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can you get pregnant if your on the pill but you have sex during the week your supposed to be on your period?
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No. Once you are on the pill you are fine anytime. No days to worry about at all! :)
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ok me my friend and my boyfriend were planning on hanging out later this week when he gets back from camp. and my friend is like he really wants to kiss you and stuff. and i want to kiss him really bad also... but ive never kissed anyone...and if i do kiss him when we hang out in a few days, like everyones like just follow ur heart and you'll no what to do but it scares me b/c i dont know what to do! so basically i need kissing tips... that sounds weird but who cares
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Here you go. Have fun smooching! :)
http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
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My "friend" and I were wondering (well, he thinks he knows, but I don't believe him)...
I know a 13f who just had her 5th kid. She wants to keep breast feeding to keep from getting pregnant again. Is this a crock of shit, or does she know something I don't?
Is it valid birth control to prolong lactation? (link)
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It is. But not a very good one.
I say that because the majority of women/girls will not breast feed exclusively and that is what it takes. Until the baby is around 6 months old. After that they start eating a little and once those on demand 24/7 feedings end so does its ability to prevent pregnancy.
If this 13 year old has used this method before...it is obvious it didn't work.
Here is a web site that explains it more. :)
http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/breast/AS-birthcontrol.htm
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I'm really nervous on starting high school. Even though its summer vacation, I'm just really scared. I'm affraid I wont make any friends, because my brother said he didn't really have any friends his freshmen year. But even though thats my brother, I'm still really scared. I feel like I wont fit in because me being a girl, I love video games and anime (japanese cartoons) and there wont be any girl in there that will like that same thing I do. and they'll probably all think I'm weird for liking that stuff. Is there anyway I could make some good friends, that will like me, even though I like stuff like that? thanks! :D (link)
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You won't have any problem making friends. Its not all that different from middle school. Kids are the same ones you saw this year and won't be changing much more than you. I agree any change is a scary thought but you will do fine.
As for the video games...well, I'm 48 and play them all the time. I would be lost without my ps2! Since Final Fantasy games are my faves I guess I like anime too. SO, there is bound to be other girls who like them too. If they don't when you meet them then maybe its something new you can teach them about!
Don't worry. You will love high school. :)
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The doctor thinks my mom has a Kidney Stone.
What is that?
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Its a build up of stuff in her kidneys. It gets hard, like a rock (but smaller usually)and gets passed through your system when you urinate (pee). Sorry, want to make it understandable!
She will be fine. It does hurt though. It is passing through a really small tube. Even a stone as small as a piece of salt can seem like a giant rock!
If she can't pass it because the stone is to large they will break it up with a machine at the hospital. Most of the time though, they are passed at home.
So she will be just fine, but probably have some pain with it. :)
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i got a t-shirt from my middle school for the end of the year and i want to know how to make it more fun. all my friends like cut it up and do all these cool things to their t-shirts. does anyone know any thing i could do to mine thats easy? (link)
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I don't know if you want to use this but my kids had their entire class sign their shirts....like a yearbook. They still have them as mementos. :)
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Alright I see you anwser alot of questions on advicenators.com, so I'll ask you a question.
I used to have a crush on this guy, Charlie. I wanted to make out wth him, and date him for a long time but then he went to college and I never saw him anymore. Well a month or so ago, I saw him at a party and things happened and we made out. Things progressed and we decided to be friends with benefits. It was to be on the down-Low.
He told me that he doesn't want a relationship with girls because all girls are sweet at first then they turn out to be phsyco.
He's totally hot and we've had sex a few times. I'm not going to lie, the sex is great. But now lately we just hang out or talk on the phone. He doesn't try anything with me, although he does encourage me to call him every night, and tells me to be careful. There is obvious flirting and chemistry going on between us.
I wouldn't really call us "friends" - Although that could be debatable. He sends mixed signels.
