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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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i know like that your cherry pops when you have sex or like if you do a lot of sports or something. if i do gymnastics and some other sports and ive been fingered then do you think my cherry is already popped? where is your cherry anyways? like does it pop b/c of deepness or wideness.. if that makes any sense?
thanks!
Your "cherry" is called a hymen. Almost all girls have it but not all. Your hymen is where your vaginal opening is and it's basically a little string of membrane that goes across. The opening is wide enough for you to put a tampon in but not break it. However, it may be broken from some vigorous sports.
There is a likliness that your hymen is broken either from getting fingered or from gymnastics. If you've had a little bleeding there when it wasn't your period, there's a chance it's broken. Next time you go to a gyno, ask...
Ugh I have this huge cut in ym mouth from my braces which is KILLING ME! I brushed my teeth clean and put the wax on. Oh while I brushed my teeth the brush hit off my cut so it hurt even more!
Is there anything else I can do to make it heal quicker?
Get orajel and apply it there.
my girlfriends anorexic. she weighs 75 pounds and shes seventeen. i try to get her to eat but she always tells me to fuck off. you can pretty much see every freaking bone in her body. she looks like shes gonna drop over dead any day. i wanna help her but i dont know what to do. she always accuses me of hinking shes fat also. which isnt true everytime i see her i tell her she looks too thin and to eat something. what can happen to her body if she doesnt eat and only weighs 75 pounds? and alos how can i help her? thanks.
I'm surprised your girlfriend is even alive now. 17 and 75 lbs is way too underweight and it's reasonable that you're concerned. People with eating disorders see their image in a distorted way and they feel like they need to control their eating in order to become the "perfect body"
You need to get her help right away. Talk to her parents about getting her to a doctor, nutritionist, and psychiatrist. She needs help or she will die and even with help, there is a chance that she can die.
www.something-fishy.org is a great site that talks about ED and you should read over anorexia and bulimia just incase.
http://www.something-fishy.org/other/hotlines.php lists helpful hotlines that you can call/visit. Have her family visit the site and get her help.
Good luck
Me and this guy were making out and then we started dry humping and his pants were wet so is there any way I can get pregnant? I was in jean shorts and he was in khaki shorts so that's enough clothing to prevent it right?
You can only get pregnant if a sperm enters your vagina! SO NO.
is it bad to wear different colors of eyeliner. i wear black or brown on top and purple green or blue on bottom and bronze and glitter eyeshadow and black mascara. my mom hates it i love it my friends love it whats wrong with it. what do you people think.13/f gothic and punky~ yes OR no
and whats liquid eyeliner is it bottle or tube or what im clueless i can never find it. ~Thanks~
I can see where your mom is coming from. Just from the action of applying and washing off make up causes wrinkles because you're pushing the gentle skin around your eyes when you're putting the eye make up on/off. So by the age 20, you'll have some serious wrinkles. And if the makeup brand isn't renown and top brand, you'll have worse wrinkles. And if you like it, wear it, but you're still going to get wrinkels no matter how gentle you are.
Liquid eyeliner is a liquified for of eyeliner. It's usually in a little tube and it will say liquid eyeliner in the cover. Look around at make up sotres or wherever they sell make up. They're surely to have one. It's kind of harder to put on, though. Then there's the creamy eyeliner. That's like eyeliner pencil in a little container and you have an eyeliner brush and you put some of the eyeliner ont he brush and apply it.
Ok, so I dye my hair A LOT! i use a hair dye called Manic panic. Well, i know that i'm damaging my hair, and my friends have said that there are certain conditioners you can use to keep your hair.."life-full", so it won't look all dead, and thinning. Because i have pretty thick hair, and i want to keep it that way. I've just started dying it here recently..but it's semi-permanent hair dye, so you have to do it ever week, to two weeks.
So, yeah, what is the BEST conditioner/shampoo you can use for damaging hair.
The best brands are:
Frutice
Dove
Pantene [I believe they have a shapmoo that undoes up to 2 years of hair damage]
Ok Please help me I dunno what to do:
Well I'm going to a restaurant before the grad to have a dinner with my friends.
one problem is that I eat really messy even if I try not to so i'll wreck my dress.
