatever seems right like thoughts of how the angels are filling the very space you're standing in and seeing them multiplying in number until they're packed like sardines in a can, so many that there is no room for dark energies and those energies are being pushed out of the room. Retraining your negative thought pattern will take some time so the first few days you may have to replace scary thoughts every other minute. Since you are also seeing things with your physical eyes, I suggest calling for your angels as soon as you see them, close your eyes and inside yourself mentally tell the angels to remove anything negative from the room. If twin and grandpa are negative energies in disguise, they will also be removed from the room. Picture whatever works for you. You'll need to use your imagination. Your angels can look like fair christmas angels of like roman soldiers with wings, or no wings but imagine them holding a sword that glows so bright it hurts to look at it and when they advance on anything of darkness that doesn't immediately turn and flee, it is burned up in a puff of smoke. Or picture what ever you like, as long as its the angels fighting the darkness with you as their commander.

If things still do not improve, then someone who specializes in dealing with banishing these dark creatures is going to be needed. Some churches have a person or people who are able to sense and recognize when there are such energies present. And they know what to do to get rid of them for you. Some churches mean well and think they know how to do this but they really don't so if the first try doesnt help, go for someone else. If you'd prefer to not utilize the church, then there are psychics who deal with specializing and helping spirits pass over and also banishing the dark energies. I have found more often psychics in the area of pagan beliefs to have a better handle on this as they understand some principles that christians don't get but are very effective.

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So there's this guy that I liked. Long story short, he called me hot, I asked him if we could hang out and he said he would if he could but I shouldn't count on it. For the most part, my relationship with this guy has been flirty yet non flirty at the same time. It is always contradicting. I feel like he does find me attractive but yet he'll keep at least an arms length away. Like he likes to have the idea of me on the side, and wants to get laid (which nothing has happened like that in that case).
The thought of him playing these mind games, and toying with my emotions and playing hard to get makes me feel troubled and a bit disgusted. Disgusted in the sense that in today's society , all people do is think about themselves. They never think twice whether they're hurting others around them. All people want now a days , especially most guys I feel is that they just want to pleasure themselves and then once they have what they want , we girls are no longer interesting to them , and once that happens they'll just throw us to the curb.
For example today , I asked three of my guy friends if he would rather date one girl or two girls but without them knowing . All of them answered truthfully and said they would date two girls because of experience. It hurts personally for me to hear that cause how am I ever gonna trust a guy and know that he'll actually want me and love me. How am I gonna know that if he secretly misses the thought of being polygamous ...
And not being tied down ?
The views of marriage is rapidly changing to the point where there's a 50 percent divorce rate . It may even come to the point where in the future marriage is no longer signified for love but for "trial" and for "getting it in"
Should I not bother with relationships ? How do I know if a guy is genuinely sincere and wants something more ?

Just because a guy pays you a compliment by saying you are hot, as much as he might be thinking about sex doesnt mean he necessarily wants to have any kind of relationship and work towards having sex too. If a male were to "hang out" with every girl he thought was 'hot looking', he'd have to spread himself so thin that he'd be no thicker than a sheet of paper. A little humor but seriously, he'd not have the amount of hours in a day to do so with all those women.
If a man pays you a compliment, what might be better to respond with is a simple "Thank you" rather than "Could we hang out?" That makes you sound desperate for a guy. Guys that are worth having for a boyfriend or life partner are not going to be attracted to desperate women.

Dating and 'being in a relationship' are two different things. Young people these days don't always realize that and if they do, they used terms that don't always share exactly what they meant.

Dating is spending time with a person to get to know more about them, to discover if you really are interested enough to get into a relationship with them. When a person can date several people at the same time, they are still hunting for the right one and keeping their options open until they find someone they are still attracted to after they get to know them better. Then once they find that person, they get into a relationship with them which is also called dating but at this stage it should be considered a committed relationship for however long that relationship goesUntil a guy gets to the point of dating for the experience to learnto this point .

