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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Do guys think stretch marks from pregnancy are gross?
I'm pregnant & now I have stretch marks... I don't want my husband to look at my stomach or see me without a shirt, I'm not overweight but I have stretch marks that look disgusting & he might think so. I think I don't know if these will ever go away completely. I still have them and I use oil and lotion. And I am so insecure about it. I know guys think it's gross do they?

The older you are when pregnant the harder it is for the stretch marks to go away without surgical intervention; as your skin looses its elasticity with age.

While you may find your stretch marks disgusting, I saw my wife's as a badge of honor. Those stretch marks brought my children into this world and I would not trade them for anything. They did fade after childbirth though a few remained. There I s nothing gross about them and until we got much older she continued to wear two piece bathing suits. Maybe just a bit more modest ones than before our children arrived.

We all change as we age. I no longer have the body I had when we married. Since I am not a beer drinker I have what I call a husband gut as my wife is a wonderful cook. Sure I could and should work to trim it down. But my wife uses my belly as a pillow and I like that so I'm not inclined to trim it down all that much.

As they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm sure your husband will love you even more when you bring his child and children into this world. He like me will probably not notice the stretch marks.

So.. Me and my boyfriend were messing around.
He took his underwear off and I kept mine on.
Well long story short, I think he got cum on the front of my underwear.
Precum or actual cum, i don't really know..
I was wondering if I can get pregnant from this.
I'm really paranoid so a fast answer would be great.
I'm hoping for the best considering I'm only 15..

The short answer is: It is highly unlikely but it is possible.

Semen can penetrate your panties. So depending on how close to your vaginal opening he emitted his semen; is going depend how big the possibility is. The further away the less it is possible.

It is unlikely your pregnant but let this be a lesson for the future. A boys penis is a loaded gun when talking about pregnancy. Never let it out of the holster unless you intend for it to go off. Just like a loaded gun never point one at anyone unless you intend to shoot. Probably a bad analogy given recent events but the meaning is there.

Under a Federal Law called HIPPA you are old enough to request birth control from your doctor without parental knowledge or permission. Any women's clinic or doctor will prescribe upon proof you are over 14. If you are going to play on the wild side protect yourself and get on birth control.

To learn more about HIPPA type "HIPPA" into any search engine.

I am 23 and 6 months pregnant. My boyfriend told me when I was a month pregnant he wants nothing to do with me or the baby, he added that the baby is not his. Well I have been working close to a year now and resently got permanent in the company.

No matter how stable my finances are I still feel he should be responsible for the up bringing of our unborn baby untill such age that is stated by the law. I am scared to tell them at work as I only got this permanent job 2 months ago.
My parents are very understanding of the situation but they dont really know how I feel. This is killing me inside.

Please advise on what to do or steps to take in this kind of situation. Thanking you in advance.

First unless your boyfriend can prove he is not the father of your unborn child, the only way to do that is with a paternity test. Until proven otherwise he is the father. If he refuse a paternity test then he by law he is responsible for the child's basic needs until the child is legally an adult, which in the USA is 18 in all states.

You need to see a lawyer and get him into court where he will be ordered to bay child support, keep medical insurance for the child, and possibly be required to maintain a life insurance policy of a certain value until the child is 18.You can also negotiate a college fund contribution from him. Custody and visitation will also be ordered by the courts. Whether he uses the visitation is up to him.

The court at its discretion can order garnishment of wages to cover the costs of whatever the court has ordered. While he can run he cannot hide as there is now also federal law to cover deadbeat fathers.

The law is on your side. The old saying of him having his fun and walking away or him getting 5 other guys to say they had sex with you no longer works. Science can prove or disprove him the father. Refusing the paternity test does not relieve him of responsibility, it does the exact opposite.

So find a lawyer. Don't know one then call the local Bar Association for the area you live in and ask for a referral for a Lawyer who specializes in family law. You need to do this to protect your child and you.

As for your employer there is nothing they can do about you being an unwed mother. Even if you are what is called an at will employee. TO fire you for being pregnant is an EEOC violation. This is something your lawyer can explain better than I can.

I am fourteen year old female and have recently just began to participate in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend of five months now. We have had sex quite a lot of times and most of the times I seem to bleed from my vagina. I'm not sure whether I'm bleeding from the inside or if my skin has ripped or streched at any point in time. I know everybody will advise me to visit the doctor but I'm afraid they won't take me seriously and I will be embarrased as I don't have much confidence anyways. Can you please give me reasons why vaginal bleeding after or during sex could happen?
I have obviously took time to search this online but some bizarre, frightening answers have appeared such as: growths which could lead to cancer and Sexually Transmitted Diseases's.

