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Yelling infront of friends.
Do you believe that it is unnecessary for a parent to yell at their teenager when a friend is over for small things like not cleaning up their room or being late? I believe this only make the kid embaressed and the guest feel awkward. Wouldn't it be more sensible to just tell the child "We'll talk about this later?" I've been noticing this happening alot lately at my friend's houses, I was curious on everyones' opinions. 15/f.
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I think the key word is "yelling". If the parent is indeed raising their voice and criticizing their child in front of one of their guests, then my assumption is that the parent is intending to shame them. Ask yourself if this is where the feelings of discomfort on your part are coming from.
It's not so much the request, it's the tone and respect conveyed in the request. A parent has the right (even the responsibility) to demand respect, but part of that is modeling it, too.
If a parent is throwing out a casual, friendly-toned "Remember to get to your room at some point, 'kay?" --that is reasonably respectful. Anything further (as you said) can be handled later.
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My parents enjoy getting to discipline us in front of our friends because they "know" it embarasses us. In reality I don't think it embarasses the person that much - what it does, as you said, is makes their guest feel awkward. I hate it when I'm at a friends house and their parents start to get on them for something small right in front of me. I feel extremely uncomfortable and no longer enjoy going to said persons house.
Parents should really learn that it doesn't hurt your child emotionally as much as it makes their friend feel uncomfortable.
Parents, as with teachers, bosses, etc. should learn that the proper thing to do is discipline the person alone, not infront of others, that just makes things much worse.
That is only my opinion though.
S_C (17/f)
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i do believe your right, it would be much more classy to simply say we will talk about this later instead of making the guest feel akward standing there while the friend gets yelled at
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