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outgoing/funny people- i need help
i realized something...and i know you all will probably say just be yourself, but the thing is im not that funny or outgoing enough to be myself around new people. its very strange...if im not intimidated by someone or if i dont want to really impress them, then i can be myself and i end up being pretty funny and they like me. i can be a hit in a group pf people that , i dont wannna say it like this, but in a group of people i feel superior to...not really superior...but thats the only word i can think of. like if i feel i dont need to make a good impression, i usually do.
problem is i cant do that with everyone, especially people im nervous around, or i feel will judge me. not that i care what they think. at least i dont think i do. but idk when im with funny people that are super outgoing i tend to hang back...or i dont know what to say. i feel that whatever i say will be lame, and i dont have the courage to say it. and when i do, it ussually IS lame. i have such a hard time opening up to people that i dont know. why is that? truth is im just not that funny but i hold back a lot too and so i end up looking boring in a big group... my voice get lost in the crowd, and i usually have to repeat things twice before anyone hears me...
can anyone help me out on this with some insight. if youre outgoing, please tell me what do you do to be a success in a big group of funny people?
THANKS!!!!! =)
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i tend to do the same thing,
but you have to relize about saying things infront of that other gruop of people, they say stupid things too, but you don't remeber the stupid ones, you remember the funny ones,
Babe ruth is a good example if you know baseball at all, he was the homerun king, and thats what he'll always be remembered for, but he acctually struck out more then he hit home runs
so just talk, even if u sound lame, they only remeber the funny ones
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Honestly what I do is I don't think about impressing them and being just as funny, I just kind of chill with them and if I think of something to say I say it. Don't think about making an impression b/c then you will just freak yourself out. HOnestly, I know how annoying it is when ppl to say just be yourself. All you have to do is just look for ways to add stuff. You know you are funny and outgoing, and let that show through, w/o being intimidated, b/c if you show you are intimidated by thinking it, others will pick up on it too. Just act the way you do around the ppl you feel most comfortable and see how that goes.
Good luck, let me know if you need anything else :)
<3 Jeannie
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