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So on myspace, I want it so only the latest comment from someone shows. Does anyone know how to do this? I do not want to hide my comments completely.


Thank you :]

I'm not sure if you can get it for only ONE to show, but this link will direct you to a code that will hide MOST comments so only A FEW will still show...
It's better than nothing/close enough...

Otherwise, go back to the main page and under myspace click on codes. It has a bunch of codes. I LOVE this site and I use it for my myspace all the time.

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Why are highschool teachers so mean?

This is my first year of highschool and i found out that most of them don't care about a lot of things and the way they say it makes them sound so cold and mean.

Like one teacher was really nice and then she yelled at this girl because she accidently did something wrong and said sorry. "This is highschool, you fix the problem! You don't just say SORRY and then it's all better!"

And then i hear a lot of people complaining about university teachers and some teachers tell like some bad things about their university teachers when they were in university. And that they don't care.

I'm just really wondering why? I'm a very sensitive persona nd I'm just really, really not used to it. I almsot cried because i got in trouble for the most random littliest things!

Are people just nice but as they get higher to high shcool and University they get mean and cold or something? Is it because THEIR teachers rub it off of them?

Is that even allowed in all schools? Or is the fact that we need more teachers are true and they just hire anybody?

If the point of school is to become successful people, you need help from teachers. Shouldn't the people really be picky about their personality to hire teachers for school?

What about the kids who are failing? Obviously they won't ask the teacher for help if they're really mean!

I'm really sorry to put thsi up, maybe I should copy all this on a peice of paper and give it to a random person in the school or something but I'm really scared to do that and i'm just hoping atleast some of you guys can answer even a few of these things I'm having trouble with.

Thank you.

Wow, not all high school teachers are mean, not even by a long shot. I have had some of the most amazing teacher in my high school life and some of the eh, not so great kind. They've never been that bad unless we've deserved it.

Think of it this way:
These teachers have a minimum of 3 classes to teach with around 20-30 students in each. About half of the students in each class are disrespectful, act out, rude, lazy, etc. These teacher have so much stuff to deal with that they won't always be a block of sunshine.

Some teachers overreact about things (I got an after school detention for throwing a piece of trash across the room into the trash can.) I've also gotten ASD for taking a water bottle and splashing someone with it - that was well deserved on my part (and well worth it!).

It is up to us, the students, to be responsible for our education. If we don't understand something we need to speak up. Teachers aren't mind readers, no matter how much we want them to be.

Whether your teacher was right or wrong in how she said it to you - it is high school and you should fix your own problems. When you're in lower grades your teachers coddle you. They are working on your self-confidence. If you messed up back then saying sorry was enough - but it's not always going to be that way. Sorry doesn't always cut it, no matter how much we want it to.

There were two teachers that I used to think were really mean and I just couldn't stand. One of them really bugged me so I pretty much did my best to make her life (at school anyway) horrible. I would roll my eyes, talk back, ignore her as she spoke to me, etc. It took me a while to learn that she really did care about her students and that she really wanted them to succeed. That was my freshman year. I'm a senior and she is one of my favorite teachers ever! See how things change when you get another perspective? The other teacher - I couldn't stand. She let me see the "Behind-the-scenes" of being a teacher. I saw all the crap she had to put up with when it came to the school board, how unfairly the teachers in her department were treated, how the students treated her, etc. It's three years later and we are still pretty tight. I consider her my "cool big sister". (She even invited me to her wedding last year).

I have never once gotten punished for anything I didn't deserve. I either lipped off, broke the rules, etc. Small or big, it's your responsibility to fix your mistakes. If you're failing a class and are afraid to talk to the teacher - you NEED to talk to the teacher. Teachers are not only there to educate you, but to help you. If a student fears a teacher to the point where they can't talk to them about a bad grade - there is something really wrong there.

I am in a class right now where I fear my teacher. He's tough, he sticks to his rules, and he never really smiles. I would NEVER be afraid to talk to him if I was having a problem in his class though. He's awesome at teaching and his students really respect him. He is my example of a good teacher(and he's cute too! haha).
Anyway, you should never fear being able to talk to the teacher and if you do then you should let him/her know. That is something they should work on.
In the mean time, relax. It's your freshman year. Things will get better. Just like with your fellow peers/students; there will be those you get along with and those you don't, you'll just have to learn to survive.

