I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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does anybody know how to make a vanila cake, without the box?
I want to make one for my nephews birthday!
Hev (link)
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For a plan vanilla sponge, the recipe is:
8oz flour
8oz butter
8oz caster sugar
3 eggs
approx 3 drops of vanilla essence.
If you want a very light and fluffy sponge, separate the egg yolks from the egg whites and whisk the egg whites until they can form peaks. Then fold them gently into the mixture.
Grease two round cake tins and put them into an oven pre-heated to around 160 degrees for approximately 15 minutes. Check them carefully after 15 minutes and they should have risen and gone slightly golden on top. Check with a cake tester or long, thin knife in the centre of the cake. If it comes out with mixture on it, it needs a little longer. (Put the knife/cake tester in hot water and wipe dry before putting it in the cakes so it won't cause them to go soggy in the centre).
Now, if the cakes are golden brown on top but not yet cooked in the middle, place some greaseproof paper over the top and put them back in. Check every two to three minutes until they are done and turn out immediately onto a cooling rack.
If you want to do vanilla buttercream icing, mix a little butter with icing sugar and 2-3 drops of vanilla essence. You don't need much butter, so remember that you can add more if there isn't enough.
Finally, decorate as desired.
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I've been waking up say 5 or 3 in the morning for the past few nights.
I don't even know why, it's so weird.
I usually wake up with my covers kicked off my bed.
I don't remember having a nightmare or dream or anything. I don't know why this is happening?
Any ideas on why it's happening and how to prevent it? 5 stars to anyone who helps! (link)
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I expect that the first one or two times you woke up, there was some sort of noise or a dream perhaps that you don't remember or any other number of reasons. Then, after you had done this a couple of times, your body took it on as a habit. I've had the same problem before and it's just that after a short period of insomnia, your body adjusts so you can't get to sleep until a certain time or you wake up at a certain time every night after that. You probably had the covers kicked off because nights are growing warmer and you were too hot in your sleep.
There are a million and one different cures for insomnia, but the best website I have ever come across is http://www.well.com/~mick/insomnia/
It helped me get through a few very bad stints, so I would recommend them. I would recommend the eating of a bedtime snack (I chose a digestive biscuit or plain slice of bread)and definitely NOT the 'Quiet Ears', because it freaked me out and then I really couldn't sleep.
Anyways, give them a go. You have nothing to lose!
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me and my boyfriend broke up today because another boy blew a kiss at me and i laughed -- which he considered flirting i didnt do it on purpose so we broke up and today after school he told one of my friends he was just made and he wants to get back with me as all day at school he screamed and yelled at me and told me he didnt want to go on our class trip with me any more and we always fight and argue is it worth the troubles? should i get back with him or not? i love him but i dont think i can handle this anymore. Should i move on to see if theres better things or stay with the person i love that always hurts me? some one please help me! (link)
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To be honest, this really depends on what you want. Everyone is allowed to get jealous from time to time but in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a little light flirting, as long as you don't intend to act on it. My other half and I have flirted with other people from time to time. It's natural. But neither of us gets jealous about it because it's just playing and never serious.
Really, you need to have a talk with him about this because if you go straight back to him, there is a risk he could do this again. Explain to him that flirting is a natural thing and it doesn't mean there's anything in it. Reassure him that you really like him and you didn't mean to upset him but if he wants you back, he needs to learn to control his jealousy. If he thinks he can do this and you want to give him another try, do so, by all means. However, if he can't control his jealousy and knows this or if he does it again, let that be the end of it and find someone else.
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Stuck between three guys:
1) He's been a friend forever. I don't know if he feels the same way.
2) Think he's the most amazing guy in the world. SUPER hard to get. I haven't been able to really hang out with him yet, so we don't really know eachother. He's going to college about 15 minutes away from here in a few months.
3) Guy I've liked for 2 years. Getting out of a year relationship in less than 2 months. Should I go for him?
Which one too choose. Help pluheeese (link)
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To be totally honest, although you would like someone to help you choose one of these guys, I really don't think dating any of them is a good idea.
I know what you're thinking. You really like them all and you want to date them all! Why should you refuse to pursue a relationship with any of them? Basically, because whoever you end up choosing at this point in time, you will inevitabley end up wondering if you should have chosen one of the other two. While this sort of conflict is going on, you're best to leave the situation totally alone until you know for sure which one you would like to be with.
I won't recommend a list of pros and cons because at the end of the day, pros and cons are what you make of them and they don't amount to much in the grand scheme of things. Instead, I think you ought to stay single and spend some time trying not to think about any of them. Let nature take its course. Eventually, any big crushes will fade away and you will be left knowing who it is you truly want. On the other hand, someone else might come along who you know you want to be with more than any of the guys you have already mentioned. The point is, there's no point leaping in head first when your heart is in turmoil over this.