If we are just friends with benefits why does he calls so much? I thought all FWB's do is call for a booty call. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I'm confused and not sure what to do. How should I handle this situation and what the heck is going on???? (link)
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I really hate the friends with benefits thing. It does have the potential to cause confusion and I don't think good relationships are that easy.
You need to talk to him and see if the relationship has a chance of going anywhere. It sounds as if he does care a little more than your run of the mill FWB guy. Depends on what you're feeling for him but maybe you could turn it into a real relationship. Maybe hes afraid to ask for fear you wouldn't want that.
Do some soul searching and see if you want more out of this relationship. If you do then tell him you do. If he doesn't want it then go look for someone who wants what you want. Time has a way of getting away from you. If you want a lifetime relationship with marriage and the white picket fence someday...don't waste time on a dead end relationship.
Hope that helps you a little bit. If not feel free to stop in again. Good luck with whatever you decide. Hope it works out the way you'd like it to. :)
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About 7 months ago I went into this mood where I was all pissed all the time and I was all gothic for a while and I was into all this rock music and things I even made my room black (black curtains, bedspread, area rug etc…) I was always wearing a hoodie and I was in my room from when I came home from school until I woke up to go back the next morning. Okay so about a month ago you would find me in my room (still has the black in it but I’m out of the gothic phase)…I’d still be having these mood swings and I’d just fight with someone (verbally) because I liked the way I felt when I was screaming at someone or something along that…and it was kind of weird…and then I’d lock myself in my room and blast some music. now I’m here and I still go through my stages where I’ll lock myself in my room but at times I’ll be super happy and hyper and then 5mins later I’ll be all pissed off or start thinking and go in my room be all depressed and stuff…then in a little while I’ll come out of my room and act like nothing ever happened and be happy and stuff again…I guess I was just wondering if this is something that a lot of people go through or is it like not a good thing…I mean I know constant mood swings aren’t good and fell like I cant go up to my parents and be like hey I’m havin major mood swings what do I do about it?…because when my mom found out I had anxiety she just like laughed in my face about it so I guess I’m just scared of I go to her she will do the same thing.
- thanks ( and yeah…sorry if I sound weird or crazy or something...)
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You don't sound crazy. You are a normal teen.
You have hormones a plenty and they are playing havoc with your moods. It will level out sooner or later.
They only time you need worry about depression is if it comes on and just does not leave. You will have some but normal is when it comes and goes as yours does. :)
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So im 15/f and i so far have never took any chances! Ive never even kisseda boy for crying out loud becuase i am scared. I think my parentals made me this way. Anyways All my friends ONCE in awhile get together and drink. Now i dont want any rude comments but would it be all that bad to try it once? I am sick of being called the good girl, or princess! I meen i wouldnt get attatched to it would i? Is it as bad as grown ups make it seem? (link)
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Well, how about hearing from another parental?
The thing is your parents probably did all those things. That's why they are nervous. They know you are bound to try them. Thing is it can be as bad or worse than they say. Some things anyway. Times have changed.
The drinking and driving laws are a lot stricter
than they used to be. Now you not only have to worry about being killed by a drunk driver...which is bad enough by itself, you get caught now and you lose your license. Can you imagine being a teen and unable to drive? It is just not worth it.
When you drink you are easier to take advantage of. Sleep with some guy when you are wasted and you could get pregnant and possibly not even know who the father is. Life as you know it comes to a screeching halt.
So drinking could lead to death, no DL,& teen pregnancy. All very real possibilities.
Now kissing boys is OK. Dating boys is okay. But just be sure he cares for you and will stick by you should you get pregnant before thinking about having sex with him. You can date without it coming down to that. There are diseases to be had and unwanted pregnancies...both can be life altering.
Now, if you drink A beer or kiss a guy it doesn't make you bad. It doesn't make you any more acceptable either.
