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My name is Erin.
I'm almost 16 [17 days!]
I love this site so much, I always ask a billion questions on advicenators and I do my best to answer as many as I can too.
Most of the time when answering questions
I give you my opinion,
then I go through different senarios [2 or 3] that are on each side of the issue
So ask away :)

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I'm in a long distance relationship, I want to end it. I haven't been happy for over a month, the distance isn't for me, and now it's interfering with my grades in college.

The guy I'm with is extremely emotional & I KNOW he'll cry/be upset for ages. (It took him over 2 yrs to get over his ex!) If I talk to him via the phone, he might possibly be able to suck me back in as he always does. But I'm tired of feeling bad for him, and I need some advice on how to not back down on my decision once he starts crying. I will feel bad, I do have some feelings for him, but I really KNOW in my heart that breaking up is the best decision for me.

I guess what I'm asking is..is phone the best way to do it? My friends suggested email, which I honestly would prefer, but he's very, VERY close with his parents, and I know my email would be shown to them. And knowing him, he might even ask them to contact my parents to try and talk me out of the break up. Yes, I am actually scared. I'm considering telling him that I'm moving so he thinks my address is different, and won't show up on my doorstep. You'd think we're 12 year olds, but he's 22, and I'm 19.

I KNOW he will have an emotional breakdown. Ah, I just really need advice on what to do? I want to this as soon as possible. I also don't know how to bring it up, we talk everyday. Should I start not talking to him as often, and then eventually do it? Please help!!

You have to be distant, as much as his pain will hurt you, you need to be thinking of you.
Talking to him on the phone will be better so you know your private email will not be shown all over. Tell him that you need this and if he cares about you he'll see this isnt working for eaither of you and that it.
Good luck and i know its hard!

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The all american rejects song, gives you hell... Well I dont understand the music video at all. The song, yeah it makes sense, the girl is stupid and highclass and left him or something and he's like whatever. But in the video, its the preppy girls husband telling the guy that he hopes he misses him. Are they gay or do they have it backwards or what haha?

the music video is more about giving the other nieghboor hell, its a funny thing to watch and doesn't have much to do with the song.
and the twist at the end is the slut goes with the nice guy and the nice girl goes with the slut guy.

the song is about a breakup where the guy kinda misses the girl but he just hopes that shes misserable about the fact that he dated her because hes upset about the break up.

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OK well I'm 16/f and I have a new boyfriend who I really like and both of us are really happy to be together. The problem is that we don't go to the same school so that really limits the frequency of us being able to see eachother. I wish I could see him more, but the fact is that I can't because there are certain things, like going to his house alone, that my parents are probably not exactly okay with. I haven't told them that we are dating, because I don't know how they will react. I'm not sure if that would make them more reluctant to letting us see eachother because they'll think something will happen between us, or if it will give me more freedom to date him. My parents are reasonable but still strict. The thing is that my boyfriend is really missing me and making it clear that he really wants to see me. I don't want him to be really upset that we can't see eachother more. I just need some advice on how to make this work in the long run, for both of us. Thank you :)

go out with a group of people, and have his friends meet up with your friends, be honest with your parents about guys being with you and your friends, but u dno't need to go into detail aout your boyfriend. While out you and your boyfriend can possible seperate from the group a bit. My best friend is in a similar situation and we do this for her alot.

hope it works

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Hi today i had a brown discharge i havent had sex and im 13yrs old is there something wrong with me??

Thanks in Advance

That sounds like a possible infection,
as embarrising as it it... you need to see the doctor to be sure
Just remember they deal with these kinda things all the time and its there job

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what kind of writing/drawing utensil is used to draw this:
http://smee.flaming-monk.org/art/leaf.jpg

It looks like a fine tip pen

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im a girl and im 16 and i wanna try to lose some weight and get more toned but i dont really know where to start. i love to run but my doctor say that i shouldnt run because i have a knee problem. so i was thinking yoga an palaties because i have heard great things about them but i dont really know what they are. what schold i do??

Eatting Right is where to start.
Eatting right doesn't do it alone though, palaties will keep you toned also you won't be flabby when you lose weight from eatting right.
Yoga is more of stretching and relaxation of the mind and body blah blah blah
for weight loss at 16, palaties are the way to go.

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my skin usually isnt too bad, but i tend to get pimples that are like under my skin if you know what i mean
you can't really see them unless you get a close look, but they sort of make my skin red

so basically whats the best type of acne cleaning product for this?
i heard things with the sand beads in them are really good but i couldn't find any in stores


thank you!