Your male friends took the options you gave them without putting forth the effort to re-word them or explain theirselves. So I can't say what their core beliefs are. If I were single and you asked me, a female if I would rather date one guy or several at the same time but not tell them...my answer would be I would rather date several at once but be up front and tell each of them I am doing so.
I have actually done this dear. When I was divorced, I knew I wanted to find the right man to be in a long term relationship with. The way to do that is to spend enough time with each of your prospects to sample each of them enough to make a decision who you wanted to begin a dating relationship with. Agreeing to hang out with or go on scheduled dates with a guy did not mean I was promising to a committment to that guy.

If there was only one prospect at the time, I still told him that I was in the mode of dating around as I met other guys (through a dating site) and as soon as I made my decision who was the best guy for me, I would let him know if it was him or not. Never once did I have a guy not be okay with this arrangement. It makes sense to them and is what they would probably do. The only difference, is they might not be up front and tell a female that they were currently dating around is for fear of the unrealistic expectations and resulting dramatics on her part. Women do cause more of their problems with guys than they realize.
Your expectations and ideals in dating may be what keeps a guy from being willing to even date you let alone get into a relationship with you. You don't give your age so either you are very young or just haven't yet much relationship experience yet.
Should you not bother with relationships? Thats entirely up to you. I get the impression that you really deep inside want a meaningful relationship with a man who is truly in love with you and proves it by his actions, through how he treats you. So how do you get good at finding the right guy? Same way you get good at anything, by learning, studying , practicing. So get some youtube videos up that help teach a female what it is that attracts a guy, what to do to get the guy, what not to do when dating. I have watched so many. Some are hilarious but get their point across and others are practical advice. You will want to check out what male dating experts have to tell the females from the males perspective. Part of your success will come from understanding a man better and part from what not to do, and what attracts men to women. Although they like a gal with pleasant looks, in the end its not looks that win over a guy, its confidence. If you can't find good videos to watch, ask me and I will provide some for you. But you must go first to my column and write to me from there or I can't respond if you ask in the comments rating section.

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Hi. I've been with my partner for a year. I've lived with him since June 2013. I'm starting to think moving in was a mistake. Ever since I moved in, his mother and sisters kids control his life. We haven't been on an actual date because he'll bring mommy and sisters kids. If he doesn't, mom whines and cries and he'll pick them up. I feel like his moms his 2nd girlfriend. She always needs him and kids are always dumped on him. Parents never want to pick them up, so he's stuck with them. I'm always cleaning after his mom and sisters kids. She'll just sit and give orders. When I was contemplating breaking up with him, he'll cry to her and say you're not leaving him. She yells at me for not wanting to get pregnant. I'm starting to hate him and his family.What would you do?

Deep down, there is something you haven't realized you need to learn and sometimes it is something so simple and yet so hard to do.
You shared all the reasons why this is not a good situation for you. You know it's bad.So that's not the problem you are having.
I can relate after staying with my verbally abusive ex husband through 3 children and not leaving until they left home. I probably have a longer list of all the horrible things I had to put up with than you have given. I knew he wasn't treating me as I deserved to be treated. As with you, thats not the issue, its pretty obvious. But I stayed for 30 years. It took until then for me to get tired enough of the same old same old.

The one thing that I had to learn is to love myself enough to not continue to put myself in situations where I wasn't being treated well or being taken advantage of. However I also struggled with a fear of not being able to make it on my own and thats what held me back too from making a move for change. Whats your fear that is holding you back from just walking away.
BTW, if you discover and battle and win over your fears and leave, be prepared to be tested.
After leaving the ex, there came a time funds were tight and a male friend said he'd go in on an apt with me. All started out okay for about 6 weeks, then he became as abusive as my ex and I was scared because I had no where to go and no funds to put into another place. The guy demanded I jump to his tunes or he'd leave. I knew right then I was being tested for my own sake, so I would know I was strong enough, had really learned my lesson and the first wasn't just an accident that I left. I wouldnt comply so he disappeared, leaving me with an apt I couldn't afford, tried to find a roommate and that failed, I had to walk away from it. In lamenting to a friend, they said I could stay free with them until I saved up enough to move into a room or small place of my own. In 6 weeks I had enough money to start looking, then I heard from a guy on a dating site who ended up becoming my husband. I had to successfully manuever thru being tested on my lesson before I could go on with life. If you don't do well, the lesson keeps repeating and repeating.

