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I've always known about my husband needing to crossdress from when we first got together I've helped him with clothes etc to help him feel more comfortable. Even go out for walks , always sit and listen if he wants to talk. The last 4 months he hasn't had chance to dress up etc as its been hectic im 6 mths pregnant his eldest child lives with us and is constantly in the house with his girlfriend. I noticed he started to get angry aggressive and like he can't cope with stress. I nearly left it got so bad. I pointed out he hadn't dressed etc for a while so he did and has complete chilled out again. I know his crossdressing was a stress reliever but does it really have this affect if left so long without? Any advice would be great. I try so hard to be supportive but I've been so devastated by recent behaviour, especially in a high risk pregnancy, could this be a valid excuse as he now seems his happy self.
Thank you for reading.
Everyone deals with stress in different ways. Stress is the number one cause of clinical depression. Your husband chooses to deal with stress through the fetish of cross dressing. Others turn to alcohol, extra marital affairs or a whole list of items that will relieve their levels of stress and anxiety.
Since your husbands cross dressing does not bother you then this is not one of his stressors. His eldest son I am assuming may not be aware of his fathers fetish or does not want his girlfriend knowing.
The first thing you need to do is find out what is causing your husband to stress out. Is it in fact the inability to not be able to cross dress frequently or are their other factors that contribute to his stress level. This will require you and your husband to have an honest conversation with each other especially with the baby coming. He needs to tell you what stresses him out so you can learn them & monitor his level of stress.
Once you know the reason for his stress and to what levels he can tolerate before his behavior starts to change. Then you can monitor and make time for him to cross dress and relieve his stress.
This may mean sending his son to spend a few days with his mom. So your husband can cross dress at home after the baby arrives. If your step-son is old enough to stay by himself you two can spend the night at an inexpensive motel where your husband can cross dress and you two can go for a walk or whatever you normally do when he does. After the baby arrives going out for the evening becomes more complicated as you must find someone to take the baby for the night.
I see nothing wrong with your husbands fetish. Everyone deals with stress in different ways. Those that chose fetishes have a list that is long and colorful to chose from, most being very benign from the stand point of causing harm to themselves or others. Others turn to smoking, alcohol and other things to relieve stress.
Finding the stressor and knowing when your husband is close to his tolerance level is one way of helping him. The other way is through therapy, not for his fetish but to help him learn to identify the stressors in his life and how best to deal with them until he can have time to enjoy his fetish. No therapist will condemn him for his fetish. It is a non harmful one and if it relieves his stress then they will work with it.
they will really go online and search every question and answer forum? Especially a rather unknown one? Doubt that. Not to mention they have no idea about whether I used my own computer or not
plan is not as flawed as it seems and I don't think police are going to treat this like some brutal assault like you are describing
The answer to your question is you better believe it. Don't underestimate the abilities of you State and local police in the area of counter Internet intelligence. You will be found.
In the mean time I am turning this over to the webmaster for him to do as he feels best. You are already committed several felonies. I have tried to talk you out of it. Now it is up to him to do whatever is best for his website.
Do you think I will do this if there is a chance any evidence or witnesses will be there? Or if there were cameras in the room or something? This is something that is going to be planned far in advance .
First off, she won't have to deal with anything, if she keeps quiet about it. If she doesn't mention it, then she won't have to go through the ordeals of getting a lawyer, going through an investigation, having all this being gossiped about etc.
two, if she goes against me without any proof. this will look bad. It can make other students think "What is to stop a teacher from making any claim against a student and getting them in trouble" Even parents will wonder that. Wondering if it is their own son or daughter that can get falsely accused.
Also, from talking to some other people online about this subject who tend to be knowledgeable about this and they said the teacher actually automatically be believed since she is the adult and the one in control and also they have to be on the lookout for sexual predators (since many exist) and since she is young it is easy to see the line getting blurred
Now it would be different If I was a known trouble maker. But I am not. I have never broken any school rule or misbehaved in school in any way so they have no real reason to automatically suspect me.
