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Hey, My name is kendra. I go through a lot in my life and I love to give good advice to people who have experienced what i have been through. Im not the type of girl to tell you what to do, that's not my job. I just give advice and what you want to do wit it..is ur decision. I'll do my besT to understand every problem or question that is being asked. I take any questions and I dont judge. So drop some letters on my page and i will definitly give the advice thats besTT for ya..smoochiez..

~*I give good advice..to all the people who wanna rate me high thanx alot, but i dont care too much about the ratings as long as you have my advice then im alright*~

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Since its the winter, there getting really chapped and sore and the bleed* and everytime i put chapstick on it never heals and i don't really like lip care on my lips but i'll live so what should i do?

you should medicated chapstick..BLISTEX in the blue little container is great...also who like schapped lips..take care of them their easy to manage..also

try useing VASELINE.
TIP: you can put a dab of vaseline on your lips and brush your lips with a toothbrush.. it wipes dead skin and moisturizes your lips at night or in the mornings..
hope i helped

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so my life is pretty much going the wrong way. first the love of my life...(bf)... dumps me for nuthin. and then my labtop crashed so my mom got me a new one. im known as a spoiled brat. but i feel like im getting poorer cuz i aint really getting nuthin for christmas and stuff. so idk. my mom is getting like depressed and stuff and shes smoking again. and i wanna find a job but i dont turn 14 until december 24. and that aint old enough to get a job. the neighbors that moved in said i could babysit but they havent told me when yet. so i just needa do sumthin to earn money.

thankx

LIFE SUCKS...if your boyfriend dumped you, you're gonna feel sad especially if you really cared about him..but eventually you'll get over him and an easy way to get over him is by dating another guy whos better than him. if you dont do that, then you just have to come to terms with yourself that you dont need him and you should have someone that makes YOU, the love of their life.

BE HAPPY...your laptop crashed but at least you have another one rather than nothing at all. When you arent greatful for the things you have you should start thinkning about the millions of people who dont even know what a computer is..who cant afford to eat on christmas or who have no family or money. who are basically less unfortunate than you...yea yea im sure you hear that all the time and you're probably thinking i know i know...but you have to take life as it is. rather then search for jobs and stressing about not having a job...(which is some thing i can definitly relate to, but im 16 now and its still hard to find a job)find programs that you can join and join different activities at school trust me it's worth it because when you become of age some one can hook you up with a job that you'll probably enjoy. if you Really want to make money then make sure you remind your neighbors about babysitting..show them that you're eager to have a job.

I UNDERSTAND your mom is depressed but PLEASE promise me and especially yourself that you dont let that affect you and the way you see your life. It can be hard trust me i know but you have to do good things that occupy your time. If you can, maybe you should talk to your mother about quit smoking again. yes shes your mom and you're her daughter and she is grown and she's gonna make her own decisions but maybe you can change them..because im sure she doesn't know everything that is best for her.

There is always gonna be ups and down in life but life goes on. Dont be miserable. The downs can last for what seems like forever but you will have your good times....
Hope I Helped

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I plan on being a virgin until I'm married. I am currently a fifteen year old female. I've been confused lately about whether or not I should be dating and in relationships. Can I be in relationships and still manage to stay true to the no sex thing?
[By no sex, it includes everything, not just intercourse. No oral, fingering, touching someone below the waist, nudity, cybersex, phone sex, etc.
]

And no, these aren't rules set by my parents or anybody else. My parents have set no boundaries on me or even talked about it. This is something I decided on my own.

hey...my name is kendra..i am 16 and i also made the decision to not have sex until i am married at 15. For now im still sticking to my decision and its not for any religous reason. I have been in a few relationships and i made sure i kept my promise to myself not to have sex with any of the guys i've been with, no matter how cute they look. yess i am pressured everyday to have sex by the people who surround me, my peers, guys, tv..the media...but i know what i want and you know what you want..dont let anyone else control what you want.

Being in relationships allow you to see what you like and what you dont like in a guy. Its normal that a guy might pressure you to have sex but when you're with a guy make sure that your mind controls your body and not the other way around.

Have fun dating guys..althouhg you might find that some guys only want to have sex. if thats the case dont feel like you're holding back anything just move on....
hope i helped

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ok, well my breats are unique lets say haha. there always perky and up and like RARELY hang down. my question is, i can fit into a size 32C, 32B, and 34A. I buy all of my bras from victorias secret, and non of them are padded, and they're all from the pink collection. so how can i fit into different sizes? i fit best in a 32C, but without a bra, my breast look like a size A? whats up with this? am i just wearing the wrong size bra, how do i measure properly? thanks!

