is it true that after 16 a girl stops growing?? if this is not true then what age it is?
Completely untrue. I'm 21 and still growing. It's not just height, it's everything that continues to grow. Your body will be changing in some way for the rest of your life.
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I'm 14 and i still haven't started my period. Is there something wrong with me? all my friends in the locker room talk about it sometimes (which is just a little akward when you really haven't experienced it.) i mean i know what happens and how people deal with it, but it just hasn't happened. One of my friends started in 5th grade!
Is this normal?
Stress can cause your period to be late. You should not add the stress of "Is there something wrong with me" to your life. No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
I have an aunt that didn't start until she was 16. Even later in life is not bad. Don't be ashamed that you haven't started yet, and don't let anyone tell you that it's abnormal that you haven't started yet.
Mother's can be excellent sources of information when it comes to this stuff. I know it might be embarrassing, but chances are that she wants to be able to talk freely about this stuff with you. That's one of the wonderful things that mother's are there for. -womanly advice.
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OK... I just wanted to see if anyone else has heard of this or knows what it is...
On my upper inner left thigh ther are these really strange marks. They look liek branches and kind of like scars. they are indented into my leg and pruple-ish. I never scarped my leg there or cut it but they look a lot like scars. By indented I mean if you run your finger along it it's like carved into my skin. Does anyone knows what they are, or how they might have got there? They just came up this past 3 months. thanks for ANY comments
They are stretch marks. You have probably lost and gained at least 5 pounds in your lifetime. As you get older, your more likely to get stretch marks.
They're pretty much a normal part of female life. Sorry. I hear vitamin E lotion works well to help get rid of them.
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You know those Livestrong Bracelets that everyone is wearing now-a-days? Well according to my Spanish teacher, they're also a symbol for hospitals to not ressusitate (sp.) you if you get in some sort of accident and are put in the hospital. Is this true??? Because if it is, that's awful, and I'm not wearing mine anymore.
They are simply the same color as the "Donot resessutate" bracelets.
There is no rumor going around so people won't buy these bracelets. The hospitals simply tape over the bracelets if you end up in the hospital. Why would you stop wearing it? Are you going to need to worry about going unconscous any time soon? It's a very good cause, you should continue to wear the bracelet.
It's just that it will be taped over if you end up in the hospital any time soon.
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hey... i'm only 13 but i really want to lose 15 pounds, if i do i won't get sick or anything will i? i don't want to have like health problems for the rest of my life. i'm only about 5'2 and i weigh like 115!! my mom says its from muscle cuse i play soccer like ALOT, but i really don't like the way i look. almost everyone i know is so much frikin skinnier than me. i'm not going to like cut out food compleatly, i just want to lose 15 pounds in like a month or so... is it safe? thanks a bunch!!
It's really sad what high school life seems to have become. Is it everyone's dream to be anorexic?
Your only 13, you shouldn't be worrying about weight, especially since you are already at a healthy weight. You need to stop looking at yourself as overweight or you become unhealthy because of trying to find your perfect figure.
You play soccer, you have muscles, muscles weigh more than fat, so I'm guessing all of your friends wish they could be like you.
Weight really does mean nothing. Do you look fat? I'm guessing no. If you don't look fat then your fine. You could be much healthier than all the other people who you feel like you need to be like, even if they are 5-15 pounds lighter.
I'm 5'4" or so and weight anywhere from 125-135 depending on how much I ate any certain day. I'm at a good weight. 115 is perfect for your age and height. With your healthy lifestyle of playing soccer, and hopefully eating right, you should be fine.
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is that your tattoo in that picture on your colum?
No, sadly it isn't. I saw it online, the devil Buttercup on one shoulder, and the angel Buttercup on the other shoulder. Ya know, like good conscience/bad conscience type thing. I thought I might use it as an idea for a tattoo in the future, but I don't really think I want to get a cartoon tattooed on my body.
I had a friend in a previous college that had Homer Simpson tattooed on his shoulder. It was kind of cool, but it was faded. It wasn't even the newer Homer, it was the old weird one from the first season.
It's just not a good idea to get a cartoon tattooed.