First I am not a doctor, none of us are so I cannot tell you why you are bleeding. To make that diagnoses would require an examination which cannot be done over the Internet.

What I can do is make an educated guess as to why you are bleeding. But first lets talk about visiting a doctor which you need to do.

No doctor will laugh at you or not take what is bothering anything less than seriously. What is happening to you has happened to other young girls so your doctor has seen it before. The doctor you need to see is a gynecologist.

Your next question has to be: "How can I see a doctor without my mother knowing why and becoming aware I am sexually active". Your in luck you are just old enough, having past your 14th birthday, to fall under a Federal Law called HIPPA. Part of this law covers young people and their reproductive health. To be covered under this law you must be 14 or older.

Under this law you are entitled to medical confidentiality. Meaning you can make a doctors appointment, see and be treated by a doctor, all without parental permission or knowledge. If mom is with you when you see the doctor she cannot be with you while being examined. All you need say to the doctor is you wish to see he or she in private and the doctor will ask you mother to wait in the waiting room.

Whatever happens, is said or you are treated for by the doctor stays in the exam room. The doctor cannot by law or anyone in the employ of the practice tell your mom what you were seen for. Only you can release medical information to anyone and the doctor needs that release in writing from you.

If you want birth control pill this would be the time to ask for them and the doctor will prescribe unless there is a medical reason not to.

Now as to why your bleeding. There are two possibilities.

First: While you may have started your periods, meaning you have started into puberty. Your body has not yet matured to the point that sexual intercourse is truly capable. Being penetrated by a penis is stretching an harming you internally as in if you were penetrated as a young child.

Second: A more reasonable cause is your Hymen was not fully detached in your first sexual encounter. Now each time you are penetrated it tears some more.

Whichever the case is you need to see the doctor before the internal tissue of your vagina is damaged requiring surgery or other procedures to repair.

While I will forego a lecture on how young you are; you are really to young to be having sex. Hopefully you have a long life ahead of you. To engage in sex at such a young age can be damaging in many ways other than what has caused you to write to me.

I am of the age where I could be your grandfather and I am very liberal in my views. I am not liberal enough to condone or suggest that young people your age participate in sexual intercourse. It is actually harmful in many ways, other than possible pregnancy, that you are participating in sexual intercourse.

The psychologist in me says you are looking for something through sex that you are not getting without it. Your not going to truly find it through sex either at this stage of your life. As if you find what you are looking for it is more false than real.

I suggest you talk to your doctor about recommending a talk therapist to find out what is missing from your life that you may be trying to replace through sex. You will be much better of if you do so, in that please trust me.

Sex has its place in life and in your life. This is just not the right time.

19F
So the past few years I've slowly began to accept the fact I am interested in both men and women. Not a lot of people know this, only my best friend and my boyfriend know. I really would like to tell my family, because it sucks not being myself and hiding a part of who I am from them. My father is a huge religious nut, he is very strict and self righteous, which I don't mind, I mean, it's his life.
But, he always sits and bashes and says rude things about people of other orientations, saying it's a sick abomination, his work had a float in the LGBT pride parade, he was disgusted and refused to take part. I've been thinking of coming out and telling him, part of me likes to believe he'd become more lenient and accepting, but the other part of me knows he's be disgusted and disappointed in me, it scares me and I don't know what to do, it took me forever to tell the people I told and I just want to stop hiding.

First of all you are 19 legally an adult and entitled to your own life. With that comes a right to your own likes, dislikes, values and sexuality and sex life. While all of us can be judgemental at times we have no right to be judgemental of others and this includes your father. As long as you observe the laws of the land then your parents have raised you as required by society.

While you can choose to or not to observe the law. You have no control over who you are sexually. That has been programed in you from birth. You could say that since your fathers genes are floating around in you that he has as much part in who you are sexually as your mother has since we are all a 50/50 split of there genetic make up.

Will you win an argument or discussion with your father using this logic with him; probably not. His self righteousness won't allow him to accept this. So the question still remains how to tell him?

