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16/f I think that I have a crush on my best friend. I've been really good friends with him for about 5 years now, but a couple of weeks ago we went to prom together and a little lightbulb went off in my head. Now I can't stop thinking about him, dreaming about him, wishing that he were more than just my best friend. He's going off to college soon, but I really really want something to happen before he leaves. Any ideas on how to get my best friend to like me back? I don't think that he has any idea that my feelings for him have changed, and I'm afraid that I'd freak him out if I just told him the strait truth.
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well even if you freak him out by telling him that you have feelings for him just remember that he's your best friend. but since he's going to college i suggest you tell him before it's too late. who knows? maybe he has the same feelings for you but is just too scared that you might not like him the same way. just think about it. maybe my advice is the right thing for you. good luck. and have a great summer! bye
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A certain rule of thumb needs to be applied when dealing with feelings towards friends of the opposite sex.
How much do you really like him? Do you think it is the sort of crush where it will disappear quite quickly or do you think your feelings run deeper that this?
If you really think you feel something strong for a friend, I always would advise that you go for it. It doesn't have to be a big deal if the feelings are not reciprocated. But if you don't tell him then you will never know and I always believe that you can't get great love without great risk.
If you haven't felt this way about him for long, try leaving it for a few weeks and see if the feelings get stronger or disappear. If they get stronger, you should certainly tell him how you feel. Don't play games or tease him or anything. Just came straight out with it. Simply say "I had a really good time with you at the prom. But since then I've started to have feelings for you. I don't expect you to feel the same way and you don't have to say anything if you don't want to. We can stay just friends if that is what you want. But I wanted you to at least know how I feel." Leave it at that and see what he says.
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I would flirt with him and be extra nice to him to try and hint it. If he doesn't get the hint just talk to him. Maybe start off by saying yeah I like this guy, but I'm afraid he'll freak out if I tell him, what should I do? Do something like that to get his opinion on it. Then say, I'm talking about you. If he's your best friend he probably won't freak out or make you feel crazy. I'm sure of it. Good Luck!!
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If you've been friends for five years, and were close enough to go to Prom as just friends, find a discreet way to tell him how you feel. I've always liked something like, "...I've just started to realize that I really care about you." And you make so that they know exactly what you mean. Nobody can get freaked out about something that sweet. And if they do, they're a horrible person.
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your right, he prob would freak. and freaking before leaving can be a realy bad thing.
what do you think he thinks of you? maybe a little lightbulb went off in his head too. How ever he is acting towards you, do the same. If hes being chill, be chill. if he is flirting a little more then normal, do it too! if you are the kind of person who likes to take chances, then by all means, go for it! just be prepared for the reaction, if he freaks out, stay chill, untill you are alone, or with someone else. you freaking out will make him freak out even more!
hope i helped,
MeE!
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