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Prom
Okay, I'm a 14/f.
The guy I like is a senior, he's a good friend of mine, hes 18 going on 19 this June. I won't be 15 until August.
I really like him, but unfortunately, he is obsessed (and believe me when I say that) with my best friend. She's 15 and a year above me in school.
Anyways, she doesn't think of him as more than a brother and has told him this multiple times yet he can't get over her. She wants to go to prom with a guy she dated and he's actually thinking about asking her. However, the senior I like has already jumped and asked her, but she hasn't answered.
I don't know what to do.
Should I tell her she is leading him on if she goes with him?
Am I too young for him, do I have a chance?
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WOW! You have a chance. Your best friend may not admit if she likes him, but if she does, talk to her! Tell her how you feel. You guys should just get over him. If she does not agree, then she isnt a real friend. So, go up and talk to him. Be flirty! Be cute! But he should like your personality, not looks. One thing will need to another! xoxo Miss Anonymous
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i suggest that you tell your friend that you like him. this way she will no. cuz then she might not go with him becuase she might think it will hurt your feelings. and maybe your friend will tell him so then he will know. and i might ask you. because you never know he might liek you too but just never said anythings
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I beleive in being honest and blunt. This may not be what you want to hear but I think your changes are really small with him. He'll be 18 and thinking of college and college women and you'll still be in high school.
He's likely not going to have the support of his family and friends here if he did date you. Sadly, that plays heavily in to this. However, the age gap from 15-18 isn't much. The biggest factor is maturity emotionally, mentally, intellectually. If you still act like 13-14 and he's acting older its going to be a bad match that could go down in flames.
Unless you are two people that are so compatible it likely won't work as his world is night/day different than yours. At 18 he's an adult and a lot of people will be putting pressure on him and making fun of him because he's dating a "kid"
If none of this really matters talk to him about your friend. Tell him point blank that you know she's not interested at all as she said it three times already and is getting tired of him asking and likely won't accept his invitation. Tell him you however, will go with him if he wants and you've always been interested in him. Then leave it to him.
You have to approach him directly with your feelings here as he's likely not aware of your feelings. Your friend would indeed be leading him on if she accepted the invitation to prom and doesn't tell him it's strictly friends or no dice.
Should you tell her that she's leading him on? In short no. Why? Well when it comes to relationships and feelings for other people or between two peole stay out of it.
No matter how good a friend the person is they will go nuts if you tell them what you think or come between two people who are either friends/lovers or not.
If ultra-sensitive about being told the truth she could decide to kill your friendship. How do I know? been there, had it happen. My advice is to keep your mouth shut about it but confront the guy with how you feel and what you know based on what she's said in the past and see if he'll go with you etc.
Before going to approach him about a date and your feelings as a courtesy tell your friend that you know in the past she has had no interest at all in X as a date or a relationship. Ask if that has changed? If she says no tell her that you are going to speak to him about going with you as you've liked him all this time. It gets you out of any sticky sitaution that may have arised.
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I think you should tell her because she would be leading him on and she should go to prom with someone that means more to her romantically anyway. Just don't be mean about it and let her know you like him also.
Usually I would say yes you are probably to young for him but he obviously likes your friend who is your age so just give it some time. Good luck :]
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Yes you should tell her that she is leadin him on but not because you want him..if he likes your bestfrined then maybe you shouldn't come in between that or you might get hurt because she may want to be with him (just not rite now)..And if he's not interested in you then just move on or at least find out if there is a possiblity for you guys by flirting or askking... And yes people may say he is too old for you but i guess it depends on the way he acts. but im my opinion 'age aint nothing but a number'...You cant just guess if you have a chance with him and i cant tell you if you do because i dont know either of you. so you have to find out for yourself. Hope i helped:)
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