Briaden's thoughts of sending him a letter is not a bad idea but it only puts off the inevitable. Just what the inevitable will be is up for debate. As a parent I find it hard to believe he will just walk away from you. A parents love for a child is suppose to be unbreakable but I also know otherwise.

You can and should be prepared to make the argument that you are not broken, you are not sick that you are you. If you plan to marry and have children then you should tell him. There is really nothing wrong with being bi.

As I have said there is nothing wrong with being bi, it is who you are sexually. While I realize you would like to have your fathers acceptance and understanding of your sexuality; you don't needed it to be you. The worse thing you could do is try not to be what you are to please your father.

To be brutally honest, and speaking as a father. Knowing that your father may or will disapprove and to the extent his disapproval will go. I see no reason why you need to tell him. If he is not willing to live in the real world; you telling him of your sexuality will most likely hurt you and not change his mind. So why hurt yourself this way?

I had sex and my boyfriend laid on me. Naked but can i become ptegnet by him laying on me.

There is really not enough information to answer your question.

You say you had sex? To me and most others that means you had sexual intercourse. That the boys penis penetrated your vagina. That is the true meaning of sex. Anything else if foreplay or fooling around. If you did actually have sex, even if he did not cum in you then the answer is Yes. Because his precum has enough semen in it to make you pregnant.

If the two of you just played around, he fingered you and maybe you gave him an HJ then it might be possible depending on where his penis was in relation to your vagina while he was on top of you. If he did not come and just laid on top of you it would depend on where his penis was in relation to your vagina and whether or not he leaked any pre cum.

This is the best answer I can give you based on the information you gave. It really all depends on if semen were in play and where they were in relation to your vagina's opening.

Im a 13 year old boy one day at school. It was morring i walked to my locker. I had this strange thought about sex. I get to my locker i see the girl i have been crushing on since i saw her. And i say hey and all the suddent i had a boner. Ans i want to know why ive been having those so much when im around girls.

Getting erections around girls at your age is normal. It is involuntary response caused by all the new hormones from puberty. Many of the erections you get during the day have little to do with sexual thought or visual stimulation and everything to do with hormones. This is something everybody your age has had to deal with as they go through puberty.

The only suggestion I can make is to wear baggy pants or learn to carry your books in front of you while in school and you have an erection. Fact is most girls will know why you are doing this and they will still giggle. A little secret; girls nipples get hard for the same reason and sometimes depending on the bra they wear there nipples will poke through their blouse. Not quite as obvious as when us guys get an erection but it does allow us to sort of giggle back at them too.

In time your hormone levels will stabilize and you will gain control over your erections. Until then you, like the those who have had to deal with this before you, will have to learn to deal with it.

I am getting depressed because Im telling myself im lesbian, but i do not in any way want to be. i look at girls boobs and stuff and have sexual thoughts about them but I would never ever date one or kiss one. Is it normal to doubt your sexuality? im 14
thanks

Relax your normal. At your age being confused about your sexuality is perfectly normal. It is even normal to experiment with someone of the same sex sexually. It is part of finding out who you are.

If you have ever read anything I have written on labeling, labels and sexuality. Then you will know I am against putting labels on yourself at your age. You are way to young to put a label on yourself saying you are this, that or the other thing.

Looking at another girls boobs and even having sexual thoughts about them at you age and for the next few years is perfectly normal. Boys look at other boys the same way. You unknowingly maybe are more or less checking yourself out or comparing yourself to the other girl. Just as boys check themselves out and compare themselves to other boys.

You may not learn your true sexuality until well after college. Then if you want you can label yourself. Should you find your a Lesbian well that's fine, that is who you are; there is nothing wrong with this. You may find you are straight or even bi, these are fine as well. But please until your older do not label your sexuality as it can only cause you a great deal of physical harm while still in school if you label yourself anything but straight.

I decided to write down everything that I have been feeling lately so that I can better understand my emotions:

-I get stressed really easily.
-I have trouble adjusting to change.
-I’m hypersensitive to every little thing I do. It was brought to my attention that sometimes I say things that offend people, but I don’t mean it to or even notice it. Now, I constantly worry and fixate on instances where I think I may have made someone feel uncomfortable. It makes me feel like I shouldn’t see people because I am going to do something embarrassing or stupid.
-I envy other people.
-I try to overcompensate for my insecurities.
-I am afraid people are judging me.
-I feel lonely frequently.
-I have trouble taking control of my emotions.
-I feel like I’m always forgotten.
-I crave attention from others for validation.
-I feel like people take me for granted, and I question how much people actually care about me.
-My emotions are very up and down. I feel happy sometimes, but when I’m alone and have time to think, I just feel sad and negative inside.
-I tried to reach out to my boyfriend many times, but he just got frustrated and angry with me every time I wasn’t happy. I try to hide it or not talk about it when I’m with him because he either doesn’t listen to me or he gives me the impression that doesn’t really want to hear about what I have to say because he ignores me. I’m afraid that if I stay like this, he won’t want to be with me anymore. I told him that I was thinking about going to therapy, and he was all for the idea. I am too, but at the same time, deep down I feel like he just doesn't want to deal with me being this way and just wants to push it off to someone else.

All I want to know is... does anyone have tips for me to change my attitude towards life? I feel that if I change the way I react or perceive things, it would be the best way to end my sadness or at least allow me to feel more content with myself.

It would help if I knew how old you were. The reason I say this is that a lot of what you have written and are questioning would be normal for a young teenager. When you are say 12, to say 13 to 14, in the early stages of puberty a lot is happening both internally and externally.

Internally you have all these new hormones running around in you. They are wrecking havoc with your emotions and your feelings. Plus your body is changing creating additional new feelings to deal with.

Externally you are changing schools. With that a new social environment unfolds. You are now looked at as less of a child and more of a young adult. This cause more confusion that needs to be dealt with.

Theses feeling can be confusing and can cause what in the past was called a phase; something you would grow out of. Today doctors call it teenage depression. I see a few but not all of the markers that may point to teenage depression. The biggest marker is the swing in emotional high and low.

Now I am not a doctor so I cannot say whether teenage depression is the cause of your problem or not. What I can suggest though is you schedule an appointment with your doctor and ask to to be screened for this. It is painless and consists of a bunch of questions. Of course while you are with your doctor it would be a good time to get your preschool physical out of the way.

Treatment for teenage depression varies. Mostly though it is talk therapy with a psychologist. This is someone you can talk to about everything and anything confident in that everything that is said in therapy stays in therapy.

My advice is: Talk to your doctor and see what he or she feel. My feeling is you are a pretty normal teenager dealing with the problems of puberty and your doctor can help you with that.

I'm 15 and pregnant my mom wants to take me to have a abortion she said she would make me do it no matter what I'm stuch need help she does not like the farther of the baby because mostly because his a coloured and I'm white but its my choice not hers I see where she is comeing from and I reli know its hard and a lot of work but I realy want the baby my partners familie are exited for me and him but my familie will like kill me they are a very rastest familie I hate it I was never born to be like that but I realy need help please !

There is a Federal Law called HIPPA that says mom can not force you to have an abortion. This law has given you medical confidentiality since you were 14.

This law was specifically enacted to cover young people for their reproductive systems so they would and could seek medical help when and if needed. That they could do so without parental consent or notification. No one can release medical information to anyone including your mother without your written permission. To do so they face 5 years in prison and a $10,000 fine.

So your mother can not make you have this baby or abort this baby. she cannot be in the exam room with you during doctor visits unless you invite her to be there. She cannot be in the delivery room with you unless invited.

The only time you mother would have any say in this matter would be if you were in a life or death situation. Then since you are still a minor she would have to direct your care. Otherwise when it comes to most of your medical care and care of your reproductive system you are now responsible and able to seek medical help when needed.

Long story short. I was put in a situation last night and was "in the moment."
We were making out he was fingering me and pulled my pants down to eat me out.. he laid on top of me and i do THINK he had boxers/ pants on but if he didnt would it be a huge pregnancy risk? I know you can get pregnant from precum but it would have been on top of my vagina and not in it, also not ablot because i didnt feel anything wet down there.... i dont want to be told how dumb it is because i now know, when i realized he was on top of me i pushed him off and walked out..
ALSO i texted him and asked if he ever took his pants/boxers off and he said a pretty flat out no, would guys lie about that?
This is all for future refrence and to know a little more..
Please help!
Signed,
Young&Stupid.

You may be young but you are not stupid. Maybe a little careless but that goes along with being young. The only stupid question is the one not asked.

Okay question one:"pregnant from precum but it would have been on top of my vagina and not in it"

Answer:The fact that you didn't feel anything wet down there says the chances are remote. For future reference you can, if all circumstances are right. Which would include the boy cumming very close to your vaginal opening, to be come pregnant even though there was not penetration. The chances as I said are remote but it has happened.