I can also definitely afford much better legal representation than hers
also, the best thing about this, her room is at the end of the hall. This is like perfect placement
also, something I am considering, Many weeks in advance of me carrying out this plan, I will go to my guidance counselor and tell him that my teacher might have been making inappropriate advances
towards me. I will word this VERY carefully and make it clear that I could have just been misrepresenting things and tell him not to worry or do anything about it unless something happens again. That way, if I need to tell people she came onto me later, they will know I warned him weeks in advance, and will have to report what I said weeks in advance later. Giving credence to what I say, I don't think I will do this though it seems to harsh and also there is a chance the counselor will go and tell someone about it anyway
in the end though, we are going to plan this far in advance. No way will I be rushed into it
I rejected your question the first time you sent it for you are going beyond naive into obsessive. What you are planning is not only wrong it is illegal.
This is a public forum. You have outlined in detail what you wish to do and how you wish to go about it. While you can delete the question. My answer and the answer of the other advisers remains in our columns for the police to find. As well as your original question and follow up questions and answers.
If you go ahead with your plan the police will check public forums and find this and the others. If your friends or anyone testifies as you have defined they can be charged with perjury, which also can be a felony.
You are correct in what you are thinking at this moment. We do not know your name. What we do have is the information from your computer. Each computer has a a unique identifier in it that is transmitted every time you send something over the Internet. The police with a warrant can trace the identifier back to the computer and you.
Forget this plan and get yourself some mental help.
Moral of story. Prisons are filled with people who think they have plans to break the law that are beyond the ability of the police to catch them. Yours is so flawed the police will not work up a sweat proving you to be a liar and a sex offender you will be if you go ahead with your plan. stop trying to justify that which cannot be justified.
Now get some help.
I have been friends with my bff.(femail &so am i) for about 8 years but just recently she asked me to touch her"down there" i did it and she said it felt good. But then she asked me if she could do it to me and i let her and it felt good. Am i gay!?!?!?
No I don't think your gay or a lesbian. You didn't give your age but I believe you to be in your early teens.
If I am correct what happened between you and your friend is entirely normal for teenagers experimenting with their sexuality. Both boys and girls during early teen years, experiment with same sex touching and more. So relax you and she are normal.
I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady and I know she likes me as a person and student.
She is about 26 or 27 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time, I go out of my way to walk past her room or see her, check out her Facebook page all the time to see her pictures, and I can't stand the thought of not being with her.
I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have my sister and one of my friends stand outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. Also to immediately close the door when I go for it and then open it again after.
another way of doing this is this way. Disguise myself with a mask and change of clothes. Rush in and blindfold her and then start kissing her. However, this seems like more of a risk than the first way since she won't be so surprised if I come in as myself and talk to her normally first
some reasons why this can work
If she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do?
I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over.
And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? And also have to go through a whole investigation and her name being everywhere?
. She can also be kind of flirty sometimes with her male students so therefore it won't be hard for people to believe she is the one that came on to me if I need to tell that story.
I'm also not the type of person people would believe would do anything so rash.
Also, if she goes against me without any proof she might look like a bully.
Also, I won't tell anyone anything unless I can tell she is thinking about telling someone first
some have made some counters saying the plan won't work, I think though these criticisms have no weight
-they say that they would believe her and not me. But the thing is though she will have no EVIDENCE, or witnesses. So I find this hard to believe they will automatically go after me just on her word. If this was true, what is to stop any teacher from telling that a student did something inappropriate and getting them in trouble?
-they say the police will be called in to question me and make me take a lie detector test. First, I don't think it will have to go that far since again there is no evidence. Also, I already know that lie detector tests are considered unreliable and are not used in court.
-they say she will be more than willing to go through with pressing charges and getting lawyers and stuff to defend herself. But the thing is if she doesn't tell anyone then she won't have to in the first place. And it is not just the money, she will have to deal with the whole investigation and publicity and having this all being gossiped about
I will also make sure there are no cameras or anything in the room in advance, and if there are I will call this off. Also, I will make sure there is nobody else around so there will be no witnesses. We will take a look at the area and plan everything in advance. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me, my heart pounds just thinking about her
I'll be brief. Your plan is childish and naive if you truly believe they will take your word over your teachers.
What you can expect is that she will report you to the principal. You will be suspended pending expulsion. The police will be called. They will investigate and talk to many more people then the ones you line up or give them as alibi witnesses.
