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about easy way painless sex with husband
I got married one and half month ago but our sex relationship is uncompleted. ...We try every day but panis do not push inside..I have lot a pain when my husband start sex...I am feeling very guilty. .because I am not support him properly. ..
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After 6 weeks of trying and the hymen not stretching out gradually to accomodate him, there may be another issue.
It's rare but in some cases, when a female finds she cants even get a tampon in and out at all or with great difficulty, not to mention a penis, it could be due to a septate hymen.
A hymen is normally found to be an extra ring of skin around one side of both sides of the vagina. In rare cases, it is a strip of skin going down the middle of the vaginal opening causing two much smaller entrances. Usually too small for a penis to enter. This is easily fixed by seeing a doctor who will use local anesthesia to numb the area and then snip away the stretch of skin.
If I am right and this is the cause of your great pain and his inability to enter, this is nothing to feel guilty about. You were born with this and did not cause it. So go see your Doctor about this. Even if it's not the hymen, it is still a good idea to see the Doctor and get some recommendations on what to do if it's not medically related.
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You have not said so I will assume you were a virgin on your wedding night and now you are also frustrated. You also have not said if your husband was a virgin or has some sexual experience.
If you are both virgins take heart this is not uncommon. For the purpose of my answer I am going to assume you were both virgins on your wedding night. I also want to tell you I am of your grandparents’ age so I am a bit more knowledgeable on this subject then some of the younger advisers and I'm also very liberal in my views on sex.
Let’s start with saying what happens in your bedroom stays in your bedroom. Meaning there is virtually nothing that a man and women can do in the realm of sex that is considered weird or wrong as long as both of you consent to do it. If either of you feel that what the other wants to try is not right; you say so and it is not done.
This can be a sexual position or some type of sex act itself. Communication between partners is what is important. If you talk to each other, tell each other what you need then you will have a wonderful sex life together.
The preceding was and is important for if you are not comfortable, sex is always going to be painful for you will be tense. You are the one allowing someone, yes he is your husband and you love him, to penetrate your body with his penis. This is a natural act between lovers if they are comfortable with each other.
Let’s get you two comfortable with each other. First you are, when the time is right, going to need some extra lubrication at first. At least until your vagina learns to accommodate your husbands penis. A tube of K-Y Jelly will do.
I am thinking that foreplay may be missing or insufficient to relax you or get you excited. Foreplay is a very important part of sex. In fact it may be more intimate then intercourse itself as it allows both of you to explore the others body. To find out what stroking, nibbling and caresses on different parts of your bodies turns you on.
I am going to suggest that you go to bed with the intentions of not having sex but to learn about each others bodies. This will allow you to relax knowing he is not going to be penetrating or attempting to penetrate you. What this exercise does is allows you two to learn to be comfortable being naked with each other with the lights dimmed and to learn about each others needs.
You might start with making out like you may have when you dated. In this case you let your husband get under your clothes and to take them off and you get to take his off. You let his hands and mouth wonder all over your body. Nibble your ear, your neck, your breasts and suck on your nipples.
Let him work his way down to your sex and finger you. Oral sex is also very good. Show him where your clitoris is and how to gently stoke it and lick it. He can also work his way down your thighs and legs to your toes. While he is doing this talk to him tell him what feels good and does not feel good; if he is being too rough or to gentle. He is building a road map by which to please you.
You do the same to him. IF you two have never done oral sex to the other I suggest you try it. I know he will enjoy it and you will enjoy it as well when he does it to you as you both learn to enjoy each other.
When you are excited enough, and he will know by how wet you are, intercourse will or should be possible. The first time is painful if your Hymen is still intact and your vagina stretches for the first few times.
The pain does go away as you have sex more often. IF it doesn't then a trip to your Gynecologist may be in order. The key to good sex is you feeling comfortable, relaxed and safe in your surroundings.
Sex is a natural animal instinct with in us all. Good sex is something we learn to have with our partner and it takes time and trust in our partner.
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This may sound strange, but have you ever tried using lubricant? It's supposedly easier. You have to make sure you are completely calm and relaxed. If you are tensed or super nervous, it'll be painful and uncomfortable for you. Go slow, and try to relax. It'll get easier over time.
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