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My friend is REALLY shy..and she wants me to help her get over it..and i have an idea..I'll take her to walmart and we'll just kinda walk around while my mom shops for groceries and she likes to sing and has "stage fright" so i figured what better way to kinda bust her out of her shell by walking thru walmart singing. The reason i say this is because she is shy singing infront of people..even with one person she gets nervous..i was hoping to get a second opinion on this..would this be too hard on her? i figured i would have her sing for me a little bit then maybe for my parents (or go around the block singing) and then take her to walmart..i'm open to suggestions if anyone thinks they have a better idea! Thanks! (link)
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I think having her sing in front of your parents is okay if she wants too. You could also have her sing in front of other friends.
Do not have her sing at walmart. People would probably look at her like she was nuts or point and laugh. That happens and she will never sing
in public again. So don't do that because it will probably backfire on you.
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does eating chiles make your lips bigger? and also not to be vulgar or innapropriate (btw this s simply out of curiosity!) does sucking male genitals make them bigger (i'm trying to put it in as decent a way as i can.) i apologize if you find this innapropriate, but if you do you shouldn't leaving a comment. what with the likliness of karma ya know. (link)
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Chilies might. Will burn like crazy but it could work. Good luck on that and don't touch your fingers to your eyes afterwards because it will
burn for hours.
The sucking thing...nope. Unless maybe they have
chili peppers smeared on it. Which I don't advise because he would be screaming for days.
Which brings up another thing...avoid that area if you have chili peppers on your lips. GREAT way to ruin a relationship I would guess.
As for inappropriate questions, We have users under the age of 18 on our site. Giving "how to"
advice on sexual things becomes a legal issue at that point. It is not that we wouldn't like to answer the questions...we just cannot legally do so. So don't be offended if one of your questions is deemed inappropriate. Hopefully this one will be okay. :)
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Okay. I was at my friends house and we took her parent's smirnoffs and drank them. Her mom found out and said that if I don't tell my parents about it then my friend's grounding will be even longer. What should i tell my parents? They are really strict about everything. Thanks (link)
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Sounds like you had better tell them the truth.
They will be upset but probably not nearly as upset as they will be if your friends mom tells them before you do. :)
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i have played basketball for 2 years now im pretty good but not the best well now i moved and i made alot of new friends i really wanna play basketball next year but they all keep saying no dont play only popular girls play ( im not a nerd or geek, im just also as my friends say not "popular" ) should i listen to my friends or should i just try out for the team (link)
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If you enjoy playing basketball then by all means do. It is fun, a way to meet other people,
and great exercise. Don't let your friends keep you from doing something you really want to do. You will regret it later. :)
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ok is it ok to have sex when your on your period? (link)
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Depends on what you're asking. So I will cover both.
If you are wondering if you can get pregnant while on your period, yes you can. There is no "safe" time, always use protection.
If you are wondering if it will hurt anything, then no. It would be extremely messy but is okay. :)
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How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..
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If you are to young to deal with the consequences of your actions (motherhood being the main one), then you are to young. :)
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So, a couple times a day, maybe like 5 or 6, I get this thing where it feels like to get a good breath I have to breath really deeply in and out for like 5-10 minutes. It also always feel slike my airway is a little constricted but more so during these "breathing episodes". I went to the doctor yesterday but he said everything was fine but yesterday I didn't have to breath deeply for 5-10 minutes to get a good breath, it was just to feeling of constant constriction. Anyways, the doctor sent me to radiology of the hospital to get x-rays which turned out fine. It's especially hard to sleep at night as well. During these "breathing episodes" I also get really light headed and dizzy. Does anybody have any ideas of what i might have or how to help it or what to do next? Btw, Im 14/f. (link)
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I have no way of knowing what it might be. Your doctor probably knows best.
I can tell you this which might help. It sounds like during those 5 or 10 minutes you may be hyperventilating. That happens if you breathe real hard and fast. Happens a lot to people who have panic attacks, which you might ask your doctor about.
