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Is it as bad as grown ups make it seem?
So im 15/f and i so far have never took any chances! Ive never even kisseda boy for crying out loud becuase i am scared. I think my parentals made me this way. Anyways All my friends ONCE in awhile get together and drink. Now i dont want any rude comments but would it be all that bad to try it once? I am sick of being called the good girl, or princess! I meen i wouldnt get attatched to it would i? Is it as bad as grown ups make it seem?
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Oh boy, do I know how you feel.
You know, I'm 21 now and I live in the UK, where it's legal to drink at 18 in most places. All of my friends were getting drunk at 15/16. I didn't start drinking til my 18th birthday (Actually AT my birthday party, would you believe!)and in the years since then, I have been mildly drunk on four occasions and have had a hangover once and it was barely anything compared to what most people go through!!
Every now and then, I also wonder if I'm missing out. You hear all these tales of drunken debauchery and fun and it sounds like you're missing out on something amazing. But the reality of it is that your friends go out, illegally spend copious amounts of money on fluids they will be peeing out anyway, in order to obtain a temporary semi-legal enebriation which will result in lewd behaviour they won't even remember the next day, while they're throwing up half the things they drank the night before and complaining of violent headaches! Yes, the ease of it all and the way they describe it might seem appealing but I can promise you that the reality of it isn't as desirable. For one thing, when you are that out of it, you don't really know what you are doing and could end up in a lot of terrible situations. Of course, something might not happen and you might have a lot of fun. But is it really worth it?? Not really.
I know you don't like being called names for not sticking your neck on the line but why should you lower yourself to breaking the law and endangering your health just because of their immature behaviour? If you don't want to do it then you don't need to know anything else.
Alcohol CAN be addictive but that doesn't mean it always is. I and my boyfriend drink from time to time but I am basically teetotal and these days so is he, although he can remember waking up in the middle of a pavement, lying against a wall after a night of heavy drinking when he was young. He regrets it now because there are so many more productive things you could do with your time and so many better things to do with your money than drink it all away. You may not get addicted but if you bow to their taunts and peer pressure now and get the recognition frm them you seek, it will be a lot easier to do it again and again.
You only get one shot at life so you need to work things the way you want them, as long as it doesn't hurt others. When it comes to things like this, you need to bear that in mind and choose whether you want to do the thing you know deep down is best for you and the thing you really want to do or if you want to do what others want you to do, even if it goes against your beliefs and what you want.
Peer pressure is a tremendously strong force and it takes a stronger person to refuse to go along with it. If your friends are trying to make you do things you don't want to, be strong enough to stand up and tell them so. And if they aren't happy with your world, find some other friends who will respect you and your decisions, rather than make you feel inferior because you do the right thing.
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I'm somewhat in the same situation you are in.
As much as I hate to admit it, my parents have really made an impact on my life.
My friends are also big drinkers, but I never join in. I'm usually not the only sober one so it isn't as bad, but I can understand how you might feel left out if you are the only sober one. If your friends respect you like mine do, they won't pressure you. Just tell them you have to get up early the next morning or just say that you dont wanna get caught. It isnt worth getting caught and grounded. Trying it once isn't that bad, but don't binge. I'm sure everyone will try it once or twice, but it's the ones who aren't smart and secure with tthemselves that become addicted.
and don't worry about kissing guys.
I've only kissed 2 and now it doesnt even seem like the big deal that i thought it would be. It's not going to change how people act towards you because of the number of guys you kissed. As long as you are nice and friendly to everyone, eventually a guy will come around for you =)
good luck! i hope i helped
and just have fun and dont worry about being pressured.. enjoy being 15(i am !) we're still kids and im staying one as long as i can
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Its good to not take chances, your parents are just looking out for you deary!
Kissing boys and drinking are two very different things, there is a 21+ law for drinking you know! And it doesnt make you cool or anything, it has lots of side effects if you drink too much. I dont think its bad that your just doing it once, but that is how addictions are started, you try something once and like it, and then you just keep doing it, just becareful. Your parents/ grownups, warn you because they've had friends/family, people they care about have bad things happen to them, like drunk driving accidents you know?
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My brilliant answer:
Truthfully, the reason why they have the 21 years law is because adults are more responsible when it comes to drinking, and drinking can destory brain cells really easily until the age of 25 so they have the law to keep everyone safe. People under the age of 21 also can get addicted a lot easier, so it's better for you to wait until you are old enough. Truthfully, if your friends are presuring you to drink or are calling you a good girl or princess in a mean way, then they aren't very good friends for not respecting you and then makeing fun of you. Good luck and be careful!
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Well if your 21 and drink responsibly, I hear its not so bad. Although, you shouldn't binge or drink ntil im 21, or else it would make you an addict, and you'd have serious problems.
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Drinking is not bad only if it is done responsibly. It's sometimes good to follow the rules. It's not that you're a goody-two-shoes or anything like that, it's just that youre looking out for yourself and you've got your head on straight and your priorities where they need to be, which is awesome if you ask me. You're a responsible child, you don't need to change that because of what your friends think or say. The fact is that you're underage, and only a drink could get you uncontrollablly attached and addicted. Yeah, I mean, I like to take risks, but there's a good chance that you could get attached to it. Maybe if you can take control of it, then you could drink a little, but it's your first time, so I wouldn't reccomend it. The influence of your friends might trigger you to drink more than what you expected as well. In this case, you have got to do what you think is right. I hope I helped and I hope you make the right decision!