Depending on the laws in your state you could face trial as an adult at your age. Depending on the sentence you receive you could spend part of it in an adult prison upon turning 21 the first part would be in a youth prison.
Again depending on the laws in your state Rape, attempted rape, sexual assault, battery and any other charges the prosecutor might charge you with could send you to prison for a long, long time. The rape charge, you do not have to have sex to be charged with rape. It depends again on th laws in your state, can send you to prison for 5, 10, 15 years to even life.
When you do, if you do get out of prison, you will need to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life. Is getting a quick kiss and copping a quick feel worth all this risk.
You are being very foolish to even think you could get away with this. Just because you are the younger party does not mean you will be believed. When it comes to going to court your friends cannand will turn against you and tell the truth. This is not television this is real life.
You need help, psychological help. Please get some before you ruin your life and hers.
13/F
My family is really mean to me, and I just want to not talk to them so they can just stop. Please no answers saying "You need to talk to your family" and stuff, because I want advice on how to not talk to them; not a essay on why I should.
Everytime I try, I always end up getting a reason to talk to them and I want to know how to ignore them completely. How? Thanks.
I really don't know how to tell you how to not talk or stop talking to your family. Judging from the lack of answers to this question neither does anyone else.
I believe we might be of more help to you if explain how your family are being mean to you and how they may be hurting you.
Are they physically hurting you when they are being mean to you? Are the family members who are being mean your siblings, your parents or both?
These are things we can offer advice on as to how to deal with.
Just a short answer to your question. If it is your parent you want to stop talking to? While I still have no answer for you I see this as causing you more trouble then you have now. If it is siblings I can see you getting more hurt than you may be getting hurt now.
You can write me back in a private message if you like. Then only you, me and the moderator of the site can see what you write.
my neighbor has been married for 29yrs and she has never been with another man. she and i are exstremely sexually attracted to each other we have not had sex yet but want to.what do you think is going through her mind? please help
I had a sales manager, who was a friend before he became my manager, who was in this exact situation. He acted on this by having an affair with his neighbor and it nearly ruined two families. It did end the marriage for his neighbor and nearly ended his marriage had it not been for a good marriage counselor.
I can't tell you what she is thinking. I don't know either of you and I'm not all that good at reading what other people are thinking even when I do know them. My advice is regardless of what she may be thinking that you do not act on any impulse you may be having as you will be found out and it will ruin your family.
The sexual attractiveness of this other women is that you are seeing something in her that you are no longer seeing from your wife or in your wife. This is fixable as we all reach a stage in are marriage called the comfort zone. Whatever you are seeing,seeking or feel you will be getting fulfilment of by having an affair with this women can be re-obtained with your wife.
Communication between partners, including married partners is still a very important part of our sexual life. Unfortunately married couples fall into a routine. If it's Tuesday or Saturday night we make love type routine. The spontaneity of our younger sex lives is missing.
This is the type of communication that is needed. Not while in bed but after the kids are in bed and before you two retire for the night. In the living room with a bottle of wine and some cuddling. This is when you have this discussion or maybe you need a third party to assist with this discussion. A marriage councilor or therapist.
Just don't act on your impulse to have an affair with your neighbor. This can only ruin two families.
I'm 13 I want it bad if anyone wants to do it with me my kik is youngguns17 I live in denver
Short answer is no, you should not be having sex at your age; you are way to young. You should also not be dating or hanging out with someone 17. Please trust me when I tell you his only interest in you is sex which for some reason he cannot get from a girl his own age. He is using you.
I am old enough to be your grandfather and I am not lecturing you. But I will give you the facts of life from my perspective of life as I have lived it and learned it from raising my own family.
You are barely into your teens and puberty. You may feel you want and even need to have sex; this is the new hormones of puberty talking. You need to learn to control these hormones and the urges they bring. This is one reason why as parents we constantly lecture on the, shall we say, evils of an early venture into having sex.
You may have already developed the outward appearance of a womanly body. At 13 though neither you or your body are truly ready for sex. Yes your vagina will accommodate a penis and it will probably hurt like the devil if you were to have sex now. Why? Your body is still maturing as is your reproductive system. Your vagina is not ready for intercourse. Fingering may even hurt.
