i want to live and enjoy seeing my kids grow up, but suicide...
Question Posted Tuesday March 19 2013, 6:42 am
i want to live and enjoy seeing my kids grow up.i have been married for 10 years and i loved my husband more than anything he is my world he runs into my veins i got marry to him when i was only 16 i worship him like my only god but all he does to me is hurt me physically and mentally he call me prostitute,bitch.i am deseprate but deseprate for him to hold me tight every day and night and love me just the way i love him but insted he hates me he hits me sometime i perpously retaliate i know its gonna make him more angry and hes gonna hit me even more but one day he might show some sympathy and hold me tight and kiss me love me but i guess thats never gonna happen the way he gets angry and say stuff to me make me into someone im not i would never do any wrong to him i just want to give up on my life now because the one person apart from my kids i love my surjoooo but am no good for him im not as educated as he would like a women to be hes always on the facebook talking dirty to other womens being flirty and having a laugh but i always upset him and make him mad..i dont want to live anymore please tell me how to die at home quick and no pain
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category? Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions? lightoftruth answered Wednesday March 20 2013, 2:17 am: You know he doesn't treat you right and he won't change unless he wants to. You've been with him for a very long time so you've become used to how he treats you, but you're hurting.
You need to leave him. You will find someone else who will truly love you, hold you and kiss you all that you want. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with a man like this. You will be miserable forever. You will find love once again, but it will be so real and amazing. There is a love that is better than this.
He calls you things you aren't, he abuses you and is cheating on you. You deserve better, pack up your things and leave. Don't fight with him when he gets mad about you leaving, just go.
If your kids live with you, take them and go live with a friend or a family member.
I wish you the best of luck. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
HeretoHelp418 answered Tuesday March 19 2013, 4:01 pm: You need to get out of that marriage. He is abusive and doesnt deserve you and youre love. You cant make him change. And I know you love him but its not worth it at all. You deserve to be happy and treated with respect and be love. Hes not going to give you that , and I know you love him but itll be okay. You need to get you and youre children out and you need to leave him. You can't commit suicide, you shouldnt. Youre worth than so much more than a shitty relationship. Yes youre going to be heartbroken and sad for a while but in the end its going to be worth it and way better than staying with him. Dont leave your kids, if you die , theyll be stuck with him. You really want youre kids to be emotionally and physically abused AND have to deal with the horrifying grieve of losing a parent? A parent who voluntarily chose to leave them? I lost a parent, but he was terminally ill. He couldnt help it, but I was still so devastated and felt horrible for years. But having a parent kill themselves? Thats probably 100000 times worse. Please please please listen. Get out of youre marriage, and focus on being there for your kids. Youll find someone better, someone who'll love you to pieces, and treat you with respect. Someone thatll never dream of doing all those things your husband does. Itll be hard for a while, maybe for a long time. But itll be worth it. Don't commit suicide, for your kids, and for a chance to find someone else. And don't settle for anything less than being treated with respect, faithfulness, kindness, and pure love. Please..stay strong. [ HeretoHelp418's advice column | Ask HeretoHelp418 A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Tuesday March 19 2013, 9:46 am: Our purpose is to help people live not to help them die.
You are an abused spouse and in a domestic violent marriage. The abuser in a domestic violence family in most states is committing a criminal act. If your husband is hitting you or beating you then you should call 911 and have the police take care of the situation.
You can also go to the District Courts Building where you live and take out a restraining order against him. This would force him to remove himself from your home. You should also see a lawyer to see just what rights you have under state laws for spousal support and child support during this period of separation. The lawyer will draw up the legal paperwork and present it in court for a court order against your husband. If you cannot afford a lawyer the courts will help you by appointing a legal aid lawyer to assist you.
There are two other organization you can contact for help. The first one is called RAINN. RIANN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hot line - 1-800-656-HOPE. They specialize in sexual assault help which from reading what you have written you may also be suffering. It is possible under the law for a husband to sexually assault his spouse. So give them a call. The counselors that answer the phones are trained to help you fin the right help in the town where you live.
It is the Suicide Prevention Center and they are there to help!Call (937)229-7777 or 1-800-320-HELP
They value your privacy. They are both anonymous and confidential. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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