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scared to swim with my b/f (13/f)
hey... well my boyfriend jordan and i have been going out for a month now. but my problem is that he invited me to go to the community pool with his family tomorrow. but, i don`t want to go. i am veerrryyy self-concious when my stomach is showing, because i`m quite chubby for my age. i don`t want to lie to him, but i also don`t want to be in a bathing suit around other people. so, i`m scared to go because i`m afraid he`ll be embarassed to be seen with me. what should i do??
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i have the same fear around my friends
but if he really loves you than he wont care
and if he does than he's worthless...you should break up with him if he seriously cares how you look in a bathing suit
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get an amazingly cute one-piece. they have them out now where they peek and show a little bit of your tummy, without showin it all. i was even thinkin about getting a one-piece because theyre coming back in style
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Tankini
they are perfect
i am chubby andhate swim suits, also, i have terrible backne, and hate my back
you can tell him you arent comfortable
or wear bottoms and a tank top
there are plenty of ways to hide the tummy :)
hope i helped! and have fun! your boyfriend is with you because he likes YOU :)
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I think that every single girl in the world has exactly the same fear whenever a situation arises where she has to wear a swimming costume or bikini. They're too fat/too thin. Boobs are too small/too big etc etc.
The The problem is that every woman imagines that when she's wearing such attire, the man she wants to attract or has, in your case, already attracted will have nothing left to his imagination because you feel completely naked and he can see (if you will excuse the expression) ll your wobbly bits!
But you say that you are quite chubby for your age. Other women say their boobs are too small. Clothes don't hide our figures that well! If he's seen you at all, he will already have an idea of what you look like in a swimming costume and he is going out with you because he LIKES the way you look.
What I'm saying is, I know that you're nervous he might see you with any excess weight you may be carrying but the truth is, he already knows what you look like so it won't be any surprise to him at all. If you're worried about your stomach, quickly go out and buy a swimming costume instead of a bikini, so he won't be able to see it as much. For now, however, please don't stress too much over this. He likes you for you and isn't going to be put off because of how you look underneath your clothes. If anything, he'll probably like you more!! Just try to be confident and it will all be much easier.
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Just tell him you feel self-concious and that your afraid he'll be embarassed of you. I've done that w/ some of my boyfriends when I felt self-concious and they really reasure you that they love you the way you are and that you may think your stomach is big but they don't! Or, I'd consider talking to someone, a guy friend, or just a friend about it. It'll make you feel better! Also, your boyfriend I'm sure isn't going out with you for your looks and if he is DUMP HIM!! I hope it goes well!!!
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well if you don't feel comfortable wearing a bathing suit i would try wearing a tankini in my opinion they are better then one pieces and bikinis because they are looser around the stomach area. and if your boyfriend really does like you then it wont matter if your not super thin. good luck tomorrow and remember to stay confident!
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Well as rood as this may sound a month isnt that long and also it kind of sounds like hes using you hate to breake it to you! But anyways who cares what people think if he cares alot about you he wont think anything of it wear a skirt and shirt over it to not draw attention then before you get into the pool take it off and dont draw attention to it the more relaxed you will be the more fun you will have! So shake it off and GO PLAY! I dont have the best body either but thats what I do. Hope this helps. Sorry if it seemed rood to you. And please rate me.
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