As to dating some one 4 years older than you? I'm sure by now you have taken at least one math class in Algebra. Life is a lot like an algebra problem. As in an algebra problem you cannot skip any part of the problem and expect to get the right answer. Life is like that as well.
At your present point in life you need to date and mature with people your own age. This is how you acquire the proper ways of handling different social situations. How to handle boy's that are all hands is one part. This is a very important segment of life for anyone one. The teenage years are the years your grow and mature into an adult. Your formative years ages birth through 12 prepare you for your teen years.
It is hard to skip through or over the formative years but many try to skip over their teen years to act as adults. This usually ends in disaster for them. They pick up labels along the way that are hard to live down and many if not all are hurtful. You become an outcast socially which leads to depression.
As an adult if you were say 23 and he was 27 the age difference becomes only a number. Because you are then an adult, you have the maturity needed to make the right decision and to allow your heart to lead the way if you want. Socially there is nothing wrong with a 23 year old dating a 27 year old and my answer to you would be much shorter.
You need to follow the steps in life as they are designed to be followed. You will be much happier in the end if you do. Tell this 17 year old to find someone his own age to date and find yourself someone your own age to date.
Best rule to follow for now in dating. "If you cannot bring the boy home to meet your parents, then you should not be dating him."
Are you willing to bring this boy home to meet your father before you have sex with him?
19/f.
This sounds strange but I went through a relationship with my ex where we didn't really have sex a lot or anything else. I love sex and feel it's so emotionally connecting. Anyways I went to high school with this guy and we ended up sleeping together one night.(hes 21) Anyways since that happened, we've slept with each other on the last two saturdays this month. He normally calls me around 3 am when he's done partying with his friends and I'll pick him up and we'll go to his house. This sounds ridiculous in the views of some one else, but honestly I don't mind it. Honestly I do have a "liking" for him but at this point I'm happy to just get what I want, (sex) and I know he's happy too. I feel like I've missed out a lot with my previous relationship and even if we aren't talking, I'm not stressed anymore. This is the first time i'm experiencing this friends with benefits type of relationship. I mean as long as I'm happy right now I feel like I shouldn't stress/analyze the situation right? I'm young. But my real question is statistically do friends w/ benefits, work out in the long run? do they more often turn into relationships or not?
If we became something i'd sort of be interested but i'm NOT TRYING to rush anything. I know that sounds ironic since we already slept together. Thoughts, exc? Negative comments don't bother leaving what ever has happened happened. Looking toward the future.
Okay let me say this. Buy asking the question you have asked of us you are in away analyzing and questioning this relationship.
The answer to part of your question is: Friends w/benefit relationships rarely go further than that. It does happen but it is rare.
The real question is one only you can answer.
I believe you understand, for now, that you are being used. He goes out, parties, does not hook up is horny and calls you for guaranteed sexual relief. For now you are okay with this.
You say you are sort of interested in him and do not want to rush anything. How will you feel as you feelings grow for him that are not returned by him though he continues to use you? This is the question you have to ask yourself and answer.
The past is the past we can't change that. You say that yourself. You are looking toward the future and I believe the question I asked is the one you must answer for yourself before and if you decide to continue this relationship.
Friends with benefits usually ends up with someone being very hurt. That person is usually the person providing the benefit. That person can be both male or female. You sound like a nice women who doesn't deserve to be hurt if he does not return your interest.
Does losing your virginity delay your period?
I'm 19 years old (female) and I had sex for the first time. We used a condom, I should be getting my period in about a week. I just don't want to freak out when I don't get my period. So, I'm wondering, because it was my first time, could my body delay my period?
This is a no and yes answer. No loosing your virginity should not cause you, by itself, to delay your next period. Other factors can cause you to have a delayed or even missed period, some not even associated with having sex at all.
Stress is the biggest cause of a missed or delayed period. The stressor is the worry you may miss your period because you are pregnant. This is a common worry for all women especially young teenager, virgins and those that have unprotected sex. The other factors that could cause a missed period are medications; both prescription and over the counter medications.
If you have taken any type of medication or have been stressing about this since you have had sex, it could cause a delayed or missed period. Don't freak out and jump off the deep end thinking your pregnant. You go and get a home test kit and take a test. If it is negative then relax. If it is positive wait a week and if you still don't get your period test again. There are more false positives than false negatives in the home test kits.
