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is this a good plan to be able to kiss my teacher and get away with it
I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady and I know she likes me as a person and student.
She is about 26 or 27 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time, I go out of my way to walk past her room or see her, check out her Facebook page all the time to see her pictures, and I can't stand the thought of not being with her.
I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have my sister and one of my friends stand outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. Also to immediately close the door when I go for it and then open it again after.
another way of doing this is this way. Disguise myself with a mask and change of clothes. Rush in and blindfold her and then start kissing her. However, this seems like more of a risk than the first way since she won't be so surprised if I come in as myself and talk to her normally first
some reasons why this can work
If she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do?
I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over.
And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? And also have to go through a whole investigation and her name being everywhere?
. She can also be kind of flirty sometimes with her male students so therefore it won't be hard for people to believe she is the one that came on to me if I need to tell that story.
I'm also not the type of person people would believe would do anything so rash.
Also, if she goes against me without any proof she might look like a bully.
Also, I won't tell anyone anything unless I can tell she is thinking about telling someone first
some have made some counters saying the plan won't work, I think though these criticisms have no weight
-they say that they would believe her and not me. But the thing is though she will have no EVIDENCE, or witnesses. So I find this hard to believe they will automatically go after me just on her word. If this was true, what is to stop any teacher from telling that a student did something inappropriate and getting them in trouble?
-they say the police will be called in to question me and make me take a lie detector test. First, I don't think it will have to go that far since again there is no evidence. Also, I already know that lie detector tests are considered unreliable and are not used in court.
-they say she will be more than willing to go through with pressing charges and getting lawyers and stuff to defend herself. But the thing is if she doesn't tell anyone then she won't have to in the first place. And it is not just the money, she will have to deal with the whole investigation and publicity and having this all being gossiped about
I will also make sure there are no cameras or anything in the room in advance, and if there are I will call this off. Also, I will make sure there is nobody else around so there will be no witnesses. We will take a look at the area and plan everything in advance. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me, my heart pounds just thinking about her
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Just the fact that you are trying so desperately to convince us that your plan will work should tell you something.
If and when an obsession gets to the point of interfering with your life, you need to get help with understanding and dealing with your feelings, NOT to create elaborate schemes to satisfy your urges. That last bit is how rapists and serial killers operate, and batterers. I'd like to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're none of those, but know that you are headed down that road if you begin this journey and assume zero responsibility for the CHOICES you are making - and what's more, try to place responsibility on another person.
You MUST stop this selfish plotting against your teacher, making assumptions about the choices she'll make in regards to your actions, and creating this elaborate mental chess game you're so certain you'll win.
You are a boy, and a very naive one at that. She is an adult, and has had much more life experience. Do not imagine that you'll know if she's thinking about doing or saying something before you have the opportunity. Trust me, women can lie just as convincingly.
I'm sorry to go on and on, but honestly, why would you imagine they would believe you over her? Yes, a student's claim would be damaging, but what they would consider is, why would she, happy in her career, take such a risk as to do something with a CHILD and ruin everything for herself? I know that I, personally, as a professional, will continue to meet clients who are good people and whose lives I would love to be a part of, were I not their therapist. But being their therapist means that I have a MORAL and ETHICAL obligation to keep our relationship professional, and nothing more. That, and honestly if I had to choose between my career and love, I know where my decision would lie. If anyone tried to sabotage that for me, I would do whatever it took to hang onto everything that I have worked for. If you care about her at all, you will drop this. If you have any self-worth, you will drop this.
Regardless. Bottom line is you need help dealing with your urges. There's no shame in it. Talk to your school counselor before you make a stupid decision and ruin both of your lives.
Please.
I recognize these obsessive thought patterns as potentially dangerous, and they concern me. You are on a slippery slope, my friend. Do NOT go down this path. Please, please do what you need in order to stop this before it gets worse. If you have any questions, inbox me, or my screen name is SirenCytherea on AIM. Just mention you found me here.
Siren
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I'll be brief. Your plan is childish and naive if you truly believe they will take your word over your teachers.
What you can expect is that she will report you to the principal. You will be suspended pending expulsion. The police will be called. They will investigate and talk to many more people then the ones you line up or give them as alibi witnesses.
Depending on the laws in your state you could face trial as an adult at your age. Depending on the sentence you receive you could spend part of it in an adult prison upon turning 21 the first part would be in a youth prison.
Again depending on the laws in your state Rape, attempted rape, sexual assault, battery and any other charges the prosecutor might charge you with could send you to prison for a long, long time. The rape charge, you do not have to have sex to be charged with rape. It depends again on th laws in your state, can send you to prison for 5, 10, 15 years to even life.