My hair is always in a ponytail so that night will be the onyl night I have my hair down and I'm not used to it because it's always in my face (I have to be in my dress make up, etc at the dinner because they'll drive us all after to the grad)
Um..I wear braces so I have to brush my teeth.
Won't I have to wash my face too?
I think that's about it..all of those are mainly things to keep me good looking. I know that you'd say looks arent' everything but I felt ugly all year. For once since I'm hanging with my friends and I just want to look beautiful and nto make a fool of myself for just one night.
Well, here's one suggestion: eat beforhand and when you get to the restaurant, just drink some water or whatever.
Another suggestion is to have a napkin on your lap and wear a sweater or jacket around the top and close it up so you won't get much food on there. Or just bring the dress there and change in the bathroom after eating although that would be hard...As for the hair, just start practicing now. Eat with your hair down at every meal. Or when you get to the restaurant, tie it back into a loose ponytail.
If you have to brush your teeth, you don't have to wash your entire face. Surly your lip makeup and some concealer/foundation might come off when you brush your teeth so pack those along with your toothbrush/paste and reapply in the bathroom. Don't know how? Ask your mom or friends to teach you or have your friends help you reapply it. I'm sure they'd be happy to do it or help show you...
That's what friends are for, right?
whenever i make plans with my best friend, i'll leave my computer for a little bit and then her away message will be like "out with some friends then sleeping at "jenna's" house. it gets me pissed because i thought WE had plans. she's really nice and we hang out alot but i get sick of her being like "we should chill today" and then she goes and hangs out with other people. don't tell me not to be her best friend because i love her to death and she's like my sister. but i don't know what to do. her phone is never on so i can't get in contact with her. right now she's at the mall with some people when she said to me earlier "i definitely wanna chill with you today" ughh. she usually doesn't do stuff like that but she does it like 20% of the time.
help!
Well, maybe you should be the one making plans. Make it definite. I know that my friends and I say that we should hang out today or tomorrow or whenever but we never really do anything.
So next time you make the decision to hang out when and where. Don't wait for her to make the plans definite.
ok. so ive been going out with this guy for like a week know. i liked him for about a month before we went out and yeah. but anyway hes kinda the prep type and i liked him better like that but last night we went to the movies and hung out and all that and he like looked emo in a way. like he was wearing this black shirt with a skull on it and these like black shoes and it was really weird. idk it was kind of a turn off. should i tell him that? or just go along with it? i mean i dont want to sound like someone who judges someone just how they dress but its really unexpected from him and hes not really that type. it doesnt really fit the way he is. what should i do?
Why do you like him?
Do you like him because he's him or not?
He wore a simple shirt and shoes so what? That doesn't defy him. It's his personality and he as a person that shows who he is. Not his clothes. And how do you know what he's like? Maybe he likes those shoes and clothes. Get over it and move on.
why do they say you have to charge it every 2 - 8 hours? will something bad happen?
I think you mean change...
You have to change it because you can get TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome). If you leave it in for too long, you're making it an easier taks for it to get a bacterial infection. And so you should follow what the box says, choose lowest absorbency for your flow, and alternate between pads and tampons. Don't sleep with it in at night either. And I believe it's 4-8 hours. If you use too big of a size or change it too frequently, it's going to hurt because it's going to be dry.
prom is tonight.
my period ended a couple of days ago, if i decide to have sex will this increase my chances of getting pregnant?
If i do decide to have sex is there something i can take to prevent from getting pregnant like the next morning?
I heard something called the after pill?? what is this? & if this works, do i need a parent to come with me to buy one?
thanks!
Okay, I'm sure you don't want to get surgery of any sort so here are contraceptive methods you can use that are the cheapest.
Birth control pill or patch, Nuva Ring-I believe you have to be a certain age or have parent consent. They're 99% effective and costs about $20 a month.
Condomns-you can walk in and out of a store. It's cheap but not as effective (only 85% effective).