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its all good now and then you drink its not like you know its okay nobody should judge y ou on what you do anyways
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drinking is not good unless you are 21 or older because you can get drunk and get in a accident or hurt someone else and it could ruin your whole life. my dad is a alchoholic he got into a accident once. just because you don't drink does not mean you can be classified as a good girl or a princess.
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Yes I'm exactly in your situation.
My friends have all made out with like a lot of guys. So one time during new years eve my friend stole Bacardi from her moms shelf, and then we all just passed it around in a circle on her driveway. Now I had -->ONE<-- sip. And to tell you the truth, it was COMPLETELY nasty. I was grossed out. And so everytime it would come around I'd just laugh and push it away. I laughed because you could tell that everyone thought it was disgusting, and they were all just trying it to actually say they drank Bacardi. I mean, I'd rather have a good girl reputation then people saying "Oh yeah that girl got drunk on new years eve.What a hoe."
I;ve never kissed a guy either, but you know what? There are girls who go without kissing a girl till there 18. My mom was like that, and now she has three kids and is still married. All I'm saying is that you shouldn't be worried about it, because what I think is the longer you wait for your first kiss, the more special it's going to be. When the right guy comes around, you won;t be scared. You will think it's right (That sounds like a quote from Full House haha!)
And for the about being attached to alochol-- No, you won't get attatched to it on the first sip, but it's still wrong. I mean, if you keep drinking only a sip, then yes, your going to get attatched to it.
Are you uncomfertable hanging out with them when they all drink together? If you are, just hang out with them individually, if they invite you to hanng out with them all together, make up a reason not to.
i REALLY hope i helped
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wow your just like me and i think if you want to drink.. then drink who cares..just dont get caught lol and i doubt you will get attached because beer is really disgusting lol
and i dont think its as bad as the parents say so good luck
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If alcoholism runs in your family, I definitely wouldn't drink. That's why I don't drink. Also, it's not fun. Drinking alcohol, which for one tastes disgusting, then getting wasted so you act like a complete idiot..What's the fun in that? It is as bad as they make it seem. If you are at a party where underage drinking is and that party gets busted you are going to be in trouble, even if you didn't even have a sip of alcohol.
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this is one of those tricky situations.
Ok, so you are 15,
first things first, it is illegal.
But we can continue talking about it as we take a "biological approach" (all in the name of science)
It depends on what you drink and how you drink it.
A small glass of wine, or maybe some champaigne, there willl be no effect whatsoever.
If it is beer you want, stick to one beer, or maybe even half.
stay away from stuff like tequilla. and even vodka.
If you chill with your friends, just take a small sip if you want to fit in.
And simple rules.
1) drink it slowly
2)make sure you had something to eat earlier and some water to drink afterwards.
3) do not do it frequently, maybe once a month or less
4)think of it as an experience and not something that is cool, because it is not cool.
Like that other advice dude said, this stuff is kinda tricky to talk about. especially in public forums like these.
If you want, send it directly to my email account. We can talk more that way.
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it is bad. Who knows maybe you wont like it maybe you will but do you really want to play with that kinda thing. You could end up ruining your whole life for what just because everyone else does it.Its not such a bad thing to be called a good girl you know but if it really bothers you then there are thousnds of things you could do that are better like you could kiss a guy but drinking...??i mean how do you know you wont get attached no one knows that until they try.But still its your decision but i would recomend you not to try.
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At 15? it IS that bad! It just seems like a way to fit in and be rebellous and have a great time, right? Drug and alcohol use can be dangerous, and is certainly unhealthy. It's ok to be scared to get involved with boys, 15 isn't too old to have never been kissed. In fact, more teens are not as involved as you think they are with the opposite sex, you just hear about it a lot from those who are because they are very vocal. You are fine, and even if you never tried drinking or partying, and really were a "good girl", there isn't anything at all wrong with that. You'll see when you get older that the kids who were heavy into that typically turn out to have less-desirable lives then those who were always more responsible. I wouldn't worry if I were you.
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hey i'm willing to talk to you about this but not on here so if you are interested, leave me one in my inbox & i'll give you my sn. <3
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why try and blend in with everyone else? i dont drink and its a personal choice and almost everyone i talk to respects me for that. it shows that you dont care what people think about you.. and in my opinion thats what makes a girl very attractive. dont drink. its really not worth it. it just ends up in regrets. and yes you could get attached.
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Well, how about hearing from another parental?
The thing is your parents probably did all those things. That's why they are nervous. They know you are bound to try them. Thing is it can be as bad or worse than they say. Some things anyway. Times have changed.
The drinking and driving laws are a lot stricter
than they used to be. Now you not only have to worry about being killed by a drunk driver...which is bad enough by itself, you get caught now and you lose your license. Can you imagine being a teen and unable to drive? It is just not worth it.
When you drink you are easier to take advantage of. Sleep with some guy when you are wasted and you could get pregnant and possibly not even know who the father is. Life as you know it comes to a screeching halt.
So drinking could lead to death, no DL,& teen pregnancy. All very real possibilities.
Now kissing boys is OK. Dating boys is okay. But just be sure he cares for you and will stick by you should you get pregnant before thinking about having sex with him. You can date without it coming down to that. There are diseases to be had and unwanted pregnancies...both can be life altering.
Now, if you drink A beer or kiss a guy it doesn't make you bad. It doesn't make you any more acceptable either.
To answer your question "would it be bad to try it once"....it only takes once for any of those things to happen. THAT is what your parents know and are afraid of. They love you. :)
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