Anyway, next time you feel light headed and dizzy, get a paper sack and breathe into it for few minutes. Your breathing should return to normal. :)
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what is a lipid test? (link)
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It is a test that tells you your total cholesterol. So basically it is a cholesterol test. :)
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pI babysit a 10 month old and a 3 year old. The mom is going to be away and the dad has to cook at this 4th of July party they are having. They want me to babysit for them at the party. I dont know if I should let the family play with the kids or go off by myself because im afraid if I let a family member hold the baby they will keep passing him off and i will loose track of him. wut should i do? (link)
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Don't keep the baby from family members. So long as one of them has him he is being looked after.
Simply tell whoever wants him where they can find you when they want to give him back.
In the meantime, keep a watch over the 3 year old. If there are enough family members there, it will be an easy job for you. Just watch them when they aren't being loved on! :)
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It's Triple.G. I'm all depressed since someone insulted me on this website. And who knows, maybe that person is right to insult me. I deleted the question, so the question is unavailable. But for once, I thought advicenators was a place where I would have some friends. No one likes me at school. No one listens at home. I guess no one ever will like me. Maybe if I go to my next life, I'll be happy. I came onto advicenators to get help. I got the help, and ended up giving help so people wouldn't end up like me.
I'll delete my column, I guess. How do I e-mail dangernerd? My email system has a new pass word, and my mom is trying to find the password in our book. Do I just say in my column that I want it to be deleted?
Thanks. Along with my question, you can cheer me up. I feel a little loved that way. (link)
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Don't give up. You are doing so good!
I sent you an email but maybe you can't get it if your mail is down.
We don't want to lose good advisers. You can email DN if you want to but I really wish you wouldn't let this get to you. Not everyone is nice, you just have to let what some say go. It has happened to us all.
Forget about it and go answer some questions is my advice. If you want to email DN though, his address is dangernerd@gmail.com
Let me know what you decide okay?
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Alright well I was looking through people's answers for adivce because I am an advice giver as well but now I need help and I saw that you give pretty good adivice.
Thing is, is I'm with this guy and I call him my boyfriend only because we talk everyday and kept contact since driver's ed ended about 3 months ago. We made out before but that's about as far as we got and that was in April and that was the last time I saw him. He has a hard life and the day after we made out, it turns out he went to jail (nothing bad don't worry). He was there for a month and apparently he told his councelor to call me and give me his address so I could write him. The day he came out he called me and I was so happy and since then we've been talking everyday.
Now, it's been like 2 months since I've seen him and when we talk on the phone it's cool and everything but he always wants to talk about sex. That's fine to me cause well I think it's an interesting topic. Then he told me that he wants to do it with me. I am 15 and a virgin. He is 16 and lost his virginity when he was around 12 or 13 I think. The thing is, is that I have really strong feelings for him and I don't want to just be another girl for him. We have never said I love you or anything like that and he hasn't offically like asked me out or anything.
From the signs I get from him, I think he likes me but I don't know for sure because he's been with a couple of other girls and he might just know how to play me. I want to please him and I think I am ready I just want him to know that I don't want to just be another girl for him. I don't really know how to tell him though because when I tried a couple days ago, I kinda just started freaking out and he was like, "Sweety calm down. Baby it'll be okay" But I never got around to saying I don't want to just be another girl for you (I think that sounds kind of mean personally and he wouldn't respond well to that).
Please, tell me what I should say to him to make him know how I feel and how I should go about telling him I am getting strong feelings for him without making it akward.
Thank you so much in advance. (link)
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You do have to talk to him.
I guess you tell him you want your relationship to be special. If you have sex you want it to with someone who you love and who loves you in return. That isn't silly its the way it should be.
Honestly I have my doubts about weather or not you should take it to that next level. As you said he could be playing you. You have no real way of knowing that since you haven't seen him in person for 2 months. Its real easy to make things sound good over the phone or through email or IM.
You can tell him how you feel and see how he responds to it. Just be aware ( as I'm sure you are) that he could just be giving you a line. Hes been sexually active for a while, I don't know that he has been sitting at home just waiting to be with you. I hate saying it but you need to realize that if you don't already.