Yesss i know what you mean. I love my breast bcause they are mine but i can wear my mom's bras which are slightly padded and shes a 36c and i have bras that are also slightly padded which are in the B's..i also can fit 32 c too. i often hear people sayin my tits are big. but when i take off my bra my tits look small and on top of that i dont have that cleaveage line i have a gap....if you dont want to read eevryy thing young grandma wrote jsut go to this site it shows you step by step how to measure yourself..also i've gotten measured by a victoria secret worker and at first i was a c then a b..well we just have wonderful tits but im sure its normal.

http://kidshealth.org/misc/movie/teen/bra_size.html

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i started the pill (othro tricyclen lo) and ever since i started (this is my 2nd pack) i've been really dry down there. is this normal? and what can i do to fix it?

I've resaerched the syptoms which you probably should have.

sudden numbness or weakness, especially on one side of the body;

sudden headache, confusion, pain behind the eyes, problems with vision, speech, or balance;

chest pain or heavy feeling, pain spreading to the arm or shoulder, nausea, sweating, general ill feeling;

a change in the pattern or severity of migraine headaches;

nausea, stomach pain, low fever, loss of appetite, dark urine, clay-colored stools, jaundice (yellowing of the skin or eyes);

swelling in your hands, ankles, or feet; or

symptoms of depression (sleep problems, weakness, mood changes).

Continue using the medication and talk to your doctor if you have any of these less serious side effects:

mild nausea, vomiting, bloating, stomach cramps;

breast pain, tenderness, or swelling;

freckles or darkening of facial skin;

increased hair growth, loss of scalp hair;

changes in weight or appetite;

problems with contact lenses;

vaginal itching or discharge;

changes in your menstrual periods; or

headache, nervousness, dizziness, tired feeling.

There are also other syptoms not listed so you should definitly talk to your doctor


this is a website that rates the pill with people talking about it also: http://www.drugratingz.com/ShowRatings.jsp?tcvid=685

Hope i helped:)

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I hardly ever ask questions about love life. But I really need advice. I would talk to my best friends about this matter, but one of them will just tell me to go for it without listening to how i feel about it, and the other will just tell me NO because of the guy. I'll tell you everything that happened up until now, and i won't leave anything else out so i get get a truthful-straight foward answer from you guys.
Just for a warning, this is probably gonna be long.
I'll take you back to a few months ago. lets say..may. Well, back then I was currently with my first boyfriend (lets call him Joe) and things weren't going very well. I was doing things I really didn't want to do because I felt like I was trying to compete with his ex. Even though he didn't have contact with her. Well, Joe met my mom one weekend, and she let us go down in the basement to watch a movie. Lets just say she walked in on something that she wasn't supposed to walk in on.. After that, me and him had a serious talk and were going to try to change our relationship around, and if it didnt' work out, we would end it.
It went good for a week, then around memorial day, joe, danny (his best friend), and hannah (my best friend) went to hannahs house for her family cookout. [[ Danny and Hannah are going out btw ]] Everything was going good, but then Danny and Joe went for a walk and were talking for a while. I wondered what they were talking about to Hannah, and Hannah said Joe was going to break up with me. I thought she was saying it as some mean joke, like she has been for the past week. So I just pretended to be mad and shurgged it off. Well, Joe and Danny came back and we all talked.I thought that everything was going good, and I guess it was.
Then the next day, I went to hang out with Frank (my other best friend). Frank told me that Jimmy (his best friend, and one of mine) told him that Hannah was saying that Joe was gonna break up with me and such. So Frank talked to Joe about what was going on. Apparently, Hannah knew everything going on before I did, but wasn't going to tell me because Danny made her swear not to tell. Which kind of pissed me off. But anyway, Frank got the inside scoop on why Joe wanted to break up and such. Looking back on it I guess I knew what everyone was talking about, I was just in shock.
So later that night, I called Hannah to see if she would have the guts to tell me herself. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to talk to Joe about it. I told her that I knew and pretended not to be mad at her. So, I ended up calling Joe later and flipped out on him about telling every single person in the school. He told me that he didn't think of me as the same person. We ended up deciding it wouldn't work out so we broke up "mutually". I didn't really care until the next morning when I was an emotional wreck the whole day. I was talking to my good friend Jade about it, and Jade told me that she heard from her friend Amy that Danny said that Joe told him that he wished he asked Amy out sooner instead of me when we started having problems.
Well, I was even more of an emotional fjewirjfl after that and tried to figure out what the heck was going on from Joe. Joe told me that Danny lied. But Danny told me that Joe lied. I ended up getting mad at Amy. And then Jade hated me for telling Joe what I heard. So that went on for a good couple of weeks. I still liked him for about a month after we broke up, and I told Joe how I felt, he told me he doesn't like me anymore and ended up getting into huge "sob" stories on how his other girl friends broke up with him. So I don't really talk to him about it anymore.
Me and Hannah aren't that good of friends anymore because she's all hypocritical about Danny. and honestly i hate Danny with a passion so I just don't bother getting into huge discussions like this with her.
The problem is, its been three months and I'm still afraid to let go of Joe completly. I havn't really accepted the fact that he won't come back. I faced it, I gave back the stupid stuff he gave me. But I still have this feeling in my gut that he still likes me? Or maybe I just want him to like me back.. I can hear people getting sick of me with dwelling on this for so long. I'm sick of it myself. I want to move on. and whats even worse is that Jimmy likes me. I want to like Jimmy so bad, but I wouldn't go out with him because of the fact of Joe. And I don't beleive in using people.
Part of me wants to Call Joe. Just to set things straight. Should I? What should I do? I'm really lost right now.