So what type of thinking got me to finally leave the ex?
As terrible as my situation was,

Could I handle another day of it? Yes I knew I could.
Could I handle another week or month. Well, I would hate it but I made it so far all these years.
Could I handle the same old crappy stuff for another year? Well, I'd be always stressed and it might affect my health but if I really had to, I suppose I go slug on through it.
Could I handle the same treatment, the same crappy life situation for another 5, 10 15 years?
At the moment I asked myself this question, I felt my heart sink, I felt instant depression like a blanket come over me. It was then I realized, what am I waiting for? There's no better time to cut my losses than right now and leave.
I hope my story helps you with going through the process of realizing that it is important that you love yourself. If you wouldn't wish this on your best friend, don't accept it for yourself. It may be all you need is to just realize this fact and you will decide to leave immediately. Or perhaps you stop lying to yourself that you really are okay with who you are , or you discover things about who you are and begin to learn how to forgive yourself, accept and love your self and that will give you the strength to leave.If you believe that you could use help in the loving yourself department, I've added a link to something called EFT (emotional freedom technique) tapping. This helps you to work with your subconscious mind and any programs you've got running with thoughts that would hold you back that you don't even realize are there.
Good luck dear. Write me anytime you feel a need to talk more about this. But you need to go to my column first and write me from there if you want me able to respond.

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My bf and I are both in 6th grade and have been dating 4months. We both want to kiss and he keeps asking me what kind of kiss I want it to be and I say traditional with a little French and when I ask him he always replays with French for our FIRST kiss!!!!! Im not sure if I should just please him or try to keep him out of my mouth?!?!!? Also I REALLY want to kiss him because I've had my first kiss already and hasn't and we both want to but I'm waiting on him to make the first move but he is waiting on me. Who should make the first move. I've tried to give him hints that I'm ready and he just doesn't pick them up. Also we hold hands a lot now and he has put his arm around me a few times. We also tell eachother that we love eachother is that too soon? Anything helps thanks:).

You already have a problem. A person who keeps repeating a question making it look like you have a choice in the matter but is not happy with the answer you give, will keep repeating the question until you change your answer and give the one they want. This is a subtle controlling method. You don't realize that they want their way and are manipulating you into doing it their way.

In this scenerio, its all about him and what he wants. He's young, inexperienced and has a lot to learn yet about how to interact with and treat other people. If you let him have the french kiss he insists the first kiss should be, he will move on to the next issue he works to get you to do against your own wishes. I am sure there must be something nice about him, but a girl who doesnt set boundaries and tell a guy what is or isn't okay with her is going to end up miserable with guys who control and manipulate their girls. And that is not love...That isn't even a strong 'likeing' of someone. You don't treat your best friends that way, or let them treat you that way. Neither should it be okay just cus its a boyfriend.

The feelings you experience for each other are more likely to be a result of the hormones of puberty and those feelings of attraction for the opposite sex rather than love. A real true love takes some time to develop and is based more on the discoveries made through experiences together of each others character rather than initial attraction.
When a guy says I love you vs a girl saying it, there could be different meanings behind what they say. For example, early on when someone says I love you, they are actually saying, "There are some things about you that I really really like, not that they are 'deeply in love with you'.

As to who should make the first move. It doesn't matter. A girl can as well as the guy.

If you decide to go through with kissing, then you better have a conversation about what is and is not okay with you. Spell it out. Make sure there are no questions in his mind. Don't be wishy washy. If you don't like french kissing at all, then say so. If you don't like french kissing with someone you haven't developed deep feelings for yet, then say so and then tell him that you haven't developed those feelings with him yet so if you kiss, you will not accept french kissing.

It might be smart to make an ultimatum, that if he will not honor your wishes, and tries to french kiss before you say you are ready, then you will give him the boot and break up. You have to be willing to do this though because allowing him to get away with it will cause bigger problems.

If you stay with him when he forces french kissing on you when he knew fully well from your talk with him that it was not okay, then he knows he can get away with not honoring your wishes, not respecting you, not caring about your feelings and that actually begins to train a young boy how to become a lazy, selfish, disrespectful inconsiderate, unloving boyfriend as he grows up. Many of these terrible boyfriends grow up to be adult men who still don't treat women well because no girl was ever confident enough to make a stand and tell him what you will and will not tolerate in behavior from him. And the only way some guys learn is by being repeatedly dumped by girl after girl whom he mistreats. Eventually even the slow learners will get it and know they have to treat the young ladys better.