Question two:"would guys lie about that?"

Answer: They will kick me out of the guys club for this answer; then again I'm to old for membership anyway. Young boys lie about everything when it comes to sex. You know the boy and you know what you felt. The fact that you didn't feel anything wet says maybe he told you the truth. Fact is you know what you felt. If you felt skin to skin contact, then he lied to you.

Do I think your pregnant? The risk is low. You can learn something from this. I won't lecture you on waiting but I will offer advice on safe sex.

If you are going to let a boy take his pants off then make him put a condom on even if you are not planning on having intercourse. There are two reasons for this. First you are protecting yourself from events like the one that just happened. Second you are training him for when you are ready to have intercourse that he must wear a condom. There is also a third reason. Hopefully you won't let this happen but in the situation as you described sometimes passion caused loss of better judgement and things go to far. By making him wear a condom if his pants are off in your making out then at least you have some protection from unwanted pregnancy.

hi im 12/f,
in two days its going to be my bday usually im extremely excited but not this time:”(
well im really sad because my brother is treating me like crap and all i hear is 'your not gettin anything' from my families mouth like idk wat to do now _ im always like “wtf ma mom should've aborted me”;{
im at the point where idk wat 2 do with my life;{
any advice????:}
THANKS!!!!!!!

This is called sibling rivalry. It is your brothers lot in life, be he older or younger, to make your life miserable. It sounds like you are letting him succeed. Why and why now?

Actually two can play that game if you want but why lower yourself to that level. Just ignore him. By ignoring him and not allowing him to make your life miserable you are making his life miserable. You also need to tell your parents what he is saying for there is always an underlying reason for this rivalry. He must feel that you are favored for some reason and that is his catalyst for trying to make you feel as he may be feeling.

So just stay away from him and when he does say something come up with a smart reply that he won't understand. That will get him madder and he will probably taunt you some more. Which is okay if you make it a game that he can't win.

Once he realizes he can no longer hurt you this way he will go off and do something else.

I woke up morning and found that i had a pain near my testicle, the pain was not from testicle but from a lump that formed just above the sack where testicle are situated.

After a day, the pain was no more, but the lump remained.. I touched it and felt like a piece of flesh..

Is it some sort of cancer.. I'm worried..
Since i was born with just one testicle..
5 years ago my doctor did some scanning and found that i was born with one testicle..

But now i'm scared that i might lose the other one too..

We are not doctors and even if we were this condition you speak of requires an examination to diagnose, something we can't do over a website.

The condition or complaint you are writing about is not normal. It could be just about anything from a lump to a strain that may indicate a slight hernia. Whatever it is it needs to be seen by a doctor as it can only get worse if left untreated.

Given that this is Friday it may not be possible to see your own doctor until sometime next week. Since this is something that should and could require immediate treatment, cancer possibility withstanding, I would suggest you seek, a diagnoses and initial treatment, from one of the 24 hour clinics or a hospital Emergency Room.

If you have insurance and there is a 24 hour clinic near by you. Your insurance carrier would most likely prefer you go their. You will also be seen faster at a clinic then most ER's.

Okay so it is my dads birthday tomorrow, and he is on the older side so we are going to see a movie just me and him and then im making him dinner, but tomorrow night there is this concert going on at this boys house. He met my best friend and since she has a boyfriend shes introducing him to me. what ive heard we have a lot in common. the party isnt till 9 and my dad is known for going to bed aroun 9:30, and i really want to go. would this make me a horrible daughter to go to it?

I'm of two minds to this question. This is a special day for your dad. An opportunity for him to spend the day just him and you. This may give him reason to want to stay out later and enjoy your company a bit longer. Being your fathers age or older I would most likely feel that way. , I know I value the time I get to spend with my son just the two of us doing something we both enjoy. This time is becoming harder to find as his work schedules make more demands on his time.

Then Of course if you (or he) were to ask me if you could go to the concert so you could meet someone? As much as I value our time together I would not want to end our time together on a sour note or feeling or place a cloud over our time together by making it an obligation on your part. So I would of course would tell you I was okay with; it even if I was slightly hurt by your request to set a time limit, after we had made our plans.

Your fathers birthday comes but once a year and sometime, hopefully in the way distant future, they will come with him not being there to celebrate. I'm fairly positive your girlfriend can arrange to introduce you to this boy at another time, especially if he wants to meet you.

