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About my boyfriend: I just want to turn him on all the time and make him hard, but I don't want to have sex with him.
How to make my boyfriend horny.What to say to make my boyfriend turned on.I really like him but i want to tease him a lot.But i don't want to have sex yet.
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You sound young so I'm pretty sure the only thing you have to do to make a guy turned on is just kiss him.
I suggest you tell him straight up that you don't want to have sex. Teasing a guy isn't a good thing unless you are planning to go all the way with him, but you aren't so he will consider you a tease.
Don't try to tease him, just tell him that you don't want to have sex.
I've heard boys talk about a girl who all they did was tease them and didn't follow through. They hated it because it makes them moody and down there, things start to hurt for them.
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Try talking to him. Be abundantly clear that you aren't ready for sex but want to do things that still turn him on. Find out directly from him what does that. It's different for each person.
There's no need for either of you to feel embarrassed as all of this is normal and healthy. It will help you know one another well and strengthen trust.
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Some of what the first adviser wrote is very good information. I will add the following.
I understand what you want to do even if I am old enough to be your grandfather. I was once a young boy who had girlfriends who like you wanted to shall we say keep me interested but didn't want to go all the way as we called it.
Girls who were like that were labeled teases not a label you want especially in high school for you can find yourself sitting home on the weekends; even if you are the prettiest girl in school. Boys' don't like girls that tease. They would rather date a girl who tells them up front what her boundaries are rather then get teased.
Then there are boys who will not take no for an answer when they are being teased. Face the facts that most of the boys you will date are bigger and stronger than you are. If teased to much they may just take what they want.
It is called date rape. Today whatever label you want to put on it the police call it rape and charges are filed. In my day many of the boys would get away with this simply by bring a few other boys to court to testify that she was a tease and asking for it. Thankfully times have changed and rape is rape. You do not want to put yourself in this position.
For the most part as the other writer said, just being with your boyfriend will be enough to make him hard and horny if he is a young teenager. You will not have to anything to tease him for you will be spending your time defending your honor as we called in my day. Today you call it plain fighting him off. So just leave it at that and don't do anything that could cause you to get hurt.
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I can see exactly what you're saying. But there is a risk of things running away with you once you emabark on this path. Don't know your age, but if the pair of you are in your teens, well you won't have to do much at all to arouse him really. Just pressing against you while you kiss will usually be enough to get him...er..interested...shall we say! Even just sitting beside you and looking into each others eyes might be enough a lot of the time. Don't overdo the tease. Partly, you can easily over-excite yourself in the doing of it. And when guys get constantly aroused, but don't releive the tension as it were, they can get a bit pushy, and moody and a tad argumentative. Since you're not planning on going much further yet, you'll have to knock him back. It's not that he's being mean, male arousal centres around testosterone. It's a hormone...and it's the same one that's also involved in aggressive behaviour in males. He's can't handle it through sex because you're not planning sex, he's not going to have a physical punch-up with you because you're a girl and he likes you. But it will often show in a picky, argumentative reaction. Thought I'd better point this out. There's some common stuff a young couple can do. Some save their most up-front teasing to exchange by phone, when you're not physically together. I'm sure I don't have to draw you a picture to explain how this works. Bit of trust needed if you swap texts...make sure he's not the type to save them and show his mates for a cheap laugh at your expense. Also, lots of young couples tease and excite each other and then defuse things by intimate touch long before they start sex. Meaning handjobs! It's very common and it's gone on as long as anyone can remember...because it works. Plenty of girls DO have full sex much too early and regret it for one reason or another. And of course pregnancy can result through mistakes or wrong information. There's not much to regret about making your boyfriend come, or letting him touch you a bit intimately by comparison...it's no where near such a 'big thing'. With a little imagination, matched with self-respect and self-control there's plenty of ways you can arouse each other without having full sex, and I think it's a very good idea myself. Since you can't pretend the feelings 'aren't there'...but indulging them fully really should wait until you have lots of confidence and trust in each other, and most importantly, until YOU feel ready. Have fun...and really...girls don't have to do TOO much to give lads a hard-on in their teens and early twenties. It's STOPPING us that's the problem!
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