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what do you do when you have sex and they say you are bad at it?
Im 14 and Iva had sex like 10 times. But they say i suck. What should I do?
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I agree to a point with the first two advisers. The boys are the problem not you.
My concern though is you are 14. To be having sex at this age and to have had 10 sex partners is very concerning to me in several different ways.
First is by having this many sexual partners at your age you are going to get a label at school you are not going to like or be able to live down. I don't like this words so I won't use them but I believe you know the words I'm thinking of.
Let me stop here for a moment and tell you that I am old enough to be your grandfather. I'm not going to lecture you or condemn you in anyway for having sex at this tender age. I'm more concerned with your decision to do so and why so many partners. The average person even at my advanced age has not had that many sexual partners and I'm of the age of the sexual revolution and free love.
What concerns me as much as the injury to your reputation; is the why of this all. I understand, though I do not condone, that some young people have gone back to having sex at an earlier age. Though you may have the womanly body and the capability for a sexual relationship Regardless of how you feel you do not possess the maturity needed to have a successful sexual relationship. I'm not talking about what these boys are saying to you.
In fact I think they are saying this just so another boy has a chance of having sex with you. In fact I'm sure given the number of boys none of them have had any love for you or respect for you. I'm not even sure they lusted for you and this concerns me.
There is something bothering you whether you believe this or not, that you think having sex will fix or help with. Maybe it is something missing from your home life. Of this I cannot be sure.
What I can be sure of is 10 partners at 1 age is way to many partners. You need help to find out why you are doing this? If you cannot talk to you parents about this then please talk to a trusted teacher, your doctor or guidance counselor at school. There Is something bothering you and you will not find it in having sex with multiple sex partners. Please get help before you get pregnant or get an STD or worse the AIDS virus.
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Totally agree with your answer from Zanee here. I assume (and very much hope) that at 14 your partners have been close to you in age? And not greatly older (which is DEFINITELY not a position you want to be in). If they are your age sweetheart, how much experience do you think THEY have of great sex? How do you know it's not THEM who haven't got a clue? And yes, if all they want to do is to try and sound big and clever by making hurtful comments about you or two you then they're too immature for you to be allowing them this amount of intimacy with you at all. I don't like playing the 'If he really respected you he wouldn't...etc' card because all cases are unique in some way. But I will here. If sex was a disaster, and even if it was undeniably you who made it so, NO guy who cared for you at all would turn round and say 'You suck at sex'. Ever. OK? And if you're determined to have full, adult relationships so soon...try and choose a boyfriend who behaves like an adult around you. Best wishes...and ignore the comments. ps...got to add this, sorry if it's wide of the mark. But when you say 'they' you're worrying me. You're not involved in some scene with guys a lot older than you here are you? They're not a day over, say 18 at absolute max? It's not something you don't dare tell your girlfriends about when you're chatting? If it is please inbox someone you like the sound of on this site with a private message and talk to them about it. If it's so, they're VERY BAD NEWS. Sorry again, if I'm totally wrong.
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Honestly? Sounds like this person is too immature to be having sex with. When two people have sex, They do not criticize each other. Obviously the kid has some serious growing up too do.
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