sorry for the confusion. I just don't know if I should set things straight again with Joe (relationship or no-relationship) or give Jimmy a chance.

You need to let go of joe..you are emotionally attached to him and that isnt good. It's never good to dwell over a relationship that is over and im sure you know that and even though relationships are hard to get over because of the "memories", you have to get over them some how. and if you dont get over joe you're going to miss out on other realtionships that'll probably be way better then what you two had.
i personally think you need to work on yourself before you get into another relationship, like maybe make some changes in your life such as friends like Hannah, who is letting a boy come and change her attitude and your frriendship. Another thing is to never get emotinally attach to a guy it isnt healthy no matter how much he means to you.
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how can you tell if your about to start.
like we're at in your stomach hurts


well you can tell by the feeling at the bottom of your stiomach or your vaginal area..its a certain feeling that you know either you're having it at the moment or getting it soon. another way is keeping a log of the time you start and end you cycle to the next time you start it. but if you never had you period you dont really feel it because its really light the first time..hope i helped:)

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I guess lately I've been having self esteem issues.
See, the begining of the year, I got really sick, with something almost like the chicken pox, it wasnt that though, it was something rare. It left deep scabs, and they left deep scars, on my back, legs, pretty much everywhere, including my face.
The face part is really what bothers me, I have deep scars, not really horribly deep. But its like an indent.

And whenever I see pictures of myself before that,
it makes me feel really ugly, in fact, I have looking at pictures of me before that, because I know I will never look like that again.
:(

i watched the tyra banks show today and it showed how several women threw away their insecurities and flaws. not every one is perfect. there are 'gorgeous people' 'and people who look like 'a hot mess' dont think about what category you fit in, just love your self for who you are and every thing around you. be thankful for all that you have now (a face, sight, your health). Look in you mirror and point out all your flaws say it aloud and after you say them shout "So What!!"...thats what you are dealt with and move on. you might see some one who looks incredibly gorgeous to you but thats not you and you have to get over that somehow..some ppl cry and wish to look better then what they look like now but another way to get over it is telling your self that you are a beatiful person throughout your body...hope i helped:)

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i hate my height..i'm 5 6...i hate being this tall...i'm 14/f...is there any ways of being shorter??

well sorry to say this but no there isn't..you'll eventually decrease in height as you become old though. There are ways to appear shorter like kepping your hair in a pony tail..the only advice i can give you is that to be happy the way you are you were born and shped the way you are for a reason.. take advantage of your height, sports(basketball of course..right), modeling..etc..well anyways you have to be happy with the way you are there are people who dont grow more then 3 feet. love yourself and evetually you'll realize why you were made the way you were...hope i helped

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Okay, I'm a 14/f.
The guy I like is a senior, he's a good friend of mine, hes 18 going on 19 this June. I won't be 15 until August.

I really like him, but unfortunately, he is obsessed (and believe me when I say that) with my best friend. She's 15 and a year above me in school.