Although Powerpuff girls are super cool.
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What does it mean if your vagina is "loose"? thanks
A female has to worry about becoming loose when she gives birth. Basically, when your young, have not had sex at all, and have not used tampons or masturbated, then you are as tight as your going to get. The more you have sex, or stick anything up there, then the more you are going to get stretched out, and the looser you become.
I don't really know how else to explain it.
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hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom,(becuase i know the gyno will be able to tell,becuase i am quite stretched out from it) and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?
I'm going to say that sunshine1030 is wrong.
Your gyno does not need to talk with your mother about your problems. You should be able to deal with them yourself, if she gives you medicine, it will be you taking it, if she needs to do any kind of procedure, it will be you that goes through it. Not your mother.
Your 15, while that is somewhat young, you are still old enough to learn how to take care of your body. That is why your Gyno does not need to talk to your mother. Your Gyno needs to talk to you.
Of course he/she will most likely share some information with your mother about your irregular periods. But that does not mean that he/she will need to say anything about what he/she thinks might be going on with your sexual behavior.
Really, your gyno would never say "your daughter has been fingered" because there is absolutly no way to know simply from the amount of looseness you have down there.
I lost my virginity when I was 17, but I have been going to the Gynocologist since 13 because of some problems I've had. Since 13, after examining me, my doctors would always drill me about my sexual behavior. They couldn't tell if I was a virgin or not just from examinations. There's no reason your gyno would make the assumption that you've been fingered.
You should always tell your gyno the truth about everything you've done though. They need to know what's going on with your body in order to fix the problems. That is why it's always confidential. Your Gyno won't tell your parents because they want you to be honest with everything you've done without worrying about your parents getting mad at you. If your still worried, then yes, still talk to your gyno about your worries and tell him/her to keep everything concerning your sexual behavior confidential.
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I'm a teen girl going through puberty and my private has losened up. I never had sex before so it couldn't have "stretched" that way. Also, around the edges of the viginia it's turning a dark tan color. What is this and is it normal? Also, are there any exercises i can do to tighten it up?
thnx so much, i really need your help!
Yes, there are exercises you can do to tighten your muscles up. They're called kegal exercises. Search the web a bit on how to do them. They're really quite easy, it's basically just the muscle you use when you really have to go pee, but your not close to a bathroom, so you just tighten your muscles. You can do it anytime, incorporate it into your regular schedule, do them while your doing homework, a test, watching tv, searching the internet.
Not only does it help to keep you from getting "loose", it can help after childbirth, but it can stop you from having any kind of urinary problems as you get older.
Search online for different ways to do it. Again, it's KEGAL EXERCISES.
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I got cut from the chat room cuz I don't like being 14 and so I said I was 12 and a guy named Draak cut me from the server what do I do about this crap?
hahah. A guy named Draak huh?
There is nothing you can do about it. Don't be an idiot and you won't get cut from the chat room.
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I know I'm in love but I don't know if my parents will except it they think we should be 15 before we date but I don't want to wait til I'm 15 to date the guy I love cuz I don't want him to go out with any one else before the 9th grade in June...What should I do obey my parents or do what's right?
-Jasmine
If you were really in love, then that would mean that he loves you and feels the same way about you. In that case you should do the right thing and listen to your parents. If he feels the same way about you, then he would wait until June too. That way, he could gain the respect of your parents, which should be expected if he really cares about you and loves you.
This is such a stupid question. "should I obey my parents or do what's right?" What makes you think you know better than your parents?
Since you decided to word your question like that, I have decided that your too young and immature to realize what love is. You call yourself a prodigy, then you should be smarter and much more mature than this.
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Umm, I saw a question about teeth clenching, and some people answered saying something about TMJ, well what is that? I feel dumb, but I've never heard of it.
Honestly SC, you could have found this out very easily by searching online. This isn't an advice question, especially since you aren't wondering about pains that you, yourself have had.
And Draak is the only one that had anything intelligent to say about TMJ. If you were honestly wondering about it, all you need to do is search google with the keyword of "TMJ".