To answer your question "would it be bad to try it once"....it only takes once for any of those things to happen. THAT is what your parents know and are afraid of. They love you. :)
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for like a month, i have been getting headaches and stomach pains, not aches. also it hurts on my ribs too. its on and off. like for an hour i have a little headache and for another hour it hurts on my ribs or anywhere on my stomach. my doctor says im making myself get this by worrying. so im going to a counselor so we can figure out whats causing this to happen. can worrying or thinking about it really bring on stomache pains and headaches? also can this just be my period, remember it has gone on for a little over a month. do you think my doctor is wrong and i have a disease i can die from or will last forever? whats up? (link)
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Yes, worrying can cause all those things and more. Listen to your doctor sounds like he knows what hes doing.
It won't last forever if you can get the worrying under control. The counselor should help with that.
Good luck. :)
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Last night was my 8th grade graduation, and today was my last day of school. The past three years that I have been in middle school have completely changed the way I think, act, and obviously look. Everything changed for me in middle school. Everything HAPPENED. Especially last year, in 7th grade. I have so many memories that I had to leave behind today, that I don't want to forget. And even though some of them I don't really enjoy thinking about, they're still there and I can't help but remember them. I don't know why, but I really don't want to leave. High school seems like such a big transition. I know most people would be like, YESSSS!!! HIGH SCHOOL!!!. But to tell you the truth, I don't want to leave middle school. I don't know exactly why. I think it's mostly the boy I likes fault, partially. Not his fault, but I really feel like I LOVE him, and I'm sure most of you know how hard it is to get over someone.. Well I feel like I'm leaving it, but I don't want to. Like the boy I like, I want to get over him.. but I can't let go. I don't know. I'm all messed up right now. Sorry if this is confusing. Pfft, I don't even know why I'm writing this, it's not really a question. Let me give you some background about this boy I may LOVE. To keep it short but to the point.. 6th grade I barely noticed him. The summer before 7th, however, he IMed me one day. He ended up telling me how he "used" to like me and stuff. Well we continued to talk throughout the summer, and then I found out that he liked me still. At that point, I started to like him too. 7th grade started, and I'm not sure if this is true, but I'm pretty sure he still liked me, and I liked him back. We didn't go out or anything though. Then in around November I think it was, he asked me out.. online and through my friend though. Unfortunately, me, being the shy weirdo I am, said NO. Biggest mistake ever. After that we talked online still.. But now it seems as if he slowly thought I stopped liking him, which is kinda odd since I continued talking to him online and if I didn't like him then I probably wouldn't have. Anyway.. the summer before 8th grade, we still talked, but he ignored me, hardly said anything, and just acted like he didn't care. Around September or the beginning of October of 8th grade, I just gave up. I haven't talked to him since. And it's the same in school.. we NEVER talk. And like we got yearbooks, and I wanted him to sign mine sooo bad.. but that never happened. I always have these chances but give them up, and never get second chances. And sometimes I think that maybe he likes me. I'll see him looking at me or something. This sounds really weird, but I kinda got these like vibes that he wanted to sign my yearbook. But then like I'll see him around all these other girls (he's like popular.. and I'm one of those shy girls with 2 inseperable best friends + some others lol) I really don't know anymore. Anyway, to sum that up.. I'm just soo scared that I'm NEVER gonna talk to him again.. It just feels really awkward to start talking to him again. Like in highschool, I don't want him to completely forget about me. We have such a complex background, so we could make it right? We could end up being together, can't we? Ughh. I don't know. I'm soo sorry this is extremely long lol. I kinda went from one topic to another. So what do you think I should do? I don't want this to end this way.. and I certainly don't want to be forgotten in high school by the only person I really want.. Thank you so much to anyone who answers this extremely long "question", if you can even call it that. Okay, I'll stop now. :) Thanks. (link)
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Wow girl! Next time break it into paragraphs so
its easier on the eyes! LOL!
Going to high school probably seems scary but it really won't be. Change is always that way and you'll have more coming in high school. Same as you did in middle school. You survived that OK, right? Sure you did!
This boy has asked you out before so he probably likes you. You are going to have to get brave and stop saying no when he asks you out!