Abstinence is free and 100% effective. Haha
Um, if you don't want your parents to know, condoms are the way to go. But go to a clinic and see if they can give you BC pills.
The morning after pill-it's a very strong pill that kills the sperms inside of you. You can take it before or after sex just know that it's very strong, you'll get severe cramps, nausea, and sometimes bleeding. It's 90% effective but very costly. And I'm not sure if you can even get them.
people say don't JUDGE a book by it's cover then why do FIRST impressions mean so much?
Well, I think that when they say "Don't judge a book by it's cover", they mean not to judge anyone on how they dress or look. But first impressions are where their personlities and what they are like shows because you're actually meeting them--not their looks. And first impressions are usually what lasts in a person's mind until the next time they see the person. So if they invited you over to their house and the person invited cracks the dullest jokes that aren't even jokes, then they are going to remember that person as the dull one..
i have had about a few girls who confessed their love or infatuation towards me but the thing is i'm not the type of guy that falls into love easily like most ppl(no offense) and I just wanna be friends.so how do i reject a gal in the most polite,friendly and casual way?
Well, I'm a girl and I know that if a guy goes around saying "Yeah, this girl likes me" after that girl says she likes him, it hurts.
So, just tell the girls that you're not looking for a girlfriend/too much going on. And that you still want to remain good friends but not more for now.
16/f
ohkay so... i really like this guy we`ll call him kaleb. but kaleb has a girlfriend, but yet... he talks to me more than her sometimes. he tells me that he has to break up with her for the summer. but should i wait? one more thing... i think i like this other guy, call him joe. but see joe lives to far away && i`ll only get to see him on the weekends. i`m the kind of girl that, likes to spend time with her boyfriends.
before i moved i had a HUGE crush (i mean 2 yrs) on this guy, jake. & we still talk && he told me how he feels about me now that i`m away. kinda made me feel deeper for him.
my questions
1) should i wait for kaleb or date joe?
2) is it badd that i like this many guys @ one time?
3)seeing joe only on the weekends better for the relationship?
1-You should wait for Kaleb and just keep Joe as a friend. If you're a cuddly person, long distance relationships are not going to work. But still. It's your decision to make.
2-No it's not. I don't think it is anyway. I usually have one or two guys that I'm completely head over heels for a long, long time [we're talking years]. And in between, I get short term crushes.
3-Well, personally, I don't think it is. If you're the kind of person that needs the boyfriend to hug and hold, being able to see him only on the weekends is a not so good thing.
i was over my boyfriends one night. and he wanted to have sex. and i want to wait till im married so i said no. he flipped out and got on top of me and hes much bigger than me and stronger and he started fingering me. and then his friend came and helped hold me down and he stuck his penis in my vagina and it hurt i kep tscreaming for him to get off but he didnt. and now he keepsasking me why i wont talk to him. what should i do. i really honestly love him also.
I'm sorry to say but you've been raped, dearest. You do NOT love him and he does NOT love you. Do you really think that if a guy loves you, he'd rape you and not respect your decision to be abstinent until you're married? He raped you and his buddy over there helped in it.
It's a felony, which means that it is punishable by imprisonment and his friend there, by just helping out can get himself in prison for 5-20 years. You need to get help fast and report this right now. Right now you may say that it wasn't rape and that you love him and he loves you. But in reality, it's not true. You've been raped. He doesn't love you and you don't love him. Right now, you need to put aside your feelings and go report this to a police or a counslor if you don't want to tell your parents yet.
This will sound all exaggerated and weird but please do this:
Call the police or report this to someone. Write everything down--everything that has happened in his house. Write down every detail you can remember. If you still have the clothes from that night, don't wash it and keep it in a little bag. Get to a hospital and see if they can do a rape test on you. And please get counseling.
Please put aside your feelings for him and just do it because he will rape someone else in the future and right now, he seems like he doesn't know what he did wrong and that is a terrible thing. Tell him that you don't want to see him again and not to come near you. As I've said above, report this to the police--please!