Anyways, she doesn't think of him as more than a brother and has told him this multiple times yet he can't get over her. She wants to go to prom with a guy she dated and he's actually thinking about asking her. However, the senior I like has already jumped and asked her, but she hasn't answered.

I don't know what to do.
Should I tell her she is leading him on if she goes with him?
Am I too young for him, do I have a chance?

Yes you should tell her that she is leadin him on but not because you want him..if he likes your bestfrined then maybe you shouldn't come in between that or you might get hurt because she may want to be with him (just not rite now)..And if he's not interested in you then just move on or at least find out if there is a possiblity for you guys by flirting or askking... And yes people may say he is too old for you but i guess it depends on the way he acts. but im my opinion 'age aint nothing but a number'...You cant just guess if you have a chance with him and i cant tell you if you do because i dont know either of you. so you have to find out for yourself. Hope i helped:)

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I have dark brown hair, and I want it to be lighter without dying it....because its damaging

Are there any hair products that could make my hair lighter?? (Creme, shampoo, etc)

you can go to the hair salon and ask for a rinse of a specific color and a rinse will not damage you hair like a dye would hope i helped

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my friend for 5 years is starting to like me (yes, i have my sources) and i don't know what to do because he asked me to prom and i want to go with some one else. if i go to prom with him, i will be sacrificing my chance to go with someone i actually like, but if i don't, im a total prick...what do i tell him?

Well..I can tell you that if you do decide to go with another guy your friend will probably be hurt. and thats something you'll have to deal with..but he's you friend so you should tell him how you feel..you can say something like "you dont want to go to prom with him because you dont want to take your friendship to another level yet"..."and that you had planned on going with someone else and you didnt want to tell him because you wouldnt know how he'd take it." and of course say you're sorry so you wont feel guilty. Hope i helped:)

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Is masturbating bad for you when you have your period?

No it isnt bad even though im sure if feels a little weird.. Hope i Helped

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i overheard that a guy i like just as friends is getting me a ring for my birthday. it is a cross ring and i don't know if it is supposed to be something more than a birthday present. i don't know if i could accept it if that's the case...what should i do?

Well you should accpet it because it's a gift and it must mean he thinks of you the same way you think of him..If he's getting you a ring then it's probably a friendship ring..which is really sweet... don't assume anything you're not sure what the gift is soppose to mean until you recive it so dont worry about it...hope i helped

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i am saving my self for marrige and my bf doesnt want to wait until we get married. he sometimes puts me agasnt a wall or kisses me and doesnt let go. this things exite me alot and im afraid they might lead to me giving in.
Is this normal for me to get exited sexually at such things?

Yes it is very normal..I'm waiting til marraige also. So many girls are loosing it so early that i think it's better to be different...Your boyfriend is probably trying to excite you and get you horny to change your mind about your decision to wait to have sex til you're married..He sure does want you to give in but he should respect that you dont want to have sex yet. But it's nothing wrong with him wanting to make your body feel good and your pussy wet every now and then without have sexual intercourse. And also it can be tempting to resist having sexual intercourse but remember there is always an Escape for any Temptation...Anything you do, think of all the consequences and how you'd feel afterwards, before you do anything..hope i helped

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Ok me and my ex boyfriend are talking again,i sent him a text the other day kind of braking upp completely as in not knowing anything more about eachother...He stopped me and he told me that he still loved like the first day he met me and he still wanted to keep talking to me too see if we can get to something again...i ended up accepting to keep on talking to him..But here is the deal he has me confused,if you tell a person you still love them and you want to keep on talking to them you at least call..he hasnt called me for two days its like that conversation didnt happen and im just really confused and want to know what this could mean i mean its not the first time he does it..its he playing hard to get or something???Please help i need advice.

well boys are like that sometimes, he probably feels like he doesnt want to stalk you around or anything.. unfortunatly most boys keep girls waiting by the phone and its a bad feeling but dont feel like you have to wait by the phone for his calls. He said he loves you and still wanted to be with you and you took him back. Now he even though he said all of those things to make you take him back it would be nice if he acted as if he loves you and everything..if this boy isn't making you feel how you want then you shouldn't have gave him another chance.....But if he does decide to call you soon dont get mad at him cuz it''s probably his way of making you want him more when you're not with him or not talking to him..hope i helped:)