Condoms are 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. Depending on where in your cycle you ovulate also determines when you are most fertile. For most women it is a period of time somewhere in the mid two weeks of a 28 day cycle.
At 19 you are an adult now responsible for your own medical well being and entitled to a sex life should you wish to have one. Since you have had sex I would suggest you visit your GYN and discuss a birth control medication that is proper for you.
Birth control pills are 99% effective in preventing pregnancy. Birth control pills and condoms used together are close to 100% effective. When having sex you should insist the man use a condom as a condom is also effective in preventing the transfer of some but not all of the STDS and HIV/AIDS.
Until you are in a long term relationship and you have both had blood test condoms are a must use item during sex.
How to make my boyfriend horny.What to say to make my boyfriend turned on.I really like him but i want to tease him a lot.But i don't want to have sex yet.
Some of what the first adviser wrote is very good information. I will add the following.
I understand what you want to do even if I am old enough to be your grandfather. I was once a young boy who had girlfriends who like you wanted to shall we say keep me interested but didn't want to go all the way as we called it.
Girls who were like that were labeled teases not a label you want especially in high school for you can find yourself sitting home on the weekends; even if you are the prettiest girl in school. Boys' don't like girls that tease. They would rather date a girl who tells them up front what her boundaries are rather then get teased.
Then there are boys who will not take no for an answer when they are being teased. Face the facts that most of the boys you will date are bigger and stronger than you are. If teased to much they may just take what they want.
It is called date rape. Today whatever label you want to put on it the police call it rape and charges are filed. In my day many of the boys would get away with this simply by bring a few other boys to court to testify that she was a tease and asking for it. Thankfully times have changed and rape is rape. You do not want to put yourself in this position.
For the most part as the other writer said, just being with your boyfriend will be enough to make him hard and horny if he is a young teenager. You will not have to anything to tease him for you will be spending your time defending your honor as we called in my day. Today you call it plain fighting him off. So just leave it at that and don't do anything that could cause you to get hurt.
My name is Brenda and I'm 32 years old. My husband is 31, this is his first marriage and my second.
I am at a loss on how to communicate with my husband, it seems that I can do nothing right , to have a conversation is almost impossible and when I bring it up to him I am being dramatic and acting like a victim. I don't know what to do. It just really upsets me when he says I act like a victim. I feel like he just doesn't want to talk with me, but he can talk to his friends.
Help me please. I fear loosing the man I love over something so trivial.
I really need more information to properly answer this question. I also do not understand, because of the lack of other information why his answer to you is; "I am being dramatic and acting like a victim." What might you be try to discuss with him that would elicit this response?
As for a general response to you: You two must of communicated prior to getting married. It is almost impossible outside of an arranged marriage not to speak with each other before you married.
Now I am not placing any blame here on you or him. What I am asking, since I am flying blind on the cause for the problem, is think back to discussions you and he had when you were dating and during your engagement period. Try to see what if anything has changed in you or him. This would be the first place to start in correcting this problem.
Be objective in your thinking if you have changed then admit that to yourself. If you both have changed, which is quite possible, then admit that too. If he has changed then you need to try and find out what has caused this change in him.
If you would like to answer my questions you can do so in a private message to me. The only people that will see that message is you, me and the moderator of this site should he stumble across it.
I feel that my classes work well because I bring a very positive attitude to my classrooms, when I speak to students and when I speak to co-workers. The problem is that at the end of the day, I feel absolutely emotionally exhausted from all the politeness, caring, etc.
I was hoping that fellow teachers could lend me some advice or strategies they may have in order to avoid feeling so exhausted at the end of the day.
I'm not a teacher though I do know what it means to be emotionally exhausted at the end of a work day. In general it is because you get too emotionally involved with the work you are doing. In some jobs this can be very good in others it can be harmful not only to the person doing the work but the work itself as you are no longer objective in your views.
As a teacher I would say being to emotionally involved with your work, that being the individual students, is both good and bad. It is bad for you as you are totally drained at the end of the day. For those of your students that need you emotional involvement it is both good and bad.
Your emotional involvement with those students who may need you in this way is good. You may be supplying something they are not getting at home. It is also bad for as their teacher if you get too emotionally involved your objectivity for those students can be effected.