Take things slowly and see how they work out. Any guy worth a darn will wait if they care for you. If you have doubts at all then you should wait.
It shouldn't be awkward to talk to someone about your feelings if you plan on sleeping with them.
Its a sign you just don't know him well enough yet. Give yourself time. :)
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Hey... ok, this question is crazy so don't say I didn't warn you.
I think I'm looking for opinions more than advice... and I want to hear what you all think!!
Ok, I am a 20 year old female and I am about to start my third year of college. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 3 years. We actually went out for 2 years, then broke up for 8 months because I didn't want a relationship, and have now been back together for a few months. He is deffinitely the love of my life, and we intend on getting married in the future.
Why in the future and not now? Well, he recently joined the army and will be in it for the next 4 years. He is now stationed across the country and is going to Iraq for a year soon. He visits as much as he can, and we have no problems making the relationship work. We always talk about getting married in 4 years, because that is when he will get out of the army and I will be finishing up college.
So what is my question about? Well, we got to talking the other day, and the idea of us getting married NOW came up. The reason this even came up is because if we do it now, he will get payed twice as much for being married and in the military. Not only that, but I will also be able to get on his health insurance plan provided by the army. And lastly, the army would pay for my last four years of college... and because I am not eligible for financial aid, that would save us about 150,000 dollars in loans (after interest) once I am graduated.
If we get married now, there would be no ceremony since it's too last minute... he leaves for Iraq in 2 months. We would just sign the papers and be legally married. In your opinion, is this a mistake? Is it selfish or in bad taste? We both intend on getting married to each other, and we both love one another and have faith in the relationship. If we get married now, we intend on having a big ceremony in a year or two. What do you think? I mean if we are getting married anyway and love each other, shouldn't we just do it now and make our lives in the future easier?
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Since you have planned on marrying anyway I don't see a problem with it. As a matter of fact I think it could very well be a good idea.
Since money is one of the biggest causes of divorce, why go into it in 4 years owing a bunch of college loans or God forbid medical bills?
I think it is a good idea. It will help your future. Who needs a big wedding anyway. Just another bad way to start a marriage in debt up to
your eyeballs!
If you both want it, I say go for it. :)
Congratulations.
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Hey people. I've been a columnist for a short time, only from May 30, 2006. I love giving advice, and my rating is a 5. I love to read medical books, especially about puberty and stuff. Some girl here told me I know nothing about sex! Now I know that's not true, but whenever I'm insulted, my confidence goes down. And I enjoy advicenators, and helping people. Can someone say anything to boost my confidence up. And my columnist name is Triple.G, can you go there, scan my answers, and tell me if I do give bad sex advice? Thanks.
I'm in a sad mood, so I'll just give 5's. (link)
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Your column looks pretty good to me TripleG.
Keep in mind that not everyone who asks questions
is a teenager. Reading medical books is okay but
unless you have some knowledge it can be misinterpreted. Just give a link to where you found the info.
If you have no first hand knowledge of ANY subject, it is better to pass the question up. Not everyone here knows everything after all.
You have continued to improve over the past couple of months and you learn pretty quick. Just answer the ones you know about and you will do fine.
Oh, and don't just answer 5's and don't put that on questions anymore. A lot are being deleted and
made to rewrite them for putting that on.
I didn't delete yours because I know you will rate fairly...right? I'm using your question to get the word out so don't think I am picking on you or anything. ;)
I couldn't find on your column where someone got after you for that. If you have a link send it to me and I will check the specific question they were talking about for you.
Don't let others discourage you. Sometimes people aren't very nice. Your column looks fine to me. :)
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I'm taking summer gym, and me and my one friend have been making some good friends. But our other 2 friends are being kind of mean. Like when we walk a couple of laps in the morning, we'll be walking with some of the new people we've met, and it'll just be them walking, but whenever I go to them, they go all quiet and start being kind of mean. My thought was that they might be a little jealous because they haven't made much friends yet. But I don't know why they would do that. I really like my new friends, but I don't want to leave my old friends either, but they do get mean, and very controlling at times, and they make fun of us a lot for jokes, but it still hurts our feelings. What should I do? Thanks! (link)
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I don't know why they would be jealous either but it sure sounds like they are.
