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This guy wants me to wait on him?? do i?
Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=(
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I'm shocked that you even need to ask on this one!! This guy is behaving completely inappropriately and in answer to your question, my guess is that, yes, he does just want sex. I'm sorry to say that but if you look at the facts, he was very into you until you said you didn't want to have sex until you got married, at which point he dumped you. Now, he's trying to hook up with another girl, who has a reputation for being promiscuous and at the same time, asking you to wait for him over the Summer?? Basically, he's telling you that he wants to go and sleep round with other girls and date other girls but doesn't want you seeing other guys.
Put it this way, any guy who truly did care about you at all would never put you under pressure to have sex or participate in sexual activity that you are not ready for.
There is absoloutely no way you should ever get back with this guy again! The chances are, he will return after the Summer, tell you how much he has missed you and how he wants to start seeing you again because he thinks he has 'really grown up.' Let me tell you something, if he says this, he will be lying. The truth will be he had plenty of sex over the Summer, got it out of his system and is ready to try to persuade you into bed again. DON'T fall for this. Unfortunately, I know a few girls who have fallen victim to this kind of tactic.
Move on and find yourself a decent guy who will show you some respect and treat you like the wonderful person you are.
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well..if he didn't respect your wishes about not wanting to have sex and wait for marriage then he's not a good boyfriend. and if he said he hated you and wanted you to wait for him during the summer then that doesn't make him a good boyfriend either. if i were you then i wouldn't date him anymore. i mean if he treats you this badly then he's not a good boyfriend.hope you have a great summer. and good luck! bye
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Is he just after sex? Yes. Any guy that treats you like that for not giving in to him wants only one thing. Does he need to learn to be mature? Definately. He thinks that sex and manipulation is the way to get to a girl's heart. Yeah right.
Considering he went after some other girl who you have promptly labled as a "whore," I would say that he's not going to be waiting for you over the summer, so why should you wait for him? There are a lot better guys out there. If you're having trouble finding a mature guy that can treat you right, why bother having a bf right now? Guys your age aren't very mature in the first place, though they ALL think that they are. Wait a year or so and you might find a more mature guy.
If this sounded sarcastic, I'm sorry... Guys that just want a girl for sex sicken me. Hope I was of some help!
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He seems like he is searching for a lasting relationship but not a healthy one. It sounds like he is trying to mature into a sexual partner.If you dont want to be with him tell him because if you let him force you in a relationship then he will force you into sex.The long term relationship he wants seems to involve sex in it and if your not comfortable you need to tell him right off the back so he knows.
hope I helped.
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