The Clean&Clear Blackhead Eraser acctually works very well for acne under the skin as well.
Also if you don't want to spend the money on that
I use and Love the Clean&Clear blackhead clearing scrub
http://www.shopcleanandclear.com/detail/CNC+BLACK+5

It has the beads in it and overall gives your face a pretty glow

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I'm not sure wether to trust internet or not so can anyone tell me if I should purchase these or not? And I would like to know if they are the real uggs. Some people say there is a way to tell by looking at the back where it says uggs. Here is the site for them:


http://www.popsneakers.com/women-classic-tall-uggsand-p-874.html

Looking at that boot doesn't help determin if they are real or not.
Pictures can come from anywhere on the internet, especially a hot selling item like UGGs.
You're better off buying them from UGGaustraillia.com and paying a little more this way you know they are legit.

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14/f

Ok I have this boyfriend and we just started going out. We haven't held hands or anything yet. We sit by each other and if we do hold hands I'm kinda afraid too because I get so nervous and my hands get all sweaty...its not like really bad but its only cause I'm nervous. Its kinda gross to me but it could be worse. Is there anything I can do about this? I get more comfortable after awhile but my hands still are a little sweaty. Please help. Thanks!

Carry around a little bottle of purelle or any handsanitizer/lotion
This way when you get nervous, you can use it which gets away the sweat and if your hands are still a little wet, everyone thinks its hnad creme

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For homecoming I'm designing my own dress but can't figure out what is a good top half that will flatter my boobs.... I know ruffles do the trick (thank you Ouran High School Host Club) but I want something else because I can have the bottom and top be ruffly. Any other ideas?? :(( I need to know soon because if I go home I have a TON of Seventeen magazines that I know have good ideas. Too bad I need to know by today or tomorrow or the next day at least before the 25th.
Thanks please help

deep v necklines help give a nice shape to the shape-less, most of the time they are fitted under the bust, and make your own natural self bust out a bit more
be careful if you buy a mirical bra or anything, falling out, katty girls noticing your sudden growth, guys being jerks, all can ruin a good night
hope i helped

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Hey I was wondering does toning your body make you look bigger? I want to gain weight and look bigger but I am very unfit so I want to be healthy too. I have Celiac Disease so it is hard to gain weight with fast-food and junk food because I can't eat most of it, and it is hard to work out because I'm unfit and get tired easier.

Ok, so basically, can someone tell me what does toning do to your body and will it help in my situation? Also, what are some other ways to gain weight (I don't care if it is muscle or fat, I just want to put on those kilos!!)

toning is more for your musles when you lose wieght so your not flabby, if your gaining wait thou, toining will make it nicer rather then just flabby fat.
instead of eatting junk u should eat pasta and carbs, they put on weight and give you energy
hope i helped

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Its been awhile since me and troy my best friend have seen each other, and we made plans to hang out. We have know each other for 5 years and we have been unseperable since then; until I moved 5 moths ago to attend UC San Diego. He lives in La and he wanted to pay me a visit yesterday. He arrived early in the morning, luckily, we are getting ready for finals so we didn't have class and my room mates were gone for the weekend. When he arrived, it was weird, but it felt like it always did, i had butterflies in my stomach and when he hugged me i felt like the world had disappeared, and it was just me and him in this universe. He laughed and wanted to go inside. I showed him the apartment, went grocery shopping to make some breakfast and we hold hands, it was weird because he had a girlfriend, I tried not to think about it and I just enjoyed his company. When we arrived back we cooked, he made waffles and eggs and i made hash browns and bacon. It was the cutest thing ever. I have never felt that comfortable with him. We talked for hours and hours, and when silences would occur we would just laugh and start new conversation. Once it got late, I sighed. I didn't want him to leave, it had been a while since were together, He noticed and gave me one of his bear like hugs. I was his perfect size, my head fit perfectly under his chin, I wrapped my arms around him and he gently put his chin on the top of my head. After couple of minutes, I looked up and stared into his deep brown eyes, His eyes were full of sincerity and love, he pulled a little forward and his lips were inches away from mine. I couldn't resist and reached for his lips and gave him a tiny peck. I broke away from his arms even though I never wanted to leave his embrace. He pulled me to him once again and kissed me. he tasted so sweet, I let him search my mouth with his lips. His kiss grew passionate and before you know it we were both grasping for air. he led me to my room and we continued to make love. That morning, i woke up in his arms, I smiled at him and he reached for me. he told me he wasn't going to let go.... he left a couple of minutes ago, I miss him terribly. i don't know what to do... I need advice do you think he will leave his girlfriend to be with me? umm.. His girlfriend is my friend. I know it will hurt her a lot. But I'm hurting... am i being selfish?

even though you and troy have amazing chemistry, you have to keep in mind what he did was wrong.
It's not selfish to want him, you can't help it. But you have to be careful how you act around his girlfriend if they do break up n you and troy get together,
Needless to say you should talk to him about his girlfriend even though thats going to be hard
hope it works out, he sounds amazing

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18/f
so i'm not really clear on the definition of
"getting felt up" im sure there is no exact definition but what is the concept? because guys have like grabbed my butt, and like rubbed it? rubbed my stomach and my boobs and stuff like that. is that considered being felt up?

basically thats it.
like when your making out with a boy and his hands wander up your shirt to your chest, thats being felt up