When you do, if you do get out of prison, you will need to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life. Is getting a quick kiss and copping a quick feel worth all this risk.
You are being very foolish to even think you could get away with this. Just because you are the younger party does not mean you will be believed. When it comes to going to court your friends cannand will turn against you and tell the truth. This is not television this is real life.
You need help, psychological help. Please get some before you ruin your life and hers.
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Sexually assaulting someone is never a good plan.
Why do you keep on thinking it's okay to abuse someone else in this way, just so long as you don't get in trouble?
You are wrong. If you can't see that you are wrong, you are mentally ill. This is not okay. It's not ethical, it's not reasonable. It's criminal abuse.
PLEASE talk to a counselor about your urges. This plan is probably not going to work (there is always evidence, and there are always witnesses in a school environment. You haven't exactly been secretive about your obsession, and not everyone is as fucked up as you are: Someone is going to feel they must speak up for justice for your victim.) and even if it did work, you would still have sexually assaulted someone. You would still have done something completely, disgustingly and unforgivably wrong. You would have forced someones body to be used, against their will, solely for your pleasure. It's one of the great violations of another person you can make. It's not 'love' it's not even obsession: It's a violent attack, pure and simple.
You do have an obsession, but the way to get it under control isn't to abuse her, and ruin her life. The way to get it under control is to seek therapy.
If you don't stop heading down this path, you will commit a horrible crime against a woman someday, perhaps even more than one. You will ruin dozens of lives, and eventually you will get caught and punished.
Handle your mental illness now because if you don't, even if get away with this crime, eventually your urges to sexually assault will destroy your life as well as your victims.
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Ok well, number one, you aren't in love with you're teacher. As you said, you are obsessed. Being obsessed with someone to the point that you want to sexually harrass them, it's a problem. It is ok to have a crush on a teacher and think they are attractive but to go through with doing something with them, it's ridiculous. You really need to get help if you are actually considering this.
What you are doing is wrong, you stalk her and now you want to harrass her and ruin her life. It's wrong.
If she does tell anyone, it's not true that they will believe you just because you are young. I have actually seen quite a few where the student lost. Just because you are young doesn't mean that they will believe you, that is a lie.
First of all, there are cameras in every classroom. So at that point, you're screwed. Just because there is no evidence, doesn't mean that you automatically win.
If you were actually in love with her, you wouldn't try to ruin her life. It's quite selfish and mean. You just care about yourself.
Just a claim from a student could damage a teachers career, you are correct, but when the police see that it's not true then you could be charged and she can still have her job.
It would be worth it for her to get her lawyer even with a teachers salary. She is married, correct? She and her husband have combined income. And then when she sues you, she gets more money out of your family.
You're going to have to pay for a lawyer too if you both go to court.
She won't look like a bully, trust me. I've seen these cases before.
If you really think there would be no evidence, then they won't be jumping to conclusions being her. They'll be checking both of you out.
And another thing, how could you even tie a blindfold around her without her pulling it off in time? She'll be thinking something is going on if someone runs in with a mask.
Also, how are you going to grab her and kiss her without pushing you away? Or even letting you get that close to kiss her. You definitely wouldn't be able to caress her body lol.
Anyways, terrible plan, won't work. Don't risk it, just go get some help with your obsession.
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Wow so youre going to force yourself upon her and then get her in trouble if she wants to get out of it. How is that love if youre threatening her or if youre thinking about all the ways you can get her in trouble instead? Wow just wow. Maybe you should talk to her about it, tell her youre feelings.. I mean if she doesnt wanna be with you she won't but geeze at least give her a chance to tell you so. Instead of making things difficult for her by giving her no choice or else she gets in trouble. And blindfolding her ? Are you serious. Bro c'mon , be a gentleman and tell her your feelings and let her decide what she wants to do instead of forcing her into it. Thats real love, being considerate to their feelings not to just your own. And not to making it look bad on her if things dont go your way. And maybe you should wait till your out of school and of legal age to approach her. You might have a better chance then, and then you wont have to be worried about all the legal stuff. Ya know? Well good luck I guess..
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EDIT: You call that normal?... seriously? This is fucked up.
Kissing her and forcing yourself on her isn't going to solve your problem. GET SOME HELP
1, You want to forceably kiss your teacher - sexual harrassment
2, You look at her facebook continuously - stalking
3, You want to plan this out so you don't get caught - wwrong wrong wrong
4, You fail, There is no success in this kid.
You need some professional help
You are planning to harrass abd assault your teacher. THIS IS WRONG.
You bet your ass you will be reported and if so you can ve charged with harrassment, sexual assault and be possibly expelled from the school.
Blunt: You sound like a fuckin creep
Now please, see a counselor or a therapist because your screws need some serious adjustment
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