While I would never tell you yes or no to this question. I hope I have given you some insight into what dad would say, why he might say it and how he would probably feel. The decision of course on what to do remains with you.

I am a young woman who works in a fairly popular higher-end retail store. It has recently come to my attention that a male counterpart who was hired at the same time as me and has the same job title earns 20 cents more than I do. I know it's a fairly small discrepancy, but to me, it's the principal of the thing. I want to have this matter addressed, but I'm afraid of confrontation and I don't want to rock to boat or cause my manager to lose her job. What do I do?

Their just happens to be a Federal Law that covers this. It is called the Equal Pay act, you can read more about it in the following URL.

http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/equalcompensation.cfm.

It may seem like 20 cents is not a big deal, though over a 40 hour week and 52 weeks it amounts to over $400. To me that is serious money.

Getting your manager in trouble is not the problem. We are all cautioned not to disclose what we are being paid for that is something that is generally negotiated at time of hire and can be based on many factors. The equal pay act does not take in to consideration that someone with more work history is more valuable than someone with less therefore maybe worth paying more for or cost more in pay to hire.

We are cautioned not to talk about what we are being paid because situations such as yours arise form them. If anyone can be in trouble for your knowledge that this person is paid more than you it is the person who informed you.

In any case you have remedy at the bar as it is called by taking this matter to court if you so please. You cannot be fired for doing so and by filing a claim with the EEOC they will represent you generally at no charge.

The other thing you can do is talk to your manager and ask why you are not paid the same. If you are given some sort of flaky answer you have the option of advising her of the Equal Pay act at that time.

i'm 19/f
he's 22/f
strong christian, doesn't just lead girls on.

he asked me to coffee just to chat about life. we talked about EVERythiNG. why would he do this?!

Xenolans' answer is probably correct.

Being a Christian he is not your usual date in that everything revolves around sex. He is not going to be all hands and if he does kiss you it will most likely be a chaste kiss on the cheek for quite some time.

Dating a Christian is not that different than dating is to dating a non Christian; once you understand that God and the Church are foremost in his life. As far as most everything else he is a normal person. His belief in sex is for after marriage. His belief in contraception and abortion will be that of the church.

As for dating he will probably become more intimate as he gets to know you but don't expect him to spend the night, at least not in your bed. Hand holding and cuddling on the couch probably.

He will be a good husband, father and provider. He will honor and cherish the women he marries. But his first love and allegiance will always be god and the church.

13/f hey, I really want to lose a few found like maybe 10-15 pounds. What can I do to achieve my goal by the end of the summer?

Ten to fifteen pounds is not only a great deal of weight to loose in such a short period of time. You should first find out if you really need to loose that much weight, especially at your age with your body changing and going through puberty.

Being a few pounds underweight, as few as say five to ten pounds is more harmful than being the same amount of weight over weight. Before starting a diet of such proportion you need to consult your doctor and be under the doctors supervision while dieting.

The why of this is because the body needs a certain amount of calories to function. When It doesn't get what it needs it starts feeding off itself. This is good when we need to loose weight. It is bad when we don't need to loose weight because there is nothing to feed off of.

When that happens the body goes into self-protection mode. This mode tells the body to support the heart and mind above all others.To do this the body starts shutting down different systems. First the kidneys, then the liver then the lungs and finally the body goes into cardiac arrest. This is what kills anorexia and bulimics. The lack calories to run the body and the loss of electrolytes.

Now being just a few pounds under weight probably won;t kill someone but it will cause them medical problems that if go unchecked and untreated will effect them for a life time.

At you age to lose of 10 to 15 pounds is a lot of weight to shed at this age and should not be done just to have a models body, which doesn't exist in the first place. Unless yo are terribly over weight do not diet. Even then mom and your doctor need to be supervising.

I'm a nineteen year old female. My last period was around June 25th and ended on June 29th. I had sex July 4th and the condom broke but he hadn't cum yet. (It was our second time, we had changed the condom). Today is July 26th and I have still not gotten my period. I don't usually keep track because I rarely have sex but this was a special occasion. So I'm not quite sure what my cycle is. I'm worried that I'm late.

I'm scared that I'm pregnant but I'm stressing out drastically about it. Could stress be preventing my period, or anything else?

When should I start to worry?