By the way - one of my FAVORITE high school teachers I had for creative writing last year- she's taught college and was more difficult with her college students because she considered them to be more mature and wanting to be in school and assumed they would be more well behaved. Normally teachers are more relaxed when a class isn't required because it means the students actually want to be in it (for the most part anyway). So take a lot of really fun electives - the teachers are bound to be more easy going.

Ahh, and to hit on one other thing. You would think that because of the low pay, teachers would LOVE their jobs. That's not always the case though. There are the occasional teachers who are in it for the benefits of summers and most holidays off... which is screwed up but this is life and it isn't perfect. We just have to kind of deal with it.

Wow, sorry for such a long response. It's awesome if you've read all this.

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i'm 17 years old.. and i've never had cavities my whole life.
i never had any work done at the dentist's office. At my last check up i found out that i needed a couple of fillings done. and when i went to get them filled, i freaked out and wouldn't let them near my mouth. i've heard that fillings are not a big deal but i can't help it. it's been awhile since i found out i had cavities and i'm worried they might've gotten worse. Please dont give me any scary facts i just suppose i need a pep talk. haha.
thank you so much.

Hahah, I'm the SAME way! I've never liked the dentist. I used to never have cavities then one day it was like POOF.
My dentist tells me that I was born with naturally crappy enamel (the stuff that keeps your teeth nice) so I'll probably get a lot of cavities no matter how much I brush, floss, and use mouthwash.

Cavities really aren't that bad to get filled. The only part that still freaks me out is the sound of the tools they use. Lucky for me my dentist office relocated and they now have tv's in the office that you can watch as they work on your teeth.

If your dentist office doesn't have anything like that ask them if it would be okay to listen to your Ipod/CD player to keep your mind off of what they're doing. If not then just close your eyes, memorize a song before you go, and continuously repeat the lyrics in your head. That's what I used to do. If I couldn't see/hear/focus on what they were doing then I was okay.

What would be worse is if you don't let them fix the problem. Cavities suck and it's better to just get them filled and get them over with. I've probably had about 4 total teeth have cavities but because my enamel sucks, my teeth don't hold fillings well so they fall out and I have to get them re-filled. It's a real pain in the butt, but I'd rather get them filled then deal with the sensitivity and pain that results from the cavity.

Go to the dentist, don't concentrate on what's happening, and before you know it the procedure will be over.

I am seriously the best person to talk to about phobias because I have TONS of them. Clowns, shots/needles, I swear something lives under my bed/in my closet and WILL get me if I don't jump into my bed when it's light's out. I'm so strange and just let me know if you have any other worries, I can be of good help =].

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Do you believe that it is unnecessary for a parent to yell at their teenager when a friend is over for small things like not cleaning up their room or being late? I believe this only make the kid embaressed and the guest feel awkward. Wouldn't it be more sensible to just tell the child "We'll talk about this later?" I've been noticing this happening alot lately at my friend's houses, I was curious on everyones' opinions. 15/f.

My parents enjoy getting to discipline us in front of our friends because they "know" it embarasses us. In reality I don't think it embarasses the person that much - what it does, as you said, is makes their guest feel awkward. I hate it when I'm at a friends house and their parents start to get on them for something small right in front of me. I feel extremely uncomfortable and no longer enjoy going to said persons house.

Parents should really learn that it doesn't hurt your child emotionally as much as it makes their friend feel uncomfortable.

Parents, as with teachers, bosses, etc. should learn that the proper thing to do is discipline the person alone, not infront of others, that just makes things much worse.

That is only my opinion though.
S_C (17/f)

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I know how to cancel a myspace account..its just that I can't remember any info to get into them.

No email, no password. I could probably figure out the password if I had the email..but I don't.

If you search my name you can find these blank accounts(like four of them) and I don't want those up anymore.

I tried asking customer service but all I ever get back is an automated email type of response.

