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bleeding during or after sex
I am fourteen year old female and have recently just began to participate in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend of five months now. We have had sex quite a lot of times and most of the times I seem to bleed from my vagina. I'm not sure whether I'm bleeding from the inside or if my skin has ripped or streched at any point in time. I know everybody will advise me to visit the doctor but I'm afraid they won't take me seriously and I will be embarrased as I don't have much confidence anyways. Can you please give me reasons why vaginal bleeding after or during sex could happen?
I have obviously took time to search this online but some bizarre, frightening answers have appeared such as: growths which could lead to cancer and Sexually Transmitted Diseases's.
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First I am not a doctor, none of us are so I cannot tell you why you are bleeding. To make that diagnoses would require an examination which cannot be done over the Internet.
What I can do is make an educated guess as to why you are bleeding. But first lets talk about visiting a doctor which you need to do.
No doctor will laugh at you or not take what is bothering anything less than seriously. What is happening to you has happened to other young girls so your doctor has seen it before. The doctor you need to see is a gynecologist.
Your next question has to be: "How can I see a doctor without my mother knowing why and becoming aware I am sexually active". Your in luck you are just old enough, having past your 14th birthday, to fall under a Federal Law called HIPPA. Part of this law covers young people and their reproductive health. To be covered under this law you must be 14 or older.
Under this law you are entitled to medical confidentiality. Meaning you can make a doctors appointment, see and be treated by a doctor, all without parental permission or knowledge. If mom is with you when you see the doctor she cannot be with you while being examined. All you need say to the doctor is you wish to see he or she in private and the doctor will ask you mother to wait in the waiting room.
Whatever happens, is said or you are treated for by the doctor stays in the exam room. The doctor cannot by law or anyone in the employ of the practice tell your mom what you were seen for. Only you can release medical information to anyone and the doctor needs that release in writing from you.
If you want birth control pill this would be the time to ask for them and the doctor will prescribe unless there is a medical reason not to.
Now as to why your bleeding. There are two possibilities.
First: While you may have started your periods, meaning you have started into puberty. Your body has not yet matured to the point that sexual intercourse is truly capable. Being penetrated by a penis is stretching an harming you internally as in if you were penetrated as a young child.
Second: A more reasonable cause is your Hymen was not fully detached in your first sexual encounter. Now each time you are penetrated it tears some more.
Whichever the case is you need to see the doctor before the internal tissue of your vagina is damaged requiring surgery or other procedures to repair.
While I will forego a lecture on how young you are; you are really to young to be having sex. Hopefully you have a long life ahead of you. To engage in sex at such a young age can be damaging in many ways other than what has caused you to write to me.
I am of the age where I could be your grandfather and I am very liberal in my views. I am not liberal enough to condone or suggest that young people your age participate in sexual intercourse. It is actually harmful in many ways, other than possible pregnancy, that you are participating in sexual intercourse.
The psychologist in me says you are looking for something through sex that you are not getting without it. Your not going to truly find it through sex either at this stage of your life. As if you find what you are looking for it is more false than real.
I suggest you talk to your doctor about recommending a talk therapist to find out what is missing from your life that you may be trying to replace through sex. You will be much better of if you do so, in that please trust me.
Sex has its place in life and in your life. This is just not the right time.
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