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Ok, the sad truth is that I have TONS of clothes...tons of cute tops and lots of pants..but I can never put an outfit together nor do I EVER feel like I have anything worth wearing. Does anyone have any tips on how I can "whittle" down my wardrobe so i look stylish yet don't have so much clothes that i dont pay attention to (link)
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There is a TV show that you might be interested in called 'What Not To Wear'. If you haven't already seen it, the two hosts, Trinny and Susannah are asked by friends of unwitting volunteers to help them out with their fashion sense, because they have none. They have released books based on the series, which help you work out the best styles and colours to suit your age, body type and so on.
Unfortunately, there doesn't appear to be a website dedicated to this, as I had hoped something like this might help. However, the website for the channel it runs on does have a mini-quiz that will help to determine what sort of clothes would be right for you. As I don't know what your body type is or what you look like, I thought this might help. The address is:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/lifestyle/tv_and_radio/what_not_to_wear/whattowear_index.shtml
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can you bleach hair with straight bleach? or is it horrible for your hair? (link)
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Whatever you do, don't use household bleach to do your hair!!!!!!!
It's very drying so other than the fact it will turn your hair a very unnatural colour, it will have a terrible effect on the condition of the hair in general and I promise you, no amount of conditioner wil help!!!
In answer to your question, yes hydrogen peroxide would work, as this is basically what they use in shops. However, I would strongly recommend you don't use it without the advice of a trained hairdresser because it can be tricky stuff. Too much and your hair will go an odd colour and suffer severe damage. Too little and you might turn your hair orange. The best thing you can do if you want to dye your hair cheaply is to purchase a do-it at home kit and ask someone who has used one before to help you.
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my boyfriend Jesse wants me to have sex and I really think iam ready,but the thing is I don't know how iam going to tell my mom is there a way to get on birthcontrol pills without my mom knowing? (link)
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If you see a Doctor or another healthcare professional and ask to be put on the Pill, any records they have are kept strictly confidential, so even if your parents wanted to know details, they would not be allowed access to them.
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why is sex so big of a thing to people like 16 days from my 16th b-day i lost my virginity and so the people that ive talked to before i had sex said that it was a big thing and once i did it wasnt much to me so really why do people make such a big deal about sex? (link)
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Being male does make a difference, because in general, girls seem to think of it as a much bigger deal than guys. For girls it is a significant physical communication of love between two people and the breaking of the hymen could almost be heralded as a symbol of transgression into womanhood.
For a lot of guys (at least all of the ones bar one that I have ever known), it begins as a physical desire, more than an emotional one (I believe this comes from the Primeval need for men to 'spread their seed' in order to ensure the survival of the human race) and then when they meet someone and fall in love, it can also become a physical way to communicate feelings for each other.
The fact is that sex is very much an emotional thing and men tend not to be as emotional as women so it might not always be such a big deal. However, trust me when I say that when you meet the right girl, it will become a big deal to you as well.
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this kid that i've been hanging out with went out with one of my so called friends. and like she's been supposvedly calling me a slut and stuff. and like i don't know if he asks me out if i should date him or not ..we kissed last night ..and he's always like flirting with me and kissing my cheek and telling me to kiss his ..but idk if i should do that to her or not. they've also been apart for more than 5 months. help?! :( (link)
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I honestly think that you need to rule her out of the equation, as if they have been apart for more than 5 months now, there is really no reason to let her affect your decisions. Fact of the matter is, it doesn't matter if she calls you a slut or if she says you wash your hair in a toilet or whatever else because you know it isn't true and she is only saying it because you have something she couldn't hold onto.
The bottom line and always has to be, if you really want to date him and it's not hurting anyone, go ahead and do it!
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My and my boyfriend went all the way the other day and about 20 minutes after we were done i was bleeding out of my vagina, not heavy like a period buti could tell i was bleeding. It only lasted a few hours also. I have had sex before once but that didnt happen after words! What happened? Is something wrong? Please help (link)
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Don't worry, I doubt there is anything wrong. Sometimes sex is a little more vigorous than others and, when you are not long past being a virgin especially, it can just cause you to tear a little inside.
You will fix and be fine again but just make sure that you are more careful in the future. I doubt there would be any long term consequences but blood afterwards kind of destroys the post-coital mood!
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Can too much attention freak a girl out and make her back off? Even though you're really close? I've heard people say this before, but I'm not too sure, and now I'm affraid that I've been bothering my girlfriend with too much attention. (link)
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It can do but it really depends on the girl. When I was younger and a boy liked me, I went right off him if he started calling round to see me every day or phoned me all the time because everybody needs some space.
