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are my friend and i drifting appart?
I'm really upset about me and my one friend. We have been friends since 3rd grade, and I really want to stay friends forever. But lately, it seems like she doesn't want to be around her friends, she is just to concerened about guys. She never use to be like this, untill she got a boy friend in 8th grade. He and her went out for a while, but he broke up with her. It made her really sad. But ever since then, she's been constantly trying to get a new boy friend, and its getting really annoying! We're going into high school now, and its summer vacation and we are all taking summer gym. She likes this one guy, but he likes this one girl, and she has been all upset because of that! and whenever I talk to her on instant messenger, she'll always be talking to the guy she like, and completely ignore me! She also has been showing signs of that she is becoming (I'm sorry for saying it) slut! I really don't want my best friend to become that kind of person, but I feel there is nothing I can do. She is just being kind of mean and rude toward me in some ways, but she still acts like we're both good friends. When I ask a question about frienship to other people, they just say that I should talk it out with my friend, but I'm too scared. I know, it's sad, but I never use to, I could talk with her about anything, but since after 7th grade, I turned really shy, and now I can't do it. I feel like she's going down a path that I don't know if I should follow. I really want us to stay friends forever, and I don't want her turning into a bad person. I'm sorry this is long. Thanks so much!
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It does seem that once a young girls head gets filled with boys its hard to get them to talk about anything else.
Maybe the thing to do is to find someone else in your summer gym class to pal around with. If she sees she is driving you away maybe she will realize what she is doing to your friendship.
As for her slutty behavior, maybe she thinks that is the only way she can get a boyfriend. She really needs to be told that she will only attract guys who want one thing. They usually don't really care for a girls feelings either.
If you don't feel able to discuss it with her then you may have to look for other friends. The thing is if she doesn't want to change her behavior, nothing you say to her is going to change that anyway.
I do think you need to explain to her that there are other things to talk about besides boys. If she wants to be friends with you, she needs to talk about other things too. It is kind of a natural thing though for girls to go through a stage where all they think about is boys. You probably will too! :)
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