**EDIT: I didn't delete it because it wasn't terrible, but you do have to admit that it wasn't about advice and could have been answered elsewhere. I've been deleting "I'm in love, what do I do?" questions like crazy lately, but not all of the level 2's do.
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How do I get more people to like my coulmn and how does it make it more "appealing"
You can start by taking off that incredubly annoying pop-up.
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If you took a rat on vacation with you, but kept her in one of those mini cAges, would that be too stressing for the animal?? (i'd keep food, water, and toys in it)
You need to get your rat familiar with the environment before you attempt to do this. He could get pretty darned scared if suddenly his entire world changes. That's what he would think if you suddenly changed his cage and then took his cage to a new place. So, yes, your rat will get stressed if you do it suddenly.
If you take moops advice and get him familiar with the new cage first, then he should be ok. Make sure you put familiar toys, and his normal food and water dishes in the new cage.
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At night when I'm in bed, my jaw always clinches. It gets so bad to wear it even starts hurting and I can't help doing it. I've tried putting my tongue in between my teeth but I just end up biting my tongue.
It also happens during the day. But I just make sure I always have gum with me because it keeps my jaw from clinching.
Does anyone know of anything I could try that would help? Or should I go to my dentist?
You could have some problems with TMJ, I would suggest seeing a dentist. When I was younger I had to go to a physical therapist because of that.
Besides getting a mouth guard, there's a few other things you can do to help out.
STOP CHEWING GUM first of all. That will fuck up your jaw very badly. The constant chewing motion is what could be screwing with your mouth.
Now, here's a good exercise to occupy yourself with instead of gum. Take your tounge, but instead of putting it between your teeth, put it on the roof of your mouth towards the back and push up with it. This will kind of keep the back of your jaw apart slightly so that your back teeth do not touch, grind or clench.
I had to take a heating pad and put it on my jaw for about 20 minutes a day twice a day. If you do that once in a while it will help to loosen up your jaw and stop it from being so clenched.
And see a doctor/dentist about everything.
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My friend asked me to drive her 1995 Ford Taurus to NYC, her license was expired and not yet renewed. I got into an accident and hit a dumpster, neither of us were hurt, no toher cars were involved. She has limited liability and the car is "totaled" Blue book value trade-in for her car is $1,200. I spent $300 getting the car towed back to NJ. She is now driving my Mazda Protege, blue book value trade-in $900. I'm not sure what to do. 1) Let her keep my car 2) pay her half the value of the car and towing expenese 3) other options.
We're not the best of friends, probably see each other once a month. I really don’t have any extra money and neither does she. Looking for suggestions. Thanks.
jbdreamer is right. Since she gave you permission to drive your car, then the legal responsibility is all on her. You do not need to pay anything.
Has she asked for anything? It was nice enough for you to give her the $300 and let her borrow your car. But it really isn't your responsibility. Whether or not you want to help her out further is up to you and your friend.
Also, I want to point out that the Blue Book value is rarely what you would really get for the car. Depending on the condition it was in pre-accident, it could actually be worth much less than $1,200.
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Hey there. I started dating my best friend a while ago, you just moved here from Toronto, and he doesn't tell me a whole lot about his life back then. Anyways, we started having sex a couple of monthes ago. I'm on birth control so we don't use condoms, because we both hate them. Anyways, in october i got two infections, and was really sick for a week. I couldn't get out of bed, and i was in pain. I had an yeast infection and urinary tract infection. I went to my doctor, she gave me a lot of medicine. whatever, i got better, continued on with our way of things. Anyways, now in december, i seem to have another infection. I'm thinking it might be yeast infection but i don't know. It's different. He says he hasn't had sex before me, but with all these infection that i get, could he have, or could it be my birth control?
How long have you been taking your birth control? If you've been taking it for a long time, and have never had any problems like this before hand, I would consider the fact that he isn't exactly as clean as he thinks he is.
I know, yeast infections can be caused by a number of things, but one of those things is from an infected partner. It's possible for a female to spread it to a male, and the male might not even notice any of the symptoms.
I know it's embarrasing, but you should talk to your boyfriend about this. If your comfortable enough with each other to have sex, then you should be comfortable enought with each other to talk about this.