On the flipside of that, however, there are some girls who like a lot of attention and feel concerned if it disappears.
The best thing you can do is speak to your girlfriend about it. However, choose your words carefully or you might come across as sounding paranoid. Just explain that you are concerned you might be smothering her and you want to know if she needs a little more space. See what she says to this. Whatever happens, you should really make sure she knows she can tell you if she feels crowded at any point. The only way you can maintain a relationship is through open and honest communication. In other words, if something in relationship doesn't feel right, you need to speak up about it and that goes for the both of you.
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Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=( (link)
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I'm shocked that you even need to ask on this one!! This guy is behaving completely inappropriately and in answer to your question, my guess is that, yes, he does just want sex. I'm sorry to say that but if you look at the facts, he was very into you until you said you didn't want to have sex until you got married, at which point he dumped you. Now, he's trying to hook up with another girl, who has a reputation for being promiscuous and at the same time, asking you to wait for him over the Summer?? Basically, he's telling you that he wants to go and sleep round with other girls and date other girls but doesn't want you seeing other guys.
Put it this way, any guy who truly did care about you at all would never put you under pressure to have sex or participate in sexual activity that you are not ready for.
There is absoloutely no way you should ever get back with this guy again! The chances are, he will return after the Summer, tell you how much he has missed you and how he wants to start seeing you again because he thinks he has 'really grown up.' Let me tell you something, if he says this, he will be lying. The truth will be he had plenty of sex over the Summer, got it out of his system and is ready to try to persuade you into bed again. DON'T fall for this. Unfortunately, I know a few girls who have fallen victim to this kind of tactic.
Move on and find yourself a decent guy who will show you some respect and treat you like the wonderful person you are.
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im getting a new cell phones & switching plans, i really like the slider phones..but someone told me everytime u slide it the buttons get messed up after a while, could anyone tell me if this is true..i was even thinkin bout gettin a razr but i aint sure yet (link)
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I have a Nokia 6280 and so far have had no problems at all. I've only had it for three weeks so far but it works wonderfully with no faults. The buttons work fine, all the functions work well and so far it is one of the nicest phones I have ever had.
I really think that it is the luck of the draw. The best thing you can do is actually go to a shop for a specific phone company, like T-Mobile or 02. They will explain their price plans and in every shop I have been to, they offer you insurance on your phone so if anything does happen, they will replace it.
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Okay, so I was at this party one time, & this boy says that he likes me, & asks me out.
I had a BIG crush on him at the time, so of course, i said yes.
A few days later, he says that he was only kidding, & he didn't like me. He only asked me out because his friends dared him to.
On the last day of school, he asks me out... AGAIN. What am i supposed to do? Should i believe him, or not? (link)
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Turn him down. I know that you really like/d him but do you really want to go out with a guy who either bows that easily to peer pressure (even when it involves hurting someone else), or can't cope with the idea of going out with a girl so much that he would lie about his reasons for asking her out?
Either way, you may have to accept that this guy just isn't the person you had hoped he was and move on. Tell him no because he isn't worth the effort and walk away.
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I am 15 years old and i have never made out or had a real boyfriend. I just started going to an all girls private school and i'm worried that i wont have boyfriends in highschool. I am trying to stay close with my old guy friends--but its hard. What should i do? (link)
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Please don't worry about this too much. There's a lot of pressure on girls to grow up too quickly when it comes to guys but there is NOTHING wrong with waiting.
You know, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17 and two weeks off becoming 18 and it was with the guy I am still with three years on. It was special. It was the most amazing first kiss I could ever have imagined having. Now, most of the girls I knew as I was getting older had their first kisses between 11 and 14 and the majority of those occurred at school discos and were horrible kisses with guys they never even liked or never heard from again!!!
I know that you want to feel like someone likes you and that you will never have anyone at the rate you are going. I went through it too. But it is so much better to wait until you find someone who is worth kissing, than to waste it on someone who doesn't deserve you. So please don't get too upset about this. So you have to wait a little longer? So you aren't going to kiss a bunch of guys who aren't worth it just for the sake of a kiss? Good for you!! Wait until you find someone you really like and who really likes you. Then, when the time is right, it'll just happen and believe me, you will be glad you waited.
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16/F, Recently, this guy told me how he felt and he said that he loved me since 7th grade. I'm thinking isn't just an obsession or a huge crush? and is it possible to love someone even if you're not with that person and you don't have a relationship with that person? (link)
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It is absoloutely possible. Unfortunately, it's very easy to fall in love with someone for whom you have no future and this is why so many of us women spend a lot of time contemplating the many joys of becoming a Nun!!
