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Mean Teachers
Why are highschool teachers so mean?
This is my first year of highschool and i found out that most of them don't care about a lot of things and the way they say it makes them sound so cold and mean.
Like one teacher was really nice and then she yelled at this girl because she accidently did something wrong and said sorry. "This is highschool, you fix the problem! You don't just say SORRY and then it's all better!"
And then i hear a lot of people complaining about university teachers and some teachers tell like some bad things about their university teachers when they were in university. And that they don't care.
I'm just really wondering why? I'm a very sensitive persona nd I'm just really, really not used to it. I almsot cried because i got in trouble for the most random littliest things!
Are people just nice but as they get higher to high shcool and University they get mean and cold or something? Is it because THEIR teachers rub it off of them?
Is that even allowed in all schools? Or is the fact that we need more teachers are true and they just hire anybody?
If the point of school is to become successful people, you need help from teachers. Shouldn't the people really be picky about their personality to hire teachers for school?
What about the kids who are failing? Obviously they won't ask the teacher for help if they're really mean!
I'm really sorry to put thsi up, maybe I should copy all this on a peice of paper and give it to a random person in the school or something but I'm really scared to do that and i'm just hoping atleast some of you guys can answer even a few of these things I'm having trouble with.
Thank you.
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Here's some bad news... the teachers you'll have in high school are the best ones you'll ever have. Teachers in high school are educated in the field they're teaching (usually) and they have gone to teacher's college, so you know they want to be teachers.
When you get to university, you're a number. Your name ceases to exist in their eyes. Forget interest in teaching: most of them are only there for the research funding. You have to rely on yourself and your friends for success in school, not your teachers.
Your high school teachers are just trying to wean you guys off of the "help me, teacher!" mentality. You need to learn to be more independent (and less sensitive) in order to make it on your own... and if they need to be a little harsh in order to do that, well, so be it.
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Wow, not all high school teachers are mean, not even by a long shot. I have had some of the most amazing teacher in my high school life and some of the eh, not so great kind. They've never been that bad unless we've deserved it.
Think of it this way:
These teachers have a minimum of 3 classes to teach with around 20-30 students in each. About half of the students in each class are disrespectful, act out, rude, lazy, etc. These teacher have so much stuff to deal with that they won't always be a block of sunshine.
Some teachers overreact about things (I got an after school detention for throwing a piece of trash across the room into the trash can.) I've also gotten ASD for taking a water bottle and splashing someone with it - that was well deserved on my part (and well worth it!).
It is up to us, the students, to be responsible for our education. If we don't understand something we need to speak up. Teachers aren't mind readers, no matter how much we want them to be.
Whether your teacher was right or wrong in how she said it to you - it is high school and you should fix your own problems. When you're in lower grades your teachers coddle you. They are working on your self-confidence. If you messed up back then saying sorry was enough - but it's not always going to be that way. Sorry doesn't always cut it, no matter how much we want it to.
There were two teachers that I used to think were really mean and I just couldn't stand. One of them really bugged me so I pretty much did my best to make her life (at school anyway) horrible. I would roll my eyes, talk back, ignore her as she spoke to me, etc. It took me a while to learn that she really did care about her students and that she really wanted them to succeed. That was my freshman year. I'm a senior and she is one of my favorite teachers ever! See how things change when you get another perspective? The other teacher - I couldn't stand. She let me see the "Behind-the-scenes" of being a teacher. I saw all the crap she had to put up with when it came to the school board, how unfairly the teachers in her department were treated, how the students treated her, etc. It's three years later and we are still pretty tight. I consider her my "cool big sister". (She even invited me to her wedding last year).
I have never once gotten punished for anything I didn't deserve. I either lipped off, broke the rules, etc. Small or big, it's your responsibility to fix your mistakes. If you're failing a class and are afraid to talk to the teacher - you NEED to talk to the teacher. Teachers are not only there to educate you, but to help you. If a student fears a teacher to the point where they can't talk to them about a bad grade - there is something really wrong there.
I am in a class right now where I fear my teacher. He's tough, he sticks to his rules, and he never really smiles. I would NEVER be afraid to talk to him if I was having a problem in his class though. He's awesome at teaching and his students really respect him. He is my example of a good teacher(and he's cute too! haha).
Anyway, you should never fear being able to talk to the teacher and if you do then you should let him/her know. That is something they should work on.
In the mean time, relax. It's your freshman year. Things will get better. Just like with your fellow peers/students; there will be those you get along with and those you don't, you'll just have to learn to survive.
By the way - one of my FAVORITE high school teachers I had for creative writing last year- she's taught college and was more difficult with her college students because she considered them to be more mature and wanting to be in school and assumed they would be more well behaved. Normally teachers are more relaxed when a class isn't required because it means the students actually want to be in it (for the most part anyway). So take a lot of really fun electives - the teachers are bound to be more easy going.
Ahh, and to hit on one other thing. You would think that because of the low pay, teachers would LOVE their jobs. That's not always the case though. There are the occasional teachers who are in it for the benefits of summers and most holidays off... which is screwed up but this is life and it isn't perfect. We just have to kind of deal with it.
Wow, sorry for such a long response. It's awesome if you've read all this.
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Some teachers like their jobs, some don’t. Some would like their jobs but are so overworked and pressured they spend more time fighting the board then doing their job. Some are just bad at their job.
There are good teachers, and there are bad ones. Just like there are good doctors and bad ones or good plumbers and bad ones! Even thee good ones make mistakes and aren’t even necessarily ‘nice’.
This is real world love, a lot of people are not good at their jobs, but you actually have to be pretty damn bad to get fired.
However, I think it’s really, really important that you realize no teacher is responsible for you education, your personality or your success as a human being. YOU ARE.
That is what the teacher who told your friend to fix the problem meant. Her delivery might have sucked but her message is true. When you are younger you are praised and rewarded for trying and apologies are good enough. In the real world, apologies aren’t always enough. You have to go out and fix the damn problem.
In high school and college you are rewarded for being successful. Frankly, they don’t care HOW you become successful. Just that you do it.
If you can’t approach one teacher about doing poorly in their class, find another that you can approach. Ask a friend. Ask a counselor. Ask a parent. Ask a principal. Ask a tutor. Solve the problem.
You are responsible for your education and learning. Not them. Some of them will do their best to help you, others wont. That doesn’t change who is really responsible.
This world is filed with people, family members, partners, friends, co-workers, bosses who we DON’T like and who SUCK at what they do. Dealing with them, and supporting yourself in spite of them, is the key to being a mature responsible adult.
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Not all high school teachers are mean. I saw this the other day, and I thought I'd share it with you. Read the first reply and then the ninth one down.
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