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I have wrote this question on here before although I do not think I was wording it correctly. I have been dating a man for 4 months. I am a mother of two I raise my kids alone. When we first started dating he had a job not a good one but had one. He quit his job before Christmas to start working at a rehab facility. All he got was he had taken a test for the position and they sent him paper work like an application for the job. So it is now March still no job. At first he'd ask me to buy his cigarettes I wouldn't. He would ask me out and we would go to the bar for a little while I'd pay for both of our drinks. Now I he'll go to the mall with me when I get my hair done or to take my son to one of his many doctor appointment and say " hey baby can I get a dollar something " so he can get a drink every time and then ask if I want something in get offended because it is my money that he is asking if I want something with. If I talk to him he likes says he won't ask any more he loves me etc I just need some advice

So he quits a job he had because he was "confused" and thought he'd been offered a job just because of tests he had to take and other paperwork he completed as part of the screening process of potential employee's?

Either that was wishful thinking on his part or there is something seriously not right in his mental capacities. Maybe its an issue of mental maturity if he's your age. Some people need a lot longer to finally be able to start making good sound decisions in life.

I need you to ask yourself why you are dating hon. Thats an important factor that will help you see things clearer and make it easier to make any decisions.
Ad I see it there's two possibilites:
1. If you are determined to make it alone in life as a single mother and support your kids on your own, good for you. Then why would you need a guy in your life? The obvious reasons, just to have some adult time with some one, a social life and/or maybe just sex. Then the perfect guy would be someone who likes kids but isn't looking for marriage, and can support himself and is a good companion and lover. You are supporting two kids, you don't need to be supporting 3 kids, him being one of them. Not trying to be harsh. I know the economy is tight and maybe all he can get if he tries is another crappy part time job. But I think what you want to see is the effort and at least the little extra money that would be a help so he's not a drain on your resources.

2. People who are not dating for simply a social reason are dating to learn what they do and don't like about the other person because in their minds they're trying to form a picture of what they are looking for in a life long partner. They are looking for a mate, someone who is their equal, some one to fall in love, someone who is able to back up their profession of love with actions, a person who is supportive of all you do and always building you up with his words, encouragement, compliments, putting you first before his needs, and just an all around joy to be with cus his companionship no matter what you're doing, makes all of life more fun.

So what you ask yourself is: am I looking for a man that I need to support and get companionship and sex in return, a man that can support me and the kids totally without any contribution from me, or a man who is equal partners with me in the contributions to this relationship, financial and other.

It's not all about finances. Couples have through the ages survived through tight times because there was a lot that both were contributing to the relationship other than money. So you might ask yourself what contributions you'd like to see from him. Start making lists. I had my lists when looking for a new man in my life after a divorce.

If all he is is just a social companionship but he was never in your mind meant to be husband material, then he doesn't have to put in the kind of effort that a husband would, does he?

Married happily ever after doesnt happen just because you wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so. Thats if you are looking for a life time partner. Thats what you'd need to be looking for. It takes effort.
Sometimes that effort is for the guy going out and finding any pitiful income he can bring in, maybe even 2 part time jobs, because he is going to carry and shoulder his part, he will contribute in all ways to the relationship, not sponge off a female.

I have a friend in her forties, who met a guy 2 years ago. This man was major 'eye candy' for females. He certainly got my attention. Think of a guy who looks like the actor in the latest Superman movie, before he cuts his long hair. Almost a dead ringer for him. He was new to the area and asked a couple of guys at the bar if they knew any single females in the small town. Yep, they knew of her and introduced them. He had no job and was looking for a place to stay while he looked for work. Well, she fell for his good looks. The minute he opened his mouth, I no longer saw him as attractive, his conversation and way of thought process killed it for me. I saw through him. He found a woman who would take care of him, feed him and his dog who ended up giving birth to 6 puppies who had to be fed...big dogs, and she was a poor starving artist who scraped by to pay her mortgage every month. She would have been happy to have him contribute in other ways around the house and to be more frugal instead of spend money like he or she had any. He became lazy, and began to mistreat her verbally and physically. She complained of course. Her friends, including us, all made the same comments...what is he to you? Cus if going just by looks, all he is , is your gigilo...a man who is 'kept. taken care of' by a woman in exchange for his 'attentions', usually just sex. Her mouth dropped open and she realized just then, that it was true and yet the sex wasn't all that great either. She quit feeding him. And it took about a month of no food before he left to go find his free lunch ticket elsewhere.
Is this what is happening to you? You've only known him 4 months. Have you met his friends or family. What can they tell you of his track record? Has he just fallen on hard times or is this the most you can ever expect from him?