Can someone please help me? Its killing me to have those up.

Hmm, I'm not 100% on this, but since you don't have any answers on this I'll give it a shot.

Most websites will have a "forgot password" thing. A lot of times if you click on that it will say "forgot e-mail" or something like that. Then it allows you to type in your name and it will send you an e-mail to an alternate account.

It did that for me whe I had a bunch of extraneous e-mail addresses for yahoo.

I'm not sure if it will help for myspace (or if they have an option) but it's worth a shot to look for.

I had an extra myspace but I remembered the e-mail address so that wasn't an issue for me to delete.

I suppose you can continue your attempts at contacting their website management, eventually they will have to get rid of you. For now though, if your "extra myspace accounts" are blank, it isn't that big of a deal, they're just a waste of space. If they have info on them and aren't private then you'll probably want to constantly e-mail the customer service at myspace until you get a response. The more e-mails you put it, the more likely they are to see them and do something about it.

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I need some tips on adding people.

Such as who to add and who not to add.

What's going over the limit.

Is it ok for me to add some people that I don't really know in real life in Facebook?

For starters, only add people you KNOW!

Why add people you don't? Facebook is very personal. People see your full name, your school/network, etc. It isn't safe to add anybody that you don't know.

As long as you know them in person (or your friends or family know them in person) it would be okay to add them.

I don't see the point in adding anyone unless they're your friend those. Sites such as myspace and facebook should not be popularity contests; they should be ways to keep in touch with FRIENDS.

People wonder why kids get hunted down and searched because of their online profiles - it's not the websites fault, it's the fault of the person who gives personal information to those they don't know. Or they make it so those they don't know can easily access personal information.

The bottom line - don't add somebody if you don't know them.

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15/f sophmore
I'm thinking of joining one of the school plays or musicals. I have hardly any acting experience but I can sing very well and i think if I really tried I would have the potential to be a good actor. My dream has always been to play a lead role in a show. Do you honestly think this is possible for an inexperienced sophmore to work their way up and eventually get a lead? Do you think it's worth the hard work and dedication?

It is very possible to work your way up, especially if your school does musicals. Our school has a musical theatre class which is pretty cool. We also have the regular theater classes.
Usually the students in the classes at my school end up in the plays, but there are always open auditions (unless it's specifically a class project being performed for the entire school).

Even if you haven't had much experience you still have a chance. You could surprise yourself and be awesome at acting. Try out, you could get the lead this year, next year, senior year, or never. There are no small parts, only small actors. Try your hardest, work your best no matter what part you get, and above all else - have fun!

I LOVE acting and find it so much fun to escape reality and be someone else. To create a character and live their life, even for a short time, it's exciting. It has always been worth the work in my perspective. Have fun =] Good luck!

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I am a sophmore and thinking about colleges.

I'm just wondering...do you think I should get an SAT tutor now?

I'm a senior now and I was the same way.
My sophomore year my english teacher signed me up for the PSAT which was offered at our school. Our school offers it every year in October so, if your school is the same, it may have already passed. If not, sign up and take it.That will let you know where you stand. I did okay, somewhere around average or a little above. I took an SAT prep course that my school offered my junior year (We got a credit for it, just like a regular class). I took the psat once again (it was free and available to juniors and sophomores...) and did MUCH better. That January (about 10months ago)I took the actual SAT and did very well.

Your best bet is to take the PSAT to see where you stand. If your school offers SAT prep classes then I'd sign up for that too. It was VERY helpful for me. I wouldn't go for a tutor unless you've taken the practice tests and done badly on them. Unless you've done poorly they aren't worth the money.

Your next step is to figure out what colleges you're interested in, look at the criteria to get in, and take the necessary courses, partake in the clubs, etc.

It's REALLY good that you're already thinking about colleges. If you're smart enough then I also suggest taking honors courses. It will make you look so much better, even if you only get a B in them. I took honors classes my sophomore year and this year I'm taking honors and AP courses. It makes you look really awesome to colleges. I actually regret not taking the honors classes my junior year.