You need to find a midpoint from where you are at now to a place where you can see a students needs though not involve yourself in those needs. This answer depends on just how involved you have or let yourself become in the lives of your students that need you for more than just a teacher. You know this answer. What you need to do is find ways to refer them for the help they may need rather than supplying it yourself. Then giving that help the support it needs in the classroom.
You sound like a good person and a good teacher. The children need good teachers. If you continue to involve yourself emotionally beyond that of what is required as a good teacher you will burn yourself out. That will be a terrible loss to the children and a big hurt for you.
I hate that I can't come anymore unless I grind. I try to get that in my boyfriends head and he won't understand. It's not as exciting for him to watch when I just grind but that's the only times I come. He wants me to do all this and for him I do and then I fake an orgasm practically all the time. I'd love to be able to tell him but I can't. I get too nervous and talk about something else. And now every time we put on a show for each other I have to fake an orgasm and I don't know what to do. What can I say to like hint to this? I know I'm too embarrassed to come straight out with it. And if I do tell him, I know that he will say that oh I've been lying to him and how he can't trust me and he'll get all upset. I've been with him for over a year and I don't want to break up. But I just don't know what I can do anymore.
The key to any successful sexual relationship is communication. Each of you need to communicate to each others your sexual likes, don't likes and desires. Then you as the women have to teach the man how to make love to you by showing him where you like to be touched and how.(more on this in a bit)
As to why you grind? The most logical answer is that you are among the 20% of women who are clitorially stimulated over vaginal stimulation. You grind to stimulate your clitoris so you can orgasm.
Now as young men/boys we learn about sex through watching porn movies and reading porn stories. These are not meant as educational guides. They mostly focus on a woman's vagina so that's were we focus when we first start making love.
We men have very fragile egos when it came to love making. We all think we are the worlds greatest lovers. We are not; we have to be taught by are partners how they like to be made love to and our partners need to know what we like. Most men have no problem telling a women to do this or I want to do this to you. For some reason even today's sexually liberated women will not stand up for her sexual rights in bed, but this is what you must do. Especially if like you and need more clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
The time to talk about this is not when your in bed messing up the sheets. The time to talk about this is in the living room during cuddle time. If your boyfriend truly loves and respects you; Once he knows why you grind then I believe he will understand and not be upset but maybe more ashamed of himself for misunderstanding your needs.
Once you have had this conversation then you can research on the web or buy books that will show different positions where you will get more clitoral stimulation.
I have been married for 41 years. My wife likes the occasional clitoral orgasm. While it is nice to be able to come together when she is in the mood for a clitoral orgasm, she does not have to say so in words, she told me early on in our sexual relations about her needs before we married. I can tell by the positions we find yourself in. When this happens I don't mind letting her work to her orgasm for I know after she has hers she will not leave me hanging and help me to a wonderful orgasm as well.
So talk to your boyfriend, maybe have him spend more time stimulating your clitoris during oral sex and foreplay. Maybe buy some toys such as a cock ring. Find new positions. This does not have to a relationship problem. This can be a door opener into a whole new sexual relationship for you both.
Im 14 and Iva had sex like 10 times. But they say i suck. What should I do?
I agree to a point with the first two advisers. The boys are the problem not you.
My concern though is you are 14. To be having sex at this age and to have had 10 sex partners is very concerning to me in several different ways.
First is by having this many sexual partners at your age you are going to get a label at school you are not going to like or be able to live down. I don't like this words so I won't use them but I believe you know the words I'm thinking of.
Let me stop here for a moment and tell you that I am old enough to be your grandfather. I'm not going to lecture you or condemn you in anyway for having sex at this tender age. I'm more concerned with your decision to do so and why so many partners. The average person even at my advanced age has not had that many sexual partners and I'm of the age of the sexual revolution and free love.
What concerns me as much as the injury to your reputation; is the why of this all. I understand, though I do not condone, that some young people have gone back to having sex at an earlier age. Though you may have the womanly body and the capability for a sexual relationship Regardless of how you feel you do not possess the maturity needed to have a successful sexual relationship. I'm not talking about what these boys are saying to you.