Make sure he knows that you don't care if he has had sex before you, you just need to know these things.
You should also mention your worries to your doctor. He/she could tell you a lot more. And consider going to a Gynocologist. They could do a lot more for you.
It could also be unrelated. Some people are just prone to get yeast infections. It could have something to do with the way you take care of yourself. Read up on yeast infections online to find out how to avoid them.
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Hi, I'm a girl, freshman, and I am 14.
I have been dating my boyfriend, who is 15, for about a month and three weeks. It was perfect at first and just went down. I don't know what happened. We went to the movies and had a great time, but it got worse and he stopped talking to me. I wondered what was wrong. My friends told me that he was a crack head and shouldn't go out with him, but I liked him so I didn't listen. We had tons of fun. I got tons of pictures with me and him together. I also have his sweater at home. But recently he has had a flirting problem and flirted with every girl in front of me. I got mad and sad and ended up getting my friends to talk to him for me. My friends said he was going to break up with me. I was so sad. Then they said he wanted to dump me because I'm too immature. My friend said he was cheating on me, but I wouldn't believe it. He also made me cry by joking around with me saying he would break up with me a few times and he told like a lot of people he made me cry at school.
Today my life ended and he dumped me. I ended up crying my heart out. After school I talked to him and asked why. He said I acted like a baby. I was sad. Then this girl came up and asked if he was coming to her house. I was shocked! I couldn't believe it. The next thing I knew they were walking around holding hands like lovers. I yelled FU at them, but I don't think they heard it. Then I was so pissed off. My bus came. I got on it. I was so mad and started yelling FU and flipping off everyone out of the bus window and started crying to death; thinking about that girl and the good times we had together. Then I saw him walking with the girl far away. I flipped them off, but they didn't see. After that I cried so much on the bus for about an hour and I seriously almost threw-up.
This is the worst day of my life. I can't stop thinking about him because I still love him so much. He was so nice and sweet. I don't think I will ever get over him. Can someone please just give advice how I can get over him because I don't think I ever will and just thinking about him makes me cry and feel like I'm about to get sick even more...
Thanks so much for the help....
Get over it and grow up. This guy was an asshole.
"He was so nice and sweet."
When, when he was making you cry? When he was cheating on you? When he was flirting constantly in front of you? When he called you names, told all his friends that you cried and made you feel like you were immature?
What the fuck is so sweet about this guy.
Get over it. Stop being incredubly immature by telling everyone to fuck off.
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I don't know what I want to "be" when I'm older. I have no idea what I'm going to study, or anything! My friend makes me think about this, because she's my age, and she knows what she's doing. She's going to be a chef and she's already practicing at home! It makes me think like I am behind. I don't really need 1 thing I am going to be, I just want an idea, or like a couple of occupations for me. When I was little, I always wanted to be a teacher. I played school all the time. But I'm not sure if I still want to. There's no other jobs that I'd specifically want to do, but I'll tell you some of my hobbies. I'm not much of a sports person. I like to write, but I'm not very good. I like to work with kids..I'm thinking maybe a daycare? If you have anything, please share your ideas or thoughts.
I'm 21 years old and just found my major. And really, this is only a beginning major, I might end up going back to school years from now to become a Veterinarian.
My female roommate is 20 years old and has already changed her major 6 times. All six changes happened in the last year and a half. Both me and her didn't even declare a major until our second year in college, and then proceeded to change it to suit our needs and interests. My roommy just came to me last night to say that she thinks she wants to change her major again, but she doesn't know what she wants to be.
My male roommate on the other hand, has known exactly what he wants to be since high school. And he is doing great at it as a senior in college now.
Basically what I'm saying is... you absolutely do not need to worry about your major field of study right now. Once you get to college you will find that there are plenty of things to study. Fun and interesting courses will simply be thrown at you. If you try to choose now, chances are that you will definately change your mind.
When I was 13, I wanted to go to the Air Force and learn how to fly planes. That is the farthest thing from my mind right now. Even before the war started, I should have realized that I would never be able to take the rules of the Air Force. But I was young, just as you are now. Do not try to rush things.
