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is it normal to question your sexuality
I am getting depressed because Im telling myself im lesbian, but i do not in any way want to be. i look at girls boobs and stuff and have sexual thoughts about them but I would never ever date one or kiss one. Is it normal to doubt your sexuality? im 14
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It is normal. Your at that age where your questioning things. It's very normal its just a stage. It's called bi-curious. Just think of it this way. Will you marry a girl will you have sex with one will you kiss one will you date one as a serious relationship? If there is a NO to any of those questions then it just may be a phase and something not to deep. If everything is a yes then try it. There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian. If that is what you like then try it out and see what happens. :) Let me know how things go
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Relax your normal. At your age being confused about your sexuality is perfectly normal. It is even normal to experiment with someone of the same sex sexually. It is part of finding out who you are.
If you have ever read anything I have written on labeling, labels and sexuality. Then you will know I am against putting labels on yourself at your age. You are way to young to put a label on yourself saying you are this, that or the other thing.
Looking at another girls boobs and even having sexual thoughts about them at you age and for the next few years is perfectly normal. Boys look at other boys the same way. You unknowingly maybe are more or less checking yourself out or comparing yourself to the other girl. Just as boys check themselves out and compare themselves to other boys.
You may not learn your true sexuality until well after college. Then if you want you can label yourself. Should you find your a Lesbian well that's fine, that is who you are; there is nothing wrong with this. You may find you are straight or even bi, these are fine as well. But please until your older do not label your sexuality as it can only cause you a great deal of physical harm while still in school if you label yourself anything but straight.
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It definitely is okay to question or be unsure of your sexuality! Having sexual thoughts about the same sex is okay and does not necessarily indicate that you're a lesbian. Many people who identify as straight have thought/or think about the same sex as attractive, and especially since you're young; and I'm guessing haven't had a whole lot of experience/sexual partners it's okay to be curious about it.
However the important thing is that if you do find yourself attracted to the same sex, or feel the desire to kiss/date someone of the same sex, there is nothing wrong with that.
The best immediate advice I can give is to try to stop punishing yourself for feeling/thinking these things. You'll work out a lot more about your sexuality in the next couple of years, but you need to remember whatever you think and feel is natural, normal and okay. :)
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