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a married woman and i are sexually attracted to each other
my neighbor has been married for 29yrs and she has never been with another man. she and i are exstremely sexually attracted to each other we have not had sex yet but want to.what do you think is going through her mind? please help
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I had a sales manager, who was a friend before he became my manager, who was in this exact situation. He acted on this by having an affair with his neighbor and it nearly ruined two families. It did end the marriage for his neighbor and nearly ended his marriage had it not been for a good marriage counselor.
I can't tell you what she is thinking. I don't know either of you and I'm not all that good at reading what other people are thinking even when I do know them. My advice is regardless of what she may be thinking that you do not act on any impulse you may be having as you will be found out and it will ruin your family.
The sexual attractiveness of this other women is that you are seeing something in her that you are no longer seeing from your wife or in your wife. This is fixable as we all reach a stage in are marriage called the comfort zone. Whatever you are seeing,seeking or feel you will be getting fulfilment of by having an affair with this women can be re-obtained with your wife.
Communication between partners, including married partners is still a very important part of our sexual life. Unfortunately married couples fall into a routine. If it's Tuesday or Saturday night we make love type routine. The spontaneity of our younger sex lives is missing.
This is the type of communication that is needed. Not while in bed but after the kids are in bed and before you two retire for the night. In the living room with a bottle of wine and some cuddling. This is when you have this discussion or maybe you need a third party to assist with this discussion. A marriage councilor or therapist.
Just don't act on your impulse to have an affair with your neighbor. This can only ruin two families.
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We aren't mind readers. We can't tell you if this woman wants to cheat on her husband or not.
I can tell you this: Don't have an affair. It's dumb and messy and disastrous and hurtful for everyone involved. Regardless of what she might be thinking, don't you go and be that kind of asshole.
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