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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

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okay.. im only 12 and me and my boyfriend have been ating for 2 and a half years.. and like we kiss ALL THE TIME but WE dont french kiss .. and i like really wanna french kiss him but i just dont know if he wants to ...what should i do :( Thanks !!!

your 12? wow...youre way too young Why don't you ask your mom and dad this question, I'm sure theyd have lots of good answers for you!

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I kinda forgot my moms birthday... what should I buy her? She's really athletic and she travels a lot. They don't have to be in those categories but if it helps... then okay. And it can't be too expensive either, like under 30 bucks.

get her a cute track jacket like at gap.com
or just click here: there are some for just 20 dollars!
http://www.gap.com/asp/dept_index_all_paging.asp?wdid=2075

or you can get her a little travel makeup case if she wears makeup or a little travel pocket mirror.

go to: http://www.seventeen.com/funstuff/games/spc/0,,625891_636762,00.html?r=m

^take the quiz and you can find some cute gifts.

also if your mom likes bath soaps and stuff, try going to bath and bodyworks (or bathandbodyworks.com) or lush.com

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okay well i dont know where to start my family is always on my case about my attitude which has gotten worse because my friends are always putting me down... How do i get into a better attitude without losing my friends?? i always seem to be in a bad mood and i dont like it.. my family is always on my case to get new friends but its hard...what should i do??

If you're friends put you down, then your not your friends at all. If it was me, I would tell those little brats off, find new friends, spend some time with your family and just be happy for who you are.

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my boyfriend and i hang out almost every night since its summer and all...but we're running out of movies to watch. what are some good movies we might both be interested in, and what are some other things we could do together? (neither of us have cars or much money) thanks!

The Labrynth

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I have been in my current relationship for 9 months. Previouisly my relationship was 4 years in which we had a child. since then her father hasn't seen or talked to her in 6 months. Now when she starts to get close to my boyfriend she takes three steps back. But if she meets someone new she walk with them and hold their hand and she won't do this with my boyfriend. This upsets him and I've told him maybe she's just afraid to get close with himbecause she's afraid he will leave her too. Please help me try to understand this better. (she's only 5 years old)

Well, it probably feels weird for her. Shes only five years old. The best solution I can think of is for him and her to spend more time together. Still, she might not understand it, shes only five years old.

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i have to pick between two things i reslly love a dog or a laptop what should i choose?

A dog is someone who will be there for you. Someone who will be your friend forever. Someone you can tell all your secrets to. I would get the dog, but its really up to you!

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Compared to everyone else, I have big legs. They aren't fat or anything, I just want to slim them down and tone the muscle. Any ideas?

1.try lying on the floor on your back with your legs in the air. Open and close them over and over like scissors.
2. Lay on your side and lift your leg up and down. Repeat on other leg.
3. Ride your bike.
4. Do lunges on each leg.
5. Do squats and stretches.
6. Check out Seventeen Magazine, they have GREAT workout plans for this.

P.S. -I'm trying to work on the same thing. :)

-Johanna

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this guy just asked me out. I just met him like 3 monthes ago...he's 17 and I'm 15...we're both into the same stuff...i said i'd think about it... what should i tell him?he's my friend, nothing more, nothing less...help me! what should i say?

Just tell him you're not ready for a relationship, whether its true or not. Tell him you don't want to make a commitment right now. You can still stay friends with him, but definitely don't date him because older guys sometimes use n abuse younger girls, if you know what I'm saying. Hope I helped!

-Johanna

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I feel as if a bunch of people at my school hate me. Even one of my good friends said that some one said he/she hated me. Do you think I should lose weight...or change my look...or what?

Female 11 turning 12 soon

You could change the way you look or lose weight but it will not keep people from hating you. Some people are just mean like that. Alot of people hate me too, but I don't really care. For me, I just say, "whatever I don't care." As long if you got a few close friends, then thats good enough. It's impossible to be friends with Everyone. So don't change your appearance for someone, because people should like you for whats on the inside. I know that sounds so corny...but just be yourself. If someone actually goes up to you and says they hate you, just be like "Wow you're SO cool for telling me that" and walk away. Don't get mad, just laugh with your friends about the idiots that hate you :) I hope I helped!

-Johanna

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I am throwing my best friend a surprise party. She's a girl, 16. I already sent out the invitatations to all of her girlfriends, but I can't decide if I should invite boys or not. She is not friends with very many guys, and the 3 or 4 she is friends with may not even all be friends with each other (I don't really know all of them well). I don't know if I should invite them or not, because they aren't even people she hangs out with outside of school, and I don't know if it would be awkward for them to be there. However, I think that the party should have boys, I mean we are 16 years old. What should I do?

Well, think about what your friend would do. Would she want guys there? Is she comfortable around them? Then ask yourself, Are you comfortable around these guys? Well, if the answer is yes, go ahead and invite them! Just invite a couple of her close guy friends, not like the whole school. lol

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Okay, I'm looking for a Hot Hot Heat music video to put on my myspace. I have looked everywhere and either the site doesn't have Hot Hot Heat videos, or it doesn't work. If you have any good sites that will have a video by them that I can copy the code to put on myspace please let me know... I'm so frustrated! Thanks... I rate only fives!! Please give good answers!!!

