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boyfriend and parents
I'm 15 and female and my b/f is 20, but I'm fixing to turn 16. My mom likes my b/f but my dad doesn't. They are currently filing for custody of me even though i don't want to live with my dad. The thing is that I may have made a huge mistake. I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend with my consent because I love him. We have been dating for nearly two years. The thing is that my mom has just informed me that the only way the can take me away from her is if we have had sex. I don't know what to do. Please, I need advice badly.
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Well, I would kep it a secret, i wouldnt tell anyone else either because it could reach to your parents.
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You don't need to tell them. Good luck hon
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honestly i just wouldn't tell anyone. it could get him in serious trouble and you may have to go live with your dad. if i were you i'd just say i was a virgin. i mean it's just my opinion, but in the end you have to do what you feel led to do.
i hope i helped at least a little.
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Don't tell anyone you had sex. It's that simple. They're not going to examine you to check or anything like that. It's also pretty unlikely they'll force you to testify if it goes to court anything other than who you want to live with. You an always request to put this in writing rather than having to stand in front of your parents and say it. Terefore noone will directly ask if you've had sex and you won't perjure yourself either.
And if you can refrain from doing it again until you're 16 that'd help you out a lot too. x
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Hi. My boyfriend is also 20, so that makes him 7 years older than me. But we've been together for over a year. My brother kinda went through the same thing with his girlfriend. So heres what I've found out just by mine and his experience.
*Even if you want to, since your not of legal age. He can still go to jail. It really actually depends on your state what the legal age of concent is. In MOST states its between 16-18. My state is 18.
Simply, you just don't need to let anyone find out what yall did, and everything should go over okay. So you don't want to tell people you had sex with him, because they could tell people, or the cops could find out. Then your boyfriend would have to go to jail.
Hope I helped..
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omg the same thing happened to my friend * kinda * shes dating some with the age length too, expect the mom doesnt like her bf but i would just say dont tell your dad you done anything sexualy, i know its bad to lie, but if you dont want to live with him then i guess you have to.
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First I have to say that consensual or not it is against the law for an adult over the age of 18 to engage in sex with a minor. It is called statutory rape. Your dad may be able to argue that your mother by allowing you to date a 20 year old man is not being a good mother.DO NOT under any circumstances have sex with this guy again until you are of age. Age of consent is dependent on what state you live in. Here is a chart for that. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Here is the legal definition of statutory rape.
as you can see. Your giving consent does NOT matter.
Legal Encyclopedia
Statutory Rape
Sexual intercourse by an adult with a person below a statutorily designated age.
The criminal offense of statutory rape is committed when an adult sexually penetrates a person who, under the law, is incapable of consenting to sex. Minors and physically and mentally incapacitated persons are deemed incapable of consenting to sex under rape statutes in all states. These persons are considered deserving of special protection because they are especially vulnerable due to their youth or condition.
Most legislatures include statutory rape provisions in statutes that punish a number of different types of sexual assault. Statutory rape is different from other types of rape in that force and lack of consent are not necessary for conviction. A defendant may be convicted of statutory rape even if the complainant explicitly consented to the sexual contact and no force was used by the actor. By contrast, other rape generally occurs when a person overcomes another person by force and without the person's consent.
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I actually do see the logic here. When the authorities ask you any questions, do not lie. Tell them whatever happened, but be sure to tell them about it being consentual. I don't know all the details as to why your dad is just now filing for custody, or on what grounds, but it is important to tell the truth. You really have to give you side and just put your faith in the decision of the authorities and making the choice that is best for you.
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oh wow... well no one has to know if you had sex or not. what are they gonna do, check you out to see if you did? but at the same time... if they ask you in court you can't lie. I think I would try to stay away from that topic and if it comes up say no because its not any of their business anyway, especially if they are trying to take you away from your mom using the fact that you had "illegal sexual relations". <3
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