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How to talk my mom into homeschooling me?
(Sorry this is long but I need advice asap)
There's a little bit over 2 months left of school for this year, but I just can't handle it anymore. My parents said it was possible for me to get homeschooled starting this upcoming school year, but I want to start now. I'm planning on talking to her about this soon, but I think I might only have this one chance to convince her and I need some advice on what to say.
I want to go to home school now because I honestly have severe anxiety. I can't handle being away from home for that long period of time because I just get scared of everything. Even the little things. Plus, I can't focus. I do believe that I can focus more if I am at home. That may sound weird, but it's better for me. I just am so tired of public school. And I can't move either, because all of the other schools are just much worse.
So, what I'm asking for is advice on what to tell my mom that will hopefully convince her to letting me go to homeschool a little bit earlier. Also, please don't tell me to stick through it for just the last 2 months because I just can't. It's literally a living hell. Thanks
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I agree with Dragonflymagic. Homeschooling is not going to fix what appears to be the underlying problem; that being a phobia about leaving home or being away from home. By giving into the phobia and being home schooled is only going to make things worse for you mentally as at some point you will or could start to refuse to leave home all together.
Now your problem could have a double edge to it. That being your phobia is not allowing you to get the education you both need and deserve. By giving into it and home schooling you will only heighten the phobia which is also harmful.
If I were one of your parents I believe what I would offer you is a compromise. In exchange to home schooling you for one year; you would have to agree to philological counseling to overcome this phobia. The counseling may include visits to both a psychiatrist and psychologist whatever it takes to get over or learn to deal with this phobia. You agree to work with these doctors and be compliant with what they ask you to do. This is for your own best interest.
I believe your parents see what is going on here and this is why they may be reluctant to home school you. They do not want you giving in to the phobia and spending the rest of your life house bound.
Therefore my suggestion to you is; that you take my compromise suggestion to them. That you will accept the help you need from any doctors they feel you need to see which could include both a psychiatrist and psychologist in exchange for home schooling. Your agreement to this may be enough for your parents to start home schooling right away rather than next year.
Make the offer to your parents as they are probably trying to find a way to come to you with a suggestion you see someone about this but don't want to hurt you in doing so. You have your whole life in front of you and a wonderful world out there to explore. Do this for yourself for it is worth the effort. You do not want to spend the rest of your life locked in your home.
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You mentioned severe anxiety, not bullying or harassing at school. Some kids want home schooling to avoid that. I am not sure if your anxiety problem is that or not.
Here's why I am not sure whats going on in your situation.
You mentioned: " I just am so tired of public school. And I can't move either, because all of the other schools are just much worse."
This makes me believe it is related to bullying. If so, are your parents aware of this and have they done what they can to speak to school authorities on it.
Then you also stated that: "I honestly have severe anxiety. I can't handle being away from home for that long period of time because I just get scared of everything. Even the little things. Plus, I can't focus." This sounds to me like a phobia/fear of leaving ones home. Some people have it so severe they eventually stop leaving the house altogether. So your idea to find ways to not have to leave the home if bullying is not the cause of your anxiety at school, is only going to make your problem more severe. If you haven't seen a Dr. yet, I would suggest you do this. You are 15 yrs old or somewhere thereabouts, and very likely still going through the adjustment period of all the hormones flowing through your body as happens to females during puberty. Some issues of becoming easily irritated, angry or sad or weepy are common and usually not to worry about and will go away after you go through puberty. However, there are many girls these days who are finding their hormones totally out of balance to an extreme that causes issues like severe depression and anxiety. I've read about it. Moms wrote in one article that the daughters were put on medication for a couple of years until their hormone levels went down to a normal level and then taken off the meds. The differences for them emotionally were immediate, and they became their happy selves again. Since puberty starts for girls generally from the ages 10 to 13, likely these kinds of emotional issues have been sneaking up on them over time getting worse and worse until finally the parents realize something is seriously wrong.
So what I suggest is that you tell your mom about this and have her get you in to have your hormone levels checked and if thats the problem then you should see an improvement with medication. If it is not due to 'female hormones' being extremely out of balance, then it would be good to have you see a mental health specialist to help you with your anxiety and possible phobia's.
I am sorry I could not give you a simple answer as to what to say to mom to "convince" her because as I see it, there may be other factors So get in to see a Dr. ASAP. If after seeing a Dr. you still want to be home schooled, it may not be something mom or dad can switch that easily and quickly to doing and will take some prep work, getting the materials, etc. It might work better to check if there are any other homeschooling parents of teens in your area that would agree to take you on along with their child for the rest of this year. However, before getting the details from the parents why they cannot do so now and it must wait til fall, or mentioning finding a home school parent through a home schooling association, I still suggest taking the route of seeing a Dr. first.
I am posting some articles about hormonal imbalance in teens,and the first gives some ideas of why it is so prevalent. Not just that the body doesn't produce the right amounts but we get bombarded with more hormones through various things in our environment so it is increasingly becoming an issue for teens in todays society. Its not your fault and can be easily reversed and taken care of. Make sure to share these with the parents.
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If not hormonal, it could be the type of negative thought patterns you experience that create depression or anxiety but there is treatment for that too. Called CBT learn about in this link
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There are many more informational documents on the net to find on the subject.
Please don't think of not bringing up your anxieties to the Parents, they may not see anything on the outside to indicate you have a problem. You must tell them whats going on inside you so they can get you the right kind of help. I have a daughter who suffered teen age depression. There were no outward signs and I was very close to my 3 girls and we had lots of good communicating and I WAS looking for any possible issues that might come up to deal with as they did but as I said...I could not tell and she refused to say anything. Don't make that mistake and go on suffering for longer before getting treatment. As I said before, this is not your fault. These are imbalances that are common enough in people and no one will think you are crazy or attention seeking or blowing things out of proportion. If the parents don't take it seriously at first, show them this letter from me. They love you and want the best for you and once they realize how real your issue is, they will do the right thing for you and you may still get the home schooling sooner too.
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