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why do people say....
people say don't JUDGE a book by it's cover then why do FIRST impressions mean so much?
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people are lame.
but al you have to go on
first meeting somebod
is their appearance.
but the saying says not to judge people,
yet we do anyways.
what a lovely world, right? =/
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My history teacher always said "First impressions are always your last impression" which is true. But really we never actually see the person inside. We see how they are on the outside like what they look like but not how they truely are. People judge people mostly by the way we look. Because thats like the first thing we notice when we see new people or meet. Its what first comes into our minds. Not like "oh this person's personality is bright" like you cant notice that you have to actually know the person in order for you to know that. But since you may look at a book and think that BOOK is just a boring book, or love, or disgusting kind of book. You have to actually read the book and it takes some time to know what its about. Same goes for a person in first impressions. Hope I helped. And next time you see a book pick it up and read what its about, lol dont even think about looking at the cover. You never know what you may think! :)
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Great question.
Yes, it's contradictory, isn't it?
Let's look at human nature first.
We are a selfish people, yet are taught to be unselfish and giving. We rarely are unless we can get something in return. See?
We always judge by first impression and it is important how that first impression comes off to people we meet whether it's a potential friend, a new teacher, a new neighbor, a boy, or later in life, a potential boss in a job interview then a potential customer on your job. See?
BUT, and there's always a "but" in life: The MATURE and WISE know not to judge a book by its cover because what you see is not what's inside the person.
Take a prisoner in prison. We automatically judge him as a guilty convict and low-life and a criminal.
Why? Because he is in prison therefor must be.
Not true. There are innocent men and women in prison today wrongly convicted due to bad defense attorneys and better prosecutors, bad jurys and bad judges. Maybe no dna technology at the time of conviction to prove his/her innocense, etc. whatever...
But, that doesn't mean that prisoner is a criminal or guilty or a low-life.
But we judged him because of his orange jumpsuit and bars.
Maturity teaches us to not judge by first impression, yet follow your gut instinct you get about someone right off-- it's usually the right instinct about someone's true self.
First impression: You are dressed professional, talk and response professionally, follow all the ediquette rules to a job interview. The potential new boss that's interviewing you is accessing and sizing you up. His impression of your professional appearance and attitude, the professional manner in which you speak and communicate, the level of intelligence, and your personality you've shown, ALL give him the first impression and can land you the job over someone more qualified but made a bad first impression.
He judged you by your "cover" i.e. outter appearance and demeanor.
Always put your best out there to make a good first impression regardless. Not everyone is wise.
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Well, I think that when they say "Don't judge a book by it's cover", they mean not to judge anyone on how they dress or look. But first impressions are where their personlities and what they are like shows because you're actually meeting them--not their looks. And first impressions are usually what lasts in a person's mind until the next time they see the person. So if they invited you over to their house and the person invited cracks the dullest jokes that aren't even jokes, then they are going to remember that person as the dull one..
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