Good luck and I hope that this guy and his friend lands in prison.
ok daniele adn i got in a fight on the bus over this boy named eric.. long story short she got in trouble i didnt.. she likes eric i lover eric and he hates her adn likes me.. then we both me and eric made this story up to make her even more mad and he ended us kissing me.. asking me out all this. in the story not in real life so she then calls eric on his cell while were hanging out one night and you can hear her sobb so hes like yeahh yeahh daniele i like you to! AND NOW THERE GOING OUT! he feels sorry for her and doesnt care about me.. now how do i tell him that it really hurts me?
Getting to the point: you guys are being really immature. If this boy is going to get between you and your friend, he shouldn't even matter. If your friend is going to go out with him and she knows it's hurting you, she's a horrible friend. Eric doesn't seme that mature or good enough to go out with you. Just tell him and your friend that you thought you could rely on them to be there for you and walk away and forget about them, okay?
Is it possible to drink TOO much water? If so, why??
Yes it is. And you can die from drinking too much water at once--but we're talking about a WHOLE LOT.
It's because your body needs time to break up the water molecules and process it through the body. But when your body intakes too much at once, your body can work only so fast. Too much will overwhelm your body and it will eventually shut down and you can die as a result.
how can you get prgenet? is it when a penis cums inside your vagina, also what are the safest way not to get pregenet & if a guy uses a plastic bag or like a plastic sandwithc bag other than a condom , would you might be able to get pregent? Thanks so muchh anways, Luvv Esty!
Dearest, you get pregnant when a guy comes inside you. One of the sperms meet an egg and then there you go--you're pregnant with a baby in process. The safest way not to get pregnant is to be abstinent until you're ready. BC pills, patches, and rings are available if you're of age. Then there are the condoms. There are many other contraceptives available but you don't sound like you're old enough to get any of them.
There are reasons as to why condoms were invented. They are soft on the outside as to not irritate or harm the insides of your vagina. It's air tight and meant to stretch out so there is a low probability of it ripping in anyway. A plastic bag, however, will hurt you, it will rip [you can put a little pressure on a corner and it will rip] and it won't stretch. Don't use a plastic bag. If you're going to use a protection on the penis, use the freaking condom. Soo to answer that question, you'll probably get pregnant.
I really want to be a rocker because being a preppy girl does not make me happy and people like emo and rocker people and I want some tips about it please I need HELP!!!!!
Be yourself. If you're going to change yourself into something else so that people like you, you're not being true to anyone and you're not going to be happy. Be yourself and have people like you for you. That's all I can say. If you want to give me a low rating, go ahead but I'm telling you now that if you're going to mold yourself into something you're not just to make people like you, you're going to end up unhappy. You're going to get a lot of criticism and negative comments towards you too. Plus, labels are for cans. Anyways, give me a 1 if you want but don't deny that I told you so. No one can be happy by lying to themselves
ok im 15 a female from Scotland,UK
Im bi-sexual and proud of it but i like girls a bit more than guys.
I like useing my fingers to masterbate but the only thing is im getting really really bored with it and not enjoying it anymore. Everytime im in the shower i use the showerhead and masterbate with running powerfull water which feels so good ! but again i want to explore new ideas. I can not buy a vibrator as im to young (unless you know another way) and i can not use any noisey objects as my brother is in the next room. I have not had sex so my cherry has not been pop'd leaving it sore to put large objects in me. I need help badly as im getting mega bored. Thanks xx
Also
Does anyone know a way that i could find someone around my area (female) to have some fun for a couple of hours (not all night) any chat rooms/ websites etc ... if you have any of the two answers i would love to hear them thank you so much x
with love xxx
I'm not sure about the first part but the second part:
Okay, these are TRITE websites
Xanga
Tagged
MYSPACE
Myyearbook [I love that place]
Vampirefreaks
espinthebottle [this site is dedicated to meeting new people, basically]
Chatrooms:
Yahoo messenger -- that's all I can think of. But make sure that when you make an ID on there, make your birthday so that you're 18 or you won't be able to go into the chatrooms. Also, it has a lot of bots and pedafiles [sp?] so watch out.