I even wrote my entire college essay on how I have changed my mind about my career choice many many times since I was 5, when I was certain that I would grow up to be a ballerina.
So, with this incredubly long answer, I'm basically trying to say: Don't worry about it. Once you get more experience in each and every field that you might possibly be interested in, then, and only then should you begin to decide.
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I love my boyfriend very much, and he is just the sweetest thing to me. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. My parents don't think he's a good influence on me, and want us to break up. If he doesn't change soon they'll keep us from seing each other and talking.
He's 2 years older than me, in high school when I'm still just a middle schooler. I met him through my younger brother's theatre group, he is a wonderful actor and an even better singer. I knew who he was for almost a year, but never talked to him since he was older, and I wasn't even in the play. some time in september he noticed me at the theatre group. We began talking on the computer and on the phone for several weeks until he asked me out. my parents had been sorta skepetical about the whole thing with an older guy from the begining, but let me go out with him anyway.
There have been a few times that I couldn't do or go places with him because he was older, or because my parents didn't think I was ready to do things. He takes things rather personally and got really upset with them, being extremely rude about them in his online diary. Later, after the problems had been solved, my dad found the website, nad was really disappointed in what he saw. That was about 3 weeks ago. My parents have never let go of the fact that he and I made out in front of my little bro, something both of us will never do again. They also like to rub in my face that he is very emmotional, and materilistic and they point out all his bad traits. They fail to mention how sweet he is to me, how well we get along, how he calls me every day no matter what, and comes to watch me ride horses when any other guy would be bored to death.
Last friday one of our friends told him that I was cheating on him with my ex. Which so didn't and will never happen. I told him so on saturday, and he believed me until he talked to her again, and on sunday he was mad at me. I felt so bad, being accused of something that he knows that as a person, I would never do that. Anyways, he hugs all his friends that are girls. I told my mom, and she almost had be convienced to break up with him.
Yesterday, I was talking to him on the phone, and I told him he needed to be more respectful to my parents. He replied with "I dont give a what your parents think" I then told him that why my mom was letting me use the phone before I was finished with homeworkd and chores was because I was supposed to break up with him, but that I didn't want to. He got all upset and got off the phone.
I dont know what to do, I want him to be able to get along with my parents, and I want them to see all the good things I see in him. How should I let him know that my parents thnk he is a bad influence, emotional, rude in his diary ect. ect. without making it sound like thats how I feel, and that they still like him well enough as a person. I agree with a few of the things they say, and I want him to know and to fix those things, but I dont want to sound rude, or demanding. Sorry about the question being so long, thanks so much if you can help me!
First of all, STOP telling him the bad things that your parents say about him. Of course he is going to be resentful about those things. You should never let a friend or a boyfriend know when your parents don't approve of them. Your parents are not always right. They are going to be over-protective for the rest of your life. They won't see the sweet side of him, because he only shows it to you.
But what they do see is horrible. He is showing them his bad attitude that he gets when he realizes that they already hate him. He is being extremely disrespectful to you. If he doesn't give a shit about what they think, then he should at least pretend to be decent to them for your sake. Perhaps him and your parents will never get along, but they need to pretend or you will just be split apart.
You need to talk to your parents and let them know that your not a foolish little girl and you know that he isn't perfect. But you care very much for him and are not going to break up with him just because they don't like some things about him. If they start to put him down or talk about how terrible they think he is, then just walk away. Let them know that you can't listen to them putting him down. Eventually they will understand that they need to be civil for your sake.
Now on to the boyfriend. Quite frankly... you might not like me saying this, but he sounds like an ass. He should never disrespect your parents. He should never listen to some girl who says you cheated on him, especially when he already talked to you about it and should know that with your character that you wouldn't do anything like that. He should definately not be hugging all his female friends.
Screw his feelings. Don't try to hold back anything when you tell him how you feel. Don't worry about sounding rude, or demanding. DEMAND THAT HE BE RESPECTFUL TO YOU AND YOUR PARENTS. Sometimes you have to be harsh for someone to really understand how important it is to you. If he loves you and cares about you, then he will try to change.
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