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I am 21 years old,i have a 2 year old daughter
I was on the injection then i just decided to stop cause it was messing up my body. i got my period on the 6th of Jan the same date that i was due for my injection. my husband and i used a condom when we had sexual intercourse, it slipped off but it was still attached, it was not laying on the floor.
I am 2 months late with my period. Please help??

It could be possible you are pregnant or even though you got a period immediately, it is possible that some side effect of the hormone in the Deepo Provera shot still remains in your body. Here is a piece from an article on it with the link to the article after.
"Can I Become Pregnant After I Stop Using Depo-Provera?

With Depo-Provera, you could become pregnant as soon as three to four months after your last shot. However, it may take some women up to a year or two to conceive after they stop using this type of birth control. This time frame seems unrelated to how long you had been using Depo-Provera."

http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/birth-control-depo-provera

The best way to know if you're pregnant is to get a pregnancy test either from one you purchase at the pharmacy or by seeing your doctor.
If you are not pregnant, still in the market for a birth control that is better for you and effective and liked the carefree part of not having to remember to take a pill every day, I have a suggestion for birth control that you check with your Dr. about. This is called Paragard, it is a copper IUD. The copper is the ingrediant that disrupts pregnancy instead of hormones so it is way easier on your body with no side effects or problems for most women. It costs more upfront but since it lasts about 10 years, it is cheaper in the long run when you consider the monthly or every 3 month costs of other birth control. Once you are ready to try for a child, there are no lingering effects to prevent you from being able to become pregnant and you can begin to try the day it is removed.
Do not go for the Mirena IUD which you may have seen advertised on TV. It also contains hormones.

You can find info on the product at paragard.com

There are only a few women who can't have it inserted by the Dr. something about the angle of their cervix or some such thing if I remember right.

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Okay, so I have started to talk to someone I meet @ a birthday party. He gave me his number and everything, so we started to talk and it has gotten kind of serous. But the (one) problem is that he lives a hour away. I only see him like 3 times a year. So we have decide to wait to date for a couple years. until I am 18 and can see him whenever i want. But the thing is that one day he acts like he really likes me. and says he loves me which I think is way to soon. but then he says he is talking to some one girl but its nothing serous. which i don't understand? I feel like he is maybe lying to me or leading me on...I guess what i am asking is should I just stop talking to him. To not waste my time or should i keep talking to him. I really need some advice. Please help I am starting to fall for him..

In the couple hours you got to know him at a birthday party, you were not able to get to know him as in depth as you would if you saw each other more often and hung out together a lot. So, what I am trying to say, is that although you have met him in person and you know that there is mutual attraction between you, other than that, you know very little of each other. So no matter what he says or shares with you via the net, Skype, texting or phone calls, there will be too much information let alone experiences with him missing. So your mind will imagine the greater majority of whats really to this relationship to fill in the pieces that you don't know.
This means that what you really have is mostly a fantasy so far. A fantasy means it is not real. He is real, you are real, but the two of you are not in a real relationship.

The reason you feel like he is maybe lying to you or leading you on is because you have not had an opportunity to spend time together in person and observe how he handles himself, what he's like on good days, bad days, there is nothing to base a development of trust with each other on.

Trust is something that takes a long time to build and is built when you over time see that he is constant and predictable in a good way, that he is what he says he is, and keeps his word, is never found to contradict himself or lie. When someone is long distance, it is too easy for the person to misrepresent themselves or to lie to you. With a trust built from really knowing his character, you are going to never feel sure if what he is saying is true or whether you can trust him. I know first attractions are great but an attraction is just that, an attraction, it hasn't had a chance to develop into real true tested and proven love.