Please help! I'm losing so much sleep over this :(

Follow flares' advice as the advice she has given you doesn't get any better. If you get conflicting results on the home test see your doctor for a blood test. If the results are negative than nerves are most likely the cause of your period being late.

if a guy is in to me and i am in to him but he works with my mother who does not want me to date should i forget about it or try to make it work and if so how?

This question really depends on how old you are. If your in the 14 to 16 age range, he would have to be at least 16 to work with your mom. Then my answer has to be forget about it.

I am mostly basing my answer on your writing style which tells me your are on the younger side of the age range I gave above. There are two reasons for my answering as I have.

While 2 years numerically is not a big difference at your ages there is a big difference in maturity levels especially when it comes to dating experience. Which is the second reason. His dating experience is four more honed at 16 then yours would be at 14 or even 15.

While socially it is a big plus for you to be dating a junior or senior in school it also places you in a position of vulnerability. You may not be capable of warding of advances or liberties he may take with you. If you do not understand the meaning of what I have written then you are definitely to young to be dating him.

In life everything has a progression, and a progression has a starting point. Dating is one of them. You start with group dates. Boys and girls going to the movies or the mall or doing anything as a group. Back in the days as they say today this progressed to double dates as parents saw safety in numbers. Then the on to the single date and car dating. Today it moves a little faster but the progression is about the same.

Mom will let you date when she feels you are mature enough to handle dating and not allow yourself to be hurt or to get into trouble you can't handle. To try and go around mom will only cement her feelings that you are not mature enough to date.

So my answer remains : Forget about it and move on with the progression to dating.

Will a mix of diclofenic, codeine phosphate, ibuprofen, amitripiline, diazepam be enough to kill me outright.?
I can't get out of the house to get alcohol but have about 150 pills altogether. I have a very disabling, chronic physical condition that renders me in 24/7 severe pain and distress. I can't be helped and living is not an option. I have suffered too long like this and need it end for mine and my family's sake. Please advise only if you can guide me if it will work. I have had counselling and hospital visits to no avail. My pain never ends and need to know if this will definately work. Thanks.
I know a lot of people will respond with sarcasm. That's not what I need. I've thought this through, believe me, I have a loving family to leave behind, it's heartbreaking. I've tried to research it for weeks/months but never find the answer to this mix of pills. I cant get out to get what I need. Thanks for the genuine responses.

No I will not be sarcastic with you as I actually can understand where you are coming from as I too suffer from a chronic pain condition. Thankfully I live near one of the best rehab hospitals in the country. All the major sports leagues send their injured players to this hospital for treatment.

Like you I will suffer with my chronic condition for the rest of my life. Unlike you I have found doctors who are capable of keeping my pain in a tolerable state. As my primary Pain Doctor keeps telling me. "Their will come a day that we will find a way to fix you." "Until them we will continue to find ways to keep you comfortable."

I'm not exactly house bound. I have to pick and chose where I go and how much pain I'm willing to endure by going and in many cases up my pain medication so I can go. I do so so I can have some quality of life.

As to your question: I'm not a doctor or a pharmacist so I really can't say what your reaction to all those medications will be beyond this fact. Your body is going to reject them in a very painful manner. Which will just add to your pain.

How do I know this. Prior to my injuries I was a first responder. Suicide by pills always became a rescue response when the pain became more intolerable than the victim could tolerate. We had a good track record in that most if not all of the victims, I know of, that we transported to the hospital survived.

I know your depressed; I was too when I was first injured and told this would be my life. I went through a period of serious depression and several therapists until I found one I could work with. She truly saved me by working with me and helping me see that I could learn to work with my doctors and learn to control my pain. Part of the pain is from what is called the circle of pain. Pain causes depression; depression causes pain. You need to break that circle by learning to control the depression that causes pain.

You and I will never be totally depression free. But we can control our depression and keep it at bay by learning the triggers of depression and controlling them. I won't say it was easy it was hard work. Especially for someone my age, going into the middle years of life. If I could do it I have no doubt you can do it as well.

Is it painful, emotionally yes, but not as painful as the method of suicide you have chosen. As for ending your life for your family's sake. That's the depression talking. You will only inflict more pain on them by ending your life.

You need the proper help to control your pain. You don't say what your pain is from; whether it is an illness or an injury. Whatever is causing your physical pain there is medication that can help and therapy that can help with the depression.

Pick up the phone and dial 911 or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk to a counselor at a Lifeline crisis center near you.

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