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How long do you typically makeout for?
Because my bestfriend told me whenever she sees me makeout it seems like it's really really short.
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well me and my boyfriend make out for sometimes 20 or 30 minutes and sometimes a hour when we're really horny..but making out should just be between you and that guy/girl so it doenst matter what your frineds say. typically making out is like 5-10 minutes..hope i helped:)

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Ok my boyfriend is great but i am having trouble leting him in cause i scared and it is all new to me. He has to fight to hold my hand sometimes but my real thing is that he is used to kising his girlfriends and i really realy beyound a doupt want to kiss him like a make out kiss but i wont let him do it cause i dont know how and dont want to tell him. can u explane how to french?

okay i went through the same thing at the beginning of my school year. heres my story: im in 10th grade and i had never kissed a guy before but then i just went out with this guy that i known for about 1 month (big mistake, but he was sweet). Soo the 3rd day of going out i tounge kissed him..it wasnt that good. he had on alot of vaseline and his lips were kinda big lol but yea i didnt really noe wut to do it was kinda embarrasing to me. but i noe he didnt think anything was wrong. im sure he didnt think that was my first kiss, he probably thought i was just a bad kisser. And i kinda rushed it on him..he didnt expect it. but i swear to you the next day it got comfortable and natural kissing him. i was use to the feeling and how to kiss. but you should know kissing is not to be taught by instructions, if you wanna know how it is you have to experience it. just remember to put your tounge in his mouth and let it move in a circular motion with the guys tounge. thats basically what it is..you dont have to tell him you have never tounge kiss just kiss him and it wont be perfect at first but as you keep kissing him and having Great make out moments then you will get better at it. trust me..i was doing the same thing looking on sites to see how to kiss and asking for advice..but i forgot about everything i read beacause when the moment came i just did what naturally came to me. hope i helped:) by the way we dont go out anymore but he's still special to me..my first kiss awww....Smoochiez:*

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Libby always follows Vanessa around all the time! It's sooo annoying. Everyone notices, even Vanessa. Like if we're at a party, Libby is like Vanessa's shadow. I can't talk to Vanessa or be with her without Libby popping up. And if I'm with Libby she always leaves to go find Vanessa. V is annoyed w/ it too. Libby is such a follower it bugs me. I can't talk to Libby ab it because its hard to explain.. like i dont want to make a big deal ab it. Should I just leave it alone and let Libby figure it out for herself? Or what?

yesS you should tell her or maybe it'd be better if Vanessa told her. it's obvious Libby doens't realize she's getting annoying. im sure she wouldn't want to seem like a follower. She needs some advice and if it's bothering Vanessa she should tell her instead of letting continue to go on. If Vanessa donet tell her any time soon..she'll eventually blow up and say whats on her mind and it might come out wrong or even at the wrong time. When you, (i prefer Vanessa)tell Libby hows she acting, she should be understanding if takes it wrong then let her cool off for a while..try to be respectful about it..if she ends up disagreeing with you guys then maybe you shouldn't hang around her..who wants a follower all the time but then again if she's a good friend Vanessa should take in consideration that someone actullay wants to be around her alot. hope i helped be sure she knows what she's doing thats bothering you guys...merry christmas

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Hey, I am really bored half of my friends left the city and some just went somewhere with family. Some of my friends are busy with other people i don't know. & I also don't like asking my parents for a ride to go somewhere. I dont celebrate Christmas, but i am really bored. & i have this thing, when im bored I CRY because NOTHING to do home at all. Do you guys have any advice what I can do to keep myself busy & NOT cry? I usually go on msn, facebook & myspace, but i want to do something better. Also i usually clean my room, talk a bit on the phone, watch t/v , eatt but i still end up CryyInn.

Any good new sites or any advice please help, Also if you are not going away ober the holiday please share what you guys do & if you have facebook id like to add you if u dont mind =] THanks for taking your time to read this .

my parents dont clebrate christmas either and its really bored here in my house..my mom didnt even cook..when im bored n alone i get depressed and cry too. i hate when i do it but i just start think about everything thats wrong with my life.. well i thin you should try playin games on the computer or listenin to music that moves you physically and music that moves you emotionally. (im doin that now)...or do something creative like a scrap book or a cook book etc... write poetry or in a journal to write how you feel and what you wish you were doing.. draw.. these are things that i know will keep you busy. and when you get tired of doing them, theres that good ol tv you have waiting for you..
hope i helped..Merry christmas:P

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