However, Nunnery aside for a moment, the only way you will find out once and for all whether or not he has a huge crush or really does love you is to go out with him.
Of course, if you really don't like him, this would be a waste of time but I would strongly recommend that if you don't like him, you put him down very gently. I doubt he is obsessed with you, as such. But it was very courageous of him to tell you how he felt.
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Ok I have asked a few questions about this guy before, mark (not real name)and we went out in 6th grade even though he really didnt like my and was just pressured by his firends. He broke it off with me and I struggled getting over him for 2ish years, then this year thinking I was over him I started likeing him again. Anyway he is going to the formal (year end 8th grade dance) with his good firend who is in love with him. The thing his he dosen't like her that way. He flirts with me all the time, and my firends think that he likes me. He has a nick name for me and i just don't know what to think, and I REALLY DON'T want to see him dancing with HER because she loves him and might suduce him. ugh what should I do? (link)
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There's really only two things you could do in this situation. You could keep quiet about it and have to go through the torture of seeing him with another girl when you know there is a chance he could be with you. Or you could tell him how you feel. He might still end up with another girl but if he is flirting with you, there's a chance he might like you back.
I know that it's scary to open up to him because he might say no but please trust me on this, it's far worse to go through life wondering what might have been. Tell him how you feel. At least that way, you will know once and for all how he feels and if he doesn't like you after all, you can get on with your life.
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hey... well my boyfriend jordan and i have been going out for a month now. but my problem is that he invited me to go to the community pool with his family tomorrow. but, i don`t want to go. i am veerrryyy self-concious when my stomach is showing, because i`m quite chubby for my age. i don`t want to lie to him, but i also don`t want to be in a bathing suit around other people. so, i`m scared to go because i`m afraid he`ll be embarassed to be seen with me. what should i do??
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I think that every single girl in the world has exactly the same fear whenever a situation arises where she has to wear a swimming costume or bikini. They're too fat/too thin. Boobs are too small/too big etc etc.
The The problem is that every woman imagines that when she's wearing such attire, the man she wants to attract or has, in your case, already attracted will have nothing left to his imagination because you feel completely naked and he can see (if you will excuse the expression) ll your wobbly bits!
But you say that you are quite chubby for your age. Other women say their boobs are too small. Clothes don't hide our figures that well! If he's seen you at all, he will already have an idea of what you look like in a swimming costume and he is going out with you because he LIKES the way you look.
What I'm saying is, I know that you're nervous he might see you with any excess weight you may be carrying but the truth is, he already knows what you look like so it won't be any surprise to him at all. If you're worried about your stomach, quickly go out and buy a swimming costume instead of a bikini, so he won't be able to see it as much. For now, however, please don't stress too much over this. He likes you for you and isn't going to be put off because of how you look underneath your clothes. If anything, he'll probably like you more!! Just try to be confident and it will all be much easier.
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16/f I think that I have a crush on my best friend. I've been really good friends with him for about 5 years now, but a couple of weeks ago we went to prom together and a little lightbulb went off in my head. Now I can't stop thinking about him, dreaming about him, wishing that he were more than just my best friend. He's going off to college soon, but I really really want something to happen before he leaves. Any ideas on how to get my best friend to like me back? I don't think that he has any idea that my feelings for him have changed, and I'm afraid that I'd freak him out if I just told him the strait truth. (link)
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A certain rule of thumb needs to be applied when dealing with feelings towards friends of the opposite sex.
How much do you really like him? Do you think it is the sort of crush where it will disappear quite quickly or do you think your feelings run deeper that this?
If you really think you feel something strong for a friend, I always would advise that you go for it. It doesn't have to be a big deal if the feelings are not reciprocated. But if you don't tell him then you will never know and I always believe that you can't get great love without great risk.
If you haven't felt this way about him for long, try leaving it for a few weeks and see if the feelings get stronger or disappear. If they get stronger, you should certainly tell him how you feel. Don't play games or tease him or anything. Just came straight out with it. Simply say "I had a really good time with you at the prom. But since then I've started to have feelings for you. I don't expect you to feel the same way and you don't have to say anything if you don't want to. We can stay just friends if that is what you want. But I wanted you to at least know how I feel." Leave it at that and see what he says.
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ok well i have all these bumps all over the back of my thighs and on my but i dont no why they are there but i dont like it ,,how can i get rid of them?
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It sounds very much like dry skin. I get the same thing all up and down my legs and on the tops of my arms. If you invest in a body brush and a good moisturiser (I know this will sound weird but I use feet moisturiser on my legs and it works wonders!) then use them both twice a day every day on problem areas, these spots should disappear in no time.
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