I also don't know why they call you names and make jokes about you if they are friends. Real friends just don't treat their friends like that.
Tell them that and if they can't stop then don't hang with them at all. :)
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I just started my marching band training today, and my calfs get very soar really easily. Does anyone know any exercises I can use to strenthen my calfs? (link)
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Riding a bicycle is probably the best way to strengthen your calf muscles. Ride one everywhere, you will soon notice the difference. :)
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okay i have recently asked a question to see if i was depressed. i told you how i felt and everyone who answered said that i was definetly depressed and that i should get help. but my question is, if your going through depression can you feel fine somedays but most of the time empty. so i guess what im trying to say is when going through depression do you still have some good days? (link)
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All teens, all people really go through periods of depression. It is normal. No need to seek special treatment for it unless it just does not go away.
Nobody on this sight is a doctor. Nobody here can diagnose you with depression. See your regular doctor if you feel it is interfering with your daily life. :)
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This is probly a really stupid question but.
Im a level 1 moderator. Amd i read that we rake the question by choosing one of those faces. Do we do do that for all the questions? And if we do, do we have to answer the question also?
thank you. (link)
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You rate all the questions. And No you do not have to answer them all. If you don't know an answer or can't add anything new to what has already been answered...just rate it and move on. :)
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Your welcome. :)
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I have a really bad sunburn...what should I do?
I'm very fair complected. Alot of it is on my arms and face. I've tried the mustard, vinager, and other crap that people say will bring the heat out of it but it has done nothing but irritate it, and make it look even redder. Help!
~Sunburnt in Ohio~ (link)
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Here is a whole list of remedies for sunburn. :)
http://www.nadraszky.com/fitness/archives/sunburn-remedies.html
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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME (link)
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Neither of them seem like good bets to me.
You know already Mark is not reliable. Felix is a wacko. Do not ever feel obligated to stay with someone who threatens suicide. As a matter of fact, that's probably a good reason to leave them alone. If his little drama fest keeps you with him he will try to manipulate you in other ways. After all, he just has to threaten to off himself and you will come running back.
You are in noway responsible for his life. Don't even think you are. If he is underage inform his parents of his threats and you are done.
My advice for what its worth is find someone else altogether. Both these guys are going to cause you nothing but heartache and trouble.
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I'm 15 and female and my b/f is 20, but I'm fixing to turn 16. My mom likes my b/f but my dad doesn't. They are currently filing for custody of me even though i don't want to live with my dad. The thing is that I may have made a huge mistake. I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend with my consent because I love him. We have been dating for nearly two years. The thing is that my mom has just informed me that the only way the can take me away from her is if we have had sex. I don't know what to do. Please, I need advice badly. (link)
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First I have to say that consensual or not it is against the law for an adult over the age of 18 to engage in sex with a minor. It is called statutory rape. Your dad may be able to argue that your mother by allowing you to date a 20 year old man is not being a good mother.DO NOT under any circumstances have sex with this guy again until you are of age. Age of consent is dependent on what state you live in. Here is a chart for that. http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm
Here is the legal definition of statutory rape.
as you can see. Your giving consent does NOT matter.
Legal Encyclopedia
Statutory Rape
Sexual intercourse by an adult with a person below a statutorily designated age.
The criminal offense of statutory rape is committed when an adult sexually penetrates a person who, under the law, is incapable of consenting to sex. Minors and physically and mentally incapacitated persons are deemed incapable of consenting to sex under rape statutes in all states. These persons are considered deserving of special protection because they are especially vulnerable due to their youth or condition.
Most legislatures include statutory rape provisions in statutes that punish a number of different types of sexual assault. Statutory rape is different from other types of rape in that force and lack of consent are not necessary for conviction. A defendant may be convicted of statutory rape even if the complainant explicitly consented to the sexual contact and no force was used by the actor. By contrast, other rape generally occurs when a person overcomes another person by force and without the person's consent.
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