It is easy to say that you love another person. But it is in their actions that a person is able to prove it or not. Words are cheap, action takes more effort. So while he may have feelings, he lacks the ability to prove to you whether his love is for real or not or just more of a temporary fleeting thing of a few months, a year or two compared to the kind of love needed for a life time.
If you enjoy talking to him, then go ahead and chat with him. If you don't think you can do this without the emotional attachment feelings, then tell him you can't.
Here's one more thing to think about. Perhaps after a couple years, you get together and all goes great. But what if it doesn't and you break up at the later point in time. I know someone who did this. She didn't date at all in high school, never went to dances or prom or talked to guys. Then she and the guy who had been keeping in touch long distance got together and they were so excited for a week or two but soon it became a disaster and they broke up for good, neither really able to stand the other. She regretted giving up her high school years to wait for him.

There's a saying that 'a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.' it means even if the two sound better than one, it is not guaranteed you'll catch them. So it is better to go with the more concrete choice, the one in hand or translated to guys, the one's you can actually spend time with face to face and really get to know.

Dating is about discovering what you do and don't like about guys so you can form an idea of what you're looking for later when ready to settle down with a love for life.
It takes more than dating one or two guys to come up with experiences you did and did not like to formulate what kind of guy you are looking for, no matter that all of them were cute and attractive looking to you. And it certainly takes more than meeting for several hours at a party to formulate those same ideas of what you are looking for dear. Don't regret sitting out from dating and saving yourself for someone who is not a 100% for sure guarantee of being the right one for you in a long term relationship.

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I would like to get some customized gifts for everyone in my class. Just something small, but custom printed. I looked around and found "Positive Promotions" but I have never ordered anythnig like this before and I don't know what to do. For instance, do I need a logo of my own or can they make something for me? Has anyone ever had stuff custom made before? How did it work out for you and did people like it? :)

As long as they are a reputable company, any company that will put logo's, yours or their on a product should work. I knew of a group of local music artists who when a friend created the artwork for their next CD, they used that same design to have t shirts, tank tops, baseball caps and mugs created with their logo. It was a pretty celtic design with a dragonfly on it. I happen to like anything with celtic knotwork or dragonflys, so I bought some items at the fair where they were selling their cd's and the products promoting the lastest cd.

If you know what you want and are not artistic yourself, check what the particular company you're looking at has for logos and designs to choose from. If you don't like any...find someone artistic to create it for you and use that piece of art to present to them to print on what ever items they offer to put logos on. There may be a minimum order that could be more than you want to order say like a class of 30 people but they will create a minimum of no less than 100. So check if they can make the exact amount you need.

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what makes aaple stuff better than everybody else? i mean the ipod and iphone and stuff you know what i mean? why is it just better?

It really depends on who you are asking. If you ask the Apple company why they are better, likely they will have a lot of examples to give you. If you ask the producers of other brands of technology why their competitor is better, they will deny it whether it's true or not.

It is easy to attempt to copycat another company's new creation, but it is not as easy to come up with a new idea for something that does not yet exist and be the first to introduce the iphone for example.

I learned alot by watching the movie "Jobs" which is about the creator of the Apple company, Steve Jobs. Ashton Kutcher plays Steve in this 2013 movie about the story of Steve Jobs' ascension from college dropout into one of the most revered creative entrepreneurs of the 20th century.

If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. You can learn a lot about the people behind the products. Its some of those characteristics of those kinds of people that make the products so great.
For one thing, they are not followers but leaders, they walk to the beat of their own drum, not what everyone else in society is doing, they push themselves hard, they have a high goal for themselves, they don't take no for an answer, when someone says it can't be done or is not possible they don't listen to that person and give up, they find a way to prove them wrong and the best way is to succeed where others haven't even dared to try. You will pick up lots more on the type of person Steve Jobs is and the kinds of people he worked with. Even his employees didn't have the vision he had. Maybe he couldn't create the product physically himself but he came up with the ideas and hounded those with the skills to create the new products. Watch the movie again if you've seen it and pay closer attention to what makes an innovative successful person, and maybe you'll just be the next "Steve Jobs".

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