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How do I respond to my girlfriend?
I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months, I honestly do love her. Whenever I tell her I love you she says I know like it's not a big deal or something, now whenver I tell her I love you she says I think you love me for the wrong reason, it hurts me when she says things like that, not once has she told me she loves me back. Am I just wasting my time? What should i do to respond to her when she tells me I love her for the wrong reason?
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I think she's afraid your going to hurt her, this is from my own experience. She might have had previous relationships where she got hurt and used. If not, talk to her and tell her how you feel. She may not realize she is hurting you or coming accross like it doesn't mean anything to her. Good Luck!
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you should talk to her, let her know how you feel instead of keeping it inside. if you really love her you can talk to her about anything right, so let her know how much you love her and how it feels when she doesnt respond to you saying you love her.
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Well if she is saying it then you either need to talk to her and tell her how you feel or if you dont feel like doing that then right her a letter or email or somthing of that sort. You can't force someone to say that they love you but if it has been 8 months then i would say if she dosent seem to respond to the letter or if you talk to her there might be another guy she is intrested in. I hate to tell you but that is some of the ways us girls give hints that were getting less intrested. Hope I helped. Good Luck
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Responding to girlfriend,
Here's a few things to look at what is happening...1) she is not sure she loves you and is waiting until she knows for a fact. With that being said, when one person says "I love you" it can be a very uncomfortable situation if the other person is unsure if they can reciprocate the feeling. I suggest you respect this growing process. 2) She might have a jaded opinion of love and maybe this is a good time to communicate on a deeper level on what exactly she means when she says "you love me for the wrong reasons". If you do really love her...you should feel comfortable to be honest with her concerning this issue. Either way you will have a better understanding of her perspective.
I think only after you communicate, then you can fully answer your questions if you are wasting your time. When you communicate with her, respect and honor her opinions by listening without judging. Sometimes it is hard to not take it personally when you are involving your heart...but this might be about her issue. Your issue is if you want to invest your heart with her after you know all the facts.
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no you are not just wasting your time...most girls dont like to tell boys they love them back... so its a 'girl" thing. most times they do love you back, but they just dont want to get caught up with love or had some bad experience with love before. maybe you should talk to her about it to see what she says..maybe she'll open up to you.. you can respond by saying "well what do you think are the wrong reasons?" or you can say "well i thinik i love you for the right ones, what do you think?" or you can say " no, i love you for exactly the right ones..i know you love me too, but u just wont admit it" and that way it'll be like killing two birds with one stone
hope i helped
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maybe she is waiting for the right time to say she loves you..I'm sure does love you but cant express it to you. you should tell her how you feel when she says things to hurt you. and ask her why she responds the way she does when you say you love her. If you honestly feel you are wasting your time and doubt the relationship you and your girl have then you should try to move on and if you dnot think you should do that then just give her some time....hope i helped
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Just give her time.
I'm pretty sure she really likes you
Sometimes people are afraid to say it.
Like.. throwing those words around like it's nothing, sort of thing..
Maybe she doesn't want to get hurt.
She might be saving those words when the relationship gets really serious.
I don't know, it took me a while to say those words.. it just felt weird and it was something new.
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