Study hard, concentrate on your acedemics, clubs, etc. Have fun too though. You only get to be a high school student for a short amount of time. Trust me, if I could go back and relive high school I'd do it in a heartbeat. Even with all the drama, fights, annoying teachers, etc.

Good luck!

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i have to write a research paper for my english class. the topic i chose was gay marriage and i'm for it. does anyone know any sites i can go to to look up information on this?

please & thanks :]

http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_marr.htm

http://www.samesexmarriage.ca/equality/ten_reasons.htm

http://www.enotalone.com/article/4358.html (this seems like a good one, it talks about gay marriage in history...)

http://civilliberty.about.com/od/gendersexuality/a/marriageamend.htm

Just remember that a lot of these are opinions and research papers are supposed to be fact. I don't see how you could have a research paper on same-sex marriage, it just doesn't make any sense.

Are you sure it's not a pro/con paper or something like that? Especially if you have to take a side...

If this were a research paper you would be giving facts, showing both sides of the issue, etcetera, you wouldn't be choosing a side and writing about it. Not that I'm saying you're wrong, and not to sound conceited, but I'm pretty good at writing and my specialties are research papers - this just doesn't make sense as a topic.

Anyway, I hope some of those links help.
You can easily google "pro same sex marriage" or "same sex marriage". Remember not to use wikipedia, it can be changed by anybody and is not a reliable source.
Good luck.

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I'm not sure if this is an important question but on myspace, is there a code to get rid of the orange writing that says about me and who i'd like to meet. This code would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

This should be a direct link to the chode you want
http://myspace-crash-codes.com/blog/codes/hide-section-headings

If not, then maybe it's this...
http://myspace-crash-codes.com/blog/codes/hide-orange-bar/

Otherwise, just go the original website http://www.myspace-crash-codes.com/ or to http://www.myspace-crash-codes.com/blog/codes

It will give you a bunch of other codes you can use. I love the site and it helped me with my myspace!

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Can someone go to this person's Myspace profile, and tell me how the navigation bar is like that? Is there a code for it, or is it something someone coded? How do you code things like that, free-handed and how long would it take to develop skills like that to code stuff? ^.^; Thanks

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=212409055&MyToken=5c498357-7922-446d-b4d3-c77fcdd21ec3

Here is a direct link to what [I think] you want. http://myspace-crash-codes.com/blog/contact-buttons

Also, the site in general http://www.myspace-crash-codes.com/ is REALLY amazing for any myspace codes you could want. I use it all the time and I LOVE the way my myspace looks. I would show you mine, but it's private...

Anyway, it's an awesome site and has pretty much anything you could want.

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Okay so I'm trying to record tonight's Gossip Girl. I have cablevision iO. So what I did was I went into the channel guide and I went to channel 11 and to Gossip Girl. I pressed the red button on my remote, and then the session highlighted in red, and next to the information, it said REC in red letters. I've tried recording shows on my TV before, and so while it's recording, I can't change the channel. I'm pretty sure it was actually recording. When it's done, I don't know where to go to watch it. I don't know if I have DVR, so I'm not sure. Do I have to have DVR? Or is there some channel I can go to to watch the shows I record?

I thought I had DVR because I went to record something and it said it was recording.

Later I found out that I was supposed to have a blank DVD or VHS in somewhere for it to record on to...

So, if you have DVR then there will be a button on your remote control for you to go find your recorded show. If not, then you, like me, were probably supposed to have something to record it on to and just didn't know.

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14/f.
I'm afraid I may be having panic or anxiety attacks.
I'm not sure though.,. It usually happens at home, once a week, or once every two weeks. I feel like I'm choking, and I have to work to breathe, I'm usually crying, though not always, and my chest will hurt, but not to the point of it being unbearable. My stomach usually will feel as if its "lurching" or idk, like on a roller coaster when you feel as if you've lost your stomach, that feeling. That's mostly all that happens, and it usually happens after my brother and I fight, I mean physically fight, or my grandmother and I get in an argument. Though it did happen once when I was frightened at night because of a scary movie I had seen, and once more when I thought about the future and my life. If I miss a lot of school and think about all the work I have to make up then I will feel as if my throat is closing and have to work to breathe, but I never lose my breath completely. I'm just looking for help on what is happening to me, and how to prevent it. Sorry for the length.