You have to realize that some boys have to muster up a bunch of courage to ask a girl out. It is a tough thing to do...she might say no! Which you did. They get all embarrassed and then don't know how they are supposed to act around you. That's probably where hes at.
So, you do have a chance with him if you want to try it, but you may have to be the one to approach him now. He will be to afraid of rejection to ask you again.
Get on the IM program and talk to him. Once you are on pretty friendly terms again, apologise for
turning him down when you did. Tell him you have felt bad about it. Let him know you would be interested if he wanted to go out sometime. Then follow through with it. No backing out!
Once you get that first date out of the way you will be good to go!
Good luck, go IM the guy. It will be a long summer so you might as well go have some fun with the guy. :)
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I am a divorced 48-year old woman with a ten year old child and her own business, who's not very close to her family. When I was 15, I had a baby, gave the child up for adoption and never lived with my parents again. (I am the eldest child.) They divorced shortly thereafter after a troubled 17-year marriage. I moved in with my grandmother (who was my best friend) and lived with her until her death, now more than 15 years ago.
Since then, with the exception of my father, who moved 3,000 miles away, my immediate family has done everything to treat me like I don't exist. It really hurt me but was a continution of the pain I experienced from them as a child.
My mother didn't attend my college graduation, wedding or anything important to me. She rarely has anything nice to say to me. She has refused to help me out financially. Family events came and went and I wasn't invited. My siblings come in and out of town and I am the last to know. Rarely were my phone calls were returned. Our few meetings are tense.
I did therapy after going through some personal troubles. There are a lot of things going on here, but I just want to know if my strategy of seeing to my own personal happiness is a thoughtful one.
I realize that to minimize pain I cannot accept responsibility for or control the actions of others. I have good relationships with my cousins now, but this means I rarely see or talk to my mother, aunts and siblings. It's too challenging for me.
But now it's affecting my 10 year-old. He complains he doesn't have "normal" family ties. What things can I do to minimize my own pain while at the same time trying to see to it my son has a strong relationship with my family?
PS--his grandmother has always tried to have a relationship with him and I never interfere or bad mouth them, but my son still complains...
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I know you probably try to keep things all nice for your sons sake. It may be time though that he
knew the reasons why your family doesn't get along with you. Trying to make everything seem okay has its own stress that you don't need.
If your son then wants a relationship with your family he can be free to do so and still understand why it is you aren't actively involved. No need to bad mouth them, you know, just give him the facts.
Another option is having a real heart to heart with your mom and then siblings. Try to clear the air and get on some kind of civil terms with them all. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes its real hard for parents to admit them. Sometimes they never do. That doesn't mean you can't start over (if you want to) from right now and have a relationship of some sort. It may never be a "normal" Walton's type of family, but it could be better if all would cooperate.
Good luck with it. :)
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i have a boyfriend, lets call him [ X ] and my bestfriend is telling me she really likes this other guy, lets call him [ A ]. but everytime i'm hanging out with my bf X and my bestfriend, she's always flirting with him. and i think she might like him, but i dunno how to tell her to just stop w/o hurting her feelings.
anyone have any advice for a nice way to say "stop flirting with my bf!"
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Some things you just have to come right out and say. "stop flirting with my boyfriend" (or girlfriend) is one of those things.
Just politely let her know that you don't approve
and she needs to stop. If she doesn't then don't hang around with her while you are with your boyfriend.