Oh my gosh! I love hot hot heat, I have a clip of their music on my website. http://www.freewebs.com/locoreality ....but anyways, try going to

http://www.videocodes4u.com

-Johanna

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14/f/al
This guy just asked me out and he's 18...we kno each other and stuff,but not RELE well...i told him that i wasn't sure, because i have never had a b/f before and going from that to datin a guy thats 4 years older than me is a pretty big jump!
I just got off the phone with him, and i like him, but i KNOW that my parents would kill me and I'm ExTrEmLy nervous and confused! I dont think that i want to date him right now, i just want to go to the movies with him and some other ppl a few times and then make my decision, but im not sure how to tell him. please help! I RATE HIGH!!! love ya!
signed,
*scared*

Don't you think its a little weird that an 18 year old wants to go out with you? Don't get me wrong, you're probably very attractive and likable, but it just seems a little weird. I would be careful because older guys tend to date younger girls because they know they are less experienced and they can just use them for....well, all kinds of stuff that is wrong on so many levels. Technically its illegal for you two to be doing any kind of...stuff...since hes 18 (an adult) and you're still considered a minor. Just tell him that you don't want a boyfriend at the time, whether its true or not. Then lose all contact with him because he sounds really weird. Try to find someone closer to your age because theres many people out there. If this 18 year old stalks you, tell your parents and teachers! hope I helped!

-Johanna

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today i had pop rocks and soda and now i'm being told that it's bad for you and i'm scared something is gonna happen to me!! what, if anything, is going to happen to me?!

Nope...pop rocks and soda are awesome. You'll be fine, but don't eat too much sugar! You'll never be able to fall asleep. lol

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ok so when your on the phone it REALLY sucks when you have awkward silences! so wut r some things yo an talk about? like lets say you want to make a list of topics to talk about, wuts r some things you could put on the list? pleas hurry! ill rate for fast asnweres

Heres what I do:

Play a agme of where are you in the house.
All you have to do is ask the person you're talking to, to guess where you are in the house. What floor, what room, what you're sitting on. Also you can play What are you wearing where one person guesses what you are wearing. Its kind of stupid but its fun!!! lol

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i have to clean my room...N i don't want to

what do i do to get out of it?

Well, you can actually know where to find things! Or if you just don't care, just don't clean your room. It's that simple...

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can someone please give me advice on how i can loose like 10 pounds bye aguest or sept ! THANKS YOU S0 MUCH ! ILL RATE 5 FOR GOOD ANSWERS !

1. Drink lots of water
2. Do situps at least 50 everyday
3. Play outside rather than just being on the computer. Ride your bike, etc.
4. Read Seventeen Magazine- they have good nutrition and workout tips.
5. Eat in moderation. Light foods like salad, smoothies, crackers...stay away from red meat.
6. Never go on a crash diet(not eating anything) or Atkins diet! (no carbs) They don't work!
7. When you are doing some excersizes, use weights to tone muscles.
8. If you have cellulite on your thighs, lay down on your back and open and close legs like scissor. This will help inner thighs. For outer thighs- lay on side and lift legs up over and over then switch to other leg.
9. Try to Feel good about yourself no matter how you look!

Good luck! I am working on the same thing!

-Johanna

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I've been reading this site for awhile now and up until I got to this site, I never realized the magnitude of idiots cutting themselves.

What the hell is the allure of slicing metal, glass or whatever into your skin?

"Oh god, life sucks, and I feel so bad. What should I do?"

Its like the people here take half of the advice here seriously and because they can't help themselves through simple problems they do something stupid and nearly suicidal.

"I know what I can do, I can inflict injuries to myself - because a double negative is a positive right? Thats what I learned in English class!"

Enlighten me?

I agree... Seriously, is cutting gonna make you a better or cooler person? Whats it gonna do for you? Make all your problems go away...No it just makes more problems for you. Save the drama fo yo mama! lol

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i only got 4 hours of sleep last night and im really tired...but some how i cant fall asleep. what can i do to make myself fall asleep? thanks

I have the exact same problem! I go to bed like at 10 and I can't fall asleep until 1. Try these though:

1. Pretend you're "sinking" into your bed. As you are "sinking", relax each part of your body. Then say them in your head. "Foot, Knee, Leg, etc."
2. Talk to yourself. Its okay to talk to yourself. Just whisper to yourself, "I'm okay. I'm in my nice house which I am thankful for. My parents are downstairs...."
3. Make up a story. Just start thinking up a random story, as you are telling it in your head, you might fall asleep.
4. Go to the bathroom before bed. Then you won't have to worry about getting up in the middle of the night to go and then not being able to fall back asleep.
5. Have your room be dark, with little light, and little background noise.
6. If you have a fan in your house and you can hear it, listen to the repetetive noise. Repetetive noises are the only good background sounds to have before bed.
7. Look at some pictures of you and your family and friends before bed.
8. Count to 1000.
9. This sounds SO weird but it always works for me: Make up random screennames or names for people. lol
10. Pick a bedtime. Stick with it. Every night if you can.
11. Talk to a doctor.

Hope I helped!

-Johanna

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is it normal to get a cold in the summer? because i think i have one i have a really soar throat and my nose is sooo stuffy! also what can i do to help get my nose unstuffed?

It could be allergies because tons of flowers and trees blossom in the summer. I know I have them. Try using Triaminic Orange Liquid or chews (found at drug stores like Wegmans) These always help me. Drink lots of water!! That will make your nose unstuff and before you go to bed, put Vicks VapoRub (available at wegmans & drugstores) on your chest and a dot on the tip od your nose. This always seems to help me. And having the air conditioning on is better for your stuffy nose than the windows open because by having the windows open, more pollen can come into your house. Make sure you air conditioning filter is clean though. If you don't have air conditioning, try putting a fan in your room. All these might help, but if it gets REALLY bad, then go see your doctor because he might have a prescription allergy medicine for you. Hope I helped!

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I'm being blammed from my friend that i have been hacking onto her account on another site!well, i'm not!how do i convince her i would never do that to her?

Keep telling her that it was not you. Like ChickyDee said, she should already know that it was not you since you're her friend. Also tell her that you're Not apologizing for something you didn't do. Then just leave it at that. If she can't accept that, then shes not a good friend and shes not worth your time.

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