I'm going to tell you straight up that 99% of users on this website aren't doctors and even those who are can't tell you what is wrong without physically examining you.

There are tons of things that could be causing whatever this is and there are probably tons of things that this could be.

Your best option is to visit your doctor, explain your symptoms to him/her and let them check it out. They will be able to better inform you on what is going on with your body and can hopefully treat whatever it may be.

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This is so embarrassing but, I have a bad odor "down there" and I wanted to go to the doctor. Is this a common problem for girls that you would see a doctor for? And do I have to go to a gyno or can I go to a regular doctor and what would they do about it and determine if I have an infection or something?

It kind of depends. Is the bad odor followed by any pain? If there is any pain whatsoever and an unpleasant odor than you will probably be better off visiting your regular doctor (who, if necessary, can refer you to a gyno) or a gyno if you already have one...

If it's just the odor than I would call the doctors office/gyno office and tell them that it is just an odor, no pain or any other symptoms, and if they think an appt. is necessary.

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ok well im stumped about christmas ideas...he isnt into much stuff.


i got an idea of what to get him
does this sound ok?
i was thinking a cute little teddy bear with a picture frame in the middle that will have a picture of us.
&&
also maybe a little gift basket with candies in it.
sound ok or no?

i feel bad tho because he's gonna be going all out and spending tons of money and i dont have a job so i dont got much.
PLEASE HELP :D

That sounds really cute.

Plus, if he's into sports, you can always buy him a shirt/jersey/hat, etc. of his favorite team.

Honestly though, your idea sounsd more like something a guy would do gor a girl...

You could find out his favorite band and get him a shirt or CD, etc.

You could do a lot more things too; only you knows what he likes which means that only you can pick out the perfect gift (if there is such a thing).

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Ok i went to the mall with some of my friends and some of these girls from the school i go to (cause i went to one school and had to switch) saw me and were pointing and laughing at me and my friends and i didnt know why and my friends were yelling at them and telling them to stop and stuff but yeah does anyone know why they might have been doing this and by the way i've never talked to any of these girls before but i do have some classes with them

How could we possibly tell you what is going on in the mind of people we don't know? Think about it for a second. You tell us that a bunch of girls that you don't hang out at were laughing at you and your friends; next you ask us why...

Hm, there are SO many possibilities here.
You had something in your teeth, your hair was messed up, your dress was tucked into your underwear, they don't like you and found some idiotic reason to make fun of you for humor purposes, etc.

Do you see how insane it is to ask complete strangers why someone would make fun of you.

I'm not saying it's morally okay, but it is human nature to judge others. People with low self-esteem can boost their self-esteem by hurting other people to make themselves feel good. I'm not really sure how that works, but it does.

There is NO possible way for anyone other than the people laughing at you to know why you were being laughed at. If it bothers you that much then don't be afraid to politely confront them and ask them what their problem is!

Also, next time, don't stoop down to their level and yell back and make fun of them. It's petty and immature. Making fun of others won't get you anywhere in life and it is best that you learn that lessen sooner rather than later.

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I want to know every detail of women and women have sex. With out a dildo!

I am Bi-curious

There is no question here. You are simply informing us that you are a girl who is interested in other girls.

There is honestly no point to this post.

Now, if you were to say "I'm a girl who is bi-curious; I'd like some info, where could I get some?" then this would be a semi-decent question.

Now, if you want some information just type whatever questions you have into google and there will be a plethora of websites for you to visit and learn about.

Because of the underage users on this website we do not promote giving any sort of detailed/explicit sex advice to users. So, simply go to google and type in "bi-curious female" or something along those lines and wa-la, you will find more information than you could have ever imagined.

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at my school we have to make stamp addressed envelopes for the teachers that are writing our letter of recommendation. for the colleges address should i write the colleges name above the address?
like i'm applying to boston college so would i put

Boston College Admissions Office
140 Commonwealth Avenue, Devlin Hall 208
Chestnut Hill, MA 02467-3809

or just the address?

i know its stupid details but please help me

Put the college name also.

