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me and my boyfriend
Alright well I was looking through people's answers for adivce because I am an advice giver as well but now I need help and I saw that you give pretty good adivice.
Thing is, is I'm with this guy and I call him my boyfriend only because we talk everyday and kept contact since driver's ed ended about 3 months ago. We made out before but that's about as far as we got and that was in April and that was the last time I saw him. He has a hard life and the day after we made out, it turns out he went to jail (nothing bad don't worry). He was there for a month and apparently he told his councelor to call me and give me his address so I could write him. The day he came out he called me and I was so happy and since then we've been talking everyday.
Now, it's been like 2 months since I've seen him and when we talk on the phone it's cool and everything but he always wants to talk about sex. That's fine to me cause well I think it's an interesting topic. Then he told me that he wants to do it with me. I am 15 and a virgin. He is 16 and lost his virginity when he was around 12 or 13 I think. The thing is, is that I have really strong feelings for him and I don't want to just be another girl for him. We have never said I love you or anything like that and he hasn't offically like asked me out or anything.
From the signs I get from him, I think he likes me but I don't know for sure because he's been with a couple of other girls and he might just know how to play me. I want to please him and I think I am ready I just want him to know that I don't want to just be another girl for him. I don't really know how to tell him though because when I tried a couple days ago, I kinda just started freaking out and he was like, "Sweety calm down. Baby it'll be okay" But I never got around to saying I don't want to just be another girl for you (I think that sounds kind of mean personally and he wouldn't respond well to that).
Please, tell me what I should say to him to make him know how I feel and how I should go about telling him I am getting strong feelings for him without making it akward.
Thank you so much in advance.
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You do have to talk to him.
I guess you tell him you want your relationship to be special. If you have sex you want it to with someone who you love and who loves you in return. That isn't silly its the way it should be.
Honestly I have my doubts about weather or not you should take it to that next level. As you said he could be playing you. You have no real way of knowing that since you haven't seen him in person for 2 months. Its real easy to make things sound good over the phone or through email or IM.
You can tell him how you feel and see how he responds to it. Just be aware ( as I'm sure you are) that he could just be giving you a line. Hes been sexually active for a while, I don't know that he has been sitting at home just waiting to be with you. I hate saying it but you need to realize that if you don't already.
Take things slowly and see how they work out. Any guy worth a darn will wait if they care for you. If you have doubts at all then you should wait.
It shouldn't be awkward to talk to someone about your feelings if you plan on sleeping with them.
Its a sign you just don't know him well enough yet. Give yourself time. :)
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