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i need advice, should i have sex
I'm 13 I want it bad if anyone wants to do it with me my kik is youngguns17 I live in denver
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Short answer is no, you should not be having sex at your age; you are way to young. You should also not be dating or hanging out with someone 17. Please trust me when I tell you his only interest in you is sex which for some reason he cannot get from a girl his own age. He is using you.
I am old enough to be your grandfather and I am not lecturing you. But I will give you the facts of life from my perspective of life as I have lived it and learned it from raising my own family.
You are barely into your teens and puberty. You may feel you want and even need to have sex; this is the new hormones of puberty talking. You need to learn to control these hormones and the urges they bring. This is one reason why as parents we constantly lecture on the, shall we say, evils of an early venture into having sex.
You may have already developed the outward appearance of a womanly body. At 13 though neither you or your body are truly ready for sex. Yes your vagina will accommodate a penis and it will probably hurt like the devil if you were to have sex now. Why? Your body is still maturing as is your reproductive system. Your vagina is not ready for intercourse. Fingering may even hurt.
As to dating some one 4 years older than you? I'm sure by now you have taken at least one math class in Algebra. Life is a lot like an algebra problem. As in an algebra problem you cannot skip any part of the problem and expect to get the right answer. Life is like that as well.
At your present point in life you need to date and mature with people your own age. This is how you acquire the proper ways of handling different social situations. How to handle boy's that are all hands is one part. This is a very important segment of life for anyone one. The teenage years are the years your grow and mature into an adult. Your formative years ages birth through 12 prepare you for your teen years.
It is hard to skip through or over the formative years but many try to skip over their teen years to act as adults. This usually ends in disaster for them. They pick up labels along the way that are hard to live down and many if not all are hurtful. You become an outcast socially which leads to depression.
As an adult if you were say 23 and he was 27 the age difference becomes only a number. Because you are then an adult, you have the maturity needed to make the right decision and to allow your heart to lead the way if you want. Socially there is nothing wrong with a 23 year old dating a 27 year old and my answer to you would be much shorter.
You need to follow the steps in life as they are designed to be followed. You will be much happier in the end if you do. Tell this 17 year old to find someone his own age to date and find yourself someone your own age to date.
Best rule to follow for now in dating. "If you cannot bring the boy home to meet your parents, then you should not be dating him."
Are you willing to bring this boy home to meet your father before you have sex with him?
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