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i realized something...and i know you all will probably say just be yourself, but the thing is im not that funny or outgoing enough to be myself around new people. its very strange...if im not intimidated by someone or if i dont want to really impress them, then i can be myself and i end up being pretty funny and they like me. i can be a hit in a group pf people that , i dont wannna say it like this, but in a group of people i feel superior to...not really superior...but thats the only word i can think of. like if i feel i dont need to make a good impression, i usually do.
problem is i cant do that with everyone, especially people im nervous around, or i feel will judge me. not that i care what they think. at least i dont think i do. but idk when im with funny people that are super outgoing i tend to hang back...or i dont know what to say. i feel that whatever i say will be lame, and i dont have the courage to say it. and when i do, it ussually IS lame. i have such a hard time opening up to people that i dont know. why is that? truth is im just not that funny but i hold back a lot too and so i end up looking boring in a big group... my voice get lost in the crowd, and i usually have to repeat things twice before anyone hears me...
can anyone help me out on this with some insight. if youre outgoing, please tell me what do you do to be a success in a big group of funny people?
THANKS!!!!! =)

i tend to do the same thing,

but you have to relize about saying things infront of that other gruop of people, they say stupid things too, but you don't remeber the stupid ones, you remember the funny ones,
Babe ruth is a good example if you know baseball at all, he was the homerun king, and thats what he'll always be remembered for, but he acctually struck out more then he hit home runs
so just talk, even if u sound lame, they only remeber the funny ones

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I'm looking for some beachy sounding music. Slightly more modern than the Beach Boys, the song Ocean Avenue by Yellowcard it exactly what I'm looking for. Know any good songs or bands that sound similar?

The band Boys Like Girls
is great for a feel good time at the beach
me and my sister always blast them in the car on the way down to the water

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I am 16 years old, i weigh about 153, although its mostly in my boobs. I dont look like i weigh that much, but i do. I think it evens out well.

But, i do have some love handles and i could lose a couple pounds

I have a treadmill, and i am starting to use it. I want to do sit ups as well. I am not going to eat after 8pm, maybe something small if i do. And i am going to drink 8-10 glasses of water a day

Now, my question is...with this info and you can add some things. what would a good workout plan be for this? such as, how manytimes a week, how many sit ups, ect.

I eat healthy, so i dont need help with that :]

Thanks!

start your day an hour or so earlier and go on the tredmill in the morning 30 minutes to an hour.. work your way up for longer, eat a breakfast then your normal routine,
the next day work out with wieghts, so when u lose your not flabby, do that in the morning again too

the trick to the mornings is it starts your motabalism earlier

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I feel so sad, sometimes I am in bed and I just start crying. I feel like the only thing I have to look forward to is my boyfriend. My dad left us a year ago and now he still tries to contact me and come back but I don't need no more drama in my life its best if he stays away! My sister is moving out. Me and my mom are not financially stable. I hate my job. I am trying to apply to school but there are some things in my way. I need to know how to fix this feeling. How do i wake up and feel good. I wake up with no motivation, no happiness. I wake up and I think "Great I have to go to work again and I wont be seeing my bf for another 3 days" What do I do, please help me I don't want to feel depressed!

Try working out, or doing something physical like dancing
Activities like that can really help get feelings and emotions out in a heathy way. also eatting right has a huge effect on your attitude, giving your body good food makes it feel good
Also make sure you get sleep.

Crying alot is normal, your body is reacting to the mental stress.. working out should help this
Explain to your dad that now is not the time to be trying to come in your life, tell him to give you time to sort things out and maybe in a while you can deal with that
Make sure you stay in touch with your sister
Try just looking around for other jobs, you never know what you'll find
And trick you can use about your boyfriend is to think about it in an excited way, "ohh i can't wait to see my b.f in 3 days"

i really hope things turn around for you!
good luck and keep going

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15/f
in 8th grade all i did was straighten my hair.. & in 9th grade all i did was scrunch my hair.. haha i've now realized how bad it is for your hair so i haven't been doing anything to my hair besides a bit of gel and hairspray.. from the past my hair is split, dry and frizzy. what can i do? btw whats worse scrunching or straightening your hair?

pantene pro v has amazing products for dry and damaged hair,
i color and daily straiten my hair and its really helped

straiting your hair is alot worse because your burning it

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How do you put a different picture on your profile. Like you're default is "picture no. 1" and you want your friends seeing that one..but on your page you want "picture no.2" HOw do you do that? thanks in advance.

you can't have a different default picture on your page then anywhere else.

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Does anyone know where i can get some nice Christmas wallpapers for my desktop? Thanks! :)

Photobucket.com has some great images, you don't need an account with them to use the pictures eaither

simply go to the home page,
type christmas wallpapers in the search tool
and brows through thousands of backrounds instantly.

when you do find an image you want,
click on it to bring up a bigger version of it, then right click on the image and save it

hope i helped :]

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