In fact I think they are saying this just so another boy has a chance of having sex with you. In fact I'm sure given the number of boys none of them have had any love for you or respect for you. I'm not even sure they lusted for you and this concerns me.
There is something bothering you whether you believe this or not, that you think having sex will fix or help with. Maybe it is something missing from your home life. Of this I cannot be sure.
What I can be sure of is 10 partners at 1 age is way to many partners. You need help to find out why you are doing this? If you cannot talk to you parents about this then please talk to a trusted teacher, your doctor or guidance counselor at school. There Is something bothering you and you will not find it in having sex with multiple sex partners. Please get help before you get pregnant or get an STD or worse the AIDS virus.
Okay, I'm a 15 yr old girl and my mom wants to take me to the gynecologist. She does the laundry for the house. Whenever she does our (my sister's and mine) she always mentions how she notices a certain... substance in my underwear. The thing is that I've noticed as well and it only comes out when I'm... sexually stimulated (by dreams and such. I'm a virgin and I don't masturbate. Shocking, I know). With this being true, I always write it off as me getting wet and ignore it. I'm really terrified to go, but she's thinking about asking my doctor for a referral soon. From anyone who's experienced this before, what should I do?
First at 15 years of age by Federal law you and only you are responsible for your reproductive health. Your mother cannot force you to go to a doctor and she cannot be told anything about your visits to a doctor that concern your reproductive system.
This law is known as HIPPA, which stands for Health Information Personal Privacy act. Within the law congress included an article concerning the sexual heath of young people starting at age 14. Under this law Congress has granted young people the right to medical privacy and confidentiality beginning at age 14 and extending through the age of maturity which in most states is age 18. At age 18 you are an adult in the eyes of the law an your parents are no longer entitled to any information on your medical records.
This law was passed so young people could be perfectly open and frank in their discussions with their doctors concerning their sexual health and reproductive system knowing the have full medical confidentiality and privacy.
Your mother can no longer be in the exam room with you without your consent. You and only you can release any information on you reproductive health system doctors visits and this must be in writing to the doctor. Should the doctor or any staff member release information to anyone without your written permission they face a 5 year jail term.
Under this law you do not need parental permission to make an appointment for a GYN exam or to see the doctor. You can even ask for birth control pills should you want them.
As a minor your mother can drag you to the doctors office. Once their you can invoke your rights under HIPPA and refuse to be examined if that's what you want. You can go ahead with the exam but again invoke your rights to privacy under HIPPA and mom will never know what you and the doctor spoke of or what you were examined for or the results of the exam.
Under this law should a girl between the ages of 14 and 18 become pregnant her parents cannot force her or prevent her from having an abortion. As to whether her parents can force her to give the child up for adoption that is not so clear.
So the short answer to your question is: You or anyone over the age of 14 cannot be forced to have an examination of their reproductive system by anyone. This would include the police in the case of a rape, although it is recommend that the women comply.
It is up to you as to how and when to inform mom of your HIPPA rights. She is not going to like it. But the law is the law and was written to protect the privacy of young teenagers, mostly for those who are sexually active, so they will seek medical help for any problems.
You can tell her at home that she has no legal right to force you to be examined or you can comply to a point and wait until you get to the doctors office to invoke your rights under HIPPA and the doctor will be their to support you.
http://earthquake.usgs.gov/earthquakes/eqinthenews/2011/usc0001xgp/#summary
I'm a little confused. I'm supposed to be writing a research paper on Earthquakes and I'm supposed to include the displacement of the fault, and the rupture length, and I'm a little confused as to how to find them.
It says this : "Modeling of the rupture of this earthquake indicate that the fault moved upwards of 30-40 m, and slipped over an area approximately 300 km long (along-strike) by 150 km wide (in the down-dip direction)."
But I still am unsure is the rupture lenth is 30-40meters, or if thats how much the fault was displaced.
my professor sucks at emailing me back, so for those of you who are good with these things, please help??
IF this is your question; "But I still am unsure is the rupture length is 30-40meters, or if that's how much the fault was displaced."
I would say this is the displacement. How much the earth moved up or over the other plate. Just so you know; It has been a long time since I was in school, decades in fact. My answer to you is based more on logic than what I can remember of the one course in Geology I took.
Did the 2004 earthquake in sumatra occur at a convergent plate boundary or a divergent one??
