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Gyno Confidentiality
hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom,(becuase i know the gyno will be able to tell,becuase i am quite stretched out from it) and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?
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You are a minor, and I assume living in the US, so yes the Gyno can tell your parents your physical condition, but that doesnt mean they will. BUT- assuming your hymen has not broken, he will not really be able to tell. Yes, he can tell how loose you are, but that could be from other things. He might question you about your sexual activity, but he might not. I would suggest telling the doctor everything, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, don't. Just to clarify, doctor-client confidentiality does not apply to minors, so don't take that for granted. But doctors are usually pretty good about that sort of thing.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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um, there are 2 ways they can tell, and they are not for sure. yes, by the stretch out way, but that isn't a sure thing. Another thing is if your hyphen broke (or cherry popped)and again that ain't a sure thing because that can break during exercise or tampon use. And because your not 16 yet, you cannot ask for confidentiallly.
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dw ask the gyno not to tell an they wont tell
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yes he should
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He should keep it confidential unless it was a life-risking thing.
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its the law.. if your older than 15.. they CAN'T tell ur parents unless you give them permission to do so!! so you don't have anything to worry about!
xoXo*-Katie
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usually gyno's don't say anything (especially if you ask them not to) unless it's serious stuff like a disease or pregnancy or something. but you shouldn't have to worry about that right?..
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Your gyno might know but since your hymen isn;t broken she wont be able to tell. She doesn't have to tell your mom anything and yea ur just 2 stressed out she wont tell her becuase its conifedntial
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"selectopaque"-you are wrong about the fact that the doctor will not share information with the girls parents. Know your privacy laws. If you are under the age of 18 your doctor can and might share any information with your guardian/parent. On a completely seperate note-your gyn will have NO WAY of knowing that you have been fingered-yes tampons do the same thing. If you intend on engaging in sexual activities you might want to talk to you gyn about safety and precautions but know that she might inform your parent/guardian. I would expect taht the doc will also tell your mom about the cause of your period irregularity-anyways i hope this helped. Good luck and just relax.
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i don't think that the gyno can tell your mom i think its all cofidentual (sp?) and i don't think you can tell if you were fingured! so don't worry!
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I'm going to say that sunshine1030 is wrong.
Your gyno does not need to talk with your mother about your problems. You should be able to deal with them yourself, if she gives you medicine, it will be you taking it, if she needs to do any kind of procedure, it will be you that goes through it. Not your mother.
Your 15, while that is somewhat young, you are still old enough to learn how to take care of your body. That is why your Gyno does not need to talk to your mother. Your Gyno needs to talk to you.
Of course he/she will most likely share some information with your mother about your irregular periods. But that does not mean that he/she will need to say anything about what he/she thinks might be going on with your sexual behavior.
Really, your gyno would never say "your daughter has been fingered" because there is absolutly no way to know simply from the amount of looseness you have down there.
I lost my virginity when I was 17, but I have been going to the Gynocologist since 13 because of some problems I've had. Since 13, after examining me, my doctors would always drill me about my sexual behavior. They couldn't tell if I was a virgin or not just from examinations. There's no reason your gyno would make the assumption that you've been fingered.
You should always tell your gyno the truth about everything you've done though. They need to know what's going on with your body in order to fix the problems. That is why it's always confidential. Your Gyno won't tell your parents because they want you to be honest with everything you've done without worrying about your parents getting mad at you. If your still worried, then yes, still talk to your gyno about your worries and tell him/her to keep everything concerning your sexual behavior confidential.
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it's not allowed. the doctor can't tell your mother anything. gotta love those confidentiality laws. when you go to the gyno, most of the time they don't want your parents in there...actually they ask if you need them in there. just say no, that you'd feel uncomfortable. your mom wont hear about it.
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Firstly, the doctor is not allowed to tell your mother anything you don't want him/her to.
You can ask your mother to step out of the room at any time during the appointment, you can even ask her to sit the entire thing out because it's your body and it's personal to you. Just tell her you're uncomfortable with her being there.
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since you're not 18, the doctors can tell your mom what's going on. but first of all, she will not be able to tell that you've been fingered just because you're stretched out. tampons can do the same thing. now i'm not sure what gynos tell parents of minors, if anything, but i'm pretty sure that if you tell her that you want to keep whatever goes on in there confidential, she'll agree to that. the only problem with that is that your gyno will need to talk to your mom about your irregular periods, because your mom has to take care of that because you can't yet. and i can pretty much gurantee that your gyno won't tell your mom that you've been fingered, if she can even tell. so i really wouldn't worry about it. if she brings it up, tell her you don't want your mom to know, but other than that i woudlnt worry. hope this helped and good luck!
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okay ive never been to the gyno but i know for a fact they cant tell if you've been fingered or had sex
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i never knew that they didn't have to tell ur parents?! Ahhh thats kickass! :) But yeah. just tell the gyno that you don't want your mom to know what's going on. good luck and hope it goes well!
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If you don't want the Gynocologist to tell your mother, then tell her just that. They will ask you if you want your mom or whomever in the room, then they will ask you those type of questions. Just say you don't want your mother or whomever in the room. ;). They will keep it confidencial.
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Yeah you could ask cuz you have to right for your privacy
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