It probably wouldn't hurt to tell your boyfriend you don't like it too. He could always tell her to stop. :)
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I'm really upset about me and my one friend. We have been friends since 3rd grade, and I really want to stay friends forever. But lately, it seems like she doesn't want to be around her friends, she is just to concerened about guys. She never use to be like this, untill she got a boy friend in 8th grade. He and her went out for a while, but he broke up with her. It made her really sad. But ever since then, she's been constantly trying to get a new boy friend, and its getting really annoying! We're going into high school now, and its summer vacation and we are all taking summer gym. She likes this one guy, but he likes this one girl, and she has been all upset because of that! and whenever I talk to her on instant messenger, she'll always be talking to the guy she like, and completely ignore me! She also has been showing signs of that she is becoming (I'm sorry for saying it) slut! I really don't want my best friend to become that kind of person, but I feel there is nothing I can do. She is just being kind of mean and rude toward me in some ways, but she still acts like we're both good friends. When I ask a question about frienship to other people, they just say that I should talk it out with my friend, but I'm too scared. I know, it's sad, but I never use to, I could talk with her about anything, but since after 7th grade, I turned really shy, and now I can't do it. I feel like she's going down a path that I don't know if I should follow. I really want us to stay friends forever, and I don't want her turning into a bad person. I'm sorry this is long. Thanks so much! (link)
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It does seem that once a young girls head gets filled with boys its hard to get them to talk about anything else.
Maybe the thing to do is to find someone else in your summer gym class to pal around with. If she sees she is driving you away maybe she will realize what she is doing to your friendship.
As for her slutty behavior, maybe she thinks that is the only way she can get a boyfriend. She really needs to be told that she will only attract guys who want one thing. They usually don't really care for a girls feelings either.
If you don't feel able to discuss it with her then you may have to look for other friends. The thing is if she doesn't want to change her behavior, nothing you say to her is going to change that anyway.
I do think you need to explain to her that there are other things to talk about besides boys. If she wants to be friends with you, she needs to talk about other things too. It is kind of a natural thing though for girls to go through a stage where all they think about is boys. You probably will too! :)
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hey younggrandma! well i have this problem.. i have liked this one guy for a logn time asnd i have known him for about *7* years , and hes not really that good looking but i just love his personality. well anyway i`m scared to tell him that i like him because im not sure if he likes me, but sumtimes i think he does like me because he says stuff like .... your so hott... your so cute .... i love your smilee...you have such a pretty voice ... and he just flirts alot! and i was wondering if you could tell me if he likes me or not .. and if i should tell im i like him? thank you very much!!! (link)
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It certainly sounds like he likes you. If he thinks your hot...that's a pretty good sign!
I think if you want to tell him, you probably won't be disappointed. So let him know you like him too and see what happens. :)
Good Luck!
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What is a pep smear? (link)
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A pap smear is a test for cancer. The doctor uses a long q-tip looking thing to swab some cells from the inside
of you. Then they smear it on a slide and send it to a lab to be looked at under a microscope. :)
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whats a good way to get rid of acnee ?? help fast please !!!! thanx * (link)
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I don't know what works good on acne. I know I've taken pan of boiling water (use extreme caution the steam will burn you!), put a towel over my head to keep the steam in and steamed my face before. Cleans out your pores pretty good.
You don't want to get to close until the water cools down a little.
They do make steam machines for it too if you can afford one.
We aren't allowed to chat on here so I will tell you on this question and delete the other two.
I am 48 years old. I'm glad you like my advice, I enjoy helping whenever I can! :)
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How long do you think you have to wear braces for your teeth to get straighter .. ?? thank yah ! ILL RATE 5 ! (link)
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That depends a lot on you and how bad your bite is to begin with. Complex/severe bad bites take longer. The better you are following your orthodontist's instructions and taking care of your braces, the sooner your teeth will improve.
It does take a while sometimes. You can probably call an orthodontists office and talk to one of the nurses. They would have a better idea. :)
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is it possible for on eeye to be bigger than the other ??? (link)
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Its possible I suppose. It probably just looks that way. If it is something that really worries you go the the eye doctor and have it checked out. :)
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how long do you have to wait till you begin feeling symptoms of pregnancy? (link)
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Well, it kind of depends. You can miss a period
right away. However, depending on your age that isn't always the best indication. You could miss it for a lot of reasons that aren't related to being pregnant.
The other symptoms may or may not come after a month or so. Some never get any other symptoms.
You can check here for more info. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
Oh, and sorry I haven't answered sooner, wasn't ignoring you just have a screaming headache and the screen isn't helping much! :)
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