I had just put my letter of recommendation inside a bigger envelope with my transcript and copied everything the school put on the address of the transcript (which included the name of the school).

Even if you don't have to (which I'm not 100% on) it just seems to be one of those "better safe than sorry" situations.

Besides, when you write somebody, you put their name there, not just the address. So it makes sense that when you send something into a college you put the name there, not just the address. That's kind of the way I looked at it.

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why is running in the cold better than running in hot weather?

I would think that if you were to run in hotter weather you would become more hot, dehydrated, etc. a lot quicker. Plus, if it's cooler when you run than you minimize the amount you sweat and such. Although, I always thought sweating was a good thing [whenever I'm sick I'm told to "sweat it out"].

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I noticed you had answered a question on abuse and I wanted to ask one of my own. I've been dating my boyfriend for one year and almost a month now. Hes 17 & I'm 15. We had a really wonderful relationship for the first 3-4 months of our relationship. Then we began to argue about the dumbest stuff and were constantly at eachothers throats. We both drink and we would constantly get into horrible yelling fights when we got drunk. One night, he was drunk and while I was saying goodbye to him he began to hit me. I can't remember exactly why it started but I remember everything he did to me and I know I hit him back. It was terrible. Eventually he left and the next morning for some stupid reason - I forgave him. He promised it would never happen again. But sure enough, abou 3-5 weeks later ... it happened again. Except this time I believe it was worse. This time, I told him this was the end. And again, I gave him another chance. This past weekend, while me/him/a bunch of my friends were hiding out in my friends basement because we had been drinking and his dad came home, he started to do little things like he was trying to control me. He kept pulling me up even though I wanted to sit and attempted to bend back my finger because I wasn't listening to him. That just set me off. I began crying and I told my two close girlfriends about everything and they told me the truth-I shouldn't be with him. He talked to my guy firends about it and got really angry. Everything was a complete mess. Well of course, I'm still with him. I know hes hit me/choked me/punched me and yet I'm still with him. He told my guyfriends about what he did, but he lied. He said all he did was punch me the first time, which is complete bs. Hes controlling, he has a terrible temper and hes always out ot try and make himself look perfect. But I just can't get enough courage to tell him I cant take it anymore. To make matters worse, I've even given my virginity to him. I feel emotionally/phyisically attached to him. But I can't go living like this. I can't stand the constant fights, the lieing, fake promises and forgiving him for hitting me twice. I know I should go, but I just cant do it. Thank you so much for the help.

You NEED to get out of this relationship. There is absolutely nothing to gain out of being with this boy. He has anger issues and needs help which he may or may not be able to receive. If you continue to stay with him things are only going to get worse. You say that he told his buddies that he ONLY punched you. Let me tell you something, even if all he did was punch you, that is something BIG. Whether it is physical or emotional it is still abuse and is still much more destructive than you think.
You are young and should not be going through this. Nobody should ever have to go through being apart of an abusive relationship. It isn't worth the pain you are suffering for the one or two moments of joy. There are so many other guys that could treat you so much better.

You need to not only dump him, but tell someone. A teacher, parent, councilor, anyone. You are going to need some kind of help to get past this emotionally and he will need help to control his anger and emotions and to find out why he behaves the way he does. If you do not get out of this relationship he could end up KILLING you! I know you don't want that!

I understand that you say you just can't do it, but if you don't you are putting your life at stake. What happens if one day he gets so upset that he just keeps on hitting you until he kills you. This relationship isn't worth your time or energy.

I do not know the number, but if you google it I'm sure you can find the national hotline for abuse. You may be young but they can still help you get out of this relationship. You will probably want to go to the police and take out a restraining order on him. One of my good friends was raped by her boyfriend, they go to the same school and she was still able to get a restraining order against him so they could not get within a certain distance of each other. Personally I'm not so sure how much it helps because all it is is a piece of paper - but it's one step in the right direction.

Do not allow this to happen. You need to tell someone and call the police so he can't do this to you or anyone else ever again.

GET HELP! If you don't then you may not come out of this relationship alive!

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