If you type in the following question to a search engine, I used Yahoo, you will find the beginning of your answer. From there it is just finding the definition of one word and you can have your answer.
I know you're looking for the just the answer. With these type of questions I see them as a school assignment. As a parent I don't mind helping you find the answer but I won't give it to you. You learn better if you have to do some of the work. Once I found the right question to search with, which took less than 5 minutes, I was able to come up with what I believe you are looking for. So start your search with the right question I have shown below and go from there.
Type this into your search engine:
How did the Sumatra earthquake of 2004 occur
The guy I'm talking to is always talking about girls he'd like to have sex with. We'll be talking about something and all of a sudden he'll send me a pic of a celebrity and be like "I would last 3 seconds man those legs she'd be mad but I would be the happiest man alive". Am I wrong to have my feelings hurt? Everytime he does that i just want to cry and i dont really know why. hes not one of those guys you can be emotionally vulnerable eith either so im stuck keeping it bottled in. I know we're not technically dating but I just think its disrespectful i never do that to him so why does he do that to me? I can't help but think maybe hes not even really interested in me. I get guys are naturally sexual people but does he have to always tell me about all the girls he'd like to screw? I'm 22 and he's 19 btw
The biggest part of the problem that I see is at the end of your message. He is 19 and you are 22. Numerically this is not a big deal; maturity wise he is still an immature teenager.
There is also the possibility, again from your writing, that he sees you more as a friend, a buddy someone he can talk to like any of his other pals. You also say you are not technically dating.
Still I believe his immaturity is the biggest problem her. I'm not sure what "not technically dating means" though I would say no matter what the definition is he is also being very rude to you and disrespectful of you when he does these things. These conversations you talk about are not the type I think are appropriate to have with a lady friend.
I believe the question is not whether he is interested in you, but are you interested enough in him that you really want to continue this relationship? If you are then he has to learn to accept that others have feeling and you can be emotionally vulnerable with him. A good relationship does not consist of sex alone; talking about it or having a sexual relationship.
A good relationship starts with getting to know one another. This is part sexual and part learning about each other likes, dislikes and vulnerabilities. The fact he is unwilling to see that side of you or allow you to show him that side of you tells me to suggest to you that you should re evaluate this relationship.
i want to live and enjoy seeing my kids grow up.i have been married for 10 years and i loved my husband more than anything he is my world he runs into my veins i got marry to him when i was only 16 i worship him like my only god but all he does to me is hurt me physically and mentally he call me prostitute,bitch.i am deseprate but deseprate for him to hold me tight every day and night and love me just the way i love him but insted he hates me he hits me sometime i perpously retaliate i know its gonna make him more angry and hes gonna hit me even more but one day he might show some sympathy and hold me tight and kiss me love me but i guess thats never gonna happen the way he gets angry and say stuff to me make me into someone im not i would never do any wrong to him i just want to give up on my life now because the one person apart from my kids i love my surjoooo but am no good for him im not as educated as he would like a women to be hes always on the facebook talking dirty to other womens being flirty and having a laugh but i always upset him and make him mad..i dont want to live anymore please tell me how to die at home quick and no pain
Our purpose is to help people live not to help them die.
You are an abused spouse and in a domestic violent marriage. The abuser in a domestic violence family in most states is committing a criminal act. If your husband is hitting you or beating you then you should call 911 and have the police take care of the situation.
You can also go to the District Courts Building where you live and take out a restraining order against him. This would force him to remove himself from your home. You should also see a lawyer to see just what rights you have under state laws for spousal support and child support during this period of separation. The lawyer will draw up the legal paperwork and present it in court for a court order against your husband. If you cannot afford a lawyer the courts will help you by appointing a legal aid lawyer to assist you.
There are two other organization you can contact for help. The first one is called RAINN. RIANN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hot line - 1-800-656-HOPE. They specialize in sexual assault help which from reading what you have written you may also be suffering. It is possible under the law for a husband to sexually assault his spouse. So give them a call. The counselors that answer the phones are trained to help you fin the right help in the town where you live.
It is the Suicide Prevention Center and they are there to help!Call (937)229-7777 or 1-800-320-HELP
They value your privacy. They are both anonymous and confidential.